2:00

Just can't help it. Oh my goodness.

2:03

I love this community so much. Those

2:06

of you new today to the work,

2:08

the work is what we refer to

2:11

and we are referring

2:13

to self-inquiry. The

2:16

work is a way to

2:18

identify and

2:20

question the thoughts that cause

2:22

all the suffering in

2:24

your world, in your life, in

2:26

your life. It's a

2:29

way to identify what you're

2:31

thinking and believing and move

2:35

it from your head to paper. So

2:37

here it is. It stops. You write

2:39

it on paper and there it is.

2:42

Like he doesn't care

2:44

about me or he hurt my

2:46

feelings or she isn't answering my

2:49

email, whatever it is from

2:52

head to paper. And then

2:54

we question using these four

2:56

questions and turnarounds. It's an

2:58

exercise in stillness. It's

3:00

a meditative experience

3:04

in silence and

3:07

oh it takes a lot of courage

3:09

to look at oneself when we're asking

3:12

ourselves is what I'm believing

3:14

about that individual true.

3:16

And to recognize

3:18

yes if it is

3:22

and then to double check.

3:24

Just double check. Get still

3:26

be there in that situation

3:30

with that person. Can

3:33

I really know that it's true that

3:38

we meditate in that and the answer

3:41

could still be yes but maybe it's

3:43

no. And there's

3:45

no right answer other than the one that

3:49

is just

3:52

been delivered out of your

3:54

authenticity, your authentic self. How

3:57

honest can you be with when

4:00

you want to be right. So

4:03

this is a challenge. It's where we're

4:06

sitting in the ego, gently,

4:13

patiently, with

4:16

the ego, maybe

4:18

experiencing the ego as just

4:20

a terrified child looking

4:23

for a home, a physical

4:26

self. But

4:29

ego, being a state of mind,

4:32

can never be physical.

4:37

But he hurt my feelings today, and

4:39

I can see

4:42

that situation in my mind's

4:44

eye offered up by

4:46

the ego. And

4:49

that thought is attached. He

4:51

hurt my feelings. That thought

4:54

is attached. That image as I sit

4:56

here in silence and

5:01

witness the cause of

5:03

my suffering, the

5:05

cause of my animosity maybe, or

5:09

my bitterness, or

5:12

a grudge I'm holding, like

5:14

for several hours, you know, and

5:18

self-inquiry. What happens?

5:21

We break. The spell is

5:23

broken. The

5:26

spell is broken. And we notice

5:28

how we react when we think the

5:30

thought. How

5:34

do I react when I think the thought? What

5:37

happens to my attitude? Et

5:39

cetera, et cetera, et cetera. So rather

5:42

than just saying any more, let's,

5:49

Molly, you have a question. Hello.

5:53

Hello. Hello. Hi,

5:55

baby. Hi. You know,

5:57

we turn that around. It's, oh, hell. Hello.

6:01

Oh, how many of you

6:03

are? Thank

6:06

you for talking with me. I've attended

6:08

so many of these and I've never

6:10

raised my hand before, so I'm a

6:12

little nervous. Thank you for

6:15

popping in, honey. Yes. I

6:18

have a question for you. First, I just

6:20

want to thank you for how

6:23

much you've helped me over the years. Oh

6:25

my, oh my, my, my, sweetie.

6:27

Oh honey, that is music to

6:30

my ears. Just

6:34

thank you. Thank you.

6:36

It's a life worth living as I hear

6:38

that. It's a beautiful

6:40

thing. So your question? So

6:45

I'm dealing with a breast

6:47

cancer diagnosis. It's my

6:49

second. And

6:52

this time it's been, it's

6:55

been a long nine months of

6:57

treatment so far. And

7:01

I just found out yesterday

7:03

that, you know, there's going

7:05

to be more treatment and

7:07

that it

7:11

was unexpected

7:13

that I would be

7:15

continuing on now for the next, well,

7:18

probably the rest of my life. Right. At

7:21

least for, for

7:24

the, for as far

7:26

as they know, every three months I'll be

7:28

getting a test to see if the cancer

7:30

has returned. And

7:34

my question for you, I've had it.

7:37

I wanted my thank you of

7:39

earlier was in part because as I've

7:41

gone through this these past nine months,

7:43

I've tuned into these calls and hearing

7:46

everybody's questions and your work with them

7:48

has, has helped ground me every time.

7:51

But now my

7:53

question for me personally is sort of,

7:55

I'm, I'm not sure

7:57

how to do. Thank

26:00

you so much for sharing your

26:02

wisdom. Yeah. Yeah, I really

26:04

appreciate that. I'll tell you lots of other people

26:06

that I would, so thank you. Oh, thank you,

26:08

William. Oh,

26:11

boy, you guys are killing me. Guther,

26:16

you have a question? Is

26:19

that- Hi, Katie. Guther?

26:21

Is that how you pronounce your name? Guther.

26:23

Guther. Yeah, it's okay. It

26:26

doesn't matter. Someone

26:28

named me. I didn't have

26:30

a choice. I guess I did, but

26:32

I've stayed with it. I'm

26:36

so happy to talk to you. I have

26:39

one question. In

26:41

one of your books, you speak about- I think

26:44

it's- I

26:47

Need Your Love, is it true? You speak about

26:49

a child in ourselves that we

26:51

need to love. And

26:54

I was wondering, what is it

26:56

exactly? How do you see it? Is it

26:58

the ego, or what is it

27:01

that you're trying to- You

27:03

say that I

27:05

speak about loving the inner child as

27:08

an ego. Yeah, yeah. Yeah,

27:11

and the ego is just looking for

27:13

a home. It wants to- the ego

27:15

is a state of mind. And

27:19

it's looking- it wants to

27:21

be something, like

27:24

physical. And

27:27

it can't be a cup, because

27:29

the cup doesn't have motion. So

27:32

ego isn't gonna- you know, it's not in

27:34

earth school. It's

27:39

of service to earth school.

27:43

But the ego, that state of

27:45

mind, is- I

27:49

can't do war with it because it

27:51

would win. I

27:54

can't stop my mind. I

27:56

can't take my brain out and talk

27:58

to it and- or

28:01

threaten it or anything. It

28:03

doesn't, it just goes, you

28:05

know, it would be laughable. You

28:08

know, you can't stop a state

28:10

of mind. We use drugs and

28:12

alcohol and all kinds of addictions,

28:14

but it doesn't stop the state

28:16

of mind. It can make it

28:19

seem bearable, but even vet

28:22

backfires on us because the

28:24

ego will override anything. So

28:30

loving the inner child, the

28:33

inner child, is

28:35

that the ego? It

28:37

is for me because

28:40

I am having

28:42

a love affair with

28:45

that state of mind. And who

28:47

is the I having that loving

28:52

experience with that

28:54

state of mind? It

28:56

is an inquiring mind. You

29:02

know, I can, let's

29:05

say I'm very upset and

29:07

I don't have the work. I'm very upset

29:11

and I've tried everything.

29:14

Maybe I can just touch my cheek

29:16

and go, oh honey, it's okay, you

29:18

know, it's okay. It's going to be

29:20

okay. And that

29:23

does, you know, it can calm me

29:25

down maybe, but

29:27

the ego is going to

29:29

override it. It's

29:33

going to get stronger in

29:35

my experience because I had

29:39

a, you know, I can't, you

29:41

know, it's

29:44

a trance, a hypnotic

29:46

trance. So loving the

29:48

inner child would be to love

29:50

the ego that

29:55

for me is the inner child.

29:58

The ego is a terrified, My

30:00

child just looking for

30:03

a home. So

30:06

as I do the work with

30:08

the ego, just as

30:10

I described to Molly earlier and

30:15

to Will, to Bill, that

30:17

ego from my head to

30:19

paper, that's respectful.

30:23

That's honoring my inner child, the

30:26

one that is in terror. Being

30:30

from mild irritation to terror.

30:33

And I would lovingly move that

30:35

from my head to paper. That's

30:39

like bringing the baby

30:41

forward, not rejecting the

30:43

baby, you know, that inner

30:46

child that is just

30:49

wanting to be something

30:51

that it can never be, the physical

30:53

body. Mind is not body.

30:57

And then when we're, we filled in

30:59

a worksheet and we sit in that,

31:02

we're really working with the ego. Even

31:06

though, let's say, I'm judging him or

31:08

her or them on like,

31:11

he hurt my feelings.

31:15

And to get in touch with the emotional,

31:18

you see, it's like he

31:21

hurt my feelings. So I

31:23

filled in number one. So

31:25

you see how I'm in communion with

31:27

my ego. So

31:30

now my inner child is being heard.

31:36

Respect it. Not

31:39

shut down and argued

31:41

with, and there's no war going on.

31:43

I'm moving it from ego

31:45

from my head to paper as I fill in

31:47

this worksheet. It really is love, love

31:50

making and it takes courage. And

31:53

then when I question it, and

31:56

here's why I'm taking so much time with this,

31:58

Luther, it's And

48:01

knowing, chances are...

48:05

And you didn't suggest another restaurant,

48:07

or maybe you did, and you

48:10

still agreed. Yeah,

48:18

I've put up a boundary in the

48:20

past where I don't spend evenings with

48:22

her because I know this. And

48:25

I didn't. Yeah,

48:31

you put you in a bad

48:33

situation. You put you

48:35

in that situation, and for you it was

48:37

bad when you look at your state of

48:39

mind. It was like

48:41

a set up. Yeah, yeah.

48:46

You set you up, and you set her

48:48

up. Mm-hmm. You

48:54

knew, chances are. Yeah.

49:01

Yeah. And

49:19

if you're new to youtube.com, let's do the work.