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Approche production.

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Hey, team glenes are here walking back to the building

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Better Humans Project podcast. I

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want to talk about one of my favorite quotes,

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and that is that to leave small

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fights for small fighters. Now, what

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this means is often in

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life we get dragged into responding

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or reacting to things that happen around us. And

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a classic example would be

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you're driving to work and someone cuts you off in traffic

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and you just get really annoyed by that and I've

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definitely been here, or you know,

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you're in an eighty k zone and someone's sitting on sixty

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and it just drives you nuts because you could be going

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a little bit faster. I try

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to stay as calm as

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I can in these situations because

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look at it this way. If the biggest challenge

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going on in your life right now is

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the fact that someone has cut you off in traffic,

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or someone has said something bad about you, or

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someone has a poor opinion of you, or

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whatever it is, it doesn't really matter what the

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thing is. But if people are out there talking about

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you, if people are cutting

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you off in traffic, if people are driving too slowly,

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if a friend has offended you in some way,

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shape or form because they haven't invited

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you somewhere or done something for you that you would

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have expected them to do. If that is the

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biggest problem that you have, then

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I think your life's going pretty well. And

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I just love the concept of why

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do you care? I was listening to ed

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Ma Letten Dan Graziano recently

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on a PEP talk, just a real short piece where

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they were talking about, hey, if I order

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this. They were talking about being in a restaurant

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if I order medium rare steak and for some

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reason chicken turns up, I don't care. I just

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go about I'll eat it anyway, because it's

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not the biggest problem in my life.

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And it's a really interesting perspective because

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you've got to have some real clarity and some real calm

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in your life in order for you to not

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be offended or affected by things that

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aren't really that big a deal on the grand

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scale. When we have some

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sort of response or we're affected by these sort

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of things, and this is just my opinion, but when that happens,

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it's because there's a lot of other term oil or

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challenges in our life and we don't have the capacity

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to find our calm in the middle of

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that, and Therefore we react and respond

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to everything, and then the

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bigger things become even bigger because

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you've made the small things way bigger than what

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they needed to be. So if you want to find

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calm, and you want to find clarity, and you want to find

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the capacity not to respond and react

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to everything, practice that in the small

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moments, Practice that in the daily. My

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challenge personally for the next week,

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and maybe I'll even do this for another month, is to

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try not to respond when I'm driving,

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Try not to. Like I don't respond outward.

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I'm not beeping the horn and hand out the window,

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but I do get annoyed when people are

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driving too slow, or they cut you off, or why

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are they doing this. I've got someone to be I've got a busy

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life. Time is important to me. But

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at the end of the day, my responding that way,

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what does it change? Absolutely

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nothing. They don't speed up, if anything, that might

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slow down if they see me responding. I

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don't get there any quicker. I just get they're more annoyed,

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and then there's a good chance so I carry that annoyance

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across into other things. So I'm gonna try. I've

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always liked being the calm and the chaos. But I want

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to try it on the micro moments, because

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if I can do that in the micro moments, I

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can certainly do that in the macro moments the bigger

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moments as well. I'll play this little

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audio for you just because I think it's a cracking

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one and I think you'll enjoy it.

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Phase of my life.

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I'm not shitting you. If I order

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medium rare steak at a restaurant

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and they bring me well done chicken, I just

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need it.

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Who gives a shit? The same

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way it's if somebody cuts me.

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Off in traffic and then flips me off,

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I'm like, wow, they need bigger problems.

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Traffic is bugging you that much, you'll never be successful.

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So know that if you're annoyed because a

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friend doesn't ask you to go to the mall, or someone

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cuts you off in traffic, or you think a friend

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offended you, or you think a coworker's being a

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little rude, then you're screwed because you're worrying

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about the wrong things. Spend that energy

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on solving big problems, and you accomplished

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big things.

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I absolutely love that concept. So you

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need bigger problems. If you're bonding

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to those things. And that's the challenge I want

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to set for myself and most certainly the challenge

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I want to set for you. As mentioned in some previous

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episodes, I have some spaces for some one on

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one mentoring. If you'd like to get in touch with

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me, just glenmath two ends atlnesa dot

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com or head over to my instagram which is just Atlenesa

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and if you hit the link in the bar, you can book in for an initial

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session. And I'm more than happy to be that

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person in your corner and to try and

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help you work your way through some things. Sometimes

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in life, all you need is

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a slightly different perspective than the one you've got

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or the one that you're surrounded by. So hit

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me up and let's see what we can do.

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Thanks for listening to this episode of The

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Building Better Humans Podcast with your

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host Glen Aser. For feedback.

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