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prosper. With Denise, I feel

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Thomas. Hello beautiful, it's Denise

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here and welcome to a new

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episode of Chill and Prosper. So

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today we are talking about goals

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for this year. So we're in

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2025, obviously it's not the very

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start of the year. which is

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totally fine. I've realized too that

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calendar year thing does not work

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for my brain. In Australia we

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have school holidays, we have our

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summer break, kids don't go back

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to school until February. This year

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they went back like sixth of

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February. February is a short month

0:54

anyway and so I'm not even

0:56

thinking really about what I want

0:59

to achieve until at least. March,

1:01

right? And so I think even if

1:03

we kind of just write off the

1:06

first couple of months of year, but

1:08

it does not matter. You could be

1:10

listening to this episode at any time

1:12

and there's no time like now to

1:14

actually set goals, right? Because I think

1:17

sometimes we forget the basics

1:19

of things like the law of attraction

1:21

where setting and intention is so important

1:23

and we kind of just we get

1:25

a little bit vague and we get

1:27

a little bit drifty. Okay, so if

1:29

you're like me where maybe the last

1:31

couple of years you got a little

1:33

bit cynical about that stuff or you

1:35

got a little bit lazy or you just

1:38

thought you just forgot about some of those

1:40

basics of like setting goals and setting intentions.

1:42

Well, this is a great episode to listen

1:44

to and I'm going to share some of

1:46

my goals for the year and I want

1:48

you to just spend a little bit of

1:51

time thinking about them as well. Now, there's

1:53

one other thing that I wanted to

1:55

do a little bit of a shout

1:57

out. So I know there are so...

2:00

kids who listen to chill and prosper

2:02

and I've been very aware of this

2:04

and moms and dads I've been trying

2:07

to swear less on the podcast so

2:09

I don't know if you've noticed that

2:11

but I still do it a little

2:14

bit because I know that there are

2:16

a lot of kids listening so a

2:18

big shout out to all the chill

2:20

and prosper kids who are sitting in

2:23

cars on the way to school on

2:25

the way to ballet practice karate practice

2:27

and I know that you listen to

2:29

the theme song to the the theme

2:32

song too as well. So a big

2:34

shout out to Corphy as well, who's

2:36

listening with her mom, Misty Corphy. Thank

2:39

you for listening and you know all

2:41

of the words too. And just a

2:43

big shout out to all the other

2:45

kids listening as well. And I think

2:48

this episode is great for you to

2:50

listen. You can never be too young

2:52

to learn about the power of setting

2:54

goals. My kids love writing down their

2:57

goals now and my sister. who is

2:59

my baby sister. She's just turned 26,

3:01

so she's 19 years younger than me.

3:04

She said recently, she goes, I've been

3:06

listening to you and I've done a

3:08

dream board. This is a couple of

3:10

months ago. And then I saw her

3:13

this week, she's like, all the things

3:15

on my dream board are coming true

3:17

and I should have put more things

3:19

on there. She's got her new job

3:22

that she wanted, like all of these

3:24

things have turned up. And I was

3:26

like, yes, that is the power of

3:29

intention of intention of intention. sometimes. I

3:31

know I've gotten out of those habits

3:33

in my early years. I was like

3:35

doing my dream boards all the time

3:38

and then I just kind of just

3:40

forgot or just got out of the

3:42

habit of it. So let's get into

3:44

that space now. Now there is a

3:47

worksheet, a little workbook that you can

3:49

download for this one if you go

3:51

to DeniseD.com/goals, G-O-A-L-S and it can take

3:53

you through a little bit of a

3:56

process of creating some like money goals

3:58

and things like that too. Really really

4:00

easy. But you know what? There's just

4:03

something powerful sometimes about writing it down

4:05

anywhere. If you've got a piece of

4:07

paper handy, you've got a journal, but

4:09

don't make it this big thing of,

4:12

oh, I can only do it on

4:14

a Monday, I can only do it

4:16

on the first of the month, I

4:18

can only do it with a brand

4:21

new notebook. No, you can literally do

4:23

this right now. So I love doing

4:25

the wheel of life. Okay, when I

4:28

first did my life coaching certification, when

4:30

I first did my very first, you

4:32

know, personal development courses, I always start

4:34

with the wheel of life. And you

4:37

can do it in two ways. One,

4:39

you can do an assessment of where

4:41

you're at right now, but then use

4:43

it to create a balanced goal, or

4:46

balanced goals. So there's a couple of

4:48

different ways that I love doing goal

4:50

setting. You don't have to do all

4:53

of them. I would just say, listen.

4:55

as ideas spark for you, just do

4:57

that. Okay, there's no perfect way to

4:59

do it. So the wheel of life,

5:02

I'll put it in a handout too,

5:04

is just to make sure that you're

5:06

not out of balance in one area

5:08

of your life. Okay, so it's just

5:11

a wheel, and we've put it into

5:13

eight segments, and we've put it into

5:15

eight segments, so I'll go through them

5:18

quickly, and we'll go. We're going to

5:20

go into them. Money and prosperity, like

5:22

love life relationships, friends and family, health

5:24

and vitality, fun and enjoyment, business and

5:27

career, personal growth and making a difference.

5:29

They're the ones for life. Obviously if

5:31

you're really wanting to set business goals,

5:33

you would break those up to be

5:36

a bit more business-y. But the reason

5:38

why I like to this bit over

5:40

like overall is you want to give

5:43

yourself a score. Okay, so each segment

5:45

has a spoke from the middle. If

5:47

you score that zero at the moment,

5:49

it would be closer to the middle.

5:52

If you're scoring at a 10, which

5:54

would be the maximum, it would be

5:56

on the outside. And so you go

5:58

through each spoke and you just kind

6:01

of go overall, you know, how is

6:03

like... relationship with my spouse at the

6:05

moment. Where is that? Where is money?

6:08

And you do it as an overall

6:10

thing before you kind of break it

6:12

down because what I like to see

6:14

is like where the imbalance is because

6:17

it's a circle and obviously if it

6:19

was like a tire for a bike

6:21

you'd want it to be a nice

6:23

round circle. As soon as there's a

6:26

couple of spokes that are like really

6:28

off you're not going to be able

6:30

to ride your bike. Okay, so just

6:33

think of that simple analogy. Now, there's

6:35

been times in my life where business

6:37

was going great. And I almost, with

6:39

my money personality, I'm a ruler, I'd

6:42

almost not even care about the other

6:44

stuff. I'd be like, health and vitality,

6:46

who gives a crap? Friends and family,

6:48

pff, whatever. Like, I'd just be like,

6:51

business and create a personal growth making

6:53

a difference, money. And so, like, that's

6:55

one side of the equation. You know,

6:58

and I'd be like, all those things

7:00

are doing great, you know, I'm making

7:02

a difference with my clients, I'm making

7:04

hits money, I'm in my personal growth

7:07

phase all the time, who needs friends,

7:09

who needs health, who needs like, enjoyment

7:11

outside of that, who needs creativity, whatever.

7:13

And even a relationship, you know, that's

7:16

probably one that's been such a challenge

7:18

for me because it's just not being

7:20

a priority for me. I'm like... Sorry,

7:23

let's suck it up. We're doing some

7:25

work, especially since we work together. So

7:27

that's the first thing I want you

7:29

to do. Just do a bit of

7:32

an overall like score of where you're

7:34

at in each of those areas. And

7:36

it's all on the handout for you.

7:38

Next we can go into each of

7:41

those and to think of a couple

7:43

of different goals for that area. Now

7:45

this is just one like goal setting.

7:48

thing I'll share. I do like another

7:50

one which is called B do have

7:52

as well. I love that one. But

7:54

for this one we could just go

7:57

through and go, okay, if you could

7:59

only choose and I'm going to limit

8:01

you to three, for some of these

8:03

segments, three is not enough. for some

8:06

of them you'd be like, how am

8:08

I going to come up with three

8:10

goals for like friends and family? And

8:12

so it can be like an overarching,

8:15

like big general goal, like you know,

8:17

have more friends this year or see

8:19

more friends, or it can be something

8:22

really specific. So it could be like

8:24

go on a girl's trip with my

8:26

friends. And so you know, you know

8:28

if you've done it or not by

8:31

the end of the year. Whereas like

8:33

make new friends, see my friends more

8:35

often. It's fine to put down if

8:37

you know what that actually means, or

8:40

if that's just going to be a

8:42

focus for you and you can just

8:44

figure it out later on, you know.

8:47

So similarly, like with relationship, that can

8:49

be a really tricky one to set

8:51

goals around, but it could be, you

8:53

know, we're going to go on a

8:56

date night and be realistic, right? We

8:58

were before we were going, let's do

9:00

every Wednesday doing a date night and

9:02

then we realized, but it sounds really

9:05

funny. We're going to go into the

9:07

movies, we're going to gold class movies,

9:09

and we're like, it's costing us like

9:12

300 bucks to go to gold class,

9:14

buy food, hire a babysitter, and we're

9:16

just sitting and watching a movie where

9:18

we could just watch that, watch something

9:21

at home. Because Mark was like, do

9:23

you want to go out to a

9:25

concert? I was like, I really don't

9:27

like going out at night. We went

9:30

out to see... I don't even want

9:32

to say who it was because it

9:34

might sound mean, but we left at

9:37

half time because I was like, it's

9:39

nine o'clock, if we get home now,

9:41

we can like snuggle with the dogs

9:43

and we can watch an episode of

9:46

whatever show we're watching. So yeah, like

9:48

you can be more specific, but also

9:50

be realistic if you're like, oh, day

9:52

night, what's week? No. So it could

9:55

be just like, we connect, you know,

9:57

once a month, we do something just

9:59

for us for us. Okay? Friends and

10:02

family. Like, so a big goal for

10:04

me this year is to speak to

10:06

my friends more. So I've been calling

10:08

my friends on the way to and

10:11

from ballet. And that's not a big,

10:13

like, make a million dollars goal this

10:15

year. But it's like something that is

10:17

making my life more balanced. and you

10:20

know, bringing like a feeling of community

10:22

to me. Okay, so that makes sense.

10:24

So you go through health and vitality.

10:27

Now for a number of years when

10:29

I was growing up, my health and

10:31

vitality ones were all always around weight.

10:33

I was like, I wanted to lose

10:36

weight. I wanted to do, you know,

10:38

and now I have a lot of

10:40

goals around this area because for me

10:42

that is related to my ballet. as

10:45

well, but also about like eating more

10:47

whole foods and like actually, you know,

10:49

having a bit of a meal plan,

10:52

like that's a big goal for me

10:54

just to feel healthier. Fun and enjoyment.

10:56

So again, there's stuff around ballet, around

10:58

creativity and not making it a business,

11:01

you know, doing stuff like that for

11:03

the sake of doing that. Okay, then

11:05

I've got some business and career goals,

11:07

which we can. dive into a little

11:10

bit personal growth, making a difference. So

11:12

a couple of years ago I had

11:14

a really big goal around like increasing

11:17

our charitable contributions and I haven't done

11:19

that. as much last year. So this

11:21

year we've got a charitable fund that

11:23

did really well in the last year

11:26

because it's invested and to be able

11:28

to like make some grants from that

11:30

is one of the goals in that.

11:32

And in personal growth that was something

11:35

that I always had such a big

11:37

goal around and it was always related

11:39

to my business. And this year my

11:42

personal growth, my big lesson is to

11:44

not be responsible for everybody. there's some

11:46

really practical like family things that are

11:48

coming from that too of just like

11:51

going no my personal growth is like

11:53

I'm sorry I'm putting myself for putting

11:55

myself first and not everything has to

11:57

be for other people or including my

12:00

business okay so that's that kind of

12:02

wheel-of-life thing now the next goal-setting exercise

12:04

I mentioned is B do have and

12:07

I love this one's so much because

12:09

I feel like it gives you a

12:11

chance to brainstorm and just write down

12:13

whatever you want and then you can

12:16

go in and like refine it a

12:18

little bit later. So it's really easy.

12:20

You have three columns which you can

12:22

just have on that on DeniseDT.com/goals. Put

12:25

it in there for you. And it's

12:27

like, what are some things I want

12:29

to be, do and have? Okay. So

12:31

sometimes people will put like, be more

12:34

peaceful. So what would make you more

12:36

peaceful? You know, a nice one on

12:38

that one could be be an author.

12:41

That could be a goal for you

12:43

this year to be an author or

12:45

maybe you want to get a qualification

12:47

or something. So it's like to be

12:50

a coach, to be a real estate

12:52

agent. I would often put ones to

12:54

like, you know, be more present with

12:56

my kids. And so what would be

12:59

the actual thing that would make you

13:01

be more present? So now for me,

13:03

it's like jumping on the trampling with

13:06

the kids going, like going in the

13:08

pool with the kids, saying yes to

13:10

things. Like, you know, when I'm driving

13:12

them to places, like really have a

13:15

conversation. That then gives me something I

13:17

can tick off. Okay. Same with do.

13:19

So do is often a little bit

13:21

easier to quantify, so you might have

13:24

things that you want to do this

13:26

year, like go to a conference. For

13:28

me, mine are not so much business

13:31

ones, but it's like... taking the kids

13:33

to the Easter show, which will be

13:35

fun, like going away with each kid,

13:37

going to see more shows with Willow,

13:40

stuff again around my ballet. Like I,

13:42

this is, I'm just going to say

13:44

it out there, it sounds so silly.

13:46

I'd love to be in a ballet

13:49

campaign for like a major brand because

13:51

so many of the brands, they just

13:53

use a lot of like young, very

13:56

skinny. girls and I've noticed that some

13:58

ballet brands are really good at having

14:00

different ages, different bodies and so that

14:02

is one of my goals to do

14:05

right? It's not a business goal but

14:07

this is where you can kind of

14:09

dream. And what I notice is when

14:11

you do things like this, some will

14:14

not be that important for you, but

14:16

you're just kind of parking them for

14:18

the future. But also you can refine

14:21

them then to create a bit of

14:23

a plan for the quarter. Okay, so

14:25

that was the do. Have would be

14:27

things like what do you want to

14:30

have? So it might be you want

14:32

to buy a new car this year,

14:34

you want to buy a new laptop.

14:36

It could be something that's like a

14:39

bit more tangible and a new job.

14:41

And then what you can do with

14:43

each of these. spend a minute on

14:46

each column and write as many things

14:48

as you can, right? And if you're

14:50

really, really stuck, like, either you're not

14:52

giving yourself permission to dream, or there's

14:55

just something there where there's a block,

14:57

and sometimes the block is, I don't

14:59

believe I deserve these things, I don't

15:01

know how they would happen, or you're

15:04

just not used to... being able to

15:06

ask. You're not used to even dreaming

15:08

for free. Okay, so it is a

15:11

practice to do this. And I often

15:13

find when I like get people to

15:15

do this at a conference, they'll just

15:17

go blank. I don't know what I

15:20

want. So it's like just write down

15:22

anything. Let yourself just dream it and

15:24

whatever. Okay, and then we go to

15:26

the next step. All right, so let's

15:29

take a quick break and then we'll

15:31

see what we do with that little

15:33

brainstormed brainstormed list. See in a second.

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18:27

back we're talking about goal setting. Now

18:30

you might think yeah I don't need

18:32

this or yeah I think I know

18:34

what my goals are but I always

18:36

say that when you're being vague to

18:39

the universe it's like calling up your

18:41

local pizza place and saying send me

18:43

a pizza you think I'd like. If

18:46

you're in a phase where you feel

18:48

really stagnant and things aren't happening it's

18:50

probably because you haven't been specific in

18:52

what you've been asking for. And you

18:55

could look at it from a woo-woo

18:57

point of view of like asking the

18:59

universe for it or you can think

19:02

of it from like a brain science

19:04

point of view of like what am

19:06

I training my brain to think and

19:08

focus on right now? Because that's what

19:11

happens, right? If we go, I want

19:13

to work on this thing, you start

19:15

to see all of the opportunities, your

19:18

brain also starts to think of all

19:20

the bad things that could happen around

19:22

it, you start to get, you know,

19:24

in your head, but it does have

19:27

a way of focusing your attention. Okay,

19:29

so once you've just written down stuff,

19:31

and I want you to think of

19:34

it like, you're a kid who believes...

19:36

that Santa will bring them anything they

19:38

want or they're allowed to ask for

19:40

whatever they want on their birthday list

19:43

and you're asking with just like no

19:45

rhyme or reason about what things cost

19:47

or whatever you're just like naive expectation

19:50

right that's a great way to go

19:52

into it then you could go to

19:54

each list or on the Wheel of

19:57

Life and think, what are some real

19:59

priorities for me this year? You know,

20:01

some things on second glance you'll go,

20:03

that's a nice to have or that's

20:06

something that's just not a big priority

20:08

for me. What do I really want

20:10

to focus my time and attention on?

20:13

And what I love with Tim Ferris,

20:15

he talks about dream casting, right? So

20:17

you would take your B, do have

20:19

list. and you would maybe pick two

20:22

things from each column and you work

20:24

out what it's going to cost for

20:26

you to have that. And it's a

20:29

very practical way of going, okay, well,

20:31

I want a new car, it's going

20:33

to cost this amount of money, you

20:35

know, if I start putting away X

20:38

amount per week or per month, then

20:40

it would be an inevitability, right? And

20:42

then you can sort of, I like

20:45

keeping things open for the universe to

20:47

send you a random windfall, but then...

20:49

you would be able to set maybe

20:51

your annual income goal from that. Because

20:54

like, sometimes when you go and do

20:56

goal setting, it starts with like, well,

20:58

how much you want to make. And

21:01

so notice how I didn't start with

21:03

that at all. We didn't, because the

21:05

number doesn't really matter. And this is

21:07

where we can kind of get caught

21:10

up in. bigger and better numbers or

21:12

comparing our money goal to someone else

21:14

and it's actually completely irrelevant. Like who

21:17

cares what you want to make because

21:19

you and I might live in different

21:21

cities, cost of living places, countries, currencies,

21:23

we have different goals and dreams and

21:26

so when we're always comparing our goal

21:28

to someone else like it's we're trying

21:30

to fit into their clothes and wear

21:33

their shoes and it just doesn't make

21:35

any sense. And so Unless you know

21:37

what your goals and dreams cost, you're

21:39

just picking an arbitrary... number really right

21:42

so if you were to think of

21:44

like if I just said okay straight

21:46

away what how much you want to

21:49

make this year so a lot of

21:51

people go blank they really do and

21:53

they get really scared because they think

21:55

There's no information, there's no grounding behind

21:58

it. They're afraid to set a number

22:00

and like not achieve it. And so

22:02

this is a really great way working

22:05

backwards to go, okay, if I want

22:07

to, you know, get really fit and

22:09

healthy and do PT, okay, well, that's

22:11

something that's going to cost money, how

22:14

much is it going to cost? And

22:16

I'll link to the Tim Ferris spreadsheet

22:18

too, because it's a really great way

22:21

of going, is it a one-off cost,

22:23

is it a monthly cost, and then

22:25

it gives you a bit more information?

22:27

That is a great way to set

22:30

an income goal. You know, and for

22:32

years I was just like, well, we

22:34

made this much last year, so let's

22:37

make more. And that's great. That worked

22:39

for me for a number of years.

22:41

I was like, I'll just make that.

22:44

But then it stopped getting motivating because

22:46

it didn't mean anything to me. And

22:48

if you're someone who needs a lot

22:50

of meaning, to be motivated to do

22:53

stuff, then it's common to get really

22:55

blocked and scared around it because it

22:57

just doesn't feel good to you. You're

23:00

like, why am I even doing this?

23:02

So you might think when it comes

23:04

to setting like a number, do I

23:06

go for a really big stretch goal

23:09

and motivate myself to achieve it? Do

23:11

I go for something that's more realistic?

23:13

Do I go for like how to,

23:16

you know, cover my lifestyle? All of

23:18

those things are... have their place. And

23:20

I would say, what's motivating to you

23:22

right now? Because I've been motivated by

23:25

all of those things. I've been motivated

23:27

by a big stretch goal to achieve

23:29

something really big. I've been motivated by

23:32

just like an arbitrary number. You know,

23:34

when I wanted to make a million

23:36

dollars, I just wanted to I wanted

23:38

to see if I could do it.

23:41

It wasn't particularly tied to anything. I

23:43

didn't need to make it. I just

23:45

wanted to stretch myself and to say...

23:48

that I had a million dollar business.

23:50

That's valid as well. You might be

23:52

someone who is shifting and changing the

23:54

way you live and work at the

23:57

moment and that is the thing that

23:59

is going to set your goal. Okay,

24:01

so don't overthink it because perfectionism absolutely

24:04

gets in the way here. The other

24:06

thing I want to say too is

24:08

people get very caught up in... wording

24:10

and how to set goals. So have

24:13

you ever heard people say, you know,

24:15

you should always set them in future

24:17

tense or you should always set them

24:20

in past tense as if you've already

24:22

done it? And I've got a very

24:24

strong opinion on this is that it

24:26

depends on your personality. Some people love

24:29

thinking about the future. So for me,

24:31

ruler, I'm always like visionary thinking about

24:33

what if and I actually get more

24:36

pleasure thinking about goals in the future.

24:38

Some people though it freaks them out

24:40

because the future is so uncertain. So

24:42

for some people they like to speak

24:45

as if it's happening right now in

24:47

the present. So it could be, you

24:49

know, I'm so grateful that I now

24:52

like live in my dream house. Like

24:54

it feels grounding. And some people like

24:56

to set their goals in the past

24:58

tense. It's like, oh, I'm so grateful

25:01

that I did the work that, that,

25:03

like, achieved my dream house, as if

25:05

it's already done. Does that make sense?

25:08

So there's like all these little nuances

25:10

when it comes to setting goals. And

25:12

then what you do is you take,

25:14

like, whatever those top goals are for

25:17

you that you've maybe prioritised a little

25:19

bit. and then we put them into

25:21

the real world that we can touch

25:24

and feel and smell them. Okay, and

25:26

this is another thing where it's totally

25:28

dependent on your personality to make that

25:31

real because otherwise, you know, you write

25:33

your goals down first of January, you

25:35

forget about them. So how can we

25:37

make this really real for you so

25:40

you start to activate your brain, you

25:42

start to activate the law of attraction?

25:44

And there's no right or wrong around

25:47

this. It's always about what works for

25:49

you. your personality. So a good example

25:51

is looking at your senses. Okay, so

25:53

I smell for me is a very

25:56

powerful manifesting tool. So I'll buy perfume

25:58

that's like gives me confidence. That's why

26:00

I loved Lady Millions perfume. I know

26:03

so many people have bought it now

26:05

and it's like seen as mass marketing.

26:07

But like when it first came out,

26:09

I was like, oh my God. there's

26:12

the empire one, there's the fabulous one,

26:14

there's kind of one for every archetype,

26:16

but it was a really big thing

26:19

for me just to be like, yes,

26:21

I'm like, you know, a millionaire, and

26:23

it became a little bit of like

26:25

an anchor for me. I always talk

26:28

about when I was manifesting my beach

26:30

house that I had a candle that

26:32

smelled like the beach, you know, when

26:35

we were selling our rose farm, like

26:37

I'd used scent in that way too

26:39

of like smelling the rose scent. And

26:41

it was just a little reminder of

26:44

like, this is what I'm this is

26:46

what I'm playing for. So you could

26:48

look at one of your goals for

26:51

the year and go, what does that

26:53

goal smell like? And how can I

26:55

embed that into my life? So then

26:57

when I'm not sitting riding down my

27:00

goals, I still remember it becomes a

27:02

bit of an anchor for me. And

27:04

you could get perfume, you could get

27:07

essential oils, you could get like hand

27:09

wash. You know, like I had my

27:11

rose hand wash for a long time.

27:13

anything that evokes that emotional connection for

27:16

you, because that's what it gets us

27:18

to achieve the goals, right, is just

27:20

that excitement, that energy to go, oh,

27:23

I am manifesting that, what would that

27:25

feel like? So maybe it's like a

27:27

really like fancy hotel that you've been

27:29

at and you find out what ham

27:32

wash they use, or you've been on

27:34

holidays. or just a smell that you

27:36

go, oh, that reminds me of Italy,

27:39

and that's that trip that I want

27:41

to book this year. Okay, all those

27:43

things are very, very powerful. So what

27:45

does your goal smell like? Okay, that's

27:48

the question for you. The next one

27:50

would be, what would my... sound like.

27:52

Okay, so I've used this in a

27:55

few different ways. So one, I've used

27:57

the sound of my own voice to

27:59

help me manifest. An example of that

28:02

was when I was in my 20s.

28:04

I really want to manifest this trip

28:06

to go traveling all around the world,

28:08

talk about it in my book Lucky

28:11

bitch. And I'd be at the train

28:13

station in the snow and I'd walk

28:15

up and down the train station and

28:18

I would say out loud. the speech

28:20

that I would give about how I

28:22

manifested it. So it's like writing the

28:24

book about how I manifested the thing

28:27

before I manifested it. And the speaking

28:29

it out loud was the words that

28:31

I needed to hear, to believe that

28:34

it was possible, and then I did

28:36

the work. It gave me the courage

28:38

to do the things to manifest that

28:40

trip. You might... listen to podcasts, right?

28:43

So when I was writing my book,

28:45

all I listened to was podcast about

28:47

writing, because it activated that thing of,

28:50

oh, this is what people do, we

28:52

write books. And so it normalized it

28:54

for me. Okay, so if you want

28:56

to manifest something really big, you put

28:59

yourself in that space where all you're

29:01

hearing. is confirmation that that is possible

29:03

for you. So it's either inspirational stories,

29:06

you're talking to people, you're learning from

29:08

people who have done the thing that

29:10

you want to do. Okay, so that

29:12

can activate. like your belief, but also

29:15

I think to the way you can

29:17

either hear it or sometimes you can

29:19

see it, like if you're in groups

29:22

where people are talking about that stuff,

29:24

you see it, you believe it, if

29:26

I hear it, I believe it. Okay,

29:28

so that could be a hearing thing

29:31

for you where that's really powerful. You

29:33

need to hear it to understand it

29:35

to believe it for yourself. Some of

29:38

you, it is a visual thing, right?

29:40

So it could be that's where you

29:42

do your dream boards. You put yourself

29:44

in the environment. every weekend when I

29:47

wanted to manifest my beat. house, I'd

29:49

go to the beach because I wanted

29:51

to see and I'd be like, this

29:54

is what my view is going to

29:56

be like. This is what it's going

29:58

to be like. I wanted to be

30:00

in that environment to see it, to

30:03

believe it. And then I would actually

30:05

go to that neighborhood that I wanted

30:07

to. And it's so funny because that's

30:10

where we ended up buying our house,

30:12

the exact neighborhood that I walked up

30:14

and down all the time. And I

30:16

remember saying to Mark. I was walking,

30:19

looking at it, hearing the ocean, you

30:21

know, so that's another thing. You could

30:23

listen to things and saying to Mark,

30:26

one of these is a house. I

30:28

don't know which one it's going to

30:30

be, but it's inevitable. And we didn't

30:32

have any money. I was just trying

30:35

to like believe it. And then I'd

30:37

go, I'd get enough of a charge,

30:39

I'd go back and I'd do my

30:42

work to make my money. You know,

30:44

all those things are very powerful, back

30:46

on. seeing. Colors. So that's I think

30:49

where I got obsessed with blue is

30:51

because I was like, I want to

30:53

leave near the beach, so I'm going

30:55

to fill my house with things that

30:58

look like the beach. So I dressed

31:00

in blue, I had shells and beach

31:02

stuff all around me. That's when it

31:05

started to manifest the beach house. And

31:07

then I just happened to love that,

31:09

love that color. I put my dream

31:11

boards in as many places as possible

31:14

on my phone when I picked it

31:16

up. pictures and anchors around the house,

31:18

pictures of views. All of those things

31:21

to be able to see it and

31:23

to believe it. You might be more

31:25

of a kinesthetic person and you really

31:27

need to feel it. Like either feel

31:30

it in your body or feel it

31:32

physically. And so for you, like going

31:34

to the place that represents your goal

31:37

could be really important. Go to open

31:39

houses in your dream neighborhood. It's free.

31:41

Go test drive cars, sit in the

31:43

car, sit in the car. Go to

31:46

fancy furniture stores and sit and see

31:48

what it would feel like. Wear nice

31:50

clothes. You might have little talismans or

31:53

something like that so it could be...

31:55

a ring, a bracelet, earrings, jewelry, a

31:57

little fidget, something that could remind you

31:59

of it. I had a really big

32:02

goal one year to really work on

32:04

healing my inner child. So I bought

32:06

a charm for my inner child. It

32:09

was like a little teddy bear on

32:11

my key ring and I just would

32:13

pick it up and it would remind

32:15

me to do that work and I'd

32:18

go, I love you, you're safe. I

32:20

didn't even need it for that long

32:22

for me to feel like I'd made

32:25

in roads in healing my inner child.

32:27

the kinesthetic experience was more powerful for

32:29

me than to sit and to visualize

32:31

it, if that makes sense. Okay, so

32:34

think about your senses and how that

32:36

will help you manifest your goal. And

32:38

it has two purposes. One, to keep

32:41

you focused, but without an exhausting amount

32:43

of work. you know, of going, oh,

32:45

I must write down my goals all

32:47

the time. It just like becomes part

32:50

of your daily life. And that's the

32:52

second one to acclimatize you to it.

32:54

That's why we do it. So you

32:57

can feel what it would feel like,

32:59

you can see what it would feel,

33:01

and all of that strengthens your belief.

33:03

Okay, so think about what you want

33:06

to achieve this year, and then we

33:08

find a practical way for it for

33:10

you to remember that goal. And they're

33:13

the ones that are going to manifest.

33:15

Like they're the ones that are going

33:17

to come up. Half the ones on

33:19

your list, you don't care enough about

33:22

to create a cent for. But the

33:24

ones that are really important to you,

33:26

and they might not be the biggest

33:29

financial goal, they might not be the

33:31

most complicated, but they're the ones that

33:33

are important to you. They're the ones

33:36

that you take that next step for.

33:38

Just spend a little bit of time

33:40

thinking about it. and those little anchors

33:42

they don't take much time to set

33:45

up and like you know here's an

33:47

example and if you can see it

33:49

on the video it's like a rose

33:52

farm I bought this when I was

33:54

manifesting my rose farm you know and

33:56

so it became a little anchor and

33:58

you know now I'm sold the Rose

34:01

Farm, I'm like, I'll find another one.

34:03

Notice how I said sold. It hasn't sold

34:05

yet as time of this recording, but

34:07

by the time you listen to it,

34:09

and I've asked Mark as well when he goes,

34:12

you know, if we sell it by this, I'm

34:14

going, when we sell it? You

34:16

know, it's little things like that

34:18

make the difference of setting goals.

34:20

We really can break it down

34:22

into like manageable, practical, but also

34:24

like, there things we can have

34:26

control over. to make us feel like

34:28

we actually can do it. Okay, all

34:30

right, so download that. I'd love to

34:32

you what your goals are, but I

34:34

do have one final thought for you

34:36

after this last break. Don't go away.

34:39

See you in a second. Bye. Hi,

34:41

my name's Rochelle Williams and

34:43

I run an epic community for

34:45

network marketers teaching them automations

34:47

and systems for their business.

34:49

Being a fellow Aussie I

34:52

have followed Denise for many

34:54

years and been very inspired

34:56

by her entrepreneurial journey. I

34:59

have read all of the books

35:01

and I'm also part of the

35:03

money boot camp and I cannot

35:05

recommend it higher. It has absolutely

35:07

changed the way that I do

35:09

business. But the most epic breakthrough

35:11

that happened for me is doing

35:13

my money archetype and realizing

35:15

that since becoming a mother

35:17

and moving into motherhood I had

35:20

stifled my celebrity status and stopped

35:22

kind of stepping up to the

35:24

microphone myself. I had, you know,

35:27

held myself in the shadows of

35:29

my business and got really good

35:32

at tech and behind the scenes.

35:34

And so having done that archetype

35:36

test, I was able to really

35:39

step into the limelight and

35:41

really shine my light and do the

35:43

things that I was holding back. Having

35:45

been an actress and a singer for

35:47

a long time. I knew that that

35:49

was my flow and that was the

35:52

place that I needed to be, but

35:54

I just needed that little nudge from

35:56

somebody to kind of go, actually, no,

35:58

that's your archetype. That's where you... need

36:00

to be in your genius zone

36:02

and in your flow. And that's

36:04

where it gets to be easy. So

36:06

thank you so much for your inspiration,

36:09

Denise. Okay, welcome back. So, sometimes people

36:11

really resist setting goals because they don't

36:13

know how they're going to do

36:15

it. And they get really caught up

36:18

in, but how Denise, how, how. And

36:20

I've noticed that some really miraculous things

36:22

have happened in my life when I've

36:25

just given myself permission to dream. The

36:27

dreaming part is free. It really is.

36:29

Don't be afraid to get very

36:31

specific into some of your goals and

36:34

to really nut out stuff. Like for

36:36

example with my one time when I

36:38

was looking for a new job and

36:41

I was like, I really want a

36:43

short commute. And I felt like I

36:45

wasn't allowed to even put it

36:47

down. And I finally went, no, I

36:50

want to shock me. And I found

36:52

a job like five minutes away from

36:54

my house. I didn't even know there

36:57

were companies near me, right? And so

36:59

we're scared to even write it down.

37:01

We're not wasting paper. We're not

37:03

setting things in motion that we don't

37:06

want. You're allowed to dream. Give yourself

37:08

permission to dream. And I would even

37:10

say as well, like, literally put your

37:13

hand on your heart now. And

37:15

say, it's safe for me to dream.

37:18

It's safe for me to dream. It's

37:20

safe for me to have goals. It's

37:22

safe for what I want. And what's

37:24

going to happen there is some things

37:27

might rise to the surface where you

37:29

go, no, but I'm not allowed to.

37:31

Oh, I had a good year last

37:33

year. I'm not allowed to have even

37:36

more. That's the juice, right? Your job

37:38

is to write. and then you can

37:40

work on the stuff that comes up.

37:42

But if you're always worried, like, oh,

37:45

I've got blocks, I'm not going to

37:47

do it, and you never write things

37:49

down, just doesn't set those things into

37:51

motion sometimes. So you're allowed to dream,

37:53

give yourself permission to do it, and

37:56

sometimes the how is not important right

37:58

now. The how will get figured out.

38:00

your job is just to dream. Give

38:02

yourself permission to do it. Okay, don't

38:05

forget to download the worksheet and always

38:07

send me a DM if there's a

38:09

bigger heart or write on the comments

38:11

for this episode. And yeah, let's have

38:14

a great year. Like no matter what

38:16

time of year you're listening to this,

38:18

you can have a great week, a

38:20

great month. Just give yourself permission to

38:23

dream and just set those things down

38:25

and allow the universe to meet you

38:27

halfway. That's it. All right, that link

38:29

again is Denise D.T.com/goals. Goals. Okay. She'll

38:32

see you later. See you next week.

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