According to Pew Research, the number of fathers who do not work outside the home is on the rise. It was up to 2 million in 2012 in fact! In this special Father’s Day episode, I’m talking with one of those unsung heroes. He’s music producer and stay-at-home dad Derrien Hinton aka “DH The Composer”. In our candid conversation, Derrien talks about the realities of parenting twin boys, how brand building and legacy building are intertwined, and the new definition of provider he's adopting...one diaper at a time.

In this episode, Derrien and Suzette talk about:

--The importance of legacy building in parenting
--What it means to be great even when it looks like you’re failing
--Overcoming “alpha selfishness”
--How life doesn’t stop and you don’t automatically become a fantastic person just because you’re a dad

Things that made us go hmmm

From Derrien:

“To be great, [I have to be] like, I use the term, ‘grateful in my pasture.’ ”
“Being a stay-at-home father has taught me quite a bit about the other ways that my role in the household is valuable.”
“When you don't have your accomplishments to fall back on, you see who you really are.”
“I learned how much I compare myself to people. And I believe that comparison is the thief of joy.”
“There's a level of alpha selfishness, to a certain extent, that I think that I had the capacity to embody.”
“Be aware enough to ask for help, when you need it.”

From Suzette:

“It's when you're in these isolated situations, you know, situations where things didn't go quite the way you thought they were going to go that it really reveals what your definition of your enoughness is.”
“Because you give birth to children does not automatically change you into this paragon of virtue and consciousness, [you] still struggle with the same things you had before."
“I think what was very key, at least for me, was regardless to whatever mix ups, mess ups, you know, getting it wrong, whatever, at the end of the day, we could sit down and talk.”

About Derrien Hinton

Derrien is a graduate of Howard University. Before graduating with honors had already been offered an analyst position with Johnson and Johnson. Despite being on target for different promotions and opportunities, he had a bigger dream than moving up the corporate ladder, a dream that was birthed when he was a little boy, taking wooden spoons and drinking straws with books to recreate a drum set. So in February 2016, he founded Verum Music Group LLC, specializing in music production, artist development, and management. In fact, Derrien aka DH The Composer has provided the soundtrack to my You Asked? Good Men Answered! Virtual Summit for the past four years. His music is even the intro and outtro for this podcast. But of all his accomplishments, if you were to ask Derrien what he's most proud of, he’d point to two giggling faces. Hayden and Preston, who just turned 2 years old in May.

References Mentioned:

Derrien Hinton Instagram at www.instagram.com/dhthecomposer
Derrien Hinton Website at https://linktr.ee/dhthecomposer
You Asked? Good Men Answered! Virtual Summit at www.goodmenanswered.com
Growing Number of Dads Home With The Kids (Pew Research) at https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/06/05/growing-number-of-dads-home-with-the-kids/

Enoughness Reminder

“Life happens to everybody. Be aware enough to ask for help, when you need it, whether it be through family, whether it be through friends, whether it be through even your own spiritual, emotional, mental walks in life. Definitely be sure to ask for help, because I don't think we're built as human beings to navigate this Life by ourselves.” -- Derrien Hinton

What were your aha moments? We'd love to hear them!

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Credits

Music by DH The Composer
Cover Design by Odyssey Administrative Services, LLC
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