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Hi guys, this is Sarame Bates

5:25

for Help Me, Be Me, and

5:28

today I am doing an episode

5:30

about the power of energy and

5:32

cleansing it or curating positivity. And

5:35

I think that you will get

5:37

out of this episode as kind

5:40

of a perspective reset. And at

5:42

the very least, a tuning of

5:44

your energy. Because one thing I

5:47

like to remind myself of, often,

5:49

is it could all end tomorrow.

5:52

In a very positive way, not

5:54

in like a dire, terrible way,

5:56

but... Literally, like, if you can

5:59

remember that that's true, all of

6:01

your priorities kind of get rejiggered

6:04

around that. You're like, oh, things

6:06

aren't so major, like I make

6:08

them out to be. Things aren't

6:11

so heavy and don't mean as

6:13

much. When you just reframe life

6:16

around this, like, it's very temporary.

6:18

We have to remember to really

6:20

fully participate in it and not

6:23

live at the cost of ourselves.

6:25

So I just want to ask

6:28

you for just scan your body

6:30

scan your your current life is

6:32

your life set up to honor

6:35

your nervous system like is it

6:37

healthy for your nervous system does

6:40

it really respect how that system

6:42

wants to operate and like stay

6:44

balanced I don't think we really

6:47

think in those terms of like

6:49

what our abilities are as being

6:52

kind of predetermined and or finite

6:54

you know I think a lot

6:56

of us push ourselves through lots

6:59

and lots and lots of stress

7:01

and just think of it as

7:04

like it's okay though it'll end

7:06

and like I can deal with

7:08

it and I want to think

7:11

of it in terms of What

7:13

should it be though? What should

7:16

it be based on what allows

7:18

me to feel good and thriving

7:20

as I move through this life?

7:23

So this episode is also for

7:25

just kind of finding the easy

7:28

does it in your step today.

7:30

I wanted to also start this

7:32

episode by just saying if you

7:35

are a person who is riddled

7:37

with anxiety as of late and

7:40

is really buried in stress, and...

7:42

is very overwhelmed by a lot

7:44

of information that you ingest. I

7:47

wanted to tell you a little

7:49

story. Go and walk down memory

7:52

lane with me back to my

7:54

college days. I remember I was

7:56

a media studies major because I

7:59

looked at the majors and I

8:01

was like, media studies, that's like

8:04

advertising. I just read the paragraph

8:06

description and decided my future as

8:08

all of college kids. do. And

8:11

I remember going to media studies

8:13

and realizing it was not how

8:16

to do advertising, it was like

8:18

the evils of advertising and also

8:20

the way that masses are controlled

8:23

through the media. And in that

8:25

first college course we were watching

8:28

the Panama Deception, we were reading

8:30

Noam Chomsky, we were watching a

8:32

ton of newsreel footage of like...

8:35

terrible, terrible things. A lot of

8:37

gore. And I remember it was

8:40

my nervous system at the time,

8:42

my tiny 18-year-old brain was not

8:44

capable of tolerating all of that

8:47

truth at once, and it crippled

8:49

me. It was, I became so

8:52

depressed, I became so incapacitated by

8:54

what we were learning and ingesting,

8:56

and I felt... hopeless. I really

8:59

felt overcome with hopelessness. And what

9:01

I learned from that experience is

9:04

what that does to me when

9:06

I ingested on that level is

9:08

it makes me completely inactive and

9:11

it makes me fall apart. And

9:13

what I have now in my

9:16

life, because I have that awareness

9:18

that I had that learning experience,

9:20

I understand now what I need

9:23

to ingest and how much of

9:25

it I can ingest. for me

9:28

to stay my most powerful, my

9:30

most effective, my most capable. Because

9:32

now I'm in full power and

9:35

I activate my body, I activate

9:37

all of my gifts, all of

9:40

my resources, and I channel them

9:42

into good. I channel them into

9:44

helping people. I channel them into

9:47

changing things that I have the

9:49

power to change. That is... Those

9:52

two different channels, different channels of

9:54

settings for your life, I want

9:56

you to be really deliberate about

9:59

how you set up those parameters

10:01

for your personal body, your individual

10:04

soul. What keeps you active and

10:06

powerful in channeling your work into

10:08

the good? and what does not,

10:11

what causes you to start to

10:13

deteriorate and to have sleepless nights

10:16

and anxiety. Today I know what

10:18

activates me and I also know

10:20

what incapacitates me. I want you

10:23

to be very very delicate and

10:25

deliberate and covet. those boundaries for

10:28

yourself and only welcome things into

10:30

your psyche that you can see

10:32

the effects are activating in positive.

10:35

So with that, on a brighter

10:37

note, moving on to my next

10:40

topic, I also wanted to remind

10:42

you not to forget the range

10:44

and variability of life and of

10:47

the future. I don't know if

10:49

you've listened to the telepathy tapes

10:52

already, but for me, it just

10:54

has reminded me how little I

10:56

know and how little I could

10:59

possibly grasp about what my kids

11:01

will be learning when I'm very

11:04

old. You know, there is just,

11:06

there's so much that we don't

11:08

know where we stand today right

11:11

now and never take that element.

11:13

out of your awareness. And that's

11:16

a good thing. That's a great

11:18

thing. We don't know everything. We

11:20

can't know everything from where we

11:23

stand right now. You can not

11:25

possibly predict the future. So if

11:28

you are in a state of

11:30

doing and glooming about AI and

11:32

what that will do to everybody

11:35

and what, you know, world, I

11:37

don't know. All the terrible scary

11:40

things out there that make people

11:42

feel like overwhelmed. You have no

11:44

idea what will be. So you

11:47

can only act from where you

11:49

are right now. And you can

11:52

only affect what you can affect

11:54

from today right now. So, how

11:56

do we curate healthy energy, active

11:59

energy, and conduct ourselves from this

12:01

place today right now? And what

12:04

is created by what is true

12:06

for us today right now? If

12:08

we can live in a state

12:11

of integrity and really activate what

12:13

is true and like honor what

12:16

is true for us, from here,

12:18

great growth and change can happen

12:20

in ourselves. Even if we feel

12:23

powerless, even if we feel overwhelmed,

12:25

even if we're in pain, right

12:28

now is it's just a process

12:30

of coming home, coming home to

12:32

self. and really being responsible and

12:35

deliberate with how we handle our

12:37

energy as we move through the

12:40

world. This is kind of a

12:42

heady episode. I'm using a lot

12:44

of like vague terms but I

12:47

think it'll be helpful as you

12:49

move through this and I just

12:52

want to remind you everything is

12:54

hard at first. If you were

12:56

starting to feel like frustrated or

12:59

like you're at the beginning of

13:01

a process of change and you're

13:04

feeling like... mad and like it's

13:06

vague and you're like confused by

13:08

something that is this that is

13:11

the first sign of change if

13:13

you are finding yourself in a

13:16

feeling of like this is hard

13:18

I don't I'm not good at

13:20

this just recognize it notice that

13:23

as this is What it feels

13:25

like to be new at something,

13:28

this is the process, this is

13:30

a surefire sign, I am in

13:32

the process of change. Because you

13:35

are learning something new, you are

13:37

adopting something new and it feels

13:40

foreign. So, with all that said,

13:42

I want you to step back

13:44

right now and ask, is there

13:47

anything in my body? that needs

13:49

to be soothed right now? Is

13:51

there anything that I'm feeling that

13:54

is perhaps not productive or healthy

13:56

for me that I can just

13:59

notice and then relax into? If

14:01

so, keep it simple. Keep it

14:03

so simple. What fear? healing and

14:06

nice to you. Let's just collectively

14:08

take a break, step back and

14:11

ask what what does my nervous

14:13

system need right now? Maybe it's

14:15

just some time outside. Maybe it's

14:18

staring at a tree, staring at

14:20

something that is natural, staring at

14:23

the sky. And if not... I

14:25

would invite you just to move

14:27

to something that will feel grounding

14:30

and calming. Something that could be

14:32

done, you know, with a glass

14:35

of water, with a temperature, like

14:37

if you touch a cold surface,

14:39

for example. Reason I wanted to

14:42

ask you to calm or soothe

14:44

in some ways. Our energy is

14:47

an actual thing. Like the energy

14:49

we have in our body in

14:51

our psyche is an actual thing.

14:54

And I just want us to

14:56

become aware of ours. Is your

14:59

energy in your body, is it

15:01

volatile, is it active, or is

15:03

it blue and calm? Whatever it

15:06

is just notice. And if you

15:08

have access to... touching a surface

15:11

of any kind, like just see

15:13

what it feels like to touch

15:15

something grounding in your environment, you

15:18

know, or gaze at the natural

15:20

element if you're outside or if

15:23

you have a window near you.

15:25

Just see what comes up, what's

15:27

in your body. I actually just

15:30

name things sometimes, like it's a

15:32

sense of unease. It's a sense

15:35

of... my heart pounding just give

15:37

words to it externalize it whatever

15:39

is coming up for you or

15:42

is stuck somewhere in you fear

15:44

worry whatever it is whatever the

15:47

feelings are maybe they're all good

15:49

feelings I hope they're good feelings

15:51

but past that I wanted to

15:54

invite you to tune your energy

15:56

a little bit more deeply I

15:59

want to ask you to recall

16:01

something recent that is a gratitude

16:03

of some special moment from the

16:06

last 24 hours? What was it?

16:08

Bring it to your mind's eye.

16:11

Where were you? Who were you

16:13

with? What are the sounds around

16:15

you? How do you feel to

16:18

be around those people? Who is

16:20

there? What are you doing? Really

16:23

just feel into that memory in

16:25

your body. That is how. We

16:27

can tune our energy and really

16:30

soothe our nervous system and teach

16:32

ourselves to come back home to

16:35

a sense of calm. And all

16:37

of these are accessible to us.

16:39

We just have to remember to

16:42

do so. It's like it's really

16:44

easy to just get lost in

16:47

the content of life and be

16:49

kind of catching up. constantly, whether

16:51

it be work stress or all

16:54

of the responsibilities you have as

16:56

a parent or just being over-scheduled.

16:59

Anytime you notice your heart's racing

17:01

or your feeling on the back

17:03

foot, just notice it and ground.

17:06

Just do really, really simple practices

17:08

to ground and encounter the perpetuated

17:11

thought process of I'm in a

17:13

hurry or there's not enough. I've

17:15

got to try harder or else.

17:18

Like all of those kind of

17:20

scarcity thoughts can really give us

17:23

extra, I don't know, tax our

17:25

nervous system. So with that, this

17:27

episode is really just a what,

17:30

a brief what, and then some

17:32

tools that are all in this

17:35

general vicinity. So with that, here

17:37

is the what. being aware in

17:39

energetic terms of how we exist

17:42

in our world. And that can,

17:44

it doesn't have to mean that

17:47

we're always like positive. You know,

17:49

I feel like there's this pressure

17:51

to always be positive only thinking

17:54

of the positive. We can actually

17:56

be in pain and be still

17:59

in a state of integrity, you

18:01

know, like being just aligned with

18:03

where we stand and accepting it,

18:06

I think is a big, it's

18:08

a very positive thing just to

18:11

not reject what is true for

18:13

us at any given time, but

18:15

also being very responsible about what

18:18

we foster, you know, what we

18:20

encourage in our own body. So

18:23

if your body is activated, is

18:25

it stressed, if it's happy, calm

18:27

blue, just beat. constantly kind of

18:30

aware and checking in as as

18:32

if your body is like a

18:35

separate entity you know it's almost

18:37

like noticing that your car is

18:39

running on like the the revs

18:42

are really high it's like you

18:44

can notice these little details and

18:47

kind of adapt your the way

18:49

you're maneuvering in in support of

18:51

that engine so I also wanted

18:54

to extend this frame of the

18:56

what to the climate that you

18:59

curate in the rooms that you

19:01

frequent and the circles you surround

19:03

yourself with. Reason being, we affect

19:06

others and construct the world around

19:08

us so intensely with just how

19:11

we move through it. We have

19:13

such a large part of creating

19:15

a climate. And if you think

19:18

about it in terms of... are

19:21

the way we ricochet off of

19:23

others all of our thoughts they

19:26

very much have a presence beyond

19:28

our heads and knowing that where

19:30

how do we go from here

19:33

how do we move ethically through

19:35

the world knowing that that truth

19:37

it's not ours to control it

19:39

exists whether we say it or

19:42

not it's just like our energy

19:44

is constantly affecting other people and

19:46

ricochet off other people and In

19:49

that understanding, we really have to

19:51

take responsibility for that. It's a

19:53

new focus for me in that

19:56

I'm really thinking... honestly about the

19:58

things that I wish I didn't

20:00

feel, you know, like being really

20:03

accountable to even those feelings and

20:05

then taking them apart so that

20:07

I can understand what's motivating those

20:10

feelings. For example, like let's say

20:12

you really don't like a work

20:14

condition, you feel really stifled by

20:17

a role. That is true, that

20:19

energy is true. Now, where do

20:21

you go from here? Because the

20:24

energy of judgment is the thing

20:26

we're removing from the equation. Like,

20:28

I don't want to feel this

20:31

way, so I'm going to pretend

20:33

I don't feel that way. That's

20:35

not helpful. Now that you've accepted

20:38

that you just feel it, it

20:40

just is. Where do you move

20:42

from there? It's like the expectation

20:45

of being different falls away. our

20:47

judgment of ourselves falls away. And

20:49

then we can suddenly just look

20:52

at it for what it is,

20:54

which is, I have outgrown this

20:56

role. What do I need to

20:59

do? I can either accept it

21:01

and just know that I don't

21:03

like that. I can tell somebody

21:06

I need to change it, or

21:08

I can leave, because that's what

21:10

it's telling me I need to

21:13

do. I'm in the process of

21:15

now moving on to the next

21:17

role. I don't know if that

21:20

made sense, but it's definitely all

21:22

of the same conditions exist, but

21:24

are the way we respond to

21:27

them and try and put a

21:29

cap on them, that part changes.

21:31

And with that, all of this

21:33

weird struggle or resistance or judgment

21:36

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21:38

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21:40

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the how the tools. This tool

29:15

section is really about just awareness

29:17

of energy and then also taking

29:19

care of our energy and I

29:21

guess. cultivating energy in

29:23

a more soothing, positive way. So

29:26

the first thing I want

29:28

to ask you is just

29:30

think generally about what

29:32

the imber in your life

29:35

that you want to blow

29:37

on today is, like whatever

29:40

that is. Let's just start

29:42

to foster a direction of

29:45

life and what you see

29:47

and what you connect to

29:49

vibration, Something full of love

29:52

full of love and richness and

29:54

depth Just call that intention

29:57

to mind. That's really just

29:59

the first step in this in

30:01

this how and the first tool

30:03

I have is called the unlived

30:05

life. There is for all of

30:08

us I think we all have

30:10

so many versions of ourselves that

30:12

could have been great and would

30:15

have been great if we had

30:17

chosen this path or this path

30:19

or this path and we might

30:22

have like a dozen different paths

30:24

that we almost walked down or

30:26

we might still walk down one

30:29

day and some of them we

30:31

didn't because it's too impractical or

30:33

we're too sensitive or it

30:35

just didn't feel possible to

30:37

us whatever it is whatever

30:40

your unlived life is there

30:42

is such profound joy that

30:44

comes from integrating in a

30:47

very, very simple gesture,

30:49

some part of something we

30:51

did not choose, but is

30:53

still a real and powerful

30:56

part of ourselves. So

30:58

as a practice today

31:00

or tomorrow, I wanted

31:02

to invite you to just

31:04

bring something, some tiny

31:06

gesture, some maybe it's

31:08

an activity, maybe it's

31:11

a tiny purchase or

31:13

a visit to somewhere

31:15

specific, what is that

31:17

unlived life that really

31:19

could have been amazing, but wasn't?

31:21

just give one of those just

31:23

a tiny little gift to yourself

31:25

in this area, whatever that means

31:27

for you. If we can make

31:29

that a regular practice, it's almost

31:31

like we regenerate a limb that

31:34

was lost in our soul. It's

31:36

super, at the beginning it'll feel

31:38

forced or it can. And then

31:40

as you continue to practice it,

31:42

it's almost like you regain a

31:44

lost part of yourself in a

31:46

beautiful way. It's like you can

31:48

start to talk like yourself again.

31:50

It's very spiritual and amazing. All

31:52

right, next tool, thinking of you.

31:55

I just had an epiphany last

31:57

night because I was looking around.

31:59

my room and I saw

32:02

there were two, you know,

32:04

there's vases of flowers, there

32:06

are cards, there are countless

32:09

drawings for my kids. It

32:11

felt very joyful and full

32:13

of love and it made

32:16

me think of my grandparents'

32:18

home when I was young.

32:21

It was always full of

32:23

gifts from a grandchild, fresh

32:25

cut flowers. It just had

32:28

the feeling of tokens of

32:30

powerful to have these in

32:32

our worlds and not just

32:35

you know in times of

32:37

like a loss or a

32:39

birthday all the time and

32:42

it kind of just on

32:44

a subconscious level reaffirms to

32:46

us the celebration that is

32:49

life and humanity and those

32:51

in our lives that we

32:54

keep close to us so

32:56

could that be a way

32:58

of life for you? Try

33:01

it on for size. And

33:03

by that I mean like

33:05

get some flowers, get a

33:08

plant, get some, put up

33:10

some cards from people, write

33:12

somebody a card. It just

33:15

brings a lot to our

33:17

psyche in a way that

33:19

we don't really expect. Okay,

33:22

next tool, soul umami. This

33:24

is a... I don't know

33:27

if you know that term,

33:29

umami, it's like the sweet,

33:31

salty, sour balance of all

33:34

these things or feeling, tasting

33:36

these things at all at

33:38

the same time. There is

33:41

such a thing as having

33:43

all of our, the hierarchies

33:45

of yourself be united in

33:48

an experience that bring us

33:50

into a full experience of

33:53

life. And this tool is

33:55

simply to curate this. your

33:57

week somehow in an experience.

34:00

Maybe it could be a

34:02

flow state that you reach

34:04

while dancing or a dish

34:07

that you prepare that really

34:09

knowledge is your intellectual self

34:11

your spiritual self your Childhood

34:14

self all of the just

34:16

all of the selves and

34:18

think of this as kind

34:21

of connecting all of who

34:23

we are in in a

34:26

moment that feels connected to

34:28

flow I think that

34:30

one thing you can, it's easy

34:32

to forget this, but we actually

34:35

definitely, you know, whatever we create

34:37

in the world is what we

34:40

foster and also what we receive.

34:42

So just thinking in terms of

34:44

what am I, what seeds am

34:47

I planting in this universe? It

34:49

honestly is like giving yourself gifts.

34:51

If you think in these frames

34:54

like. it makes it really exciting

34:56

and fun to plant little positive

34:58

seeds. So, for example, like, I

35:01

just, I like to give people

35:03

gifts and I get really excited

35:06

about giving gifts and very often

35:08

I'll start to receive gifts from

35:10

other people around the same time.

35:13

That's just one example. Another example,

35:15

if you have a flaky friend,

35:17

that energy of the flaky friend,

35:20

it almost like conditions you. to

35:22

be okay about flaking on them.

35:24

So anyway, that exchange, it's almost

35:27

like this undercurrent of the way

35:29

that relationships work, including your relationship

35:32

to your world. So with that

35:34

in mind, just be excited and

35:36

aware of all that you are

35:39

reaping in this world. Like all.

35:41

all that you are plugging into

35:43

others, it's almost like you're generating

35:46

little like Christmases everywhere. You know

35:48

what I mean? And it all

35:50

comes back to you. It's almost

35:53

like you create this world, this

35:55

cast of characters, where everybody really

35:58

celebrates you and wants to give.

36:00

you things and be supportive of

36:02

you and show up for you.

36:05

It's our role in that process

36:07

that feels like exciting and very

36:09

magical. So just put that in

36:12

your pipe and smoke it. Whatever

36:14

that means for you. Okay, next

36:16

tool is a mantra. Actually there's

36:19

two versions of this mantra. They're

36:21

both, they both mean different things.

36:23

Work to live, live to work.

36:26

This is a gentle reminder. I

36:28

think especially when we get in

36:31

that energy of scarcity or guilt

36:33

when we invest in things that

36:35

are purely for ourselves, like for

36:38

example, buying something that's beautiful, that

36:40

is like for your space, let's

36:42

say, or booking a vacation that

36:45

is really exciting and lavish, let's

36:47

say. It's difficult to shed. that

36:49

feeling of guilt around like, oh,

36:52

but I shouldn't have done that

36:54

though. We have to notice that

36:57

tendency and deliberately grow out of

36:59

it. And I mean grow out

37:01

of it energetically because it's really

37:04

just an impulse like a fear

37:06

of loss that's recurring for us

37:08

in the present. And in our

37:11

awareness of that fear, that fear

37:13

response of like, but I shouldn't

37:15

do that. We have to recognize

37:18

Oh, this is this old scarcity

37:20

mindset that's coming up. And then

37:23

reframe it, just feel compassion for

37:25

it, and then reframe it as,

37:27

this is what it's for. This

37:30

is really what all of it

37:32

is for, is to live well,

37:34

to really enjoy and participate in

37:37

the design of living well. That's

37:39

the first half of the mantra

37:41

work to live and then the

37:44

second half of the mantra live

37:46

to work We absolutely who whoever

37:49

you are, whatever age you are,

37:51

we could absolutely die tomorrow. And

37:53

I say that as like not

37:56

a terrible thing, but like as

37:58

a truth, like we could get

38:00

all in tomorrow. We have to

38:03

save our experiences and know that

38:05

we are absolutely valid in deserving

38:07

to have a positive experience. I

38:10

think one thing that happens to

38:12

a lot of people when they

38:15

are in a role or a

38:17

flow state or some expression of

38:19

themselves that feels so pure and

38:22

exciting as in work, they feel

38:24

immediately like, but I can't expect

38:26

to do that all the time,

38:29

but I can't really demand that

38:31

to be my income or that

38:33

can't possibly be how it is

38:36

or should be. I can't expect

38:38

that. You absolutely. are valid in

38:41

expecting that. That can absolutely be

38:43

normal. And we just have to

38:45

recognize that correction in our energy

38:48

like that defaults to like, but

38:50

I can't. That's the scarcity. We

38:52

have to teach ourselves out of

38:55

it. Just again, notice that it

38:57

comes up and then remember joy

38:59

and thriving is actually normal. and

39:02

it can be something we expect.

39:04

Recognize the fear of loss, and

39:07

then just as we sit with

39:09

ourselves in that feeling, we just

39:11

teach our body, as we acknowledge

39:14

it, teach our body to resume

39:16

the state of trust and safety.

39:18

So what does that mean? I

39:21

mean like loose in the belly,

39:23

relax the chest. Come into an

39:25

expectation of safety and good things

39:28

like really feel into your validity

39:30

like your goodness your own purity

39:32

of power and success in your

39:35

imagination. Just expect more of it

39:37

to come. Really, as soon as

39:40

you start to feel that fear

39:42

of loss, just like recognize it

39:44

and say, what does trust feel

39:47

like? What does safety feel like?

39:49

I welcome good to come. That's

39:51

it. All right, next tool is

39:54

just a little gentle reminder the

39:56

difference a person makes. is a

39:58

world of difference. The difference that

40:01

a single person makes is a

40:03

world, a future, a universe, a

40:06

lifetime of good things or not

40:08

good things. Like what I mean

40:10

by this is like you matter

40:13

as does every single person that

40:15

you allow into your inner circle

40:17

of your life and if Like

40:20

for example, one person with a

40:22

bad experience in high school can

40:24

make a person give up a

40:27

sport that they loved forever. Or

40:29

a person who shows you how

40:32

you can live in the world

40:34

in a way that is empowering

40:36

and healthy for you can alter

40:39

your trajectory for the rest of

40:41

your life in a great way.

40:43

And this tool is really just

40:46

to consider. that being true for

40:48

you and how uplifting and inspiring

40:50

and important you are in the

40:53

lives of others. You can be

40:55

the light that shows another person.

40:58

They can be the most amazing

41:00

version of themselves. You can be

41:02

like David Lynch, for example, he,

41:05

I think his neighbor, he was

41:07

like, into science. His neighbor or

41:09

a kid at school had a

41:12

dad who was a painter. And

41:14

as soon as he heard that,

41:16

he was like, oh, you can

41:19

do a job that's an art

41:21

job. I would like to do

41:24

an art job. And dot, dot,

41:26

dot became an amazing director. Your

41:28

whole life can be changed by

41:31

one person. And you have the

41:33

power to uplift and change somebody's

41:35

day. So if you are up

41:38

to it, I invite you to,

41:40

I just did this recently. It

41:42

was so fucking fun. I invite

41:45

you to send however many messages,

41:47

I'm going to say three at

41:50

random, but three messages to other

41:52

people that you work with or

41:54

that you know or that you

41:57

interact with in some way, about

41:59

what you love about them, what

42:01

you appreciate about them, and just

42:04

see how it affects you and

42:06

also how it affects them. It

42:08

is, it can be life changing,

42:11

just one person. All right, next

42:13

tool. For the doom and Glooms,

42:15

this tool is called you are

42:18

not static. I think a lot

42:20

of people get really overwhelmed by

42:23

all the information they have and

42:25

they feel paralyzed by it. And

42:27

especially when it's something that's such

42:30

an un-an overwhelming concept. You know,

42:32

I'm just going to throw out

42:34

AI because that's the one that's

42:37

top of mine for me. But

42:39

remember that the figure you are

42:41

today. is a different figure than

42:44

you will be in a future

42:46

that you are projecting. And you

42:49

cannot possibly factor in all of

42:51

the other elements that will intervene

42:53

in the future. So there are

42:56

cultural shifts, there are lots of

42:58

other people, there are lots of

43:00

other life changes, there are lots

43:03

of other... so many things. And

43:05

you cannot act on a future

43:07

that has not arrived. just yet.

43:10

You can do everything that is

43:12

in your control today, but you

43:15

cannot predict all of the other

43:17

elements and all the other variables

43:19

and just never underestimate that. For

43:22

example, let's just revisit us 10

43:24

years ago. Let's see, me 10

43:26

years ago, a totally different understanding

43:29

of the world and also very

43:31

different priorities. That self would not

43:33

know. how to navigate my current

43:36

self's life in any shape or

43:38

form. Because they would not be

43:41

in the same life stage at

43:43

all. person would make very different

43:45

decisions. So I'm just saying that

43:48

as a means to let you

43:50

let go of the job of

43:52

controlling the future because you absolutely

43:55

cannot know what it will be.

43:57

That is true. All right, next

43:59

tool, self-cam. I think this is

44:02

a really helpful. First of all,

44:04

just take the stigma out of

44:07

however you are acting and behaving

44:09

in your life, including the times

44:11

that you are not proud of

44:14

yourself. Those are very human responses,

44:16

and oftentimes they are the manifestation

44:18

of conditions that need to be

44:21

altered. So all of that said,

44:23

take little snapshots, like as if

44:25

you have a little like cam,

44:28

you know, a security cam attached

44:30

to the outside of your head.

44:33

Just take little snapshots of your

44:35

own behavior, your own energy when

44:37

it's in a place that you

44:40

do not like and just record,

44:42

hit record on that little self-cam

44:44

and check in later in the

44:47

day on that experience. How do

44:49

you feel about you? This is

44:51

really just a means to workshop

44:54

what is happening and see if

44:56

you like it. Do you like

44:58

the way it's... how it looks,

45:01

how it feels in your own

45:03

body. And this is from this

45:06

vantage point, we can start to

45:08

take apart all of the triggers,

45:10

like the experience itself in slow

45:13

motion, and just start to see,

45:15

hmm, I think I want to

45:17

alter this. Example is, for example,

45:20

like, the process of parenting is

45:22

very triggering. It's very activating because

45:24

there are all these kind of

45:27

competing priorities in a person's body.

45:29

One is a priority to be

45:32

loving. One is a priority to

45:34

be controlling to keep that person

45:36

safe. Another is a human response

45:39

of wanting to protect the self,

45:41

to honor the self, to not

45:43

feel disrespected. All of those things

45:46

are often at odds. But when

45:48

we can really just take a

45:50

snapshot of sometimes we don't feel

45:53

good about how we ourselves are

45:55

acting, when we can take it

45:58

apart from that vantage point, we

46:00

can really start to do some

46:02

work around... What do I choose

46:05

though? Like knowing that all of

46:07

these things exist, this is a

46:09

stew of ingredients that I don't

46:12

even know what to follow, there's

46:14

so many layers to it, what

46:16

do I choose? How do I

46:19

want to feel? How do I

46:21

want to feel? How do I

46:24

want to feel about myself? I'm

46:26

watching myself from outside of me.

46:28

I want to feel good about

46:31

that person. What does that mean?

46:33

Now that I know that I've

46:35

seen this portrait, what would make

46:38

me like that person? It's self-work.

46:40

And oftentimes the answer is not

46:42

something that we would have arrived

46:45

at if we are within the

46:47

body of the person that's going

46:50

through the experience. Usually what the

46:52

answer requires is us changing the

46:54

conditions at an earlier point in

46:57

time. So setting up ourselves for

46:59

success based on changing. the rules

47:01

of the game, the parameters of

47:04

the situation, giving ourselves access to

47:06

a resource that we didn't have

47:08

that set up the conditions. But

47:11

usually it starts by just having

47:13

the understanding of our own feelings

47:16

about ourselves. So it's kind of

47:18

like a weird like getting outside

47:20

of the situation process. All right,

47:23

next tool, drawing down the energy

47:25

of the archetype. This is a

47:27

youngian. I love to do creative

47:30

dream work. That is like my

47:32

personal practice that I do for

47:34

myself and I do a lot

47:37

of work with Carl Jung and

47:39

dreams. All of that said, this

47:41

is a really simple one. It's

47:44

not like superheady. When we adorn

47:46

our bodies with what I'll call

47:49

like a costume or something, I've

47:51

had past tools where it's like

47:53

your own version of a superhero

47:56

costume, what we are really doing

47:58

is channeling an energy of some

48:00

figure or some icon or some

48:03

meaning that is outside of us

48:05

is bigger than us that is

48:07

more powerful than us and it

48:10

can be really healing and help

48:12

us head in a new direction

48:15

in our life. It can give

48:17

us added support. And so what

48:19

I wanted to invite you to

48:22

do today or tomorrow is bring

48:24

about the energy of an archetype

48:26

that will guide you into a

48:29

powerful and fabulous future. in your

48:31

life? Like, what would that be?

48:33

Who is this archetype? What would

48:36

they embody? Like, think in terms

48:38

of something that you are trying

48:41

to reclaim in yourself. I don't

48:43

know why today I was feeling

48:45

like kind of cowboy vibes. I

48:48

know in a past life I

48:50

was a medicine woman that was

48:52

in Canada. So I'm like, I'm

48:55

always thinking of this like kind

48:57

of tribal medicine woman who had

48:59

like incredible insight and like healing

49:02

powers and like was very like

49:04

attuned to the earth. So I

49:07

like think of that archetype sometimes.

49:09

Anyway, make it fun. Don't feel

49:11

weirded out about what I just

49:14

said. Think of it in terms

49:16

of like this, like I'm tapping

49:18

into energy that can really bring

49:21

strength to my being. What would

49:23

that be today? What's the costume

49:25

going to be? Could be like

49:28

a piece of jewelry, it could

49:30

be a hat, it could be

49:33

a style of makeup, it could

49:35

be a jacket, whatever it is.

49:37

Bring in that architect energy. All

49:40

right, those are my tools. In

49:42

closing, I wanted to thank all

49:44

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help that helps me as well

50:06

and in closing know that all

50:08

of your thoughts are things they

50:10

have a physical presence and they

50:13

they have a ripple effect and

50:15

really when you can think of

50:17

your energy in these terms you

50:20

can take the judgment out of

50:22

them you know like We don't

50:24

have to feel bad about what

50:27

is true for us. We can

50:29

just accept it and work from

50:32

there. It's not good or bad,

50:34

it just is. And so this

50:36

kind of tuning of your own

50:39

energy accepting of all of... all

50:41

of the feelings you have is

50:43

really a way to come into

50:46

acceptance and alignment so you can

50:48

act and so you can guide

50:50

yourself in from a place of

50:53

like honesty. That is how we

50:55

kind of change and in really

50:58

powerful and amazing ways and how

51:00

we grow and really powerful and

51:02

amazing ways. I personally feel like

51:05

we as humans are in the

51:07

middle of just an amazing and

51:09

wonderful shift in consciousness. And I

51:12

think there's a critical mass that

51:14

is shifting in a very positive

51:16

way. So don't forget that part.

51:19

If you get overwhelmed with like

51:21

the news and all the stuff,

51:24

the content of the world, step

51:26

back and come back to just

51:28

the core of yourself, the core

51:31

of your being and be very

51:33

responsible about that. Are you active?

51:35

Are you in the fullest sense

51:38

of your power? Are you fully...

51:40

In that zone where you can

51:42

create change for the better, if

51:45

not, first things first, keep it

51:47

simple, come back and condition yourself

51:50

so that you can be powerful.

51:52

So you can be an agent

51:54

of good, of empowering others, inspiring

51:57

others, connecting it to others in

51:59

love. This is where, when we

52:01

set that baseline, we can incubate

52:04

a flow, we can... Create such

52:06

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