Hi, I am your host Julie Hetherington with Knowing your truth .com where I work with people who are faced with a high conflict battle and not knowing where to begin. During the start of a divorce with a high conflict individual and custody battles one’s head can feel like it is spinning out of control because well, they just don’t know where to start and every angle and each direction seems like a good one. I help these precious people find direction, clarity and most importantly I help them to gather their evidence and strategically present it to their attorney for their upcoming battle. I understand how hard this can be to walk through.
When I was first introduced to this term, I did not know what to think.  How was I supposed to accept something that I did not agree with. I was in fight mode. I wanted nothing more than to fight for what was right and what I believed in. The problem was I was alone. I did not know how to gather my evidence and make it presentable to the judge. I did not know what was acceptable and what was not. 

I felt after all this was over that maybe radical acceptance ment me walking into the attorney’s office and accepting that they might not have what it fully takes to fight the good fight. I was unaware walking in the court room as to how unprepared an attorney could be. That I would soon become my own advocate at the last moment after I had exhausted many avenues of counsel and it was too late. I did not know what part of all of this I was supposed to radically accept. That I continued to lose in court!

Was it the day I walked into the cold court room when the only voice that was allowed to be heard was not yours. As lies began to circulate, it was as if reality got a pitch-black blanket of darkness placed over the top of it and was labeled nonexistent. My truth, my words were pushed far, far, below any realm that was attainable to reach and bring back up to reality. The judge had found a way to silence me in the court room that I would not learn had happened until I began to seek out others like me. My case was frozen, and every attorney would tell me you will never win anything back with your last judge’s ruling no matter what evidence you have. The judges don’t look at evidence anymore!

My voice was lost that day, twisted and unable to speak my version of the truth, my situation was hopeless, and fear stricken. The judge placed us in a trench no one wanted to help us out of.  

Radical acceptance is defined as shifting your need to blame, hate, fight what is out of our control to an inner peace that is willing to problem solve with a clear mind knowing full well that the person on the other side of the decision-making process is not able to meet you halfway. 

Radical acceptance to me is knowing that justice was not served in our case and many more like mine but raising children with morals, resilience, strength, and boundaries. We can only do so much to change the world and the unfortunate circumstances that surround the court systems and lack of education. 

There are so many people who injustice has happened to, and the children are the ones who ultimately suffer. How do we radically accept this and what can we do to change it? 

There are many movements that are taking place such as Kayden’s Law I have attached a link below to the website that houses many meeting to progress change: 

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