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Hello and welcome to Manifest

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My name is is Sarah I'm

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a best -selling author. I'm

1:02

a a entrepreneur and a

1:05

and mentor. And if

1:07

you are new to the show, show,

1:09

the way that this show tends to

1:11

work is that when I feel

1:13

inspired to get behind the microphone for

1:15

somewhat of an intuitive download, this

1:18

is how it unfolds. And this

1:20

show is all about the law of

1:22

attraction, of spirituality, metaphysics, mindfulness,

1:24

and, of course, everything

1:26

that... and on this beautiful journey. that

1:29

that we call life. this beautiful

1:31

at the time that I am

1:33

recording this episode, it is just

1:35

after 10 it is just

1:37

a Wednesday night, on a Wednesday

1:39

night I just put my girls

1:41

down to sleep put it has been

1:43

a really, really tough 24 hours. a Yesterday.

1:46

tough 24 hours. Yesterday. on maybe

1:48

just rewind just

1:50

a little bit here

1:52

for some of

1:54

you that may not

1:56

have caught up

1:58

on the news. may not

2:00

have caught up husband Sean

2:02

and I have

2:04

been separated for eight

2:06

months now now, and I

2:08

I was at

2:10

a class with the

2:12

kids and I got an emergency

2:14

phone call from Sean and he said

2:16

you have to come over quickly, there's

2:18

been an accident. And our little dog,

2:20

we've had three dogs over the years,

2:22

our youngest dog Pepper, she was hit

2:24

by a car and she was killed

2:26

instantly. And so it was emergency protocol,

2:28

you know, all of the things that

2:30

you need to do to take care

2:32

of a pet that has just passed

2:35

away. And then of course, getting over

2:37

there to Sean's house and... the kids

2:39

only being able to see one dog

2:41

and of course they're going to naturally

2:43

ask, well where's Pepper? And so I

2:45

had to explain to them that there'd

2:47

been an accident and Pepper had passed

2:49

away. And words really can't explain what

2:51

you have to gather within your own

2:53

energetic resources in those moments. where you

2:55

not only have to look at the

2:57

different practicalities that need to unfold, but

2:59

also how you can emotionally support your

3:01

loved ones through such a sudden and

3:03

tragic loss. And as I'm saying this,

3:05

I'm well aware that grief is an

3:07

unfolding. It's something that takes many months

3:09

to unpack and process adequately. So the

3:11

reason that I wanted to talk about

3:13

navigating loss around the holidays is because

3:15

that's what I'm going to be going

3:17

through this year and Christmas is next

3:19

week and Already the landscape of Christmas

3:21

is a little different for me this

3:23

year two separate households two separate new

3:25

traditions that are going to be created

3:27

within those two households and now the

3:29

loss of a very beloved little family

3:31

member and her name her name was

3:33

pepper poopants poopants was her middle name

3:35

I don't know why or who came

3:37

up with it but it was very

3:39

fitting let's just put it that way

3:41

and she was with us for well

3:44

she was born into 2013. And got

3:46

her in about we got

3:48

her in about

3:50

early 2014 around the

3:52

same time that

3:54

I was going through

3:56

a lot of

3:58

the miscarriages the joy of

4:00

I remember the joy

4:02

of having that

4:04

little puppy energy in

4:06

the house never that

4:08

never really left though

4:10

though that she

4:12

would be classified as

4:14

an older dog now.

4:16

She was a brutal.

4:18

So she was either her mom or she was a

4:20

toy her mom or her dad

4:23

was a toy poodle and the

4:25

other faction was I'm not think I'm not sure.

4:27

I'm not not sure not sure. But But

4:29

she was she was somewhat

4:31

of a little mixed mutt. And she had

4:33

a playful she had a playful

4:35

personality and that will always a very

4:37

always be a very cherished and beloved

4:40

memory. so today, navigating different

4:42

losses that different losses that

4:44

have unfolded this year in my

4:46

own life. mean, this is

4:48

the second dog in our family

4:51

that's died tragically this year.

4:53

We lost Merlin, Merlin Moonman. in January.

4:55

I think it was January was

4:57

this year, and he died

4:59

tragically as well. tragically as well

5:01

and it It was before his time,

5:03

and so when that so when that happens What

5:06

is that? that strength that summonsed

5:08

from within because you have to

5:10

get through each and every

5:12

moment and I know that losing,

5:14

I know that know, a human a

5:16

losing a losing a fur baby or a... treasured

5:19

family pet very very different but there's

5:21

a lot of energetic mechanisms that

5:23

can feel very similar. feel very And

5:25

so whether you have lost a

5:27

loved one this year, a member

5:29

of your family a a friend your

5:31

or a colleague a a pet. a

5:33

colleague, or a pet, know that you're not alone. not

5:36

alone. And that also realizing there

5:38

are ways that you can you

5:40

that cherished. loved one

5:42

in so many different ways. So I

5:44

wanted to dive into some of

5:46

the different of the strategies and energetic techniques

5:48

that you can use to navigate

5:50

loss throughout the holidays the and to

5:53

also make sure that you're taking care

5:55

of yourself during this time. during this time.

5:57

And I do I do that because it's

5:59

really helpful. for me also as a

6:01

reminder because it's very important for me

6:03

to walk the talk because you know

6:06

Lord knows you what's that phrase you

6:08

teach what you need to learn so

6:10

I'm paying keen attention to my words

6:13

this evening that are coming through and

6:15

how we can all support navigate one

6:17

another so if you know somebody that

6:19

is experiencing loss right now please feel

6:22

free to send this podcast to them

6:24

and if you don't feel like this

6:26

is for you right now and you

6:28

feel like the energy is a little

6:31

bit low, stick with me because I

6:33

really think that there's so much that

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can be learned from these experiences and

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Okay, so just to recap here,

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it's Just a recap here,

8:06

it's really important that as

8:08

you are navigating loss during

8:10

the holidays we that we season can

8:12

why this season can feel

8:14

a little bit. How

8:16

do I put this? Particularly

8:18

challenging validate to validate the complex

8:20

emotions you might be experiencing. So

8:23

The grief is somewhat amplified. Of

8:25

course it is because traditions

8:27

and memories are deeply entwined with

8:30

our loved ones. with our so

8:32

there's like this unspoken pressure to

8:34

be festive and joyful or,

8:36

you know, empty chairs at the

8:38

holiday gatherings might become powerful

8:40

reminders of the people that are

8:42

not there to celebrate. to so

8:45

there really becomes this becomes between

8:47

other celebrations and how our

8:49

loss can feel and how our

8:51

loss can feel really overwhelming. So how do you

8:53

find your do you find your

8:55

way through this? be you might

8:57

be really missing that person or

8:59

really missing. You know, because the holidays was, I

9:01

you know, because the holidays tend

9:03

to stack. delivered got all of my

9:06

stuff delivered from Florida. We had

9:08

this big giant storage unit in

9:10

Florida. Remember when we went nomadic

9:12

for a while and we lived

9:14

between Las Vegas and the Hamptons

9:16

for a little bit there. bit there, but...

9:18

live now moved to Wisconsin, Green Bay,

9:20

Wisconsin. And so I was going through all

9:22

of my stuff. of my stuff. And there there

9:25

were boxes of photos and there were

9:27

so many different photos taken

9:29

with Santa I I never had

9:31

particularly successful photos taken with Santa

9:33

Claus with the the kids. So

9:35

it's kind of a funny thing

9:37

to see the years. There

9:39

was one back in I think

9:41

it was like 2008 with Olivia And

9:43

I remember she was still

9:45

in diapers in diapers or my Australian

9:47

friends friends. I stood in line

9:49

to get her photo taken for

9:51

I think think hours like two hours

9:53

the Melbourne shopping centre or mall mall mall for my

9:55

my American friends, and

9:57

Olivia decided to drop a

9:59

deuce. right as she was about to

10:01

sit on Santa's lap. And now keep

10:03

in mind, I was a young mother.

10:06

I was like 27, 28 years old. And

10:09

I decided to get the photo

10:11

taken because I didn't have much

10:13

money and I'd already paid the

10:15

elves at the cash checkout thingy

10:18

for the photo. So I put

10:20

Olivia up there in Thomas and

10:22

I could see. It's a happy

10:24

snap. The look on Santa's face,

10:26

he actually had his eyes closed.

10:28

I wish I could, I should

10:30

probably share a photo so you

10:32

can see it. But to protect

10:34

the kid's privacy, I won't do

10:36

that. Lord knows Olivia's probably like,

10:38

mom, why did you mention that

10:40

on your podcast? But

10:43

the point I'm making here

10:45

is that every Santa photo was

10:47

different. And it reminded me

10:49

that every Christmas is different, a

10:51

different combination of people. There's

10:53

been combinations. I remember when my

10:55

parents first got divorced, I

10:58

had to spend the morning with

11:00

my mom and then afternoon

11:02

lunch with my dad, those kind

11:04

of dynamics. And I remember

11:06

I've had big family Christmases where

11:08

I had siblings and cousins

11:10

and grandparents and that kind of

11:12

thing. And now it's a

11:14

little bit different. And now my

11:16

son Thomas, he's in Las

11:18

Vegas and Olivia's in Australia. And

11:21

things just change. And it's

11:24

that reminder, though, to cherish

11:26

the moment, to cherish the

11:28

people that are in your

11:30

life now. And

11:32

that's the power of the present

11:34

moment. That reminder that you get

11:37

to keep these traditions, those reminders.

11:39

And you can also take breaks

11:41

when you need them. If you

11:43

really are struggling right now, loss

11:45

of a loved one, loss of

11:47

a pet, like me, for instance,

11:49

it's important to reach out to

11:51

your support systems if you need

11:54

it. Communicate

11:56

with your family and your friends and

11:58

say, hey, I'm having a bit of

12:00

a tough time. right now. And then

12:02

just remember that Now

12:04

is precious. right now.

12:07

And if you have lost somebody,

12:09

they would want you to celebrate,

12:12

they would want you to activate

12:14

the magic of the present moment.

12:16

And that's truly the best way

12:18

to navigate any loss. and then to

12:20

trust that what's coming in the future.

12:23

is joyful, is happy. is.

12:26

is exciting, is going

12:28

to create new traditions.

12:30

So for instance, I didn't

12:33

know about the Saint Nick tradition, I

12:36

was kind of late to the party,

12:38

so to speak, and that was a

12:40

really, really amazing thing to experience this

12:42

year. You

12:44

know, there's so many things. few years

12:46

ago, I didn't even hear of

12:48

the elf on the Shelf tradition, and

12:50

I know, you know, different families

12:52

have different traditions. And what that

12:54

means though activating

12:56

the magic. of the

12:58

holidays no matter what you're celebrating

13:01

and I think that Even

13:03

if it's a birthday. and

13:05

that's tradition is

13:07

so important and that it

13:09

can be flexible and fluid

13:11

and movable to adapt to

13:13

the landscape of your realities

13:15

it changes with different characters

13:17

that come into your reality

13:19

different family members that join

13:21

you different friends, new

13:23

friendships that have formed. I

13:25

felt so blessed over the

13:28

last year or so to

13:30

have developed really rich and

13:32

deep friendships. And, you know,

13:34

it's It's a testament to

13:36

the support that surrounds

13:38

you when you need it,

13:40

especially if you're also

13:42

willing to give that because

13:44

friendships and relationships are

13:46

mutual support systems. and so It's

13:49

really important that you rely on them in

13:52

those moments of need that you may be

13:54

struggling. And Lord knows I've been doing that

13:56

the last year or so with all of

13:58

the things that I've been going through. And this

14:00

doesn't mean that you this doesn't

14:02

mean that of joy where you

14:05

you won't feel those moments of

14:07

joy where you catch yourself your really

14:09

enjoying your favorite meal or something

14:11

like that. It just means that

14:13

the joy and the grief I've spoken

14:15

I've spoken about this numerous times,

14:17

the joy and the grief and

14:19

and there's nothing wrong with it. it.

14:21

And the most important thing to

14:23

carry with you in your heart

14:25

your heart gratitude. Gratitude for what

14:27

you did have. did have. gratitude

14:30

for memories the memories

14:32

that have been created and

14:34

gratitude for what's coming because more

14:36

memories more as you're walking the

14:38

face of this planet. the face of

14:41

the possibility of manifesting and

14:43

being created. of manifesting and

14:45

And so as I'm navigating this grief

14:47

right now of... this Let me me

14:49

know. right now of... I know... saying goodbye

14:51

to Lil Pepper, who I

14:54

loved so dearly. she was She

14:56

was such a sweet little girl. girl. And

14:58

then remembering who's not with us

15:00

he was us was the

15:02

best little boy, the best little boy too,

15:04

know, that's like a visceral

15:06

memory with pets like a

15:08

visceral memory then pets. And

15:11

ones that are not with us anymore. are not

15:13

with us anymore, you know,

15:16

there's, really so beautiful in

15:18

so many ways. ways, The

15:20

energy. that is given to

15:22

us as gifts in our time

15:24

of grief. grief. And you

15:27

have to feel the depths of

15:29

pain and disappointment and anger and

15:31

righteous rage then then move through to

15:33

the other side of it and

15:35

it can't be fast-tracked. It's not like

15:37

getting one of those fast of those

15:39

Disney passes at know where you pay

15:41

a little bit extra and you

15:43

skip the a or the line

15:46

you can't there's no spiritual skip the

15:48

around line. is a delicate creature and

15:50

it will weave its way through

15:52

every it will weave its way through every

15:54

of your of your being. until

15:56

you you get back to that place

15:58

of balance poise and and harmony. And that is

16:01

God, the universe working through you,

16:03

through your emotions. And then on

16:05

the other side of that is

16:07

this beautiful strength that's created. And

16:09

what I've seen, gosh, my girls,

16:12

and I won't go too much

16:14

into the detail of what my

16:16

girls have been experiencing. But needless

16:18

to say, it's been a rough

16:21

year for them, and they are

16:23

so strong and full of grace.

16:25

And it's beautiful to witness, and

16:27

I learn so much from these

16:29

kids every single day. or every

16:32

single day that I'm with them.

16:34

And so, in summary, be gentle

16:36

on yourself if you've experienced loss.

16:38

See something that upsets you as

16:41

an opportunity to move forward into

16:43

who you are being called to

16:45

become. This is the ultimate invitation

16:47

from the universe, to remind you're

16:50

never alone. and that everything is

16:52

energy and that one day we

16:54

will see our loved ones again.

16:56

That's what I believe. I remember

16:58

before I wrap up here, I

17:01

remember this dream that I had,

17:03

and it was a very vivid

17:05

dream that I was in a

17:07

stairwell, and this is going to

17:10

get grizzly, so pause it if

17:12

you don't like, if you're a

17:14

little squeamish. Anyway, there we go.

17:16

I, um... somebody stabbed me actually

17:18

in my abdomen in the dream

17:21

and I remember bleeding out and

17:23

losing consciousness in this stairwell and

17:25

then I was above my body

17:27

kind of like the near-death experience

17:30

that I had in 2015 when

17:32

I gave birth to Lulu and

17:34

I found myself at this rooftop

17:36

party it was like a cocktail

17:38

party and all of my loved

17:41

ones were there even the ones

17:43

that were still alive. And the

17:45

dream showed to me that the

17:47

greater part of us is non-physical,

17:50

which is what Abraham, Abraham Hicks

17:52

often talks about. The greater part

17:54

of us is non-physical, and we're

17:56

all kind of hanging out, just

17:59

having this incredible party. of consciousness,

18:01

high High vibrational

18:03

frequency, all together, mingling

18:05

in this mingling in this

18:07

beautiful, beautiful of pot

18:09

of unconditional love. time

18:12

you feel sad, so next time. that

18:14

greater part You feel sad. Just

18:16

remember that greater part of you that

18:19

we are non -physical. And you've heard me

18:21

say this before, that we are

18:23

spiritual beings having a physical experience. Anyway,

18:27

I'm I am sending you so much love, light, and

18:29

much light, and I promise that the next

18:31

episode will be a little bit more upbeat, But for

18:33

but for now, just know that if you're

18:35

navigating anything difficult right now that I'm thinking of

18:37

you and I'm sending you so much love. sending

18:39

Thank you for being here. you for and

18:41

I'll speak to you soon. Lots of love. Lots

18:43

Bye for now. for now.