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Right, I'm hosting. Hello,

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Sean. Nope. Hello, Wikimaniacs.

0:34

It's your boy, Sean.

0:36

Welcome to another Monday

0:38

Reddit reading. The episode

0:40

starts now. What's

0:50

up, guys? It's your

0:52

boy, Sean with me. Just one

0:54

J, no more Tuesdays and no more

0:56

Tuesdays forever, actually. Josh, say

0:59

hello. Hi,

1:01

Josh. I mean, Wikimaniacs,

1:03

it's confusing. Isn't that? It's

1:05

hard. And you're wrong,

1:07

Sean, because there's one

1:10

Tuesday left. Disgusting

1:12

for the $10 tier. And

1:14

then it's going to be Sean taking

1:17

over. So excited to see

1:19

that. Yeah. Again, Wikimaniacs

1:21

don't make, I am

1:23

just joking. I did not put the

1:25

kebab in that. I tried to join Tuesdays.

1:27

And Josh said, no, I'm out. I

1:29

said, okay, I'm in there. Yeah.

1:33

And, uh, I, I

1:35

loved the episode last week with

1:37

thread talks. They were great. Good

1:39

time. I was so upset. I couldn't be

1:41

there. And I'm not going

1:44

to lie. My, my schedule this week has

1:46

been crazy. I completely forgot we were

1:48

recording tonight. So I am juiced up on

1:50

pre -workout because I was just about to do it work.

1:53

And then Sean's like, where are

1:55

we recording? Josh

1:57

said, when I said

1:59

now brother. So

2:01

I am, I am juiced up

2:03

and ready to go. Yeah. It's

2:05

all, it's all of our birthday

2:08

months. So it's all hectic. But,

2:10

and we have like a ton of guests,

2:12

which is nice to have also hectic.

2:14

but also hectic because it's all kind of

2:17

like we got like all of them

2:19

around the same time. Yeah. But I appreciate

2:21

all the birthday wishes I got. And

2:24

then Sean's birthday is coming up.

2:26

Yeah. And then John right after this

2:28

week or next week? Uh, next

2:30

week. Okay. In a week. Exactly.

2:33

Hell yeah. Dude. Cause today is the

2:35

21st. Correct. Yes. Yes. In a

2:37

week. Exactly. Happy. Happy

2:39

Easter. I guess. Happy Easter. Before

2:42

we get into the story, remember,

2:44

read it on wikishop.com, read it

2:46

on wikishop.com. I'm not gonna lie

2:48

to you guys. I

2:50

kind of dropped the ball. We've

2:52

had some suggestions for charities, but we

2:54

still have not gotten together and

2:56

decided on one. But you

2:59

know the deal, half of

3:01

the proceeds will go to charity. John said

3:03

somebody corrected us and said it's profits. Look.

3:06

One of them. It's

3:08

the same shit, isn't it? It's

3:10

pretty close. I'm fairly

3:12

certain it's the same thing.

3:15

But yes, half of the

3:17

money made from that

3:19

collection will go towards a charity.

3:21

And again, the collection is

3:23

designed by Josh, coined

3:26

a phrase coined by John.

3:28

So a whole collaboration there. I

3:30

do not condone violence, but, and

3:32

yeah, check that out. Yeah. All

3:36

right. Are we ready to get into

3:38

the stories, Josh? I am juiced

3:40

and ready. Juiced. All

3:42

right, this first one is coming from, first

3:44

for me, r slash two

3:46

X chromosomes. And

3:49

this one's coming. I think we've done

3:51

that before. Have we? I think so.

3:53

I'm forgetful. Not often, but we have

3:55

done it. Nice. Okay, this one's coming

3:57

from a goat. Stormbreaker

3:59

021. This

4:03

is titled... started treating

4:05

my boyfriend the way he

4:07

treats me. Shocking. He

4:10

hates it. Oh, okay. So

4:12

shitty boyfriend. Yeah. We're going

4:14

to find a theme today

4:16

and it is all entirely

4:18

shitty boyfriends. No marriages, just

4:21

boyfriends. Okay. I'm Sean with

4:23

a theme. Uh, well,

4:25

I had three stories and I was

4:27

like, all right, well, I better

4:29

find two more. I'm so close. I

4:31

appreciate the effort. Yeah, it's not

4:33

often. It's not often, but it, when

4:35

it happens, it happens like lightning

4:37

in a bottle. Okay.

4:39

Also peek behind the screen.

4:42

These were two I was going

4:44

to read on our live

4:46

that we did for the $10

4:48

patrons. Yes. So, you

4:50

know, that if you guys

4:52

didn't realize that those lives

4:54

happened, there are 10 dollar patrons.

4:58

Also, yeah, we said this there. I'm going to

5:00

try and do those. with

5:02

the gang at least once a month.

5:05

So be on the lookout for those

5:07

if you want more me and

5:09

who does it. More Sean, that's all

5:11

people have demanded. I

5:13

doubt it. You're wrong.

5:17

All right. My boyfriend

5:19

has had trouble being emotionally

5:21

vulnerable and showing interest in my

5:23

world. We've talked ad nauseam

5:26

about what I feel my needs are,

5:28

how I like to be treated, how

5:30

I want to connect deeply with my

5:32

partners, share and talk about interests

5:34

and more. I've helped him figure

5:36

out what he needs, therapy and

5:38

medication, both of which confirmed that

5:40

he has ADHD. He

5:42

claims, when we're not together, he

5:44

often forgets to check in on me,

5:46

think about me, or that he

5:48

connects to others easier in person. However,

5:52

in person with me, he

5:54

struggles to show interest or affection

5:56

other than a lot of physical

5:58

contact. He is asexual, so it's

6:00

a lot of hugs, back rubs,

6:02

etc. He also blames

6:04

a lot of these issues on ADHD

6:07

and the inability to feel and

6:09

verbalize his feelings. It

6:11

clearly hurts and bothers him that

6:13

he can't express his love for

6:15

me easily, but I consistently see

6:17

a lack of change or effort

6:19

which bothers me more. Okay,

6:21

and here's the kicker. I

6:23

also have ADHD. Haha.

6:27

but I clearly have different

6:29

priorities. I've worked on skills

6:31

to help manage my symptoms, plus

6:33

meds, and I go to therapy

6:35

weekly. A few days

6:37

ago, after clearly and repeatedly telling

6:39

him that it's actually pretty important

6:41

to receive a good morning text

6:43

from my partners, he forgot

6:45

again. He has done

6:48

no troubleshooting, problem solving, or even

6:50

expressed what challenges he has

6:52

meeting this one minor request. As

6:55

an example, When I had

6:57

a partner that got up super early for

6:59

work, but express similar needs, I would

7:01

pre -schedule messages for the week to be

7:03

sent when they woke up. That's actually what

7:05

I was going to say. I was

7:07

like, you could just pre -schedule those so

7:09

that, I mean, at one point, like, uh,

7:12

some people may argue that's not the same, but

7:14

I would, I would argue it is cause you're

7:16

pre thinking about it being like, I'm going to

7:18

miss this. going to pre -schedule this

7:20

when I remember so that they get it when

7:22

they wake up. I think that's a, I

7:24

think that's the same. concept as,

7:26

as sending them a good morning

7:28

message. Yeah. Whether they're thinking about you

7:30

now or later, it's still thinking

7:32

about you. Cause I would say

7:35

mornings are busy. You do get busy

7:37

in the morning. So if you have to

7:39

do it beforehand and schedule it, I

7:41

think that's fair. You know what I mean?

7:44

And I feel like iPhones just got that.

7:46

So another point for Androids. crazy. Another

7:49

point for Androids, I guess.

7:51

Because big iPhones just got that

7:53

in the last calendar year,

7:55

to be sure. I want to

7:57

say like a decade that's

7:59

been out. Really? Well,

8:02

I guess the iPhone's just

8:04

waited to perfect it. OK, I

8:06

see. Yeah, there's the. Yeah.

8:08

That's what we say. Even those

8:10

scheduling a message. I don't

8:12

think needs a lot of code

8:14

or get out of taking

8:16

a decade to perfect it. Uh,

8:19

you know, iPhones.

8:21

Yeah, it's fine. I

8:23

love them. All right.

8:25

They knew this was how I

8:28

handled this particular thing and they were

8:30

appreciative. So I started

8:32

Matt matching his energy.

8:35

I don't reach out throughout the day to tell

8:37

him what I'm up to or see what he's

8:39

up to. Oops, I forgot, I guess. When

8:41

he tells me something he's excited about, I

8:43

change the subject. Or I leave him on

8:45

read. I told him not to

8:47

worry about good morning texts. His lack

8:49

of interest in this one request made the

8:51

gesture unimportant to me. This

8:54

put him into shutdown mode, which has

8:56

also been an issue. I've

8:58

asked that at least when he realizes

9:00

he's shutting down to at least give

9:02

me a heads up that he needs

9:04

time to process because otherwise I just

9:06

feel shut out since I'm a direct

9:08

communicator. He didn't do this

9:10

either. He clearly tried to connect

9:12

with me the other day to say

9:14

that he's been journaling again. I

9:17

was happy to hear this. I know it's

9:19

his attempt to connect with me and his own

9:21

emotions. I asked him what he's

9:23

been journaling about. He basically went

9:25

on to say it was just stream of

9:27

conscious stuff to help ground him. When

9:30

I realized he would not expand or

9:32

go deeper in this conversation unless I

9:34

continued to dig, I just

9:36

responded with okay and ended the conversation.

9:39

I can tell he hates being shut

9:41

out, but I have no more

9:43

emotional labor to expand on this. Now

9:45

I just want him to feel the

9:48

effects and consequences of how he treats

9:50

me intentionally or not. He

9:52

knows what he needs to work on in

9:54

order to meet my needs. I'm an

9:56

extremely clear communicator, but now he has to

9:58

actually do the work on his own

10:00

effort, or he knows I'm not going to.

10:03

Or, sorry, made up that last

10:05

part. Or he knows I'm out. Watching

10:08

him flounder without me spoon

10:10

feeding him has been equal parts

10:13

interesting and sad. There's an

10:15

edit. The

10:17

edit is new to me.

10:19

Okay. Do you want me to

10:21

give my take? Yeah. This

10:23

would have been a good one

10:25

to have John on. I will

10:27

say. Yeah. I was just about

10:29

to say, I don't have quite,

10:31

you know, the knowledge of, uh,

10:34

you know, as John calls it,

10:36

spicy brain. Yeah. But like this

10:38

feels like the beginning of the

10:40

end of this relationship. When

10:42

one partner is not willing

10:44

to, you know, work on themselves

10:46

to meet your needs. And

10:48

that's gotten to the point that

10:50

you have to petty revenge. back

10:53

to them to try and

10:55

teach them a lesson. It's like,

10:57

right? Well, this is probably

10:59

not going to change. It's

11:01

going to get worse because now neither

11:03

of you are communicating. So

11:05

for me, it feels like

11:07

this is the, the journey to

11:09

the end of that relationship.

11:11

And you both need different things

11:13

or need to work on

11:15

yourselves before you find a relationship.

11:17

Not, not, I'm not necessarily

11:19

OP, but the boyfriend. So

11:22

yeah, for me, it just,

11:24

if he's not meeting your

11:26

needs and you know, you've

11:28

asked him multiple times, nothing's

11:30

changed. Why you don't have

11:32

to stay. You know what I

11:34

mean? You can find someone who meets

11:36

those needs and you don't have

11:38

to go through this torture of petty

11:40

revenge and watching the sad, sad

11:42

thing play out. That's kind of where

11:44

I'm at too. I think I

11:46

would probably just break up. You know

11:48

what I mean? Again, don't quite

11:50

have the knowledge on like what John

11:53

calls to, John likes to call

11:55

spicy brain. He has frequently accused me

11:57

of being spicy brain, which I

11:59

don't see that, but I don't doubt.

12:01

We cannot diagnose each other. We've learned that

12:03

very early on in the show. But

12:06

yeah, I don't know. I feel

12:08

like, and I, you know, I assume

12:10

everybody's own condition with it just

12:12

because they all, just because these two

12:14

people both have ADHD doesn't mean

12:16

like everything is the same mentally, you

12:18

know what I mean? So there

12:20

could be like, I'm assuming, you know,

12:22

everyone has a different relationship with

12:24

it. So maybe some people can cope

12:26

with it a little bit better

12:28

than OP's partner, who seems to be

12:30

kind of unable to or unwilling unable

12:33

to or like trying to,

12:35

but not really, you

12:37

know, like so far, the only

12:39

positive thing that he's done is

12:41

like start journaling. It got diagnosed

12:44

and started therapy, right? It

12:46

says that OP helped. her boyfriend figure

12:48

out that he needs therapy and

12:50

medication, but it doesn't go further. He

12:52

could be in it and he

12:54

could be not, but they don't really

12:56

go into detail. Okay. Okay.

12:58

So he could just be diagnosed with

13:00

these things and not be diagnosed

13:02

and be like, get to know it.

13:04

That's tough. If that's the case,

13:07

that is just like, okay. I mean,

13:09

if you know, you have that,

13:11

like you could be talking to someone

13:13

who could help with coping mechanisms

13:15

or prescribe you. uh, you know, medication

13:17

that can help, uh, keep you

13:19

attentive or whatever it happens to be.

13:22

It's tough to me when she's

13:24

like, uh, he won't text me

13:26

because he's like in person. I, I'm

13:28

more attentive to people like that. But

13:30

then when they're in person, he's not

13:32

attentive. Yeah. That was my thing. Does

13:35

the, does he like you? I don't

13:37

know. It was like, I find it

13:39

easier to communicate in person. When everyone

13:41

except you, it sounds like so. Or,

13:43

or not a person either. Cause

13:46

cause I'm bad at texting. I am

13:48

terrible in group chats or something like

13:50

that. Like I'll go a couple, couple

13:52

days forgetting about it. And I'd be

13:54

like, Oh shit, I should probably respond

13:56

to that. Yeah. I'll do the respond

13:58

in my mind cause I'm busy when

14:00

I read it. And then I'm like,

14:02

surely they're, I can't believe they have

14:04

a text to be back. You're

14:07

getting offended. Yeah. I'm like, this is

14:09

kind of fucking crazy. Yeah. But, but

14:11

for me, it's like with Sienna, I

14:14

messaged her back. almost immediately every time

14:16

or like when I get the chance

14:18

right away because this is like, yeah,

14:20

that's the person I always want to

14:22

be talking. Like I, I, you want

14:24

to be attentive to, I want to

14:26

be attentive to, you know what I

14:28

mean? Uh, so for me, it does

14:31

feel weird that on both ends of

14:33

like in person and not in person,

14:35

they are not being attentive. So that's

14:37

hard to hear. All right. So here's

14:39

the edit. Well, this post ended up

14:41

being far more successful and dramatic than

14:43

my relationship ever was. Haha. I

14:45

appreciate some of the comments that gave

14:48

me some things to think about and

14:50

to reflect upon. There's no huge reality

14:52

TV style season finale. I heard his

14:54

feelings with my actions that matched his.

14:56

We apologized to each other, talked it

14:58

out and are back to normal with

15:00

a couple of things that we'd like

15:02

to try before calling it quits, which

15:04

is basically exactly what I expected. Okay.

15:07

He's a much welcomed bit of peace

15:09

right now, even if it's not forever.

15:11

So it sounds like they're going to.

15:14

She's going to, this is the final

15:16

ultimatum. Hey, if you don't do these

15:18

things that I've already asked you for

15:20

20 ,000 times that we're done. Yeah. And

15:22

it, if it's 20 ,000 times, you

15:24

could kind of expect it's not going

15:26

to change. It's not going to change. But

15:29

you know, I'm optimistic,

15:31

but I'm just like, yeah.

15:35

I've seen this play out. You know

15:37

what I mean? Yeah. It's been four

15:39

years of this. We've seen quite a

15:41

few of these kudos, I guess, for

15:43

one more try. You know, maybe the

15:45

ultimatum works. It's unfortunately that seems to

15:47

work for some men. Be like, wait,

15:50

you're out. And then they, they

15:52

fix themselves. I'm going to change myself

15:54

for two months for two whole months. So

15:57

we'll see. This was a, the

15:59

original post was sold days ago.

16:01

So we'll see. Maybe there's an

16:03

update. in two months or so.

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18:00

right, are we ready for

18:02

the second story of the day?

18:05

Let's do it up. I'm

18:07

tingling right now. All right, this

18:09

one was cross -posted also by

18:11

Stormbreaker. Whoa. Zero,

18:15

two, one. Two

18:18

hours ago, in fact. Two

18:20

hours ago. Yeah. Wow. Now

18:22

they know when we record, Sean. Holy

18:24

shit. Which is good, because I

18:26

don't even know when we record.

18:30

It was not even a normal recording day anyway.

18:32

So I think that's true. This

18:34

one's titled boyfriend told me I'm

18:36

rushing him into marriage after

18:38

five years of dating. Rushing

18:42

is a strong term. If

18:44

it's five years depends on

18:46

how you're doing it and

18:48

like where you guys are

18:51

in life, like hypothetical, right?

18:53

You start dating in high school.

18:55

you're still in college, you

18:57

know, like, like five years later.

19:01

And it's like, I want to get married

19:03

now. It's like, okay, well that doesn't

19:05

really make sense with our, like we're still

19:07

in school for a few more years.

19:09

Probably want to get a job, enough money

19:11

to save up for a wedding ring. So

19:14

there, there is a potential that,

19:16

you know, OP could be in

19:19

the wrong, but based on the

19:21

plot of the today's episode, I

19:23

believe that the boyfriends. Yeah,

19:26

let's find out. Let's find out.

19:28

I'm gonna need you. I'm glad

19:30

you're pumped up and a pre

19:32

-worked out pre -worked out. The synapses

19:34

are firing. It's crazy. I want

19:36

to hear you say one of

19:38

my catchphrases when you hear this.

19:41

Oh, my boyfriend, male 31 and

19:43

I, female 26 have been together

19:45

for five years. Oh, thank

19:48

you. Love it. The

19:50

eyes got crazy too. That was

19:52

great. That's the juice. Did you see

19:54

the bloodshot? Oh

19:58

yeah.

20:01

He's male 31. She's female 26 and

20:03

they've been together for five years.

20:05

So he would have been 26 when

20:07

she was 21. Okay. Not the

20:09

craziest we've ever heard of, but it

20:11

is illegal. Yeah, it is

20:14

illegal by the book, the word of the

20:16

law. I don't know if it was

20:18

the level of illegal that I screamed it

20:20

at, but it was, it's illegal. No,

20:22

illegal is illegal. We live in a world

20:24

of black and white. The

20:26

Sean rule famously has no gray

20:29

area. None at all. We

20:32

bought a house together three

20:35

and a half years ago and

20:37

everything is on joint accounts,

20:39

joint bank accounts, joint car insurance,

20:41

et cetera. We had

20:43

a conversation a few weeks ago

20:45

about getting married and he

20:47

told me he doesn't want to

20:49

feel like he's being rushed

20:51

The last time we talked about

20:53

this was in September and

20:55

he told me that we'd be

20:57

engaged in less than six

20:59

months Obviously that hasn't happened yet

21:01

So now I don't know

21:03

what to do. Our relationship is

21:05

perfect. Otherwise, we usually communicate

21:08

really well. He's very attentive and

21:10

loving We still go out

21:12

together and have date nights. He's

21:14

told me many times before that

21:16

he wants to marry me. I just

21:18

don't understand why he won't propose. So

21:21

my question is, how do

21:23

I approach this topic again? Or

21:25

should I even bring it

21:27

up? Oh yeah, this one's coming

21:29

from r slash advice. I don't know if I

21:31

said that. Okay. That's

21:34

a weird, especially since you've talked, they

21:36

talked about it months ago and then

21:38

he said, within three months. Is that,

21:40

is that what I heard? Oh,

21:43

within three months is what I heard

21:45

somewhere along the lines. Yeah. He said

21:47

in less than six months, six months.

21:49

Sorry. I didn't even hear that correctly.

21:52

So yeah, it's crazy to put

21:55

a timeline on it yourself. And

21:57

then when you revisit the conversation,

21:59

you're like, I don't want to

22:01

feel rushed. It's like, okay, buddy,

22:03

you put the timeline on like

22:05

what do you want from me? It's

22:08

that's weird to me. Yeah. Cause

22:11

it's like, if you both have talked about it,

22:13

you've expressed your interest. Uh, you're

22:15

both, it sounds like pretty settled in

22:17

like you're 31, but what are

22:19

you waiting for? 40. You

22:21

got the house. You got the car. Yeah. Yeah.

22:23

Like if this is the person you want

22:25

to be with, it shouldn't be a second thought.

22:27

And it's not to say that, you know,

22:29

getting engaged, you have to get married right away.

22:31

If you don't have the money for that,

22:33

that's fair. You can get engaged and then talk

22:35

about that afterwards. Um,

22:37

but. You've

22:39

expressed this. It seems like you're

22:41

just leading her on. If

22:43

you're not serious about proposing. So

22:46

my advice for her would

22:48

be to ask why he

22:50

feels like he feels rushed

22:52

and like get clarity on

22:54

that because everything it sounds

22:56

like he's put the, you

22:58

know, the timeline up. So

23:00

it feels like if he

23:02

feels rushed, it's on his

23:04

end, not your end. Yeah.

23:06

I'm very confused by the.

23:08

We usually communicate really well.

23:12

I don't know. I feel

23:14

like maybe not, you

23:16

know? I mean, definitely not

23:19

this area. There's no way that

23:21

y 'all communicate well. And then he's

23:23

still feeling rushed and you don't

23:25

know why he feels rushed. Yeah,

23:28

cause five years, a house with

23:30

both of y 'all's names on

23:32

there, joint bank accounts, joint

23:35

bank accounts. It's like, what

23:37

are you waiting for? I mean, it sounds

23:39

like it's pretty much there. I mean, if you

23:41

have the money for a house, I imagine

23:43

you have a money for a ring. I don't

23:45

know. I mean, everyone has different things. You

23:47

know, maybe that wasn't the priority for y 'all

23:50

too. Maybe the priority was the house. You don't

23:52

have to get it. And this was from

23:54

your episode on Friday. You don't have to get

23:56

an expensive ring right off the bat. You

23:58

can get something. that you

24:00

both agree on is acceptable or

24:02

what you want for now and doesn't

24:04

have to be the most expensive

24:06

fucking ring in the world. Oh yeah.

24:09

Nancy showed me that story. We

24:11

all talked about the worst engagement ring

24:13

of all time. That shit was

24:15

bad. I don't remember that one. the

24:17

heart shaped amethyst looking like brown,

24:19

the heart shaped brown. Yeah. That was

24:21

tough. That was crazy. But

24:25

yeah, it has to be something you both agree on and not. The

24:27

worst ring I've ever seen in my life, but

24:29

that was a trope. But

24:32

yeah, so I, yeah, if money's the

24:34

issue, then communicate that, but don't say you

24:36

feel rushed. That's not clear communication. It's

24:38

like, why do you feel rushed? How do

24:40

you feel rushed? Is there an issue?

24:42

Should I be worried about something? You know

24:44

I mean? Like those just, that just

24:46

brings up all these questions that you haven't

24:48

answered. So that's what I would, I

24:50

would want to get clarity on that stuff.

24:52

All right. Yeah. I mean, I agree.

24:54

That's kind of, yeah, I just don't understand.

24:57

I don't think everything is perfect

24:59

otherwise. Cause I just,

25:01

I mean, I don't know. Every couple is

25:04

different, but I know for like Nancy

25:06

and I, we were pretty much like, all

25:08

right, how do you feel about marriage?

25:10

All right. When do you think we should

25:12

do it? Okay. It's, it's,

25:14

we got it sometime in this

25:16

next year. It will happen. then

25:19

it did exactly what we were like. It

25:21

was like, we got back from Greece and I

25:23

was like, yeah, this is who I want

25:25

to spend the rest of my life with that

25:27

very clearly. And then we, we discussed it's

25:29

like, okay, well, if we want to have a

25:31

fall wedding, it should be before this time.

25:33

If we want to get married this year, it

25:35

has to be, you know, before this point.

25:37

And I was like, okay, cool. That's the parameters.

25:39

I got it. And then that happened. So

25:41

it was, uh, it's, it's

25:44

a pretty simple conversation

25:46

when you are or

25:48

normal adults within a

25:50

relationship and sure of

25:52

the relationship. Yeah. So yeah,

25:54

I'm like, I'm with Josh. I

25:56

feel like that's a very good advice

25:58

is just to ask like why?

26:00

Why is rushed the word you want

26:02

to describe this? Yeah, clear that

26:05

everything else seems pretty in place and

26:07

pretty ready to go. So yeah. All

26:10

right. Let's hopefully let's hope

26:12

this next one also wasn't read

26:14

on a live. Oh, find

26:16

out this one's coming from r

26:18

slash two off my chest

26:20

cross posted by hop mid score

26:22

into mid score it. Let's

26:25

go. My boyfriend

26:27

took me to visit his

26:29

family for the first

26:31

time and it was one

26:33

of the creepiest creepiest

26:35

experiences ever. Creepiest.

26:40

This is giving me get

26:42

out vibes. You have to

26:44

kill some white people to get away. Is

26:46

that what's going to happen? Oh, spoilers. It's

26:49

been like a decade. Yeah.

26:51

Since since Android could

26:53

send the advanced messages. I'm

26:56

able to do that for a decade. All

27:00

right. My boyfriend and I have been

27:03

dating for about half a year now,

27:05

and it's been great so far. Never

27:07

met his family up until this point

27:09

as they live in another state. This

27:12

past weekend, he decides to take

27:14

me on a quick trip Friday through

27:16

Sunday to meet his family. Going

27:18

in, I knew

27:20

he's from a wealthy

27:22

Scientologist family. Oh, no. Oh,

27:25

no. Those

27:28

motherfuckers hate me because I did an

27:30

episode on them. Wait, did you

27:32

actually get like hate from them? Yeah, I

27:34

did at one point. Oh, shit.

27:36

I was getting emails. a

27:38

beast. So

27:40

we're about to get more. Hell

27:43

yeah. But he himself

27:45

is actually not practicing or

27:47

involved. Plus he said it's

27:49

not actually that big of

27:51

a deal. His family's nice.

27:54

That's what they all say to get you in. Sounds

27:56

pretty guilty. I got to say

27:58

they get you under their compound.

28:00

You can't go anywhere. We

28:03

get to the house and it's

28:05

a huge mansion. Super

28:07

well guarded top security.

28:10

It already feels off at this point.

28:12

Tom Cruz comes running out of the

28:14

building. Mission impossible. Yeah.

28:16

Every time I see him get hyped

28:18

up on the mission impossible stuff, I'm

28:20

like, are we as a society still

28:22

rocking with him? I, I, yeah, I,

28:24

I don't know. I mean, I'm not

28:26

going to lie. I did watch type

28:28

gun Maverick when it came to, that

28:31

was a good movie. Direct, uh, like

28:33

video on direct or what was it?

28:35

Video on demand. I

28:37

don't know. Is that what they it? I

28:39

don't know. Streaming. And that was

28:41

a pretty good movie. I'm not going

28:43

to lie. It was pretty great. But,

28:45

you know, afterwards I'm like, no,

28:48

man, we're supporting this man. I see.

28:51

I was there for Miles Teller. I

28:53

don't know anything about Miles Teller

28:55

of his background. So yeah, don't yell

28:57

at us if he's also. He's

28:59

also bad. I don't know. It's white

29:01

men. I did

29:03

want to grow a mustache after that movie.

29:05

I think everyone did. I think you shaved it

29:07

shortly after that before a costume party for

29:09

a different reason. And then I was like, should

29:11

I keep it? It was pretty good. Inside

29:14

the property, there are people

29:16

in uniforms walking around the

29:18

yard slash garden. They

29:21

greet us but make no eye contact

29:23

whatsoever. I'm pretty

29:25

creeped out at this point. I

29:27

asked my boyfriend about them and

29:30

he says they're just staff. I

29:32

meet his mom, dad and younger brother

29:34

inside. They are nice. His

29:37

parents are very fancy people. Inside

29:40

the house, there's the same people

29:42

in uniforms doing stuff. And

29:44

this place is spotlessly clean.

29:47

We have a meal together and these

29:49

people serve us. Think like servants in

29:51

movies. They don't talk. They don't

29:53

make eye contact. And the parents

29:56

don't really interact with them. It's

29:58

all so weird. That would be weird.

30:00

At this point, I subtly mentioned

30:02

them by saying the staff's doing a

30:04

great job. The mom

30:06

says, well, they're not really

30:08

staff, but something similar.

30:10

Oh, no, it is get

30:12

out. She says, I need

30:14

to watch this get out. She

30:18

says they're part of something

30:20

called the sea work and they're

30:22

essentially volunteers. So they don't

30:24

get paid. Oh, nevermind. This is

30:26

different, but. Also equally as

30:28

bad because it sounds like slavery

30:31

The rest of the days

30:33

until we left were the exact

30:35

same tried to have a

30:37

chat with the quote -unquote volunteers

30:39

But they only gave short polite

30:41

responses and then ran off

30:43

It quite literally felt like they

30:45

were being forced to be

30:47

there. I tried to ask my

30:50

boyfriend about it even now

30:52

But he has the same way

30:54

of talking in circles as

30:56

his parents about anything related to

30:58

their family and or Scientology. They

31:01

say a lot while actually

31:03

saying nothing. That tracks.

31:05

Before we get into it, I will read

31:07

the top comment on our subreddit. Shout

31:10

out the door doesn't work. They

31:12

commented me at the start of the

31:14

story. Sounds like boyfriend's family are

31:16

some kind of old money snobs. Me

31:18

as soon as I saw the name

31:20

Sea Org. Get out, get out, get

31:22

out, get out. Oh, see, I

31:24

don't know that one. So

31:26

according to another comment down

31:28

here, this one is by

31:30

own midscore organization, midscore five,

31:33

three, two. The C org

31:35

or C organization is the

31:37

branch of hardcore believers in

31:39

Scientology. Oh, its members have

31:41

signed billion year contracts. I

31:43

can't tell if that's a

31:45

joke or not. that probably

31:47

not knowing most calls. That's

31:49

not a joke. That's what

31:51

happens. That's fucking insane that

31:53

they think they'll be here

31:56

for even a hundred. They

31:58

do get paid about $50

32:01

per week, but not always.

32:03

Room and board is provided and

32:05

one uniform. They get

32:07

15 minutes to eat all meals

32:10

and they have no say

32:12

in their lives. So it's basically

32:14

slavery with some extra steps.

32:16

Yeah, sure sounds like it that

32:18

we banned that but it

32:20

sounds like they've Convinced these people

32:22

that they're volunteers and oh

32:25

That's crazy The sea org was

32:27

formed in the 60s when

32:29

governments were making life for L

32:31

Ron Hubbard difficult They fled

32:33

to the sea Currently Scientology has

32:35

one boat the free winds

32:37

It's mostly in a Caribbean port

32:40

because it's banned from docking

32:42

elsewhere due to asbestos All

32:44

of the Scientology's upper staff

32:46

are members of the SeaOrg. It's

32:49

well known that Tom Cruise's

32:51

staff is all SeaOrg because

32:53

Tom's best friend runs Scientology.

32:56

The staff do Tom's bidding, but

32:58

also report back everything to

33:00

Scientology Top Brass. There

33:02

are a bunch of great

33:05

YouTube channels discussing Scientology. Look

33:07

for SPTV. Yeah.

33:10

I don't think I covered that

33:12

part of it in my episode.

33:15

Again, that was five years ago.

33:17

So it's hard to remember. Yeah.

33:19

But that's so fucked

33:22

up that that's allowed. Not

33:25

great look on Tom Cruise

33:27

again. So I guess, I guess

33:29

I'm not going to go watch Top Gun

33:31

Maverick too. Yeah. Or we

33:33

can just take to the high seas

33:35

brother and pirate that. Oh, that's

33:37

true. Could do that. Or I'll play

33:39

Tom Cruise. Whoa. I'll do

33:41

it. Thank God. I gotta

33:44

get way more jacked and way

33:46

shorter. I think you have

33:48

to cut your, your legs and

33:50

he's closer to John's. I think

33:52

he's exactly John's high. My

33:55

knees are going to hurt from bending over. They

33:57

could CGI that shit, right? Yeah, of

33:59

course. I mean, they made Robert Downey

34:02

Jr. look like he was six, two

34:04

for like 20 years. How tall

34:06

is he? Also tiny, I

34:08

think. Oh, damn. Tom Cruise

34:10

five, seven. Okay. So

34:12

not super short, but like

34:14

definitely shorter than me.

34:17

Downy five, eight. Okay. John

34:19

five, five. Yes. So they're

34:21

taller than John. Yeah,

34:23

but not by much. John,

34:27

you could be an action star brother.

34:29

Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. Hell

34:31

yeah. The Filipinos Tom Cruise. We need

34:33

it. I'd pay for that. And

34:35

John hates religion, so we have

34:37

no worries about that. He

34:40

would definitely chop on Scientology.

34:42

He would not allow

34:44

them to manipulate him. All

34:49

right, this next one's

34:52

coming from r slash

34:54

T I F U

34:56

cross posted by nobody.

34:59

I found it on

35:02

T I F U

35:04

predator. Oh, wait. Incorrect.

35:08

Incorrect. You

35:11

want me to hit the right one? That's

35:14

so rude. You're so rude for

35:17

that. It's not

35:19

even an accident. I have to switch over to the other

35:21

soundboard to click that button. You

35:23

bastard. All

35:26

right. This one is titled,

35:28

today I fucked up by

35:30

making my boyfriend a Tinder

35:32

account. Why,

35:34

ooh, why would you do that?

35:36

I have so many questions. Okay.

35:41

This actually happened in the last

35:43

couple of weeks. Basically,

35:45

my boyfriend suffered from

35:47

pretty low self -esteem. Like,

35:50

it's not like he's too bothered about his

35:52

looks, but he rates himself a five out

35:54

of 10 on a good day. That's an

35:57

average. It

35:59

should be. Yeah, I guess,

36:01

but I think. Self -esteem wise, if

36:03

you're not saying you're seven at least. Yeah.

36:06

Yeah. To me, I bothered

36:08

the 10 out of the 10 out

36:10

of 10 scale has always bothered me.

36:12

Uh, versus like, why are we rating

36:14

people? Uh, for sure. But second, it's

36:16

like five is the middle. Five is

36:18

the middle. I think it's truly, it's

36:20

not that the rating scale at school

36:22

has fucked us. Right. Cause 50 is

36:25

a fail. Yeah. 50 should be fine.

36:28

It should be the average. I know

36:30

a half of this. That's fine.

36:33

Yeah. Yeah. Uh, so yeah, that's

36:35

always bothered me about the 10 and a

36:37

10 scale. Yeah. During

36:39

like team meetings with like our smaller team,

36:41

like they, they make us do like one

36:43

out of 10, like, you know, how you

36:45

feeling? And I'm like, I feel like if

36:47

I ever say five, then I just mentally,

36:49

that means I failed and I'm in desperation

36:51

mode. So I'm always like, that's seven. And

36:53

then people are like, man, you are doing

36:55

really good. And I was just like, no,

36:57

if you ever see me say five, know

37:00

that I'm about to go. I'm

37:03

on the edge. It's over

37:05

for me. All

37:07

right. Obviously, I think he's

37:09

gorgeous and handsome. But even though

37:11

I've been saying this for

37:13

years, he does not believe me.

37:16

So for some stupid reason,

37:18

I decided to show him

37:20

that other girls would find him

37:22

attractive. by making him a

37:24

Tinder account. Oh, this is

37:26

not the way to go

37:28

about it. I think therapy

37:30

is right. I

37:33

guess this was the

37:35

cheaper, more dangerous alternative. It's

37:38

like, Hey, let me show my

37:40

boyfriend off to a bunch of

37:42

unhinged people online. I guess if

37:44

you truly trust them, that's not

37:46

the issue. The issue is just

37:48

like, that's not going to fix

37:50

the self esteem, the self esteem.

37:52

You know what I mean? Plus

37:54

like, I don't think I felt

37:56

lower than when I was on

37:58

dating apps just because it's not

38:00

a healthy place to find self

38:02

-esteem. You know what I mean?

38:04

It's just, uh, I barely rarely

38:06

hear positive reviews of, no, of

38:08

dating exclusively through apps. I've

38:10

only heard it. It got worse since

38:12

I've been off it. So, uh,

38:14

I can't imagine it's great now, but

38:17

like, so, but my point of

38:19

this was like, This is not going

38:21

to solve the issue. His issue

38:23

is still like a mental, like why

38:25

he doesn't see himself as, you

38:27

know, handsome or good looking or whatever.

38:30

It's like, that's something he needs to address,

38:32

not, you know, validation

38:34

from random women. I

38:37

set him up with an account. I

38:40

make him a bio and I

38:42

just start swiping right after about a

38:44

day. He got around a dozen

38:46

matches on Tinder. And after I showed

38:48

this to him, I saw how

38:51

he immediately became more confident and thanked

38:53

me for the whole gesture. Cue

38:55

my surprise, when a couple days later,

38:58

I checked the Tinder account that I

39:00

had basically forgotten about after 24 hours, and

39:03

I could see tons of

39:05

messages sent to tons of different

39:07

girls that my boyfriend had

39:09

matched with. I confronted him

39:11

and he denied it, but

39:13

I mean, These messages even included

39:16

promises to meet each other. Obviously

39:19

we broke up and out of

39:21

curiosity, I checked the Tinder account again

39:23

after a week and this breakup

39:25

has clearly not slowed him down a

39:27

bit. It's crazy that you broke

39:30

up and you still have access to

39:32

the Tinder account. You could sabotage

39:34

him and I suggest you do. So

39:37

now the Tinder I made for

39:39

him not only broke us up, but

39:41

is now helping him navigate his

39:43

newly single life. Lol

39:45

too long. Didn't read made a

39:47

Tinder account for my boyfriend to prove

39:49

that he is attractive and he

39:51

ended up ditching me for one of

39:54

the girls he matched with. Yeah.

39:56

I mean, it sounds like it was

39:58

going to eventually happen if it

40:00

happened that easily. You know what I

40:02

mean? So yeah, this

40:04

still comes back to he's going

40:06

to go down the rabbit hole

40:08

of just swiping for validation and

40:10

never actually truly get to the

40:12

root cause of why he

40:15

feels the way he feels he'll

40:17

feel good for a little bit

40:19

and then Need that hit again

40:21

and go right back to it.

40:23

So It's not a healthy place

40:25

to be in for sure for

40:27

sure They also write also if

40:29

anyone needs help with their tinder

40:31

hit me up. I'm pretty good

40:34

at it So good I've I'm

40:36

one so good. I lost my

40:38

boyfriend. I made his account too

40:40

good. Yeah. Yeah, that is unfortunate,

40:42

but Uh, yeah. Next

40:44

time just, you know, recommend they

40:46

go to therapy. Yeah. Therapy,

40:48

you know, I don't know

40:50

if he's able to do this

40:52

so fast, maybe he wasn't worth it.

40:54

I agree. I'm just saying like

40:57

self -esteem issues happen. They're going

40:59

to happen. And so like getting

41:01

to the root of that is

41:03

the, the, the solution, not, Hey,

41:05

here's a bandaid. Endlessly

41:07

swiping, right? Yeah. The bandaid took. you

41:09

away from me. I'm going to be

41:11

honest. When somebody says swipe right or

41:13

left, I do not know which it

41:16

is confusing to me still. If I'm

41:18

to be quite honest, right is good,

41:20

left, bad. Yes, I know. But am

41:22

I swiping right to left or left

41:24

to right? Which one? Oh, I see.

41:26

You know what I mean? Left

41:29

to right is swiping right

41:31

to left. Yeah. Thank God we

41:33

don't have to. Now that

41:35

you know, you'll never use that

41:37

information. I'll never use that

41:39

info again. I remember was

41:41

at a bachelor party one time and

41:44

then one of our single friends was

41:46

just, they are swiping and I was,

41:48

we was watching and I was like,

41:50

man, is this fun? And he was

41:52

like, no, this is the fucking worst.

41:54

That's exactly what my single friend did

41:56

at our bachelor or my buddy's bachelor

41:58

and said the exact same thing. He's

42:00

like, yeah, this is terrible. This

42:03

is, yeah. It

42:05

was like, should I skip

42:07

dinner at this bachelor party to

42:09

have dinner with this random

42:11

woman? No, I mean, I, you

42:13

can do you, I guess

42:15

that makes zero sense. There's no

42:17

logic. I very highly doubt this

42:19

is the love of your life. I

42:22

mean, but who knows, maybe it could be married. We

42:25

really fucked him up. That's

42:29

all the stories for today. Unless

42:31

you're a patron, but before we

42:33

get over to the rich rich,

42:35

we got to do a segment

42:37

by the amazing underbaki. Let's

42:40

go. Today we

42:42

have cool or

42:44

cringe. Nice.

42:47

Welcome back to cool or cringe where

42:49

we share our thoughts on whether a

42:51

trendy item or a viral moment deserves

42:54

a thumbs up or a hard pass.

42:56

This is a very opinionated segment. So.

42:58

Be sure to let your boys know

43:00

what you think in the episode. Comments

43:04

had a little hiccup there. I do.

43:06

I do like this segment because it's like,

43:08

it's an opinionated segment. I'd always go,

43:10

oh, it's whatever you want to do. I'll

43:14

take a hard stance

43:16

on this. It'll be a

43:18

controversial podcast. We

43:20

don't have it in us.

43:22

Unfortunately. All

43:25

right. First up

43:27

is one. Millennial restaurants.

43:29

Oh, boom, trash.

43:33

Lately, Gen Z has been

43:35

calling out millennials for gravitating

43:38

toward a very specific type

43:40

of burger joint. Picture

43:42

this, metal stools or

43:44

high top chairs, colorful

43:47

minimalist decor, neon

43:49

signs, packaging made

43:51

for the perfect social media

43:53

posts. Instead of starters,

43:55

the apps are labeled shareables.

43:58

Fries come in mini fry baskets

44:00

and menus are written out

44:02

on chalkboards. The layout

44:05

of these restaurants typically follow

44:07

a minimalist and slash industrial

44:09

vibe as well. Having

44:11

said these, all of

44:13

this, are these spots

44:16

cool or cringe? I

44:18

was at one Sunday. So

44:21

again, the she, she included Alex

44:23

included some pictures. The

44:25

walls are either black

44:27

or brick. There are

44:29

string lights involved. You can see

44:31

the vents. Yep. Chalkboard

44:33

menu. And

44:36

then a tattooed, beauted

44:38

man making the burgers. Damn,

44:40

that is one for one where I went

44:42

the other day. And I

44:44

will say, I don't even

44:46

know if millennials necessarily love this.

44:48

Cause especially the fucking chairs,

44:51

like I hate sitting on like,

44:53

it's either a stool or

44:55

it's an uncomfortable bench. And it's

44:57

just like, why we

44:59

doing this? It's a high chair.

45:01

Yeah. It's like, why? This

45:03

hurts my back after an hour.

45:05

So yeah, as an old

45:07

millennial, I think cringe and I

45:09

would like more unique places.

45:11

I like the unique places that

45:13

are, have their own vibe,

45:15

have their own style, kind of

45:17

go outside of the. you

45:19

know, the norm. I do understand the

45:22

ones that are like, well, this is

45:24

a formula that works. I am running

45:26

this restaurant. I want it to do

45:28

well. And so I'm going to go

45:30

with the safe bet because all of

45:32

my life saving is in this. So

45:35

I get that. Uh, but me

45:37

personally, I, I think cringe and I

45:39

would prefer to go to a

45:41

unique, uh, restaurant when possible. All right.

45:43

Here's one. And I know we,

45:45

we got to take opinions on this,

45:47

but my opinion is I truly

45:49

could not give a shit. If

45:52

the food is fucking awesome, I don't

45:54

care if it looks exactly like this.

45:56

You know what I mean? I'll eat

45:58

the burger all goddamn day. Yeah. I

46:00

mean, everyone I pictured though, it's like

46:02

this food's okay. You know what I

46:04

mean? It's, it's not like

46:06

the best food I've ever had. And

46:08

so that's why I'm like, I just,

46:10

I don't know. Like it's all pretty

46:12

much the same style, like pub food. And

46:15

that's fine for every once in a

46:17

while, but it's just like, it's not mind

46:19

blowing food. I think the

46:21

decor is whatever. I

46:23

don't, the only time I think

46:25

it's cringe is when they have

46:28

like something on the menu, like,

46:30

oh, the fucking ass blaster 3000.

46:32

And it's just like mozzarella sticks

46:34

or something. They're like, just

46:36

some fucking, I hate

46:38

stupid names on menus. And

46:40

then especially when they

46:42

don't describe, what it

46:44

is. Yeah. Like a wing sauce place.

46:46

And it's just like, you know, again,

46:49

Blaster 3000 or some catchphrase, like,

46:51

you know, it's giving and then

46:53

it doesn't give any description for

46:55

the sauce. I don't know what

46:57

it is giving. It's got a

46:59

three on the spicy meter, but

47:01

you don't know how far the

47:03

spicy meter goes or even what

47:05

the flavors are. It upsets me.

47:07

I think that is rich drinks

47:09

come in Mason jars. Oh

47:11

yeah. Which again,

47:13

I, it's fine. I just,

47:16

I would prefer to go somewhere

47:18

else to me personally. Yeah.

47:21

Unless the food is fucking fantastic. Yeah. But again,

47:23

I've never been to one. I've been like,

47:25

this is a life -changing food that I'm going

47:27

to only come here for. That's

47:30

fair. All right.

47:32

Post two Casey Anthony's

47:34

arrival to Tik Tok didn't

47:36

know this was a

47:38

thing. Is she the

47:40

one? Yup. That killed

47:42

her. Yep. Yep. For

47:44

those who don't recognize the

47:46

name, Casey Anthony was accused

47:48

of murdering her two year

47:50

old daughter Kaylee Anthony in

47:52

2008. After a highly

47:54

publicized trial, Casey was

47:57

acquitted of murder in 2011,

47:59

but convicted on charges

48:01

of providing false information to

48:03

law enforcement. The case

48:05

remains a hot topic in

48:07

the true crime community, so it

48:09

was probably a shock when

48:11

Casey posted on TikTok for the

48:13

first time on March 1st.

48:16

In the video, she introduced her

48:18

new role as a legal

48:20

advocate and stated her intention to

48:22

use the platform to advocate

48:24

for myself and also advocate for

48:26

my daughter. Is

48:28

Casey Anthony's TikTok account

48:30

cool or cringe? cringe,

48:34

not strong enough of a

48:36

word. Yeah, I feel like evil.

48:39

Is it cool or

48:41

Satan? Yeah,

48:43

this is some evil shit. I

48:45

don't think she popped up

48:47

on mine, but like people

48:50

stitching her popped up. Really?

48:52

I had no clue. Yeah.

48:54

Yeah. So the justice system

48:56

did what it did. I

48:58

think it failed and I

49:00

don't. love that she can

49:02

advocate for herself. So yeah,

49:05

I'm going to go with

49:07

Satan on this one. Yeah,

49:09

I really, she's also

49:11

using her daughter's name, which is just like, yeah.

49:16

Don't like, yeah, I

49:19

guess she thinks she's fighting for

49:21

her daughter, but this is just, this

49:23

is like a repeat of when

49:25

OJ Simpson dropped a book. If I

49:27

had done it. a bitch. We

49:30

know you did it. What

49:32

are you talking about? If I had done

49:34

it. Yeah. Yeah. So this

49:36

is just the same shit. I

49:38

don't know. It's

49:40

gross. Gross

49:42

is a is a good

49:44

word for it. Yeah.

49:47

All right. Well, that's it for

49:49

this episode. Wikimaniacs before

49:51

we close it out completely. I

49:54

do have some Venmos to

49:56

read. Whoa. This first one is

49:58

coming up from Jessica, who

50:00

has been sending me Venmos for

50:02

Sean's goat noise, but then

50:04

spells Sean in just the most

50:07

obscene ways possible. For

50:10

this one, this one is

50:12

S C X H A

50:14

U G H Y V

50:16

N. I gotta say that.

50:18

I don't know if that's

50:20

well, Sean. I don't know

50:22

either. I don't know if any of

50:24

these from Jessica have put them into like,

50:26

uh, you know, the pronounce this guy

50:29

and then have the AI see what it

50:31

says. That sounds like a $10 tier

50:33

game to me, bro. And

50:35

then we should do a tier system be like,

50:37

how does this tier on the ranking of Sean?

50:40

And then we have a shirt

50:42

that has all the rankings,

50:44

all of the rankings, the S

50:46

tier, A tier, B tier,

50:48

Jessica sends 69 cents per Venmo.

50:50

So just two this time.

50:52

So a total of $1 .38

50:55

cents. Thank you, Jessica. Next

50:57

up, we got Dr. Effie who

50:59

writes, first you get your, your

51:01

masters, then you get your doctorate.

51:03

Let's go Sean spelled S C

51:05

H Y A W N. Nice.

51:07

Be sure to give Nancy extra

51:09

love because supporting a spouse through

51:11

school can be emotionally draining. Hi,

51:14

John and Josh

51:16

spelled J -A -W -Y -N

51:19

and J -A -W -S

51:21

-H. Art emoji. Yeah,

51:23

I mean, that'd be cool if you got your

51:25

doctorate, Sean. I don't know if I can. But

51:29

I appreciate you're you're you're thinking so

51:31

highly of me, Dr. F. I don't

51:33

know what a doctorate of business gets

51:35

you. I want to say my director

51:37

has a doctorate. Okay. Like in

51:39

finance or something, which I didn't

51:41

know existed. Interesting. Which I

51:43

feel like he doesn't call himself

51:45

doctor. So that's good. If was calling

51:47

himself doctor, I'd be like, then

51:49

you could be that guy when it's

51:52

like you're when there's an emergency

51:54

on the plane. Is there a doctor

51:56

on board? You'd be like, I'm

51:58

a doctor of finance. Sit

52:00

the fuck down. Okay. Get

52:02

out actually. Dr.

52:06

Effie since $10. Oh yeah.

52:08

Thank you, Effie. We

52:10

got Wolfie who writes, I'm

52:12

currently on my fourth rotation

52:14

of row starting from episode

52:17

zero. Whoa. Goodness

52:19

gracious. Thank

52:21

you guys for making such a

52:23

great podcast. I'm trying to follow

52:25

Josh and John's footsteps by leaving

52:27

corporate America. Hey, and it would

52:29

mean the world if you guys

52:31

could check out my little shop.

52:34

I'm at Wolfie Goods Shop on

52:36

Etsy or at Wolfie Goods on

52:38

Instagram. I make dog

52:40

collars, leashes, and bandanas. And

52:42

here's 15 % off to

52:44

you guys plus the Wikimaniacs. You

52:47

can get 15 %

52:49

off using code RO15. Keep

52:52

up the amazing work. Wolfie,

52:54

hell yeah. Wolfie sent $69.

52:57

Woo. Thank you very much. Hell yeah.

52:59

What was the, what was the

53:01

Etsy again? Give it a shout out.

53:04

The Etsy is Wolfie goods shop.

53:06

And then the Instagram is at Wolfie

53:08

goods. Hell yeah. So

53:10

I'll make sure to follow both of

53:12

those for you, Wolfie. And I

53:14

may get the kitty some bandanas. I

53:16

would say, you know, Not just

53:18

dog callers and leashes. Holy, these

53:20

are very well done. Oh shit. I

53:22

can't wait to see it. I'm checking

53:24

them out. They are very well done.

53:26

If it was in Canada, I would

53:28

do it, but holy, these are cool.

53:30

Uh, so yeah, go check out, go

53:33

check out Wolfie. Good shop. Hell yeah.

53:35

Wolfie spelled with a Y, not IE.

53:37

I made that mistake. All

53:39

right. Next up, we got Addie who

53:41

writes to answer your question to my

53:43

question from my last Venmo. I'm

53:46

in grad school for nursing. The transition

53:48

back into school is always tough, but

53:50

I know you can do it. Oh,

53:52

thank you, Addy. Addy sends $3. Next

53:55

up, we got Robin who

53:57

writes, Hey, Sean, I'm the 13

53:59

year age gap woman. We

54:01

started dating in 2021 and we

54:03

are old. I'm 57 this

54:05

fall and he will be the

54:08

big seven. Oh, yeah, Robin.

54:10

Robin sends 69 cents. Congrats, Robin.

54:12

Congratulations and. doesn't break the Sean

54:14

rule. So good for you guys.

54:16

Next up, we got Julia who

54:18

writes Sean, you are my fave.

54:21

I love this pod so much.

54:23

Thank you guys for being light

54:25

and dark times. Julia sends 69

54:27

cents and she spelled my name

54:29

correctly. Whoa. Whoa. That's, it's

54:31

weird to see sometimes. That's illegal. That's

54:33

against the Josh. No, no,

54:35

don't coin that. Next

54:38

up, we got Katie. who writes,

54:40

keeping me company while I ride

54:42

my horse, Katie sends $1 and

54:44

69 cents. All the 69 cents

54:46

to a bunch of 69. Next

54:48

step, we got Joy who writes, I

54:51

love you guys. Please see my insta

54:53

DM. We will look at the insta

54:55

DM. I think that's John's. I was

54:57

to say you're talking to the wrong

54:59

two guys right now. That's John's job,

55:01

but we will send him this message.

55:03

He listens to this. He pre -watches

55:05

before the episodes go live. So he'll

55:07

hear this. What a pro. Joy

55:09

sent us some cute merch

55:11

design ideas. Oh, yeah. We definitely

55:14

need to check that out. Absolutely. Thank

55:16

you, Joy. Joy sends $20. Oh,

55:18

thank you. Hell yeah. Very much. Next

55:20

up, we got Jasmine, who writes, Sean

55:22

also spelled correctly. Whoa. Sean

55:24

is the goat. You're my favorite

55:26

brown. Josh, thanks for not being

55:28

a terrible white man. Keep on

55:30

being a role model. John,

55:33

brilliant. Keep the puns

55:35

coming. Jasmine sends 69 cents.

55:38

I like how the bar is so low. It's

55:40

like, thanks for not being a piece of shit. I

55:43

used to be a real

55:45

pizza. And

55:48

then last but not least,

55:50

we got Anna who writes too

55:52

broke for new merch after

55:54

the 550 vet bill I just

55:56

paid. So here's a Venmo

55:58

in honor of last night, last

56:00

month's merch, which in fact

56:02

was so sick. P .S. Don't

56:04

worry. My fur baby is fine.

56:06

Smiley face. Thank goodness. Anna

56:09

sends $1 and 69 cents. Anna,

56:11

thank goodness you ended with that

56:13

P .S. Otherwise you would be

56:15

worried. I would have been very

56:17

worried, but I'm glad your pet's

56:19

doing good. Hell yeah. The

56:21

merch was sick, Sean. Thank you.

56:23

I appreciate it. Everybody came together after

56:25

I cried and I will cry every

56:27

time I make merch going forward. Cause

56:31

that's how you get sales. That's how

56:33

we do it. I think. Uh, but

56:35

that's it for this episode. Josh, anything

56:37

to say before we end it? Uh,

56:39

well, speaking of merch, we got our,

56:41

uh, I don't condone violence, but Teddy

56:44

merch on this shop right now. Uh,

56:46

go check that out. It's up for

56:48

another week and a bit. And

56:50

yeah, I made

56:52

that one. I'm not going to cry. You can

56:54

get it if you want. Guys,

56:57

if you don't get it, I will cry.

56:59

Oh, okay. Sean will cry. It's

57:01

his goddamn birthday month and you're not going

57:03

to give him the love and respect he deserves.

57:06

It's also your birthday month. Yeah,

57:08

but I already, I already, I already cried last

57:10

time. That's true. You get every month. Yeah. It

57:12

can't be me all the time. But

57:15

other than that, if you want to

57:17

support us, patreon.com slash cultivate podcast network. We

57:20

did a bonus story behind the paywall and

57:22

we do one. at least one every episode.

57:24

So go check that out. If you want

57:26

to support us, we're trying to add more

57:28

to our $10 tier. Yes. Yes. We are

57:30

working on more. Sean's going

57:33

to be coming on, do live shows

57:35

once a month for $10 patrons. So

57:37

if you want to sign up for

57:39

that, if not, you get the $5

57:41

tier or the $1 tier. If you

57:43

just want to support hell, there's even

57:45

a free one. There is a free

57:47

one. I will be honest. You don't

57:49

get much, but we appreciate you. A

57:51

little sneak peek. Yeah. You get to

57:53

hang out. But yeah, uh, and if

57:55

you, you know, don't have

57:57

the money support, we always appreciate a

57:59

like, subscribe, give give us a

58:01

rating on Spotify, Apple, wherever you are.

58:04

And, uh, yeah, check us out. All

58:06

right. Thank you, Josh. And thank

58:08

you, Wicca maniacs for for staying with

58:10

us for another episode. We'll see

58:12

you guys on Friday. Bye.

58:18

Get there. Get

58:20

there.