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off my chest where O.P.

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causes someone to die. Our

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next Red Post is from

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Social Justice AF. I got

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married at 20 to an

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amazing man. I don't think that he

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could have been more perfect at the time.

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No red flags at all. A month after

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we got married, he went on his first

1:50

military deployment. While he was deployed, we would

1:52

talk about how he wanted to try to

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conceive a child as soon as he came

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back. So that's what we did. And I

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actually got... really quickly upon his return.

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Unfortunately, when he came back from his

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deployment, he was a completely different person.

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My first sign of this was when

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I told him I was pregnant. Since

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this was planned, I expected him to

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be excited. After I shared the news

2:15

with him, he pretended he was going

2:17

to hug me and then body slammed

2:20

me instead. Then called my dad and

2:22

told him what he did. I endured

2:24

this for two more years. My breaking

2:26

point was when he choked me until

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I went unconscious and started bleeding from

2:31

the mouth while I was breastfeeding my

2:33

daughter. All because he was upset that

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I said good morning while he was

2:37

playing call of duty and his mic

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wasn't muted. When I came to, I

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called the police and called my parents

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to come pick me up. I stayed

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gone after three years and then went

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back like a dummy after my dad

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passed away. I thought my husband had

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changed, but he just started back up

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again after he felt like he had

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me where he needed me. I attempted

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to leave again multiple times after that,

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but was unsuccessful. He was a narcissist

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and I had undiagnosed bipolar disorder at

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the time. Though I wasn't yet diagnosed,

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I figured that in order for me

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to leave and stay gone, I needed

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to move on with someone else. So,

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that's what I did. I knew that

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I needed a new favorite person before

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I even understood what a favorite person

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was. So I started dating my high

3:23

school sweethearts. We fell in love again

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really quickly and it helped me leave

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my abusive ex-husband. And then my high

3:29

school sweetheart died suddenly, which is either

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my karma or some sick joke SkyDaddy

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played on me. I don't know. But

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by the time of his death, I

3:38

had already left my ex-husband. And it

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honestly saved my life because I've had

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multiple brushes with death. The last one

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being my ex-husband choking me in front

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of our two children and telling them

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he was going to go to prison

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for killing me and they'd have to

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go to foster care while he was

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doing it. So yeah, cheating is bad

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in general, but I cheated. Don't regret

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it. Not sorry. It's the reason I'm

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alive. My ex-husband did kind of catch

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me cheating and he cried. I still

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felt no remorse. I actually wanted to

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laugh. But I didn't laugh because I

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didn't want him to kill me. I

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kind of like this reply from Linnea

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who says, it's not cheating if you're

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not in an actual relationship. The way

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I see it, he held you hostage

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and didn't treat you like his wife

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and mother of his children. Good for

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you for you for getting out. Our

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next credit post is from temporary ad,

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This happened 10 years ago. It was

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my fault. I shouldn't have snapped. It

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eats me up from the inside every

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single day. If I could go back

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and do things differently, I wouldn't have

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heartbeats. Ten years ago, when I was

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16, this new kid started at school.

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I was really into Minecraft back then,

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and he was wearing a Minecraft t-shirt.

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I didn't have anyone to play with,

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so I approached him and tried to

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start a conversation. He was really hesitant

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and shy at first, but when I

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asked him about the shirt and complimented

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it, he lit up. We got to

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know each other a bit and plan

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to play together. We played together for

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quite a few times and had fun,

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but eventually I got bored of the

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game and went outside with my friends

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instead. My friends didn't like this guy,

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so we never invited him, and that's

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when he started to get a little

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clingy. He would constantly keep asking to

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play and wouldn't take a hint if

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I said no. He also asked our

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friend group if he could play outside

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with us quite a few times. And

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I didn't mind him and would have

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welcomed him, but some people in the

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group didn't want him there, so I

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went along with it. He started following

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me around a bit later and pestering

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me quite often. He would follow me

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around and talk about memes, YouTube videos,

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and Minecraft. often talking about it non-stop

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for up to 10 minutes without even

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giving me a chance to speak. This

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kept going on for quite a while

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and the whole time I was getting

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more and more irritated. Yet, the more

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we spoke, the more I was getting

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irritated. I was too scared to

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back out of the conversation politely,

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which led to my irritation building

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up over time. Then I had one bad

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day, which took away a life. One

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day, we were at the bus station

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and he approached me and started chatting.

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At one point, all the anger

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built up over time inside me

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exploded, and I snapped and I

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told him, Just shut up! I

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was never your friend. We just

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played Minecraft together a few times.

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You're extremely annoying and nobody likes

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you." The next day, the teacher

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sat us down and told us

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that he had committed suicide. My

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entire world shattered. I instantly knew

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that what I said caused this.

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I was invited to the funeral,

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during which his parents spoke to

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me and revealed an extremely important

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detail about him. It turns out

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he was very autistic and had

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severe trouble making friends all his

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life. And he was obsessed with

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Minecraft. When he met me and

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we played, he became really happy

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and wouldn't stop talking to his

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parents about how he finally made

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a good friend. They knew me

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as his best friend. This shattered

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my world. I didn't know that

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he was autistic and that he

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considered me his only friend. I

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didn't realize how important our play sessions

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together were for him. But that doesn't

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justify what I did. I should have

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never said that. I still can't play

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Minecraft after a decade. Today is

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the 10th anniversary of his death,

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and I needed to post this

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because it should have been me,

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not him. I'm not saying this

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to trash on OP. Clearly he's

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trashing on himself enough as it

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is. This is just kind of

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life advice in general. You ever

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hear that phrase, being nice is

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free? Well, in a lot of

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cases, the opposite is also true. Being

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mean is costly. Our next credit

7:50

post is from Music Beats. My

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girlfriend is beyond stupid, and I

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feel like I might have to

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end the relationship. Okay, when I first

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met my girlfriend... I noticed she sometimes

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made misjudgments, but I didn't think

8:03

much of it. Now that we've

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been together two years, I realize

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how stupid she is. This might

8:09

sound harsh, but that's the only

8:11

word I can think of. We'll

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go downtown to some place she

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wants to go to, and she'll

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walk down a street and be

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like... Oh no, wrong way! Then

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walk down another street and be

8:23

like, oops, wrong way again! It's

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horrible! She has no sense of

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direction, and I feel so stupid

8:29

following her around. She also talks

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in circles, which makes me so

8:33

angry. Like, for example, yesterday she

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asked me, do you want a

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burrito for dinner? I replied that

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we don't have the ingredients for

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a burrito, so I'm going to

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eat the food that we have

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in the house. She then asks...

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Oh, so you don't want a

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burrito? So I thought maybe she

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bought ingredients for a burrito. So

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I said, sure, I'll have a

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burrito. She then says, okay, but

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we don't have the ingredients for

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a burrito. Like, yes, I know

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that. Her stupidity makes me treat

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her worse, which I hate because

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I don't want to be rude

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to people. But sometimes the way

9:09

she talks and acts just infuriates

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me. I also feel more slow

9:13

and held down when I'm with

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her. Like when she makes a

9:17

dumb decision, I'm usually around her,

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so I have to help her

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correct her mistake. Anytime I do

9:23

something alone, I feel a huge

9:25

wave of happiness go through my

9:27

body, because I don't feel held

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back from her behavior. Overall, she's

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a good person, but I honestly

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don't think I can continue a

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relationship with her. Her misjudgments caused

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me so much financial loss and

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general stress. I'm honestly not sure

9:41

how I feel about this because

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all the examples OP gives don't

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actually make me believe this woman

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is stupid. Having a bad sense

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of direction, you can be smart

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and still have a bad sense

9:53

of direction. If anything, both of

9:55

you are stupid for not using

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Google Maps to navigate on your

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phone in 2025. You're both lost?

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Why is she the one getting

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called stupid? And then the whole

10:05

burrito conversation. Maybe she asked because

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she wanted to order a burrito

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or go out to eat and

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get a burrito. OP's the one

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making assumptions. Either way, it's super

10:15

clear that OP just doesn't respect

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his girlfriend so they shouldn't be

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together. This post is just really

10:21

making me wonder. Who's the stupid

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one here? Honestly, OP is the

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only person who has actual evidence

10:27

of stupidity because he's staying with

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a woman that he doesn't respect.

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You dumb, dumb. Our next read

10:33

of posters from Manina Bubu. My

10:35

husband, who's lovely by the way,

10:37

used to have a big career,

10:39

but left everything to start something

10:41

of his own. His new adventure

10:43

sounds fancy, but honestly, it eats

10:45

more money than it brings in,

10:47

and it's a huge risk. However,

10:49

when you hear about it, you

10:51

might think, man, that's a good

10:53

business. We live a good life,

10:56

I'm not going to lie. So

10:58

I know how that looks. There's

11:00

this family friend woman that we

11:02

kind of recently met. All was

11:04

fine and respectful, until this woman

11:06

heard what my husband does for

11:08

his own business. How much we

11:10

paid for our house, which school

11:12

our kids go to, etc. Information

11:14

that slowly came out. She then

11:16

started to directly and shamelessly flirt

11:18

with him. You know how it

11:20

goes. But the funny part? I'm

11:22

the one making the money. Everything

11:24

she likes about our life, I'm

11:26

the one paying for it. My

11:28

job is enough to give us

11:30

the life we have now and

11:32

allow my husband to take the

11:34

risks. So jokes on her, I

11:36

guess. Would she start to flirt

11:38

with me if she knew? Gosh,

11:40

I hope not. Out of curiosity

11:42

I went into OP's account to

11:44

try to figure out what her

11:46

job might be because I'm wondering

11:48

why does her job sound poor

11:50

but make a lot of money

11:52

and why does her husband's job

11:54

sound rich but make little money,

11:56

and almost every single one of

11:58

her posts is about reverse harem,

12:00

which is about one girl screwing

12:02

a bunch of guys, so maybe

12:04

she's a romance author, writing about

12:06

gangbangs and three films and all

12:08

that good stuff. Our next credit

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post is from deleted. As an

12:12

Indian woman. All I've heard my

12:14

whole life is how to be

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perfect. Study hard, get into a

12:18

prestigious university, build a career, and

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then let it all go for

12:22

a guy your parents approve of.

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Let his parents treat you like

12:26

their slave and have his children.

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My parents, luckily, are wonderful people,

12:30

and they've always cherished me. But

12:32

my ambition and the need to

12:34

just not be unhappy has always

12:36

made me a pariah in my

12:38

childhood circles. My ex and I

12:40

started dating when we were both

12:42

teenagers. He was kind and also

12:44

my classmate and I loved him

12:46

a lot. We stayed together until

12:48

after the first year of my

12:50

college. Then the emotional abuse started.

12:52

His mother came to know about

12:54

us and she hated me. My

12:56

mother is a college educated woman

12:58

and she hated that. She thought

13:00

because my mom isn't a religious

13:02

bigot, I'd break the family if

13:04

I married into it. He started

13:06

to hate me. I spent months

13:08

not sleeping and crying all the

13:10

time. I had depression all because

13:12

he would yell at me and

13:14

not let me break up with

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him. I'd go to his family

13:18

functions and his friends, especially a

13:20

much younger family friend would come

13:22

up to me and sometimes take

13:24

away the chair that I was

13:26

sitting on. Spill water on my

13:28

sorry, drop a curry on me

13:30

while serving food, all while telling

13:32

my ex's mom while I'm an

13:34

earshot that I'm a whore who

13:36

dates boys and does drugs. My

13:38

ex would stand there and not

13:40

defend me. Looking back, 19-year-old me

13:42

was a massive idiot, and God

13:44

did the ordeal with my ex

13:46

teach me life lessons. I told

13:48

my dad because I couldn't eat

13:50

properly, and I was in a

13:52

horrible mental state. He called my

13:54

ex-up, and I don't know what

13:56

he said, but he said that

13:58

my ex- wouldn't bother me again

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and we should break up. Except

14:02

he did bother me whenever he

14:04

got drunk and after a while

14:06

I blocked him. He also ended

14:08

up marrying that family friend the

14:10

moment that he had a job.

14:12

I only know anything about him

14:15

because our only mutual friend told

14:17

me a few days back that

14:19

they're miserable. My ex has a

14:21

job he hates and his mom

14:23

makes his life a living hell.

14:25

while fighting with his wife who

14:27

thought that she married into money

14:29

and wouldn't have to work at

14:31

all. Except his ultra-conservative father would

14:33

never allow household help to enter

14:35

their pure home. They always fight

14:37

wherever they go. The mom and

14:39

wife scream all the time at

14:41

each other and my ex doesn't

14:43

want children anymore. So his dad

14:45

and him don't talk to each

14:47

other and they all live in

14:49

the same house. I can't help

14:51

but feel really satisfied. I know

14:53

it's horrible. I know I should

14:55

have empathy, but I can't bring

14:57

myself to do it. He ruined

14:59

a year of my life that

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I'd never get back. I just

15:03

can't stop feeling good about it,

15:05

even though I know I shouldn't.

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You know, the best revenge is

15:09

a life well-lived, but the revenge

15:11

is a lot sweeter when the

15:13

other guy has a sucky life

15:15

to boot. Our next credit post

15:17

is from Rubbingap. My partner and

15:19

I were in bed watching silly

15:21

videos when a clip of a

15:23

comedian popped up, asking people about

15:25

the weirdest place they'd had intercourse.

15:27

Without thinking, I laughed and said,

15:29

oh, for us, it was definitely

15:31

the beach. Remember when we used

15:33

to go there? For context, it

15:35

was a very isolated beach. But

15:37

then he looked at me and

15:39

said, no, the weirdest place was

15:41

in that bathroom at the grocery

15:43

store. I froze. What? I stared

15:45

at him confused. We never did

15:47

it in the bathroom of a

15:49

grocery store. He insisted we did.

15:51

Back when he was living with

15:53

his brother and I was staying

15:55

with my aunt, he even painted

15:57

the scene. Our son was asleep,

15:59

so we snuck off to the

16:01

bathroom. Only, our son wasn't even

16:03

born yet. I was pregnant at

16:05

that time. And I'm absolutely sure

16:07

that I would remember having intercourse

16:09

in a supermarket bathroom. That kind

16:11

of adrenaline rush would have stayed

16:13

with me forever. Yet, he kept

16:15

insisting it happened. And that's when

16:17

it hit me. Did he cheat

16:19

on me and forget the person

16:21

he was with wasn't even me?

16:23

This was 10 or 11 years

16:25

ago, but still, I would not

16:27

have forgotten this. And I know

16:29

this because I remember every place

16:31

I've ever done it in public,

16:33

even from before I was with

16:35

him. So this made absolutely no

16:37

sense to me. Also, O.P. Poston

16:39

and edits that in the past,

16:41

her husband has cheated on him

16:43

and she forgave him. which feels

16:45

like a very irrelevant fact to

16:47

include in your post. And I'm

16:49

looking through our post history and

16:51

there's no update, so it looks

16:53

like O.P. is going to forgive

16:55

this instance of cheating too. Gosh,

16:57

now I'm trying to think, if

16:59

your partner cheats on you, but

17:01

your partner remembers that person as

17:03

being you, your face and your

17:05

body, is that better or worse?

17:07

I think it's better or worse.

17:09

I think it's better, but you

17:11

know, not by much. It's like

17:13

spraying perfume on a turd. That was

17:16

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