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Thank you. Hello

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everyone welcome to to Saturn

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with me, me, Kaggy Dunlop. This is a

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This is a podcast that aims to

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bring clarity during transitional times where

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there can be confusion. confusion and doubt. In

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today's special episode, I'm thrilled to

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be partnering with Hinge, with the dating

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app designed to be deleted. to be

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to help inspire you to reflect

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on your dating journey over the

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past year. the past year. The new year is

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fast approaching and this is such a

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powerful time to pause and reflect. What

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have you learned about yourself and love

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this past year? this past have these

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moments, whether joyful or

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challenging, or challenging, shape to you become? And

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how can you carry those lessons

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into 2025? 2025 with intention. To

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guide this guide this reflection our

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asked our community on Instagram to

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consider the following hinge prompt. prompt. year

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I really want to. I received I

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received so many responses and I

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encourage you to take a moment

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to think about this for yourself,

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especially as it comes to dating

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and relationships in the new year. new

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year. I'll I'll be speaking with

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two members of our our Saturn Returns

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Megan and and Rachel, who've both

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been on a transformative journey of

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growth, resilience, and self -discovery. We'll

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will also explore how hinge can

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help you align your dating profile

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with the version of yourself you've

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grown into into, you can attract the

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connections you truly deserve. deserve. Firstly,

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I am joined by who is a

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member is a member of

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the community. She She recently came

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on the Saturn Returns Returns she

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shares her thoughts on what

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she over the last year last

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really what she wants to kind

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of take in going into

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2025 into terms of communication, clarity

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and how to show

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up authentically. You What

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I want to end 2024

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end 2024 on is clarity.

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for myself and what I

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am wanting and needing in

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my life and being really,

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really clear about setting that

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intention and that kind of

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picture of the values, the

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behaviors, the kind of type

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of person I want to

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attract. and then also clarity

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on just the situations I

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might be in. And that

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clarity comes from communication. So

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one big thing is just

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learning how to express my

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needs better and making sure

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that it's not sitting in

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my head because I think

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I do a lot of

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processing and overthinking, but it

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doesn't always translate into communication

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to the other person. So

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I want to end the

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year with clarity, and that

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means being brave and maybe

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being vulnerable with communication and

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how I'm feeling. And then

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what I want to call

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in for 2025 is, oh,

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I want big love. I've

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always been told I have

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really high standards, maybe they're

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too high, I'm too fussy.

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And I say, that's

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bullshit. I want to

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attract someone who isn't

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afraid to, you know,

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securely show up for

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me. I think someone

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secure in themselves is

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quite attractive and something

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that I want in

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an equal and a

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kind of partner. Dating

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apps are now the number one

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place where people are meeting. And

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so there are so many opportunities

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because you don't have to rely

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on organically bumping into someone at

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a bar or being introduced through

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friends. There are so many options,

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but that can also make it

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overwhelming. So being really clear on

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how you are showing up. version

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of yourself you are curating online

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is so so important and the

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way that Hinge uses prompts so

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that you get your personality across

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is so so important not only

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for how you want to show

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up but also for who you

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want to go on a date

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with. As like a busy person

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I'm not hanging out at a

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bar in the week like I'm

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just not doing that and so

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the chances of obviously meeting someone

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don't exist as they did before.

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And when you're hanging with your

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friends, the likelihood is you're not

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necessarily meeting new people organically. It's

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just different. I also think in

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a post-covid world, like, socializing has

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somehow changed. I think as someone

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who wants to be a bit

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more intentional about who they're attracting.

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It's also important to think about

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what you're putting out there on

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your profile. you want to be

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real and yeah yourself but then

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you also have to decide what

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version of you you're creating or

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at least giving like multiple aspects

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of yourself which is always interesting.

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Pinge is great because it gives

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you so many more prompts to

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react to and to kind of

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get more of a flavor for

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someone's personality. We also heard from

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Rachel who shares that her most

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important thing going into next year

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is about finding someone who aligns

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with her values. This is so

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important when it comes to romantic

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relationships. And sometimes they feel like

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we don't get that clear on

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what we value before we go

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into the dating world. So I

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find this so so important. And

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also it's like the kind of

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person that we want to meet.

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Do we embody those principles? Are

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we showing up in that way?

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Are we being authentic? Are we

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being true to ourselves? And so

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it's always about recognizing like the

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way that you showing up first,

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which I think is so, so

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important. this

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past dating year is the

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first time that I've really

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sat with myself and gotten

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clear on what my values

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are and what my needs

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would be in a romantic

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relationship and I think things

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that I previously would have

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entertained for too long or

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in possible situations and connections

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where I may have given

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someone the benefit of the

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doubt or hoped for things

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to improve. I have been

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a lot more confident in

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cutting things off when I

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start to get those gut

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instincts that things aren't right.

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And I think that's my

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intention for 2025 is that

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if you're getting those whispers

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of dissatisfaction early on, when

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you're dating someone or... if

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things just aren't feeling right,

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that I'm really learning to

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listen to my God and

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to trust that my body

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and my soul knows what's

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right and what isn't. And

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as someone who is always

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an optimist, I like to

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assume the best in people,

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but I think there have

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been times in the past

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where that hasn't served me.

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And I have really felt

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that in choosing myself in

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these situations, and in walking

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away one I just know

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that the person isn't giving

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the energy that I would

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like, it always leaves me

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feeling better afterwards and closer

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to finding the person that

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will physically and energetically fill

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that space in my life.

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Also I love what she

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shared about trusting your... and

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your gut and if something

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doesn't feel right right that

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and it's to to not pursue

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things if you don't feel

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like there's a connection essentially you

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know like a lot of my know

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like a lot of my audience members

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to you really want to meet someone

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you don't want to waste your time

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and you don't want to waste theirs but

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I I also think there's an importance

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in when you don't feel the connection to

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it I always use the

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term term leaving well. No one one likes

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being ghosted no one likes not

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knowing not what went wrong and

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I think I think that that can

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go such a long way way.

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And I am a true believer

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in we know what's right know what's right

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for us we know when

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something feels like an energetic match

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and there is no greater

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feeling but it's important to not

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try and convince yourself that something

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is good when your body

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is telling you otherwise As

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we move into 2025, take this this

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opportunity to refresh your hinge

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profile and make a a true

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reflection of who you are Ask yourself,

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yourself learned have I learned from

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this past year of love kind

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of love do I want to

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call in answers to those answers

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to create a profile that not

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only attracts meaningful connections but also

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represents the person you've become become.

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You deserve a relationship that feels

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aligned authentic and fulfilling So

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it's time to put yourself

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back out there there, refresh profile profile,

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vulnerability and lead with clarity about

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what you truly want want. you

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so much to Megan and

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Rachel for sharing their stories and

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thank you to hinge for

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making this episode possible episode always

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remember you are not alone not alone.

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Goodbye.