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Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, that's what they want to do.

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Yeah, if I can... Yeah, and they probably think it's funny. If

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I can make it about me in that joke. Oh, yeah, yeah,

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definitely. Yeah, yeah. I really like that. Welcome

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back to the... SHT.

1:48

They don't tell you, see? Yeah,

1:50

we're being good boys. Being good boys

1:53

and good girls and hopefully YouTube is kind to

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this video. You never know. Yeah. Sometimes I

1:57

have to upload it twice and then suddenly all

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of the same... AI that's like scanning

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us is like, oh, we're good. We'll

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let you have it now. Yeah, weird. Anyway,

2:05

I'm Nikki Lebo. And I'm

2:08

Stephen Paul Green. Your hosts

2:10

of the podcast that we shall

2:12

not mention in the first 30

2:14

seconds of any video. Nicole was

2:17

born in Santa Barbara,

2:19

California. I was born in... Why

2:21

did you call me by my IRS

2:23

name? Indianapolis, Indiana.

2:26

But we moved very, very, very

2:28

quickly to... the Washington DC area

2:31

in Virginia. Okay, wrap it up.

2:33

And that's why I'm a huge

2:35

commanders fan, I always have been. Okay,

2:37

go fuck yourself. Okay, well, I'm

2:39

just saying, for people who are

2:42

wondering. I think it's past 30

2:44

seconds, I can say, go fuck yourself, right?

2:46

No, no, no, you probably shouldn't.

2:49

All right, please leave that, Mark.

2:51

Please leave that, Mark. Thank you,

2:53

please, because of this, new

2:55

commanders fan personaona. I've always

2:58

been a huge commanders fan. I

3:00

don't understand. I hate it. I

3:02

hate it. Controversy about it. I

3:04

hate it. That you brand switched.

3:06

I really hate it. Your colors

3:09

are interesting. I'm not a

3:11

big fan of those colors. No, you

3:13

don't like these cults blue colors?

3:15

It's not my favorite. It's one

3:17

of my favorite football teams. I

3:20

ride for them. Well, it

3:22

must be very disappointing. Yeah,

3:24

it is. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I still

3:26

read. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, I tried

3:28

that once. Some loyalists. I tried

3:31

that once. All right, check it

3:33

out. So what? A-I-T-A, okay.

3:35

For telling my sister her baby

3:37

isn't a real baby. What? Is

3:40

it not a real baby? No,

3:42

check this out. Check this out.

3:44

I, 26 people got engaged

3:46

in my fiancé on

3:48

January 1st. Congratulations, by

3:50

the way. Well, congrats. Big ups

3:52

to you. Yeah. I was very excited to share with

3:55

my family, of course, and everyone congratulated me

3:57

and my fiancé. I sent a picture of

3:59

my... to my family group chat as

4:01

well as my Instagram and everyone has

4:04

been commenting on the fact that I

4:06

got a very big diamond. My diamond

4:08

is a lab-grown diamond that is just

4:10

under five carrots. What already? She just

4:12

got engaged to. She's excited. Why is

4:15

she describing the diamond in so much

4:17

detail? Is a lab-grown diamond as just

4:19

under five carrots? Okay. I specifically asked

4:21

for a lab diamond as I believe

4:24

they are more ethical. As you never

4:26

know, if a mine diamond is a

4:28

blood diamond. Yeah. My sister, 31 female,

4:30

was very excited for me. But as

4:32

soon as I showed her my ring,

4:35

her mood changed. And she was telling

4:37

me it was too flashy. And it's

4:39

just not practical. And it's too trendy

4:41

and it's too trendy and not quote,

4:44

timeless. Yeah, it's not timeless. You wouldn't

4:46

know the fucking difference. My ring is

4:48

a pear-shaped, solitary ring. And I love

4:50

it all caps. That's great. My sister

4:52

then told me that there was no

4:55

way that my fiancé could afford my

4:57

ring. True, if it was a mine

4:59

diamond, it would be 10 times the

5:01

price in the family. It would be

5:03

10 times the price in my fiancé

5:06

is a second year resident. And then

5:08

I should test to see if it's

5:10

a real diamond. I replied that since

5:12

it's a lab diamond, it was a

5:15

lot less expensive. It is, yeah. She

5:17

then proceeded to tell me how lab

5:19

diamonds aren't real diamonds. And since they

5:21

made it in a lab, it doesn't

5:23

hold the same sentimental value. What? My

5:26

sister's ring is a small one-carret mind

5:28

diamond, and it's beautiful. I never said

5:30

anything bad about her ring, and it

5:32

suits her. I tried to laugh it

5:35

off. I hate these people. I hate

5:37

these people. I hate them so much.

5:39

These are like the people that... We

5:41

would go to YouTube things and make

5:43

would be talking to girls like this

5:46

and she would just like, please kill

5:48

me, please kill me, please kill me.

5:50

Can I go talk with the guys

5:52

about like Green Bay Packers? I'm like,

5:55

no, you have to stay over there

5:57

with the... Stay over there with those

5:59

bitches. I love the way it sparkles

6:01

and it says that, that, that, how

6:03

many characters you are? I don't fucking

6:06

care. I don't fucking care. Why do

6:08

you care so much? Why people care so

6:10

much? I check it out though. It gets better,

6:12

it gets better. I tried to laugh it

6:14

off, right? Because she's like, you know,

6:16

making fun of the lab diamond stuff.

6:19

Yeah. And I told her that I don't

6:21

want a mind diamond diamond diamond. When

6:23

I said that she started yelling at

6:25

me. and that was grown in a

6:27

lab, not the ground. That's when she

6:29

said, by her logic, my niece wasn't

6:31

a real baby then because she was an IVF

6:33

baby and grown in a lab too. My sister

6:36

and her husband had a lot of

6:38

issues conceiving, as my sister had some

6:40

complications with endometriosis. Their IVF journey was

6:42

really tough and they had multiple rounds

6:44

and attempts and one miscarriage, but finally

6:46

got lucky and had a very healthy

6:48

knees last year. I know my sister

6:51

had a hard time conceiving, but that

6:53

was kind of the point I was

6:55

making. My niece started in a lab, but

6:57

she was beautiful, meaning, but she has beautiful

6:59

meaning behind her life too. When I

7:02

made the comment that my niece wasn't

7:04

a real baby because she's an IVF

7:06

baby, my sister started crying over the

7:08

phone. Her husband then called me and

7:10

berated me and told me I was

7:12

insensitive, and I couldn't understand the depths

7:14

of her emotional turmoil, and I shouldn't

7:16

have started a fight over a ring. He

7:19

even said I was an ableist, question

7:21

mark. I have Enderaments she has just

7:23

two. I mean, I had to pick the

7:25

lesser of two evils, so I feel like

7:28

I'm on OPEC's side. Yeah. Like, if you're,

7:30

I mean, if you're gonna come after me

7:32

for my ring, I guess, I'll make

7:34

an analogy about, then that way,

7:36

she has to admit that that's

7:39

a stupid comparison, because it is.

7:41

That's correct. Yeah. It's a wild

7:43

example to underline a point.

7:45

Exactly. And I'm for that.

7:47

I respect that. I respect that. I

7:50

respect it. Was it a dick move? 100%.

7:52

But you were responding to a dick move. Yeah,

7:54

and if I were to say it, I would

7:56

also be like, see, I don't think that your

7:58

baby is a fake. baby. Oh yeah

8:01

exactly. I would be like that's on

8:03

my that's on my side. I think

8:05

that that anything grown in a lab

8:07

is just as real. Yeah. It's pretty

8:09

wild to just sit there and go

8:11

like your ring's not that good. It's

8:13

insecurity obviously. But it's just weird like

8:15

it's just weird that like you're putting

8:17

so much of your self-esteem value of

8:19

your like self-worth into like Your ring

8:21

being better? I know. It's really weird.

8:24

It's really weird. It just happened in

8:26

a girl chat earlier, the earlier this

8:28

year, or last year. Yeah. Everyone's gonna

8:30

assume it's the big mood girl chat.

8:32

So go ahead and tell them it's

8:34

not. It's not. It's not. It's not.

8:36

But I have a lot of girl

8:38

chats right now. Yeah. But. No, no,

8:40

I just, it's, I never paid attention

8:42

to that. My mom had her grandma's

8:44

ring or like her great grandma's ring

8:47

passed down. It was like a family

8:49

heirloom. And it didn't have a diamond

8:51

on it. It just had, it was

8:53

like a band with like teen, the

8:55

teeniest specs of diamonds like just spaced

8:57

out? Yeah. And so there was never

8:59

an emphasis on diamonds or the ring

9:01

or a little bit and my dad

9:03

lost his surfing before when I was

9:05

like really little. Yep. So like I

9:07

don't even remember him ever wearing a

9:10

ring until recently he got like one

9:12

ten years ago or something. Yeah yeah

9:14

yeah. But. I just never, I didn't,

9:16

wasn't raised around that kind of environment,

9:18

so it's really hard for me to

9:20

pretend to understand. I don't understand at

9:22

all, and it's not me being like,

9:24

I'm different, it's just me being, I

9:26

just don't, I just literally don't, and

9:28

I can't understand it. And I love

9:30

my ring, I think it's beautiful, but

9:33

it's more, it's the sentiment behind the

9:35

ring. And I've never tested it, like,

9:37

like, it could be, it could be.

9:39

Moistenite it could be a what is

9:41

a human zirconia could be from clares,

9:43

but I just I don't give a

9:45

little actual what if it was a

9:47

sticker? It's kind of funny. What if

9:49

after all these years it peals up

9:51

one day it's a sticker? Kind of

9:54

funny I'd clap it's pretty yeah I

9:56

clap for it I'd be like wow

9:58

that lasted for a long time I

10:00

just buy my arm right. And I'd be like, you would not, you

10:02

would be pissed about it, dude. No, I don't. Because it's a

10:04

betrayal, right? Yes, exactly. Like, there's some principle. I just,

10:06

I guess I just stand by the principle and like,

10:08

I just don't think that there's a principle behind getting

10:10

a lab grown diamond versus a mine diamond. Yeah, she's

10:12

not saying she doesn't care about that. She's just saying

10:14

like, yeah, it's the same. I mean, I mean, I

10:16

mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I

10:18

mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I

10:20

mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I'm just like, I

10:22

mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I

10:24

mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I

10:27

mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I

10:29

mean, I mean And I had to wear it every day. I'd

10:31

be like, I wish you would have asked me first or something.

10:33

I could never tell. The lab grown versus

10:35

the real. Oh, no, no. I meant,

10:37

I meant like the shape or like,

10:39

if there was like something aesthetically displeasing

10:42

about it. Yeah, well, pear shaped

10:44

I think is rough. Nobody could

10:46

tell with their human eye if

10:48

it's a lab grown diamond or

10:50

a mine diamond. I'm not a pear

10:52

shaped guy. I think all that looks whack.

10:55

it's got to be done a certain way

10:57

where it's like it's like lifted up and

10:59

like it's the only thing if it's like

11:01

a big pair of shape but then like

11:03

just a really simple band and

11:05

then like and like it's just like a

11:08

dainty like it's I think I've

11:10

usually seen it gaudy looking yeah I

11:12

don't like the gaudy looking ones just

11:14

like a dainty band with the with

11:16

the raised hair shape and like simple

11:18

yeah anything simple I'm all for But

11:20

I don't want princess cut. Point is, like, I

11:23

can't tell the difference between Kuberk-Zakonia, Moistenai, lab grown,

11:25

mind, and if it's like, not killing people, then

11:27

yeah, maybe we should just switch to lab grown.

11:29

But I wish I knew that before I bought

11:31

your ring. So like, why didn't you say that? You

11:33

did not say that. I literally said I don't care. I

11:35

just wanted a diamond. It's true. I didn't even know

11:38

what kind of kind of cuts were what kind of

11:40

cuts were what kind of cuts were what. We're what. We're

11:42

what. We're what. We're what. We're what. We're what. We're what. We're

11:44

what. What. We're what. We're what. We're what. We're what. We're what.

11:46

We're what. We're what. We're what. We're what. We're what. We're what.

11:48

We're what. We're what. We're what. We're what. That's true.

11:50

Nicki Lemo. Yeah. Very attractive woman. Oh.

11:52

I'm the only guy who ever bought this bitch

11:54

of diamond that's crazy to me. That actually blows

11:56

my mind. I just don't put any emphasis on

11:59

it. Well I'm just... Like, but like, it's

12:01

not like something I've always wanted

12:03

it I never got or whatever,

12:05

but it's just like, hey, I want

12:07

to impress my children. Like, I like

12:09

practical things. So like, I mean, I

12:12

wanted a diamond because I never

12:14

got one before. So like, so

12:16

like, I mean, I wanted a diamond

12:18

because I never got one before. So

12:20

like, when we brought it up, I

12:23

just never, I've just never have been

12:25

gifted one before. And I've never gotten

12:27

a diamond. Yeah, so I got

12:29

a diamond necklace. And she still

12:31

wears it, so. Yeah, I just got

12:33

a new chain for it. Hate on

12:36

haters. Okay. Hate on haters.

12:38

All right, yeah, so O.P. Not the

12:40

A.S. All right, yeah, so O.P. Not the

12:42

A.S. Not the A.S. Well done, by the

12:44

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12:55

O. AITA for telling my boyfriend that the

12:57

tacos he made me weren't good enough.

13:00

I female 22 asked my boyfriend male

13:02

20 to make me tacos for when I get

13:04

home later that night. I asked him to brown

13:06

the ground beef and follow the instructions.

13:08

He doesn't really cook but I thought

13:10

the task was simple enough. So I

13:12

get home a few hours after he

13:15

made the beef and things are going well.

13:17

I quickly chopped the veggies so we could

13:19

assemble the tacos and I thanked him for

13:21

making it for me and we started eating.

13:24

I ate a bite and tasted really

13:26

bland and a bit chalky. And

13:28

I asked him if he followed the

13:30

instructions. He said, no, I just

13:32

threw it together with some seasoning.

13:34

So I asked him why he

13:36

didn't follow the instructions and he

13:38

said, I didn't know what instructions.

13:40

And he said, I didn't

13:42

know what instructions you meant. He

13:45

could have asked me what instructions, he

13:47

could have asked me what

13:49

instructions, he could have googled it,

13:51

and he knows this. Also, I cook

13:53

different dishes for him all the time, and

13:55

I do my best to make sure they

13:58

taste good as possible. So I said... Why

14:00

didn't you look for

14:02

the instructions or ask

14:04

me and he said I don't care This

14:07

is when I got really upset and left

14:09

the room guys. If you ever want to

14:11

understand women, that's it right there in a

14:13

nutshell She's saying

14:15

a bunch of stuff that you really don't think

14:18

matters at all and then your responses. I don't

14:20

care You

14:23

have to that's if you

14:25

could just figure that little pocket of

14:27

information out you will slam Puss

14:29

in life. Yeah, you'll slam you'll slam

14:31

us Right, but man I think some guys

14:33

get so mired in the details and they

14:35

think women are so complicated. Yeah, I'm like,

14:37

know women are not complicated It's a couple

14:39

of simple things and if you can

14:41

drill them down Yeah, you're gonna be drill

14:44

like listen to like heard and then and like

14:46

if you could just even if you don't

14:48

agree Like trying to understand thousand percent so

14:50

that you can rephrase it and be like

14:52

is this what you mean Is this why

14:54

you're hurt? You know men are from Mars women

14:56

are from Venus I'm like no no women just

14:58

are it sounds complicated, but

15:00

if you're just listening to this bitch,

15:02

you're good Jesus

15:05

it's so it infuriates me.

15:07

I know But

15:09

thankfully shout out to my mother. I had

15:11

a mother Help me raise me growing

15:13

up also had my sister Guys with older

15:15

sisters. I think are goaded pretty sick

15:17

man because like you're the first guy

15:20

I've dated Us like seriously that

15:22

had a little sister out of many

15:24

guys No, but

15:26

like it's night and day

15:28

difference night and day and

15:30

like Don't get me wrong. I always

15:32

got along with like guys like we hang out with

15:34

their brothers or whatever, but like having

15:36

a guy that understands women

15:38

is like So fucking

15:40

crazy like it's like night night

15:43

and day by the way my

15:45

body mind thinks that like my

15:47

sister's reading me The fucking Merck

15:49

manual grown up or whatever like

15:51

is this she's like espousing her

15:53

emotional fucking Whatever thoughts to me

15:55

never happened just being around time.

15:57

It's observing right? It's just observing

15:59

and being around that much female energy and

16:01

like also loving them even while they're yelling

16:04

at you and stuff. Yeah. So like those

16:06

two things you're like okay I can understand

16:08

where they're coming from and like yeah you

16:10

just try to parse it up but I

16:13

didn't have a sister put on a freaking.

16:15

No she didn't like teach you powerpoint presentation

16:17

together. No no but Buddy Mine thinks that

16:19

that that happened. And he thinks that that's

16:22

why I'm friends that have brothers. Like, I

16:24

don't know what it is, we just have

16:26

like a more, I think there's just a

16:28

more chilled out vibe, like you're not, we

16:31

weren't raised competing with any other girls, so

16:33

like the thought of competing with other women

16:35

doesn't, isn't something that's in my like rolla

16:37

decks of, it's just not in there? Exactly.

16:39

I just don't get it. So like all

16:42

my friends that I get along with the

16:44

most are ones that just grew up with

16:46

a brother. I try hard to give you

16:48

good food. Yeah. Why didn't you try out

16:51

for me even reading the damn packet? And

16:53

he's just saying like, I don't care because

16:55

like it doesn't matter that much. And all

16:57

you have to do is drill down on

17:00

like, oh shit, my bad, I'm hearing you

17:02

now. Yeah. That's so true. I should have

17:04

done that. Because this is just a... If

17:06

you look at the root of the problem,

17:09

it's not about tacos. It's not about tacos.

17:11

It's not about the taco seasoning. It's about

17:13

that she like asked you if you could

17:15

do something for her, you said yes, and

17:18

then you just didn't really care about what

17:20

you were doing for her, like you said

17:22

yes, and then you just didn't really care

17:24

about what you were doing for her. Like

17:27

you were just like, I don't eat good

17:29

food, we'll fuck you. Of course they are.

17:31

But they also probably are the guy in

17:33

the relationship that like is like, I don't

17:36

care. Like, why are bitch is so crazy?

17:38

I wish I was gay bro. I wish

17:40

I could be gay bro. I'll eat anything.

17:42

Like, I mean. I don't

17:45

eat meat, but like

17:47

I'll eat like you

17:49

know the things. I

17:51

know I like I

17:54

don't care how they're

17:56

cooked I just like

17:58

will eat them. Yeah,

18:00

but that doesn't if

18:03

it's important to someone

18:05

like I have a

18:07

friend who it's really

18:09

important Like food flavor

18:12

is like really important

18:14

to her and like

18:16

she's one Well, I can tell

18:18

you after oh, she's like that's like a

18:20

two -person thing to reveal well I mean I don't

18:22

want to call someone else so like

18:24

nobody knows them. Okay here. It's a

18:26

poker player You you went with

18:28

them to London Okay, okay.

18:31

Okay. Yeah, I like that and it actually

18:33

puts them in a really bad mood when

18:35

they don't get I have like because it

18:37

It's like so much a part of their

18:39

life right to have good food and like

18:41

they're a foodie. I don't understand it That's

18:43

right food. I don't relate but I can

18:45

understand that when something's important to you And

18:47

that's the thing that makes you feel good

18:49

on the day -to -day basis Then like getting

18:51

that taken away from you really fucking sucks

18:53

Amen, and I have little stupid things that

18:55

might be really stupid for other people. They're

18:57

hella stupid Yeah, like I have to write

18:59

in my journal or whatever like I have to

19:01

have my coffee in the morning or whatever

19:03

coffee outside It's like such a little thing,

19:05

but like if I don't have it I melt

19:07

I just have a meltdown like I'm sorry like

19:09

it's stupid Yeah, it's stupid, but I just also

19:11

like It's my one little

19:13

thing that I really like and it brings me

19:15

joy and like it it sets the day up Yeah,

19:17

right and I have to say do when we got

19:20

together and you told me that you were like that

19:22

I really didn't believe it until I

19:24

saw it You know talk about like

19:26

me not listening Yeah, like I

19:28

really didn't like just it didn't like

19:30

have the impact on my brain Yeah, cuz

19:32

why would it? Until I saw it

19:34

and I was like oh shit This is like

19:36

a real deal thing like she doesn't get

19:38

her coffee within an hour of waking up Well,

19:40

she'll have a full -on that was different panic

19:42

attack like crying Yeah, cuz like now I can

19:45

go like two hours waking up that I'm

19:47

drinking coffee. I see you do five hours Yeah,

19:49

but back then yeah, there was

19:51

like I think I was addicted to

19:53

the creamer Yeah, cuz I've been

19:55

drinking coffee black for years

19:57

now like it's not the

19:59

same Yeah, it's not the same. Yeah. Yeah. I don't

20:02

know what it is. Yeah. Fascinating. Yeah,

20:04

and I would just start like,

20:06

like tears would just come out of

20:08

my face. Yeah. I was just so

20:11

frustrated and like, I would just

20:13

cry. So I think in this

20:15

particular topic, if the manos fear,

20:17

right, the people in the manos fear

20:19

on like Twitter and all these, you

20:21

know, YouTube channels of like dudes

20:23

will be like, girls are bitches and

20:26

stuff, and stuff, and they just want your

20:28

money. I feel it's very simple to understand.

20:30

And if it's not simple for you to

20:32

understand, I'm just trying to make it as

20:35

simple as possible. It's like, it's not about

20:37

the tacos. It's about that he didn't try it

20:39

and he doesn't want to try. Those two combined.

20:41

And that's why he's the asshole. If he tried

20:43

and it turned out bad, it turned out shitty, like

20:45

I don't think she would be... Making this big

20:48

of a deal out of it. Yeah, like

20:50

if he tried and he explained the steps

20:52

that he went through and then like and

20:54

it genuinely just didn't work out like some

20:56

mistake happened or whatever But it's the fact

20:58

that he doesn't care and he doesn't care

21:00

that she cares. Yeah, exactly And that's why women

21:02

are like the bars on the floor. It's like

21:04

and then guys are like, oh bitches are crazy

21:06

You know, no, they're like, oh no, I'm not tall

21:08

enough or whatever I love it. If you just like

21:11

if you just like Let someone know

21:13

you care about them by valuing the

21:15

things that they find important, even if

21:17

you don't find them important. Correct. And

21:19

prioritizing them. Yes. Showing them that you

21:21

actually apply that and you're listening to

21:23

them. Yeah. God forbid you do that,

21:26

but no, it's really hard out there.

21:28

And some guys are like, if I

21:30

do that, then I'm taking the L.

21:32

It's like, bro, you're not taking the

21:34

L. You're listening to your partner.

21:36

If the W is having a

21:38

healthy relationship, then you're taking

21:40

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21:43

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all right. Check it out. Am I the hole?

25:52

Yes. Wife wants to travel without

25:54

luggage for Valentine's. I do not.

25:57

What? The wife wants to travel

25:59

without luggage. Yeah, that's weird. Oh

26:02

We're a married couple 30 male

26:04

30 female. We're planning a trip for

26:06

Valentine's to Europe from London where

26:08

we stay My wife

26:10

chose Vienna and

26:13

found a flight with Ryanair

26:15

Airlines priced at 60 pounds

26:17

return each She suggested

26:19

we should take the flight for

26:21

a four -day trip The flight

26:23

however doesn't include any luggage

26:25

with cabin luggage. The flight is

26:27

worth 120 each Doubling

26:29

it and she said we can manage

26:31

without the luggage She

26:33

said she wants to experience traveling for a

26:35

cheap amount and doesn't want to spend too

26:38

much for context We are high earners. We live

26:40

way below our means. So this is not

26:42

due to a budget constraint I

26:44

suggested we should at least be able

26:46

to take some cabin luggage as I

26:48

don't like to travel without clothes Especially on a

26:50

four -day trip. We got into an argument and now

26:52

she won't talk to me I

26:54

told her I wouldn't want to go for a trip. If

26:57

this is how I knew we'd be traveling.

26:59

Am I the a hole? No,

27:01

I don't think he's a hole. Yeah,

27:03

why so? Yeah,

27:05

if they if they can afford it like I

27:07

can understand if they were like Oh, they've

27:09

got a shoestring budget, but they still want to

27:11

see the world or something You know that

27:13

you got to make do with what you can

27:15

But if they can afford it and they're

27:17

living below their means I don't understand why both

27:19

people can't be comfortable just because the wife

27:21

doesn't want luggage Like they can just split a

27:23

luggage. They can just split the carry -on luggage.

27:25

That's why okay So this is what blows

27:27

my mind because before you Basically hitting over the

27:29

head with the fact that you can now

27:31

fit clothes inside of bags that are designed

27:33

to also hold laptops Yes, which I had

27:35

no idea existed about a year ago. I

27:39

Would have said you have to what are you talking about you have

27:41

to bring luggage. I need clothes I have to you know me. I'm

27:43

a very fresh boy. Yeah for four days like that's

27:45

not long at all I go to JK

27:47

for four days all the time and I'd

27:49

use what I'd carry a backpack. You can also

27:51

wear a lot of them Wear a lot on

27:53

the plane and then the rest put in the backpack. I'm

27:55

just saying like I Used

27:57

to not even know that this was like a

27:59

hack Yeah, but it is. It's a real deal.

28:02

I actually just got a bag. It was

28:04

on sale. That's why I got it

28:06

on target. Not sponsored. But there was

28:08

this bag that it's like one of

28:10

those bags where it's a backpack,

28:12

but it opens horizontally. And it's

28:14

like, it's like, it's basically a

28:16

suitcase. And but it's like shaped like

28:19

a backpack. And it fits under the

28:21

seat. And I've got it because you go

28:23

on weekend trips a lot. And you know,

28:25

like if we did want to want to

28:27

be like, you know it saves a lot

28:29

of money to not bring a carry on

28:31

then it's like perfect because it fits

28:33

like four days worth of clothes that's

28:35

my dream is because like now I know that

28:37

I can do that yeah just like I could put

28:39

three days of clothes easily four days

28:41

of clothes and it was like 25 bucks

28:44

pretty much no problem yeah and do

28:46

like one of these backpacks that can also

28:48

fit my laptop yeah that's key and

28:50

then I'm thinking like okay me and Nikki

28:52

you know we'll travel to DC go

28:54

catch a commanders game always been my

28:56

dream Right? To be in the Mander

28:58

Stadium, like live watching my TV. Sure.

29:00

And so yeah, I think this just

29:02

makes it way more possible now that

29:05

I know that this exists and I can

29:07

save on luggage. Yeah, but my point is,

29:09

if you don't have to, like if one

29:11

partner, if I was like, baby, I cannot

29:13

fit all my toiletries and my makeup and

29:16

my shoes and stuff in a backpack, I'm

29:18

gonna bring a carry on and we can

29:20

afford it. Like, it would be so weird

29:22

if you just didn't talk to me anymore.

29:24

Like that's so weird The behavior is why

29:26

I'm not talking to you and I and

29:29

I had to explain it Yeah, that was

29:31

why I don't think anyone would like

29:33

just because you can pack a bag

29:35

like that doesn't mean everyone wants to

29:38

and if the husband wants to pay

29:40

for a carrier and like I just think

29:42

the wife's being an a-hole Yeah, yeah,

29:44

usually ever again guys like to think

29:47

that the chicks care about the luggage

29:49

so much You never know out there I

29:51

know I mean she could be a masculating him too

29:53

like oh you need to look at bad. What do

29:56

you need it for? You need it for your purse?

29:58

I don't even need one? You need one? Try

30:00

to back extra purses there. Just

30:02

like think that people should just be

30:04

comfortable when they're on vacation. If it's

30:06

like a vacation thing. Like if it's

30:09

a work trip, like suck it up,

30:11

like whatever. It's like not gonna be

30:13

fun anyway. So like just suck it

30:15

up. But if it's a vacation, like

30:18

why wouldn't you want to be

30:20

comfortable if you can afford it? Yeah, I

30:22

agree. I agree. All right, this one I thought

30:24

was so interesting. I'm very curious

30:26

as to what you think of what you

30:29

think of this. In private.

30:31

I, 17 female, gave birth to my first baby

30:33

less than a week ago. Today my parents came

30:35

to visit and meet the baby. While my mom

30:37

was holding my son, he started showing signs

30:39

of being hungry and wanted me. So I

30:41

asked for my son back and tried to

30:43

excuse myself to my room to feed him.

30:46

My parents were offended, saying that since they

30:48

came to meet and spend time with the

30:50

baby, I should just feed him right there.

30:52

What? I explained that it wouldn't be a

30:54

problem to put a cover over myself and

30:56

feed him. there if I were confident

30:58

in his ability to latch correctly,

31:00

but currently we're still figuring it

31:02

out and I have to take my

31:05

bra off completely. My mom then

31:07

said they didn't mind seeing as how

31:09

I'm their baby. What the fuck? They've

31:11

seen me naked before. So am I

31:13

the aover trying not to

31:15

breastfeeding from my parents? That's

31:18

so weird. Why are your parents

31:20

forcing you to be uncomfortable?

31:22

That's honestly weird is absolute. That's crazy.

31:24

I'll never forget. I'll never forget being

31:27

around my sister when she first had her kid and she's whipping

31:29

him out. I'm like, in front of my dad? Jesus. No, like

31:31

I'm not, I don't care that like I'm your baby, like I'm

31:33

a grown ass woman now and I'm not ripping my boob out

31:35

in front of my dad. No. I mean, and by the way,

31:37

I have no problem women in breastfeeding in public. I know that's

31:39

supposed to, like, like, like it's, it's for that it's for that

31:41

it's for that. It's for that. It's for that. It's for that.

31:43

It's for that. It's for that. It's for that. It's for that.

31:45

It's for that. It's for that. It's for that. It's for that.

31:48

It's for that. It's for that. It's for that. It's for that.

31:50

It's for that. It's for that. It's for that. It's for In

31:52

front of my parents, I should have the right

31:54

to go in my room to rest feed my

31:56

kid for like, however long it takes. Yeah, I

31:58

have no problem with women. breastfeeding in

32:00

public either like the mom being like

32:02

it's okay you're our baby do it no it's

32:04

so weird I have no issue with

32:06

women breastfeeding public as long as

32:08

while their breastfeeding I could be like hey

32:11

I'm kind of hungry too you know what

32:13

mean yeah well that's what they want you yeah

32:15

if I can yeah and they probably think it's funny

32:17

if I can make it about me in that

32:19

yeah yeah I like that obviously

32:21

everyone loves that joke

32:24

everyone loves that joke so

32:28

funny because you're you're saying it as

32:30

a man and a grown man

32:32

and you're if you're at a restaurant like you

32:34

probably have probably getting adult yeah but my

32:36

food is not here yet you know

32:38

you're basically saying you

32:40

want to suck on her boob you

32:42

don't have to be graphic about it but yeah that's

32:45

why it's funny that's why it's funny yeah

32:47

exactly like a baby I'm glad you get

32:49

my hero like a baby like a baby

32:51

but a grown man but you're grown man I

32:53

love it I love it sucking on a

32:55

boob which is normally sexual

32:57

it was last night am

33:00

I am I a

33:02

IT so we agree that that

33:04

yeah what are you talking about

33:06

your parents are so weird your

33:09

dad should be investigated federally that's

33:11

so weird alright a

33:14

ITA for taking my infant

33:16

from my mom and not

33:19

needing babysitting does that make sense yeah

33:21

the mom wants to babysit and she's like

33:23

nah I got it we're at a first

33:25

birthday party and coming to nap time

33:27

so obviously you know

33:29

the baby was getting exhausted and

33:31

started to get tired gave him

33:33

to Nana my mom for a hold

33:35

before we left while we packed bags

33:37

etc she's holding them him for about

33:39

15 minutes got some pics of them

33:41

together and when he started to

33:43

whine he wasn't crying

33:46

but this is his way of like

33:48

letting them know he's tired I lean

33:50

over to grab him I kind of do

33:52

that too yeah you do I leaned

33:54

over to grab him and my mom pushed

33:56

my hands away and said he's fine

33:58

I said don't push me away from my and I

34:00

grabbed him and walked off. We said

34:02

goodbye and left. I feel guilty now

34:04

because he was fine. And she probably

34:07

could have held him for a

34:09

bit longer, but he was obviously

34:11

tired. And to be frank, I didn't

34:13

want to deal with a crying baby if

34:15

I can help it. So taking him

34:17

from her was a preventative move.

34:19

Also, if my baby's upset or

34:21

getting upset, of course I'm going to

34:24

grab him. I'm his mom. Was my

34:26

reaction too harsh. Yeah, maybe a little.

34:28

She probably was just, you know,

34:30

it's a lot dealing with kids and like

34:32

subconsciously you're not getting a lot of sleep

34:34

and like you don't know how much that

34:37

affects you where like you just kind of

34:39

snap at people. I do it all the

34:41

time when I haven't had enough sleep or

34:44

like if I'm in a hormonal part of

34:46

the cycle and I'm very aware like of

34:48

the tone and I feel bad about it

34:50

and I usually apologize but like yeah I

34:52

think that she's kind of, I mean it

34:54

wasn't a huge misstep, but it was

34:57

a little harsh. Yeah, well harsh. I

34:59

think that she realizes that and

35:01

otherwise she wouldn't be writing

35:03

about it. Very harsh. Yeah, I

35:05

don't really, I think sometimes these

35:08

are just people just dumping

35:10

that they feel bad. Yeah, to the internet.

35:12

Definitely. Because that one's

35:15

definitely that to me. Yeah. But hey,

35:17

I would just call and be like, yeah,

35:19

I'm sorry, I was just dealing. I

35:21

was being weird. I'm stressed out.

35:23

Why isn't my diamond bigger? Nice.

35:26

Do you want a bigger ring? Do

35:28

you want an upgrade? No. That's

35:30

a thing now. Upgrading. It's a

35:32

huge thing. I don't want to

35:34

hear about it. AITA for calling

35:36

the cops on my X. I do

35:38

want a tennis bracelet when you

35:40

hit a million dollars again. Deal.

35:43

Love it. Squirt is going to be

35:45

a long time. Would I be the A hole? Okay.

35:47

If I told my mom not to

35:49

talk about me with my daughter with

35:51

my daughter. A little bit

35:53

of background. My mom and I currently

35:55

light contact due to some drama several

35:57

months ago. People who say light contact... are

36:00

some of my favorite people. By the

36:02

way, just as I'm saying. I won't

36:04

go into details on that because

36:06

it's not really relevant aside from

36:08

the point that we aren't currently

36:11

close. My daughter has always been

36:13

had a very close relationship with

36:15

my mom and I've always encouraged

36:17

that even after we had a

36:19

falling out. It's not uncommon for

36:21

them to video chat and play

36:23

Minecraft together or for

36:25

her to vent about school life and

36:27

even sometimes me. I get it. She

36:29

needs someone to talk to, I figured

36:32

grandma's the best option. Anyways, however,

36:34

this morning my son informed me that

36:36

they were saying, quote, bad things about

36:38

me. And so we had to have a

36:40

discussion. Throughout discussion she told me how

36:42

grandma said this or that, or how she

36:45

does things at her house, and she can't

36:47

believe that I do certain other things. I

36:49

was a little shocked at first, and after

36:51

a while of talking, I was able to

36:53

calm my daughter down, and we cleared up

36:56

a lot of misunderstandings. I feel like a lot

36:58

of it could have been avoided if my mom

37:00

had encouraged her to talk to me rather than

37:02

fan in the freaking flames. I'd like to

37:05

establish some boundaries with her, mostly

37:07

about not critiquing my parenting with

37:09

a frustrated 11-year-old. But it feels a

37:11

bit controlling and intrusive to tell her

37:13

or my daughter what they can or

37:16

cannot talk about in private. Would I be the

37:18

a whole if I told my mom not to talk

37:20

about me with my daughter? It's a tricky one.

37:22

I definitely think that she needs to tell

37:24

her mom why she's upset why she's upset.

37:26

Like I think they just need

37:29

to communicate. I don't know if like...

37:31

But they'll like contact though,

37:33

huh? They'll like contact.

37:35

I don't know if banning her for...

37:37

Oh, did she say banning her from

37:39

talking to her about or banning

37:42

her from talking about her? Like

37:44

saying what you can't talk about?

37:46

That's fine. That's not out of

37:48

line. You don't think that's a

37:50

little tricky? Yeah, it is tricky.

37:52

I definitely would address like

37:55

the issue of her just... you know,

37:57

talking poorly about...

37:59

Yeah, like that would that

38:01

would be I just think that

38:04

all this communication issue stuff is

38:06

gonna build up and just cause

38:08

more resentment and I

38:10

guess like I if she was gonna say

38:13

oh you can't talk about me

38:15

anymore like I would tell her why

38:17

like I don't think it's an

38:19

asshole thing to do especially if

38:21

like if she's already being

38:24

pretty lenient on like not

38:26

Caring so much if the

38:28

daughter and mom are close

38:30

like wanting to wanting them

38:32

to be close encouraging that

38:34

yeah, obviously she wants the

38:36

daughter to have a relationship

38:39

with grandma Even if they're

38:41

having a fight and I

38:43

think that's really good and healthy

38:46

and I can see where this

38:48

is a boundary that just has

38:50

to be said Yeah, I don't

38:52

disagree is it's a little snipe

38:54

It's the same as if like you broke up

38:57

with your partner and they go to the

38:59

like ex's house and then the ex is

39:01

talking smack about you like kids have to

39:03

deal with this all the time yeah and

39:05

it's just like not it's not appropriate

39:08

for the kid to have to deal

39:10

with that right and they get

39:12

influenced by it totally that's what I

39:14

don't like exactly you're gonna

39:16

like using the kid as a pawn

39:18

yeah always in your fight alright trick this

39:21

out yeah last one okay AITA for

39:23

giving my daughter a car, but

39:25

her sister's no car. Oh. When my

39:27

daughter's turned 15, I made each of

39:29

them a promise. If they didn't go

39:32

around our backs and secretly

39:34

smoke until they turned 21, I

39:36

would buy them a car within reason.

39:38

21? Until 21. Isn't the smoking

39:40

age 18? Or do they have raising?

39:43

Oh. Our oldest Haley, now 25,

39:45

broke that promise when she was

39:47

16, when we caught her smoking.

39:49

Yeah. Cynthia now 23 broke that promise

39:51

when she was 18, but later admitted she

39:53

had already turned up when she was 17.

39:55

Both of them fortunately don't smoke anymore. When

39:57

it happened we were disappointed and somewhat mad.

40:00

about it again and about the risks

40:02

we realize we couldn't really stop

40:04

them if they wanted to. So they

40:06

have to wait till 21 to get a car?

40:08

21. Okay. Yep. Not really the same. Okay.

40:11

Yeah. Not really the same. Okay. Yeah. They

40:13

liked the idea of this that didn't

40:15

really seem to take the promise

40:17

very seriously for at least two of

40:19

them. Yeah. But our youngest Jennifer

40:22

now 21 never smoked. She was

40:24

honest about this and her sisters

40:26

also said Jennifer never smoked. After

40:28

she turned 21, she came to me to talk

40:30

about the promise. While I was

40:32

hesitant, I wasn't going to break

40:35

a promise I made to her, so I bought

40:37

her a car. Why would she be

40:39

hesitant? This did not go over well

40:41

with Haley and Cynthia, who argued

40:43

it was really unfair. And now they're

40:45

really mad at me. Their mother,

40:47

my now ex-wife, also said that

40:50

I shouldn't have bought Jennifer, a

40:52

car, AITA. Why? That was the deal. No,

40:54

but why are they mad? I know, it

40:56

was the deal, I agree. Exactly, it's

40:59

the deal. Like, if you make a

41:01

deal and the person follows through, especially

41:03

after 21 years, like, then you follow

41:05

through on the deal. Yeah, it's kind

41:08

of, it's kind of a strange one,

41:10

because I'm like... It's super weird.

41:12

First of all, who makes a deal like this,

41:14

like, and you have to wait till 21 to buy

41:17

a car? Like, at 16, I wanted a car.

41:19

Yeah, exactly. Like, at 16, I would work, I

41:21

would work whatever job I had to do, and I

41:23

would get a car if I didn't get one.

41:25

And my parents got me a car, and

41:27

my parents got me a car, and I'm

41:29

really, my parents got me a car, and

41:32

I'm really thankful for that. But like,

41:34

you know what, this generation doesn't drive.

41:36

It's super bizarre. They don't fucking drive.

41:38

Yeah. I mean, I guess because Uber

41:40

was like prevalent when they were growing

41:42

up. Oh, right. I didn't even think of

41:44

that. Right. But like, it's so weird to

41:46

me. Like, they're not only do they not

41:49

drive, but they don't care to like drive.

41:51

It's not even like on their list of

41:53

priorities to get their license or like want

41:55

to drive. Yeah. It's super weird. So I

41:58

guess times are different now, I guess. Yeah,

42:00

but like that was our way to get

42:02

away from like everything. Everything yeah, and

42:04

now it's just the generation just doesn't

42:06

behave that way. Plus my house was so

42:08

loud growing up like just getting in the

42:10

car and just like closing the door was

42:13

amazing. And like you felt independent, it

42:15

was like the way you had held

42:17

on to independence. Yeah, I don't understand

42:19

it at all. It's like a weird. Do

42:21

nothing beat that first day when you get you

42:23

have your car and you get into it and you

42:25

turn the engine on? Yeah I can go wherever I

42:28

want right now and me alone I can just do

42:30

it alone with nobody. It's a crazy thing

42:32

that you just can't believe is real? Yeah

42:34

when it's happening. Yeah. And now I'm like

42:36

I could do that literally whenever I want to

42:38

do but it's a crazy thing. It is crazy.

42:40

Yeah I would like I can't believe that kids

42:42

these days like don't. Care or don't

42:44

want that don't want it. Yeah, they

42:47

don't I mean, it's not like

42:49

I can't believe super exciting We

42:51

have a friend who doesn't want

42:54

that. I'm like, that's pretty crazy.

42:56

Yeah, that's our age Yeah, yeah,

42:58

I don't get it. I'm like just learn

43:00

the drag brother. Yeah, just learn

43:03

it hard to drive. Also I

43:05

love driving and I love that

43:07

I have the option that like it's

43:09

big for me I can just go

43:11

anywhere I want right That's

43:13

why I don't come to Utah. I

43:15

didn't come back home. You come back

43:17

home. Or you go, wow, this place

43:20

rules and I'm never going back. And

43:22

you join a sister wifehood. Yeah, nice.

43:24

Which is why I went in the

43:26

first place. Yeah. Love it. Yeah.

43:28

Yeah. So there's that. But so, okay,

43:31

if I wanted to smoke and I

43:33

didn't care about this deal or whatever

43:35

I got caught and I wanted to

43:38

smoke, I'd still have to wait like.

43:40

years before getting a car. Just

43:42

to get a Honda Accord or something?

43:44

Right, so I'm like, okay I'll smoke

43:46

then and like I'll buy my own car,

43:49

like whatever. I'll hang with my friends and

43:51

have a good time actually. Yeah,

43:53

I just don't think it's that hard

43:55

not to smoke. So maybe I was

43:57

just like, okay, you gave up like for...

44:00

instant gratification, you gave up this

44:02

way cooler thing. Tell them the marshmallow test

44:04

real quick. The marshmallow test is a test

44:06

they did on kids where it was

44:08

supposedly to test

44:10

delayed gratification and then they would

44:12

follow up on the kids and the

44:14

ones that delayed the gratification, so they'd give

44:16

a kid a marshmallow and they'd leave

44:18

them in the room alone with one marshmallow.

44:20

And they said, if you don't eat

44:22

this marshmallow, we'll give you another marshmallow or

44:24

we'll give you as many marshmallows as

44:27

you want after five minutes. So then they

44:29

leave the room and they leave the

44:31

kid in the room with the marshmallow and

44:33

if the kid didn't eat the marshmallow,

44:35

they would get way more marshmallows or

44:37

double the marshmallows or whatever. But

44:39

it was this test, some

44:41

kids took the marshmallow right away and

44:43

they didn't get the extra marshmallows and

44:45

they followed up on the kids and

44:48

it was like the kids that took the

44:50

marshmallows right away didn't do as

44:52

well in life. They weren't as successful

44:54

as the kids who, so then

44:56

they correlated it to that being attributed

44:58

to success, a quality of successful

45:00

people, which is actually not true anymore.

45:02

I was just reading this book

45:04

this last week actually called A Hidden

45:06

Potential by Adam Grant and there

45:08

was actually a second study done that

45:10

there's more to it, like the

45:12

kids, like in their background,

45:14

if they were deprived of food, like

45:16

they just don't know when their next

45:18

meal's coming, they don't know. Or if

45:20

they're like in a home where promises

45:22

were made but then not kept. Like

45:24

they aren't trusting enough to believe they'll

45:27

actually get a second marshmallow or more

45:29

marshmallows if they don't take the marshmallow

45:31

right now. So then they think like,

45:33

oh, I'm gonna lose this one reward

45:35

if I don't take it and

45:37

I might not get the other reward. And

45:39

so there was more psychological aspects

45:41

to it than just like, can

45:43

you delay gratification? And so it

45:45

turns out, yeah, like everything, how

45:47

you were brought up or like

45:49

the socioeconomic backgrounds had a lot

45:52

to do with these other decisions

45:54

and whether or not you were

45:56

more successful in life. That's wild.

45:58

Yeah. I should

46:00

have done marshmallows, dude. I'm not a

46:02

marshmallow guy. I'm not a marshmallow guy. And

46:04

maybe that's because I had plenty full

46:07

marshmallows. If it was Sour Patch Kids,

46:09

I would have fucked it up. Yeah, for

46:11

sure. I picked that thing up immediately. I

46:13

liked marshmallows, but if you're like, I'll give you more

46:15

marshmallows if you wait. I'd be like, okay. Like my dad used

46:17

to do that. Yeah, you were cool like that. My dad used

46:20

to do that with money. Right. He's like, he taught me about

46:22

interest. You know, you loan me this $5 now, I'll pay you

46:24

back with interest. I'm like, okay. And then he paid me back

46:26

six bucks. And then I'm like, that's pretty sick. I made a

46:28

dollar and I didn't do anything. It's loaned a dollar. Yeah. Yeah.

46:30

And you know, the banks were supposed to do. My dad

46:32

was accountant. My dad was accountant. But yeah, my dad was

46:35

accountant. But yeah, my dad was accountant. But yeah, my dad

46:37

was accountant. But yeah, my dad was accountant. But yeah, my

46:39

dad was accountant. But yeah, my dad was accountant. But

46:41

yeah, was accountant. But yeah, my dad was accountant. But

46:43

yeah, my dad was accountant. But yeah, was accountant. But

46:45

yeah, my dad was accountant. Point being, yeah,

46:47

I don't think it's that hard to

46:49

not smoke to get a car, but

46:52

maybe it's just because of my background

46:54

that it promises were kept in my

46:56

house that I believe you, that if

46:59

you say that I, if I uphold

47:01

my end, that you'll uphold your end.

47:03

Yeah. Promises were kept in my

47:05

house as well. Yeah. So I think

47:07

maybe that's, it's easier for us

47:10

to say. So I don't know, I

47:12

mean, the fact that the mom even

47:14

hesitated to buy the car, like, I

47:16

don't know. Why would that be?

47:18

Probably because you can't believe

47:20

someone's calling your bluff.

47:23

Right, exactly. Because you're like,

47:25

ah, first two daughters screwed

47:28

up. Or you think that like, oh,

47:30

I should get the other daughters one

47:32

too, even though they fucked up?

47:34

Because that would be really fucked

47:36

up. That would be messed. If I

47:38

held up my end of the deal

47:40

and they didn't, and then they

47:43

still got their reward? Yeah. because

47:45

like I didn't smoke anything growing

47:47

up and stuff and my brother's

47:49

both dead so I'm whatever. Yeah but I

47:51

don't know like you were more you had

47:53

more of a path that you live on

47:55

it. That's true. I think that drive is

47:58

a big factor too. Like I always had

48:00

things I wanted to get done

48:02

like I had goals I like

48:04

there were things that I wanted

48:06

to accomplish and my friends that

48:08

smoked like didn't really have that they

48:10

didn't really care that's for and so

48:12

the only motive I had was to

48:15

be cool with my friends like do

48:17

it with them it was so I

48:19

tried it it's pretty sick I didn't

48:21

have like a car on the line

48:23

you know so I tried it I

48:26

tried it I tried it I don't

48:28

like it a part week yeah Well,

48:30

that's all the time we have for

48:32

today, everybody. We hope you all have

48:34

a good day. I hope that you

48:37

get the biggest diamonds because it means

48:39

that your partner loves you more

48:41

than people that give their

48:43

partners smaller diamonds. That's a fact.

48:45

By the way, you Google it. You

48:47

Google it. Google it. You Google it.

48:49

You Google it. Google it. You Google

48:52

it. You'll Google it. You'll Google it.

48:54

Love you. It. That much. Your partner

48:56

doesn't love you that much. It's a

48:58

fact. Couldn't have said

49:00

it any better myself. Yeah.

49:02

And with that, we'll see you guys on

49:05

the next one. Steve loves

49:07

me a medium amount. I love you

49:09

one point two carrots amount.

49:11

Hell yeah. And that's all I

49:13

wanted. See you guys. Bye.