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your family sick all the time? Mm,

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we can move on. Yeah. And

2:01

welcome back to the Shook It On Tell

2:03

You podcast. And my name is Stephen Paul

2:05

Green. And I'm Nikki Lemo. And can we

2:07

first acknowledge to the YouTube watchers what a

2:09

festive outfit I'm wearing. What's a

2:12

festive? Well, because it's the holidays now. And

2:14

you're just wearing green? That's it? It's

2:16

green with stars like the kind you put on top of Christmas

2:18

tree. Now we do

2:20

angels. Well, the star

2:22

of Bethlehem. Of

2:24

Bethlehem? It's Jesus' birthday. So. Okay. You

2:27

know, I don't know if you know

2:29

who that is. Yeah, I'm

2:31

a little bit familiar. Maybe you should. You know, when

2:33

my Uncle Bob died of AIDS, he lived in Bethlehem.

2:35

So. Oh, that's

2:37

fun fact. But it was Pennsylvania. I don't think

2:41

that was. But like, as a kid, you're like,

2:43

oh, Bethlehem. Whoa, Bethlehem. Yeah, I don't think the star is

2:45

over there. Let's go see your Uncle Bob. It's like, he

2:48

lives in Bethlehem. And it's like, oh, it's just Pennsylvania. That's

2:52

like the plot twist of the whole Bible is

2:54

that like, it was actually in Pennsylvania. It was

2:56

all Pennsylvania. Yeah. We all

2:58

know everything happened. I mean, they changed history. We'll get

3:01

into that conspiracy. Yeah, we'll get into that too hard.

3:03

Too hard. Yeah, they changed everything.

3:05

Everything you know is false. Everything

3:07

goes through Pennsylvania as we know. Well, there's

3:10

an underground railroad system. Rail

3:12

works. I like that better. All right.

3:16

Check this out today. Indeed. We

3:18

were talking about who is in fact the asshole. Steve. And

3:21

it's not me. I really don't appreciate what my wife says that

3:23

it hurts my feelings actually. It makes me feel really bad about myself.

3:27

But it's okay. I'm sorry. I know

3:29

it's part of the show. Well, you are an

3:31

asshole. So then that's so then we're going to

3:33

move right along. All right. Into the subject.

3:36

Maybe somebody else is an asshole too. That'd be cool. Okay.

3:39

You got buddies. That

3:41

would help me. Yeah. Any friends? Little

3:43

asshole buddies. Am I the asshole for

3:46

refusing to share a table in a crowded coffee

3:48

shop with another patron? Because

3:53

she smelled bad. Oh. Exactly.

3:56

No, it doesn't because I already hate sharing

3:58

tables. Okay. It actually just adds

4:00

to it. Got it. I,

4:03

22 female, was studying at a popular coffee shop

4:05

in my town, not the Bragg. Yeah.

4:08

It was crowded, but I was lucky enough to

4:10

get a two-person table with an outlet. I stayed

4:12

there for maybe three hours and ordered multiple items

4:14

throughout my stay. About an hour

4:16

into my stay, a girl about half, a girl about

4:18

my age who reeked of weed asked if she could

4:21

share my tables or she could study as well. I

4:23

looked around every other table and chair

4:26

was occupied and there were even people

4:28

standing besides the tables. It

4:30

was like being on a bus, I guess. I

4:33

absolutely despise the smell of weed. It

4:36

is legal in my state, so there's no issues there, but it

4:38

makes me nauseous, gives me a headache, so I

4:40

know there was no way I could get anything done

4:43

with that girl across from me. Without mentioning

4:45

her smell, I told her no, and I needed

4:47

my personal space. Instead of

4:49

walking away, she pressed and said that if I

4:51

wanted my personal space, I shouldn't study in the

4:53

most popular coffee shop in town. Personally,

4:56

agreed. I agree with that. I

4:59

highly agree. People that sit at a table for three hours.

5:02

In a coffee shop? In a coffee shop, like just go home. Go

5:04

home, brother. It

5:07

doesn't take three hours to drink a coffee. Thank you.

5:09

Well, she brought her to the laptop without outlet for

5:12

a reason, right? These people like to annoy

5:14

everyone. All right. So

5:16

it's the Aroma Cafe on Tohanga.

5:20

Exactly, exactly. Yeah.

5:23

I then told her that I specifically didn't want her

5:25

at my table because she smelled like a marijuana farm,

5:28

and she should take a shower. Okay,

5:31

you're not the asshole for the not wanting to share a

5:33

table part. Yeah, this is where you're an

5:35

asshole, bro. She should take a shower before

5:37

she tries to infringe on strangers'

5:40

personal space. I thought she

5:42

would go away after that, but she told me she

5:44

was sitting at my table whether I liked it or

5:46

not. She put her things down, maybe thinking I would

5:48

leave. Instead, I flagged down an employee and explained the

5:50

situation. She sat up with me and asked her to

5:53

go to leave, threatening to call security if she didn't do so. So

5:55

she must have smelled like crazy. Well, and like,

5:57

sounds aggressive. Yeah. but

6:00

our chick, that's

6:02

kind of a mean move a little bit. But

6:05

to deny that it just sit down

6:07

anyway, it was like an act

6:09

of aggression. But it is not your table. Yeah,

6:12

but let's say I was meeting a date there. That's

6:15

what I would say. I would lie out of my ass.

6:17

I would be like, I'm meeting a hinge

6:19

date. And they'd be like, is that a wedding ring? I'm like,

6:21

shh, shh, shh, shh. Don't

6:23

tell my hinge date. Yeah, don't tell my hinge date. Blow

6:25

my whole spot up. I forgot. And

6:28

then the hinge date never comes, and I'd be like,

6:30

damn, stood up again. Curses,

6:34

I have been stood up again. Again,

6:36

I have been followed by this dating

6:39

coil. By the time that happens, she's

6:41

already moved on and found a different

6:43

table. This lady just wanted to

6:45

shame her. OP just wanted to

6:48

shame her. I resumed my work, felt

6:50

shaken by the situation. Later that

6:52

evening, I recalled what happened to some of my friends. I thought

6:54

they would all agree that she was being an asshole, but to

6:56

my surprise, a couple of friends thought I was being a douchebag.

7:00

One of them is familiar with the coffee shop and told me that it

7:02

was rude of me to hog a table, even

7:04

though I had bought two drinks and a

7:06

pastry throughout my stay. Wow. Oh, this person

7:09

sucks, I'm out. Yeah. If you say that,

7:11

I'm out. It's too specific. It's too specific.

7:13

You're like, I am indeed not an asshole

7:16

because of the mathematical equation that I bought

7:18

two pastries, exactly, with two coffees and one

7:20

pastry at my stay. I had purchased

7:23

two drinks and a pastry throughout

7:25

my stay. You see, you see,

7:28

therefore, I am entitled to

7:30

a table for three hours. It wasn't an inn, bro, it

7:32

was a coffee shop. A fucking coffee shop. Yeah, and you're

7:35

monopolizing a whole table. I feel like it's belong to you.

7:37

Especially, why do you have to go to a crowded one?

7:40

Why don't I just go to a not crowded one then? That's

7:42

it. The little shitty one.

7:44

Literally, you just wanna be seen at that

7:46

coffee shop. Yeah, facts. This is what people

7:48

in LA do, drives me fucking nuts. Me

7:50

too. They wanna be seen at

7:52

these coffee shops because there's directors and producers

7:54

and stuff there, and I swear to God,

7:57

they're just not even working. They're looking around

7:59

the whole. By the way, if you

8:01

want to go to a place where you can plug in and

8:03

nobody cares Because you want to

8:05

work on your stuff library or go to Jamba

8:07

Juice, dude Blenders ain't

8:09

nobody in No,

8:13

fuck no you think it's No,

8:18

it's the specific sound I hate

8:21

the sound of blow dryers blenders

8:23

vacuum cleaners But fucking that sound

8:25

I will I could murder I

8:28

usually like when I order a smoothie sometimes like

8:30

we used to grab a place in Santa Barbara

8:32

called blenders It's still there not used to like

8:34

I just don't live there anymore, but it was

8:36

way better than Jamba Juice I still had to

8:39

leave the store like after ordering so that I

8:41

could like win wait for my smoothie because I

8:43

hate that Sounds so much noise canceling headphones Jamba

8:46

Pick any table you want naughty pick any table.

8:48

You are empty every time I'm in there. That's

8:51

cold in there, too So

8:57

This person's the asshole right McDonald's go

8:59

to McDonald's go to McDonald's now McDonald's

9:01

gets weird nobody goes in there anymore

9:04

Not the pen always empty and

9:06

they have like those separate places for like corporate

9:08

things We know like they have

9:10

like they try to make you have your corporate meeting

9:12

here Donald yeah,

9:15

you haven't seen that no. Yeah, they always

9:17

have these like watch go into McDonald's They

9:19

always have these like corporate sidebars now where

9:21

they like try to make it look officey.

9:23

That's amazing Yeah, it's it's funny

9:25

like they like have outlets and they want people

9:27

to work there They literally want people to work

9:29

there okay, because they're trying to compete with Starbucks

9:31

right with their Exactly

9:34

like literally like life hack. Yeah, go to

9:37

McDonald's otherwise you just want to be seen

9:40

They I think you keep it in

9:42

right cuz like nobody wants to go to McDonald's cuz

9:45

you're not gonna get seen yeah It's not cool. Yeah

9:48

Somebody might spill hot coffee all over you too I

9:50

will say that I used to go to Starbucks to

9:52

write scripts, but only because One

9:55

it was like a block away from my house

9:57

and two because I just got so distracted in

9:59

my house because of There's like lots of things.

10:01

I think that's what a lot of people go

10:03

through. Yeah, well, but I will say. Like, your

10:05

body will climb all over your alternative. But then

10:07

I lived in Hollywood and it was way more

10:09

distracting after a while because people would just start

10:11

trying to talk to you. Yeah. So then I

10:13

ended up going back home and studying there. Yeah.

10:15

But like I would never stay there for three

10:17

hours. It's so long. That's

10:19

why me and Mike did the conference room in his apartment place.

10:22

Yeah. Because it was like, we just want to be fucked off.

10:24

We don't want anyone bugging us. Don't bother

10:26

me. Yeah, don't bother me. All

10:28

right, check this out. There are apps

10:30

and YouTube videos that mimic being in

10:33

a coffee shop. Like if you need

10:35

that white noise in the background to

10:38

focus, like just like, not

10:40

like actual white noise, but like, you know,

10:42

like coffee, like restaurants, noises, like that kind

10:44

of stuff that, and I do think that

10:47

helps. Not bad. Yeah.

10:49

All right, so asshole. Yeah,

10:51

a little bit. A little bit. I mean,

10:55

only because of the way it was handled. I agree. Not

10:57

because of the reason. I agree. Am

11:00

I the asshole for defending

11:02

my husband's stair sitting habits?

11:06

Oh, I sit on the stairs. I know you

11:08

do. My parents came over to visit me and my

11:10

husband at our mid-sized house. Not to

11:12

brag, it's mid-sized. They're

11:14

great. It's a huge wux. They're

11:17

great most of the time, but my mother is

11:19

a bit of a perfectionist, or in fact, a

11:21

narcissist. I don't know how to explain it, but

11:23

she always tries to pick at something, no matter

11:25

how minute or inconsequential, so she can

11:27

show her. Her superior orty. I

11:30

meant people like that, yeah. Anyway, my husband

11:32

has this quirk where he likes to hang out

11:34

on the stairs. Sometimes

11:37

he's on the landing, sometimes the

11:39

top, sometimes the bottom. He'll

11:41

sit, lie down, or even drape himself in weird

11:43

positions. I do that. He's not hurting anyone. It's

11:46

just him. This is why I brought this one

11:48

up. Okay. It's his way

11:50

of chilling. I think this sounds familiar. Honestly, I

11:52

find it endearing. I oddly do too, because I

11:54

don't know any other way. I've

11:57

been with Lima for 11 years, almost 12. It's

11:59

just wherever my brain. Wayne decides to like load.

12:03

And like a lot of times it's on the stairs. I just

12:05

don't get it. My mother was not a

12:07

fan. She kept giving him side eyes and

12:09

finally said to them like, why is he sitting there?

12:11

He's not a child. He can sit in the living

12:13

room like an adult. I shrugged

12:15

and told her. Ew, I hate it. I shrugged and told her

12:17

it's our house. Yeah. He can sit however

12:19

and wherever he wants to. It's kind of a childish response but

12:21

I love it. No, it's

12:23

my house, my rules. No, I know but it's fun. It's just

12:25

funny to say that. No, fuck you. When it's

12:28

as low stakes as like, why is he sitting on

12:30

the stairs? He can sit wherever the hell he wants.

12:32

It's like, you should just explain. Like guy's kind of

12:34

weird. Like I think that would help people. You

12:36

know what I mean? That's why it's helping people. But

12:38

yeah, but chicks kind of fucking bizarre actually. Dude

12:41

recently, okay so you know how I was on the show

12:43

the big game last year? Yeah, yeah. And

12:45

they were auditioning new loose cannons. Like it was a poker

12:47

game show I was on. Yeah, on Fox. Yeah

12:49

and there was like, you get selected to be

12:52

a contestant and they had

12:54

auditions and I was at the poker room at

12:56

the time because there was like a series going

12:58

on that I was in. So

13:00

one of the auditionees, this guy was,

13:03

the floor was telling me that one of the auditionees was

13:05

like, I think I'm too weird to

13:07

get selected. I don't think they're gonna pick me because

13:09

I'm too weird. And the guy was like, have

13:12

you even met Nikki? She's

13:14

like so weird. Wait, who's that guy? The

13:16

floor. They actually know you then. Yeah.

13:19

Because most people don't know how weird you are. She's

13:21

so fucking weird. I felt so seen. Yeah,

13:23

most people don't know how weird you are and strange.

13:26

It's true. I am my full self

13:28

though, a poker. I realized. I

13:30

agree. I've said that. By the way, I said that

13:32

before you said that. That's true. Yeah,

13:35

so then it's our house, we can do

13:37

whatever we want, right? That's it, Ross. I do agree

13:39

with that sentiment. She started going on about how it's

13:41

weird and quote, not proper and how embarrassing it is

13:43

that he acts like this. Embarrassing? I

13:45

didn't budge. To who? A narcissist apparently.

13:47

Exactly. I wasn't about to tell my husband

13:50

where he can sit in his

13:52

own home. Things escalated eventually. She

13:54

stormed out in a full on hissy fit.

13:56

Saying she wouldn't quote be part of this

13:58

nonsense. She took the call. went to

14:00

a hotel in town, leaving my dad behind. That's

14:02

insane. Thing is she has no reason to go

14:04

upstairs, so it's not like my husband was disrupting

14:06

her. He's just using his phone.

14:09

Sometimes he reads books on the stairs too.

14:11

You do all this. I like

14:14

this guy. You do all this. The

14:16

only things upstairs are my husband's

14:18

office, our room, a small half-bathroom,

14:22

and that's it. My dad and I had a

14:24

great night catching up. He didn't care one bit about the stair

14:26

thing and laughed it off. Now I'm left wondering if I was

14:28

too harsh on my mom. I know she can be dramatic, but

14:30

maybe I shouldn't have tried to, maybe I

14:32

should have tried to smooth things over instead of digging my

14:35

heels in. I guess not traditional. I can't

14:37

find the right word for

14:39

that, but he's also my family too, and

14:41

it's our house. He can do whatever he wants. I

14:44

don't think she's an asshole, especially the dad laughed

14:46

it off. Like it sounds like the mom just

14:48

like throws these fits a lot. I'm

14:50

gonna actually come at this from

14:52

a different way. Wow. The boyfriend is

14:55

being an asshole here. The husband, first of all. Husband's being

14:57

an asshole here. Part of the family. Thank you. It's

15:00

his house. It's his house. He's being an asshole.

15:03

You know why? Why? Imagine like

15:05

your family's over, right? And they're like in

15:07

a particular place. And

15:09

then I'm in a particular other place, fucking

15:12

off on my phone. You're an asshole.

15:14

Okay, but that's not the reason she cited for being

15:17

an asshole. Well, it doesn't matter. Maybe that's like what

15:19

she picked on in order for her to express her

15:21

feelings. And she should have expressed that. I completely agree

15:23

with you, but I think that she just thought

15:25

it was weird enough that she could like use it as an

15:27

excuse to like, why isn't he hanging out with all of us?

15:30

And I think that that's what's up. I

15:33

think he's a dick for that. I think she's just finding something to

15:35

pick at. I'm just

15:37

saying like, unless you got to do work stuff

15:39

or whatever, if you're just like casually chilling on

15:41

the stairs and like- You have to decompress. The

15:43

family's in the den. Because talking to family is

15:45

draining. Well, right, but that's part of the game,

15:47

baby. I know, but what if he just need

15:50

decompressing for a little bit? Fair.

15:53

I don't know how long he was there, et cetera. She

15:55

sounds like a very energy drainer. Why is

15:57

the mom care that he's on? the stairs.

15:59

Exactly. He doesn't need to go upstairs to

16:01

his office. No, but how do you have

16:03

people like this? Have you ever met

16:06

people like this? What do you mean? That

16:08

are like this. That where they they pick

16:10

about everything. About like, like everything has to

16:12

be their way and like

16:14

in their mind like perfectly. Yes, of

16:17

course. But there is a, I think

16:19

the more profound thing that's

16:21

going on right now in the world is

16:24

that more people are just

16:26

not engaging in things

16:28

and like we're seeing to their phone when people are

16:30

around. That's true. And that's what I think is going

16:33

on here and she took it on the stairs. But

16:35

I think you're filling in a lot of context. That

16:37

wasn't there. Probably am. We all, we kind of have

16:39

to here. Yeah. But I'm just saying like, I think

16:41

that it was rude of him to do the stairs

16:43

thing and that's really what the

16:46

mom is not able to communicate effectively.

16:48

I really think that. Okay. I disagree.

16:50

I think you're wrong. I think you're

16:52

a bitch. The OP even said she's

16:54

kind of narcissistic and perfectionistic. It's

16:57

like, that's like some context that's actually in

16:59

the prompt. What if you're just

17:01

a bitch? I am. Okay. So fuck

17:05

you. Fuck you. Okay, great. Glad

17:08

we came to an agreement. Yeah, me too. I think

17:10

we both agree on that one. I

17:14

think if she directly addressed the husband, then

17:16

things would be different maybe. Oh, that's interesting.

17:18

Yeah, I agree with that. Like she's kind

17:20

of like treating him like a kid, but

17:22

yeah, you're right. He is. Yeah. What's

17:25

the stairs thing for you? Explain. I

17:27

don't know. My brain just like starts either

17:30

working or not working on the stairs.

17:32

Like, I mean, I sit everywhere. Like,

17:34

so basically like I just am everywhere,

17:37

but sometimes I come to

17:39

on the stairs. Like,

17:42

I don't know. Like if I have an idea in

17:44

my head and I'm playing it out, I can't like

17:46

continue moving. I just have to sit

17:48

down and like let it play out in my

17:50

head. And then like, sometimes I write it down.

17:52

Sometimes I am procrastinating. I got to check an

17:54

email. I don't know. But

17:58

like, usually it's just like I'm, I'm I'm trying to

18:00

process a lot of thoughts and

18:03

I'm just stalled on the stairs. Not

18:06

like I'm picking the stairs because it's my favorite

18:08

spot. Yeah, just where you ended up. Yeah, and

18:10

I just installed there. And then I just, I

18:13

kind of just like get comfortable wherever I plop.

18:16

Like it's not even a favorite thing.

18:18

Like I could literally sit anywhere

18:20

that my brain decides to shut down. And

18:22

then- Well, and because you got a Dr. Scholz for an ass. Yeah,

18:24

and then I just- So you just sit that, you plop down

18:26

and you're comfortable. And then I just get kind of comfortable I

18:28

don't really want to move. I don't

18:31

like transitioning either. Like transitioning through, like from now

18:33

I have to go from this spot to a

18:35

whole new spot and get used to that spot.

18:37

That's fair. Like, so through this

18:39

guy, like, so I'm picturing being

18:41

him on the stairs in that zone. And the mom

18:43

being like, he could go sit in the living room

18:45

like an adult. Well, it's like

18:47

not just sitting in the living room. It's like, it's

18:50

like a transition to, it's why I sit in the

18:52

car when I, after I park in the garage and

18:54

I sit in the car for like an hour. Cause

18:56

it's like, sometimes I just have to like- Decompress.

18:59

Rev myself up to transition. I

19:02

don't know what it is, but it's an actual processing

19:04

thing that I didn't know was like a common thing

19:07

that people had until I

19:09

got diagnosed with ADHD. And

19:12

like, that's an actual, I think

19:14

it's called executive dysfunction. But

19:17

it's something to do with like transitioning

19:19

between like rooms or places

19:22

or like events or

19:24

whatever but that it just takes a

19:26

little bit more loading time. It's

19:28

funny the things that we discover when we're not

19:30

being chased by like a pterodactyl or something. Yeah.

19:33

It's like, oh, this is how people maybe are

19:35

actually, but we didn't know that because it was

19:37

so primal before. Right. Yeah.

19:40

Yeah, well, and also like, I think that, and I don't

19:43

know what exactly the purpose is, but

19:45

I think that we're all built with

19:47

different ways of thinking for

19:49

a reason, you know? Like it, we're

19:52

all meant to be different pieces of

19:54

the puzzle. And I think

19:56

that society tends to cater to like

19:58

one way of thinking. or processing

20:00

things, because a lot of people

20:02

don't have trouble with transitioning, so you're weird

20:04

now if you take too long. But all

20:07

my life I've been forced to transition quickly

20:09

and it was so uncomfortable and it's like,

20:13

I wouldn't say it hurts, but it's hard. It's

20:17

just really hard and it's so much harder

20:19

than other people for

20:21

whatever reason. You're part of why I

20:23

think we're actually in a simulation because

20:25

for you there's loading zones. Yeah. Right?

20:29

It hasn't rendered for me yet. You convert the

20:31

casino to our home and then you load, there's

20:33

a loading zone in the garage for sometimes 35

20:35

minutes. Yeah, it's like

20:37

I got comfortable in the car

20:40

seat. And I just, going into

20:42

a new space, it's like a

20:44

lot, I know that there's just

20:47

new things there. I have to

20:50

put down my keys and take off my

20:52

shoes and talk to you probably and see,

20:55

the cat will probably come out. There's just a lot

20:58

of stimuli that are gonna

21:00

happen in this new transition. So

21:02

I have to clear out the

21:04

old space and go to

21:06

the new one. And

21:08

sometimes I'm just not ready. I know. I'm not ready

21:11

for it. When you're going from here to the casino,

21:13

do you ever do that? Or is it because you're

21:15

on time because you can't? No,

21:19

because there's something I'm going to, there's a purpose I'm going

21:21

to. Yeah, there's a reason you're going there. But I will

21:23

say once I sit down at the poker table, even

21:26

after I'm tired, and I definitely

21:29

should go home, I just don't

21:31

feel like getting up. It's

21:33

less about if it's positive EV or if

21:36

I'm making money or whatever. It's more just,

21:38

I just really don't feel like getting up.

21:41

It's that transition. It's like, okay, then I got to

21:43

cash out, then I got to go to the car,

21:46

I got to put the seatbelt on. Loading zones. Yeah,

21:48

it's the loading zone. So I just stall a little

21:50

bit, trying to like, okay, I

21:52

can set little set points where it's like, okay,

21:54

when I get to the blinds,

21:56

I'll go. So like, I'll play

21:58

this many hands and then I'll go. And

22:00

then I have some buffering where I can

22:03

kind of get my mind ready

22:05

to leave. And same

22:07

thing for the stairs, it's like, okay, let's

22:09

say it's like 120. I'll be

22:11

like, okay, at 130, I'll

22:13

get up. Or whatever. Or

22:15

like, I'm going to watch this seven minute video and then at the end

22:18

of this video, I'll get up. But then

22:20

my brain kind of just knows that that's the

22:22

next thing that's going to happen and I don't

22:24

know, it's so weird to explain

22:26

because for the longest time, I just didn't talk

22:28

about it because it was so different.

22:30

But it's an actual thing and that

22:32

gave me so much, it made

22:35

me feel less broken to know that other

22:37

people go through the same thing because

22:41

it's been a struggle for years. And

22:43

then knowing that I just process things

22:45

differently and like, oh, your brain just

22:47

needs to know when to go. Then

22:50

I found my solutions for it. I love

22:52

that. But yeah, if I sat on the stairs

22:54

and you're like, don't sit on the stairs,

22:56

get up, I'd be so fucking pissed all the

22:58

time. That's not me. I know, but I

23:00

could never live with someone like that. And

23:04

then having the mom come over and tell me to

23:06

like, move when I'm in my

23:08

house. Like imagine one of

23:10

our parents tells you to move. No,

23:13

but they wouldn't do that. I know they wouldn't. That's

23:15

what I'm saying. Imagine they did and then they

23:17

threw a fit and went to a hotel. No, yeah.

23:20

That's crazy. But I do think too

23:22

that it's all about how you build

23:25

your relationships with people because like there's

23:28

a base over respect that I demand

23:30

in relationships. And I think that that's

23:32

been established already. And the fact

23:34

that we don't know what time he was doing it. We don't know

23:36

if it was like in the morning between like six and 10 a.m.

23:40

Best practices here, right? So like, like best practices

23:42

wise, like I just think that, you

23:44

know, I don't think someone would be

23:47

comfortable to tell me what to do. Yeah, I

23:49

think you're like tunneling in on something that we

23:51

don't know if is there or not. So

23:53

if that is like, is he just Mr. Aloof

23:55

pants is what I'm saying. Like is he on

23:58

the stairs and like oblivious to what the conversation

24:00

is happening? about how he's on the stairs and

24:02

it's this big controversy. I don't

24:04

know about that. I'm just saying

24:07

I don't think anyone would do that to me

24:09

because I have set good

24:12

standards with my family. That's all I mean.

24:15

Yeah, I don't know. I mean, in

24:17

your world where he's ignoring everyone, sure, then

24:19

he could be the asshole. But

24:23

I'm just coming from what's given, which is

24:25

that the mom is nitpicking everything and has

24:27

a history of just nitpicking everything. But

24:29

then in this story, all we've heard about

24:31

is how mom comes in, sees him on

24:34

stairs, nitpick, nitpick, nitpick. He's apparently

24:36

not even in the story. He's just on the stairs

24:38

still. So like she even leaves and goes to the

24:40

hotel. He's still on the stairs for all we know.

24:43

That's all I'm saying is like, I think there's a part

24:45

of him that's just too disengaged. That doesn't

24:47

make sense to me. Could be, I don't know.

24:49

Just trying to be fair about it. I

24:52

don't know. I've met people that are like

24:54

this and like that would drive me nuts. Yeah, I

24:56

get it. Yeah. Anyway,

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29:00

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Shout out to

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29:27

so much for coming back. What? That's

29:31

what I tell people. When people

29:33

go to the bathroom in our house, I'm like, oh, thank you so much for coming back.

29:35

Oh yeah. Like, yeah, it's nice of them

29:38

to do that. It's so nice of them to

29:40

come back. So check this out. Am

29:42

I the asshole for... am I the asshole?

29:45

Spilled water in our only can of

29:47

formula. Oh. Yeah.

29:51

I feel like I'm going insane here. I just need an outside

29:53

opinion on this. My husband, 33,

29:55

mails spilled water in our only can of formula

29:57

that we have right now and didn't tell me.

30:00

I found out when we opened the can over an hour

30:02

later and there was a bunch of goopy mud like formula

30:04

inside He didn't flood the can

30:07

but it wasn't just a few drops of water either

30:09

When I found out I wanted to tell him that I

30:12

needed to go get a new can because the old can

30:14

is essentially no longer Safe to use he got angry and

30:16

said it was stupid and we could still use the parts

30:18

of the can that are still dry I

30:21

reiterated that I didn't think it was safe any longer

30:23

and he said again. It was stupid I'm

30:26

just going to waste a bunch of money for no

30:28

reason and my the ass over thinking the

30:30

can needs to be replaced I

30:32

don't know about any of this. I don't get

30:34

I don't understand. She's saying it's spoiled You know

30:36

I understand I get that but I don't know

30:39

anything about formula So I have no idea who's

30:41

right. We don't need to know about it. Let's

30:43

just judge these people. Okay to the fullest extent

30:45

Well, I like to know who's right so I

30:47

could defend that person. That's not really how I

30:50

do things, babe I see I try to judge

30:52

people off with everything I have I'm

30:54

taking the girl side. Oh why you're just doing

30:57

the female versus male thing. Yeah I'm

31:00

like oh, I can't find this thing and I go

31:02

buy a new one and if you were like don't

31:04

buy a new one I'd be like get

31:07

fucked You

31:09

would too yeah Look,

31:11

I don't know anything about formula, but I will say

31:13

this Every time

31:15

someone somebody says oh that's expired guess what the

31:17

green family said We'll

31:19

rise above we're better than that

31:22

we don't have to accept that your stupid

31:24

artificial terms There's a book I read one

31:26

time where they talk about like not taking

31:28

advice from people whose life you wouldn't want

31:30

to be like And

31:32

you're talking about the people who are judging. I'm just saying

31:35

that I read a book You're talking about that talking about

31:37

no, I'm talking about Look,

31:39

I'm judging the greens. I'm talking about

31:41

a book. I read and like I Just

31:45

I don't know if I would be a person that eats expired food

31:49

I still want to I don't know if I want that life You

31:52

obviously got a small I

31:54

don't want to be part of you gotta do taste test

31:57

And you do what we

31:59

call the three spoon test

32:01

eat spoonfuls. I don't want

32:03

it. You've never done a three spoon test. Well that's

32:06

why you don't get it. Isn't your

32:08

family sick all the time? We

32:10

can move on. This

32:15

one just was funny to me because the husband's

32:17

like we could go around it. To me that's

32:20

so funny. Like she's like this is goopy

32:22

this. He's like babe we'll go around

32:24

it. Dig around it. That's

32:26

such a guy versus girl thing. We do do

32:28

that shit. It's so fucking weird how our brains

32:30

work but we're like I don't know just

32:32

like cut around it. Who cares. So

32:35

fucking dope. Because remember when my dad like

32:37

it was like Thanksgiving like a couple years

32:40

back right and my dad accidentally drops like.

32:42

Oh I heard about this but I wasn't there. You weren't there

32:44

yeah he drops this glass dish with

32:47

like basically the ham or whatever

32:50

and like it goes everywhere and then like my

32:53

family is so fucking white trash

32:55

and and shit about that

32:57

stuff and I love my family but we're

32:59

white trash people. We spent so much

33:01

time on this. There's a sun cost fallacy involved.

33:04

Everyone bought the food all the stuff. So

33:06

now it's like maybe there's glass shards in here but maybe we can

33:08

pick around it and I'm like I

33:11

immediately was like yeah we're not gonna do that. I'm

33:13

gonna go get Chinese food right now. You know what

33:15

I mean like but like the fact that that was

33:17

even like everyone's like there's like a limbo like buffer

33:19

moment of like like nine

33:21

minutes of like you know what may you

33:24

know I could oh I could kind of see where maybe it

33:26

fell like we're you

33:28

know like a CSI. Yeah you

33:30

know no no I'm just gonna get Chinese

33:32

food. What are we talking about? Nobody's eating

33:34

glass tonight. It's Thanksgiving. Yeah no

33:37

that's I don't know I switch off

33:39

because like I'm definitely the person that does the

33:41

five second rule. Yeah

33:43

five second rule with the shattered hole. But

33:46

now yeah when glass

33:48

is involved. But

33:50

yeah also the formula thing I'm not drinking

33:52

the formula so like I put more care

33:54

into like if it's someone else

33:56

then I'll make sure they have the best thing. But

33:58

it's for me like I'm gonna I'm kind of

34:00

trash. Like I'll just. Oh, you're totally trash. I'll kind

34:02

of, if it's for me, but for my baby, I

34:04

don't know. My baby's getting the best. Yeah. Going back

34:06

to the store, I'm with the chick. Yeah. Yeah.

34:09

I agree with that. I like that. Thank

34:12

you. All right, check this out. Am I

34:14

the asshole for stealing a stray cat? There's

34:17

no such, this is a false premise. Oh,

34:19

oh really? Are you sure? I

34:21

know what it's gonna say. What's it gonna

34:24

say? It's gonna say, I took

34:26

a stray into my home and I posted

34:28

about it. My friends were all like, that

34:31

could be somebody's cat. And it's clearly

34:33

not somebody's cat, but like now everyone's

34:35

saying that I stole someone's cat. Get

34:39

this. You're wrong. Damn

34:41

it, that just happened to me though. I know it did. That's

34:44

why I brought this one up. Oh, okay. That's why I

34:46

picked this one. You wanna explain to people? Not

34:48

to me, but okay. So we were at a

34:50

poker stop in Kansas city and my friend had

34:53

just said she wanted to adopt a cat, but

34:55

didn't know where to go. To get one I

34:57

was like, and I said, you don't adopt cats,

34:59

they find you. The universe, the cat distribution system,

35:01

they'll find you. And so then

35:03

we ended up going to Kansas city and we're

35:05

at this poker stop and there's a kitten that

35:08

just comes up to us. It's like so sweet

35:10

and it's been living outside and it's been living

35:12

there. Like all week people have been talking about

35:14

this kitten. That's just randomly like outside the casino.

35:17

And so it's a stray cat for sure.

35:19

Like it's not someone's cat. And

35:22

by the way, you can check to get microchipped and

35:24

she did, but she posted about it and we saved

35:26

it from this like tornado that came in. So we

35:28

brought it inside just in time. Like she got all

35:30

this stuff and she's like, I can't believe this cat

35:33

found me and like wouldn't leave us and blah, blah,

35:35

blah. And you called it? Yeah, exactly. I

35:37

was like, that's the cat distribution system. It's

35:39

true, it's a real thing. So then she

35:42

posts about it on social media and people were like,

35:45

way to steal someone's cat. Oh,

35:47

way to steal someone's cat? Like this

35:49

fucking cat first of all, this cat

35:52

has been like begging people for food

35:54

all week. It's still someone's

35:56

cat, Nikki. Yeah, and it's like, well,

35:58

the owner doesn't care much This cat

36:00

will go up to anyone. Maybe they have a plant-based diet.

36:02

So, and there's a

36:04

tornado. Yeah. And then

36:07

we took it to test for microchipping. So

36:09

the previous owners didn't care too much about it. If

36:11

it was someone else's cat. Anyway,

36:15

go ahead. No, so check this out. What happened? This

36:17

is why you're so wrong and you're full shit and

36:19

everyone's gonna say, oh wow, Nikki Lima,

36:21

wow, what an idiot. That's

36:23

what I'm gonna say. Emily has a first

36:25

feeling straight cat. I, 25 male, my husband,

36:28

28 male, I believe

36:30

they're in a homosexual relationship. Oh,

36:33

it's a male and male? Yeah, yeah. Okay.

36:35

We're in our backyard on Saturday. We, when

36:37

we saw a stray cat in the yard,

36:39

we usually shooed them away because they stress

36:41

out our indoor only cat and eat the

36:43

birds that come to our bird feeders. So

36:45

my husband yelled, hey, shooed at the cat.

36:47

Instead of running away, the cat came running

36:49

up to him immediately, meowing a lot. We're

36:51

like, oh, I wonder if this is the

36:53

neighbor's cat or something, because he's

36:55

like being nice to humans. Yeah. And

36:57

then I noticed he was really skinny. Definitely not

37:00

neutered. And he had a small injury on one

37:02

foot. If he was a pet, he

37:04

definitely wasn't being taken care of. We

37:06

thought maybe he was lost or escaped pet at

37:08

first. So we caught him, brought him inside to

37:10

set him up, quarantined him from our cat with

37:12

a litter box and food and water, best practices.

37:15

Nice. Humane Society's closed on weekends,

37:17

so we plan to call them on Monday. In

37:19

the meantime. These people know how to treat cats.

37:21

They do, they actually do. They're really smart. Good

37:23

counters, yeah. In the meantime, put his image up

37:26

in our local lost pets Facebook page with our

37:28

email address. Today we got an email. Here's

37:31

the exact text of the email. "'Hi,

37:33

will you please let Bongo out "'so

37:36

he can come back towards home? "'He is a

37:38

feral cat, but he is loved in his neighborhood.

37:40

"'He comes to my place all the time "'and

37:43

he stays here at night, "'then leaves and comes

37:45

back later, Laura.'" That's a fake

37:47

name, apparently, who they wanted us to know it's a fake name.

37:49

Okay. Laura and her

37:51

sister, who we'll call Sarah, also respond to our

37:53

Facebook post about a dozen times saying to let

37:55

the cat go and asking if we got their

37:57

email. This gave us

37:59

a dilemma. because the cat's not her

38:01

cat, right? It's a neighborhood stray that

38:03

they're feeding. He's not neutered, he's

38:06

not getting medical care. We can't just let

38:08

an unvaccinated cat back on the streets. That's

38:10

true. Because some people would say he's

38:12

not wandering around. Some people would

38:14

be sad he's not wandering around in the road. There's

38:17

coyotes in our neighborhood. It's cold at night. He can

38:19

get by a car. Preach,

38:21

preach. We responded

38:23

on the Facebook post with, yeah, hi, yes, yeah,

38:25

we did get your email. And your email, you

38:28

said he's a neighborhood feral. So he

38:30

does not have an owner or any regular medical care.

38:32

His back foot is injured. He seems to have some

38:34

kind of parasite, and he's not fixed.

38:37

He's a fantastic indoor cat, and

38:39

wonderfully suited for adoption. So we're going to

38:41

take him by the Humane Society to get

38:43

veterinary care, a microchip, and ideally a permanent

38:45

owner. Good for these people. I love them.

38:48

Legit. Love them. It was

38:50

responded to with an absolute explosion.

38:52

What? Laura and Sarah are now.

38:54

These people are crazy. Laura and Sarah are now spamming

38:56

the Facebook post threatening to dox us. And call the

38:59

police on us to show up at our house if

39:01

we don't let their cat go. Their

39:03

cat. I feel like

39:05

we're probably ethically in the right here, but it's

39:07

extremely stressful and upsetting. If it

39:09

was their cat, I'd never dream of not

39:11

returning him, but he's not their cat. They're

39:14

not taking care of him. They're not doing

39:16

anything for him. They're changing the

39:18

story now to claim he's an indoor

39:20

slash outdoor cat. But if

39:22

that's the case, why did they email me saying

39:24

he's feral? And why the asshole for

39:26

stealing the cat? They're not doing a good job

39:28

of taking care of him then. Legit,

39:30

man. Yeah, I think that

39:33

ethically they're doing the right thing. It sucks that they

39:35

have to put up with that. I

39:37

mean, I

39:39

go, if it's not microchipped, then

39:43

it's a stray. Because

39:45

when you adopt a cat, most

39:48

adoption places will have you had them

39:50

neutered, get

39:53

their shots, get vaccinated, all that stuff,

39:55

and get the microchipped. For

39:57

this reason, because they don't want them to.

40:00

that be creating a lot of new homeless

40:02

cats on the street by

40:05

not being neutered. And then they

40:08

don't want to spread diseases. And so. It

40:12

helps them not repeat information too. Because

40:14

oftentimes cats get out again, and then

40:16

they're already microchipped, and they already know,

40:18

oh, this cat was fixed too. Exactly.

40:20

So no chip, it's not someone's cat.

40:22

I agree. When

40:24

we were fostering kittens, did

40:27

they microchip them before we left? Before they left

40:30

their house? They did, right? Yes. Every

40:32

single one of them. Even the kittens. I have all of their microchip numbers

40:34

too, because I had to log them in on a, I

40:36

worked for kitten rescue. And so, yeah,

40:40

it's mandatory. Like

40:42

with a rescue agency, if they're doing

40:44

things properly, like you don't want to

40:46

adopt a kitten out without all this

40:48

stuff. Because it's just terrible

40:51

to the circumstances that could happen

40:53

from not doing this stuff is like creating more

40:55

of the problem. So we try to stop it

40:57

at the root, which

41:00

is that one, don't let your cats outside.

41:02

They should be indoors. Yeah, people are like,

41:04

oh, that's so cruel. No, it's not, because

41:06

there's predators out there and stuff and diseases.

41:09

There's owls and shit. There's diseases, predators. There's

41:11

all kinds of poisonous mushrooms and shit. And

41:13

basically cats are like toddlers, and they've been

41:15

too domesticated. So either you're a wild feral

41:18

cat, or you're an indoor cat. There's no,

41:20

like, there's no half and half. I

41:22

agree. And this, by the way, I had a half

41:24

and half cat growing up. Me too, and they all

41:26

died. Where my cats went outside. Yes, exactly. Of coyotes.

41:29

Well, my cat didn't die, but it just, I didn't

41:32

realize how bad it is to

41:34

do that until I started working with rescue agencies.

41:37

But anyway, so yeah,

41:39

these Sarah and Laura, they

41:42

can get wrecked. They're not

41:44

proper cat owners. I hope they do

41:46

get wrecked. I hope they get wrecked too. Also,

41:49

if you doxx me, I'm doxxing you, bro. You're a neighbor.

41:52

I know where Hood you live in. Oh yeah, brother. And

41:55

I know your email. Yep. Get

41:57

ready to be signed up on, like, Justin Bieber.

41:59

or whatever I want to do. Oh

42:02

yeah. I'm gonna tell you live in

42:04

a swing state, dude. Yeah,

42:08

exactly. All

42:10

right, last one, but

42:12

not least one. Thanksgiving theme,

42:14

you know what I mean? Credit to me. Emily

42:17

asked over time, my family, I won't be spending

42:19

all Thanksgiving weekend with them. I,

42:21

28 female and boyfriend, 28 male, have been dating for a

42:23

little over a year and a half. Last

42:25

year we didn't go to each other's Christmases

42:27

or Thanksgiving celebrations because we hadn't been dating

42:29

long and didn't want to rush anything. With

42:31

that being said, for the past four years,

42:33

my family and I have been doing a

42:36

Thanksgiving weekend, spending Wednesday night through Sunday morning

42:38

together. My older brother and his wife

42:40

live nine hours away from us, a

42:42

choice they made as they bought their home back in January,

42:45

and we were so happy for them. And

42:47

her parents live in the same city, so we understand

42:49

her not wanting to be close to them. Anyway,

42:53

we would do Thanksgiving on Thursday, Black Friday shopping

42:55

on Friday, and then Saturday my older

42:57

brother would go and spend time with his buddy, usually most

42:59

of the day, while his wife, my mom and I would

43:01

hang out at home. This year my

43:03

boyfriend and I have chosen to try to

43:06

make it to everyone's holiday celebrations. His parents

43:08

are divorced, so he has two on

43:10

his side versus the one on my side.

43:12

So we made the decision to

43:15

go to my family on Thursday, and then Friday, Saturday we'd spend

43:17

it with his side of the family. Well,

43:20

I told my mom the plan, and she about freaked.

43:23

She said things like, your brother has to work

43:25

on Friday. Who's gonna stay with his

43:28

wife, right? So

43:30

you're only spending one day with us, et

43:32

cetera. I stuck my ground. I told her

43:34

our plan was one we both

43:36

felt comfortable with. As a courtesy,

43:38

I made a group chat with my older brother and

43:41

sister-in-law in order to tell them our plans,

43:43

so there was no surprises. My

43:46

older brother said, why can't you hang out with us

43:48

Thursday, Friday, and with them Saturday, Sunday? I

43:51

told him that's not what we agreed on. He

43:53

then proceeds to say, I'm not happy about it

43:55

either, since the whole point is to go up

43:57

there and spend time with my immediate family. understood,

44:00

but this is the only way we could get to

44:02

everyone. He said it was unfair for

44:04

them to drive two days to be here and

44:06

only see me for one day and

44:09

have a half ass commitment from me. He

44:12

tried to throw the fact that we see my

44:14

boyfriend's mom multiple times a year and we only

44:16

see them maybe twice. I

44:18

told him it's their choice to live

44:20

several hours away and it's not my responsibility to

44:23

accommodate them. We're going to drive to

44:25

see them in July. We

44:27

spent almost a whole week with them. I

44:29

even suggested we spend Thursday, Friday with my boyfriend's

44:32

family, Saturday, Sunday with my family. My brother said

44:34

no, cause we leave on Sunday. His

44:36

wife turned in and said that me

44:38

saying it's their choice to live far away

44:40

is not my responsibility to accommodate too. And

44:43

it hurt their feelings. I apologize. It

44:45

was never my attention to hurt their feelings, but it doesn't

44:47

negate the fact that it was true. This

44:52

sounds like they're not used to when

44:55

the tradition changes. Exactly. That's all it

44:57

is. And that's really what I wanted to get to. No,

45:00

also like, yeah. So you, it

45:02

is their choice. Like they, they

45:04

moved nine hours away. If

45:06

they like the OP is telling them

45:08

I'm only going to be there for,

45:10

and by the way, they, the OP

45:13

gave them actual Thanksgiving, actual transparency, full

45:15

transparency and actual Thanksgiving. Okay.

45:17

And then so then it's your choice.

45:19

If you want to drive that far

45:21

to spend time or not, like it's

45:24

your choice. Like, okay, so deal with

45:26

it. Like they

45:29

don't have to stay there. They don't even have to come.

45:31

Look, I remember when like,

45:33

you know, my sister started to go

45:36

to like the in-laws places and stuff

45:38

like that before I got with you

45:41

and like, it was like a little bit like weird cause she's

45:43

like, Oh yeah, she's here, but then she's got to go to

45:45

the other thing. I remember when my cousin started getting hitched

45:47

and like having to do that too. And like,

45:49

it went from everybody stays the whole time at

45:51

Thanksgiving to like half the people like leave to

45:53

go to their other family or sometimes they don't

45:56

even show up at all. Yeah, but we're

45:58

used to that part of it. Yeah. on

48:00

this chick then. Also, why am I married to your

48:02

wife now? I know, man. I'm not married to her.

48:04

I know. Why do I gotta hang

48:06

out with her? Hopefully I like her, but yeah. I

48:08

mean, it sounds like she does. It doesn't sound like

48:11

they don't like each other, but that's not the point.

48:13

The point is you don't get to dictate my schedule

48:15

because you get the freedom to

48:17

choose your schedule. You're gonna go

48:19

play with your buddy. Like, okay,

48:22

well that's cool. Well now, if your wife is

48:24

alone with our parents, that's not my fault. Exactly.

48:27

Like, either she can go with you or stay with the

48:29

parents. I don't care. It's not like, now I have a

48:31

life with my boyfriend and we're going to see his family.

48:34

So like, it's not fair. Saying it's

48:36

unfair to them is so stupid. But

48:40

it's an adjustment period because I

48:42

remember these feelings in a very

48:45

real way where it's like, ah man,

48:47

the tradition is being changed, but it turns

48:49

into something else. But they changed it first.

48:51

Yeah, true. Like, it sounds

48:53

like the older brothers are the older brothers

48:55

that moved first. So, got

48:57

married. And like you said, what

49:00

we're used to now is just like, we

49:02

see basically everybody for half a day on

49:05

both Christmas and Thanksgiving. Well this

49:07

year, since your family moved, I

49:10

guess we'll be with my family like... The

49:12

whole time, yeah. Yeah, all the whole time for Christmas. So

49:15

that's cool. But

49:18

maybe we should just drive

49:21

back a little early to mistrap it

49:23

too. I'm kidding. That

49:26

has been sick though. No,

49:30

we should leave for traffic for sure. For traffic,

49:32

right? You know what I mean? No, I wish

49:35

we could stay. Man, but

49:37

we're gonna be slamming traffic. But

49:39

the traffic, you live in Vegas,

49:41

it's a hot destination spot. So

49:44

it'll be seven hours versus like two and a half or

49:46

three. Yeah, you get it. You know how it is. You

49:48

get it. No, because we always go to

49:50

Long Beach. Everybody's the best, right? And

49:52

then we usually go to San Diego, but my parents now

49:54

live in New York City, which is like crazy. They

49:57

live in Long Island. They live outside of New York.

50:00

They live in New York City, Long Island, dude.

50:02

Go tell a fucking Jersey Shore guy,

50:05

hey, it's Long Island, New York City. They'll

50:07

suck you up. I thought they lived in like Buffalo or

50:09

something. No, they lived in Long Island. Yeah, you're chilling

50:11

out. You need to chill. You don't know shit about

50:13

New York. I

50:16

didn't realize I was talking a bit New York over here. Yeah,

50:18

well, now I am. My parents live there. OK?

50:21

OK. Yeah. So no, so that the tradition will

50:23

be different this year. This is specifically why I

50:25

chose this one. But but so

50:28

far from being discouraging, it's more like, OK,

50:30

well, now we get to do something else. Yeah. Well,

50:33

yeah. And my grandma is not alive

50:35

anymore. Well, that too. Well, there's no

50:37

like second place for anybody. Neither is mine.

50:40

And neither is the Sweeney's Lake where they

50:42

used to go. Everyone's

50:44

past now. Oh, right. We

50:47

know all of us have nowhere else to go. I forgot the

50:49

old birth kick. There's no second place for anyone

50:51

anymore. Right. Yeah. You

50:53

did hold on the longest. Congrats to you. Thank you.

50:55

It was a last longer. I

50:58

mean, honestly, credit to you. You know, in poker,

51:00

sometimes we make side bets on who can like stay

51:02

in the tournament longer. Like

51:04

there's like a side bet. I wish I picked your

51:06

grandma, not mine. Yeah, I would have lost my ass

51:08

on my grandma. Close. Now it was like a few

51:10

months. If I picked the Sweeney grandma, that would

51:13

have been worse. But if I picked my grandma, I would

51:15

have lost my ass. Yeah, your grandma was the one to

51:17

pick for sure. Yeah. The

51:19

thoroughbred. Yeah. Well, it's the Asian

51:21

jeans. No doubt. Yeah, for sure.

51:23

For sure. But like it

51:25

was like five months longer. I mean,

51:27

it was longer, but a dub is a dub. I think she

51:30

was waiting for your grandma so that she could win. A

51:34

dub is a dub is a dub. That was

51:36

a dub to this day. I will never forget

51:38

when my grandma passes away. Nicky's

51:41

like, my grandma lasted longer than your grandma.

51:43

That was when I said, guess I'm the

51:45

only one left with a grandma. It was

51:47

the best. Like you guys have

51:49

no idea when people get so but heard about

51:51

ball busting and stuff like that, because like we

51:53

all ball bust and stuff. And people like, oh,

51:55

I can't believe they said that. So messed up.

51:57

I'm like, dude, that was like one of the best

51:59

things ever. Like that was like the

52:01

most how we deal with grief tension relieving

52:04

grief. Yeah pressure relieving move. Yeah, exactly It's

52:06

so funny, but you're the best those so

52:08

funny I know I called I called

52:11

Steve like a dumbass or

52:13

something on Twitter and like he called me

52:15

a bitch and people like oh This relationship.

52:17

Yeah Yeah,

52:20

these guys are really killing it brother I'm

52:25

like, yeah, that's on Twitter, bro. You should hear what

52:27

we call each other in the house. Give me a

52:29

break, bro You

52:31

wish you were imagine the serious lives these

52:33

people can't I can't I

52:35

can't even even me neither I can't even

52:37

even I can't even even yeah, I can't

52:39

even so much. It's odd. I'm saying All

52:44

right, bitch, we're done all right asshole All

52:47

right, we'll see you guys in the next one. We love you guys You