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3:57

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3:59

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guys, I had bought

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takes you from the city

4:16

to the airport, okay? And

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4:23

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there was a helicopter

4:29

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4:36

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4:38

my mom like a two year

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old crying about how packing is

4:43

like so fucked up. But

4:45

we grown now and

4:47

I needed to record

4:50

this episode before I

4:52

left because I watched

4:54

White Lotus the finale

4:56

last night and I

4:59

have not watched a

5:01

piece of television that

5:03

has impacted me the

5:05

way that the finale

5:07

did in a very

5:09

long time. Let

5:11

me start by saying I

5:14

am one of the

5:16

few people I think that

5:18

I haven't been like

5:20

a huge White Lotus fan.

5:23

I just took a sip

5:26

of this mango margarita

5:28

seltzer. What the?

5:30

Is this gasoline with

5:32

bubbles? Oh, it's

5:34

a cut water. Okay,

5:36

it's 12 .5 % alcohol.

5:38

Okay, that makes more sense,

5:41

but holy shit. Also,

5:43

yes, it is not even

5:45

5 p .m. and that is

5:47

like how crazy. Hacking makes me

5:50

feel. I'm like, oh my

5:52

god, I gotta take the edge

5:54

off. White Lotus. I

5:57

have said this once and I'll say

5:59

it again. If you

6:01

took away

6:04

the cinematography, the

6:06

destination, the

6:09

like scenery

6:11

and took away

6:13

the, what is

6:15

it called? I

6:18

want to just call it

6:20

the music but I know

6:22

there's definitely a different word

6:24

but if you took away

6:26

like the composer and yeah

6:28

the music then the actual

6:30

plot lines in the show

6:32

are not that fucking good.

6:35

Like to me it almost

6:37

just seems like oh let's

6:39

just take like this really

6:42

fucking crazy plot line and Let's

6:44

just put 20 of them together

6:46

and they don't even need to

6:48

be logical. They don't even need

6:50

to be deep. They don't even

6:53

need to be blah, blah, blah,

6:55

blah, blah. But because we have

6:57

the cinematography and because we're in

6:59

the middle of Italy, because we're

7:01

in Thailand, because we're at this

7:03

super expensive hotel and we have

7:05

great actors, it will be a

7:07

show. But like the actual plot

7:09

that you're following is not this

7:11

genius concept, it's like, oh,

7:14

let's take like a really fucked up,

7:16

oh, and then we'll have this person fuck

7:18

this person, but then this person's cheating

7:20

on this person, this person's addicted to drugs.

7:22

Okay, cool, it's a show. Like

7:24

that is, that is

7:26

kind of how I thought

7:28

about white lotus. And

7:31

I didn't think this

7:33

season was any different

7:35

until I took a

7:38

lunesta and watched the

7:40

finale. If

7:46

I'm being honest, I

7:48

was high as a kite

7:51

on Lunesta, and

7:53

I should have been

7:55

sleeping, but I just had

7:57

too much adrenaline from watching the

7:59

show that I stayed up. And

8:01

so now I'm kind of wondering, well,

8:04

was it the Lunesta that was making me

8:06

feel this way? I don't think so.

8:08

I don't think so. There

8:11

were two scenes. back

8:13

to back that struck

8:15

a chord with me and

8:17

to the point that

8:19

I actually had to rewind

8:21

and rewatch the scenes

8:23

multiple times and these were

8:25

the two scenes. One

8:28

of them was

8:30

when Chelsea and Rick

8:32

and he comes

8:34

back from Bangkok and

8:36

they are at

8:38

dinner and she talks

8:40

about Amor Fati I

8:42

think is what it is and

8:44

what the episodes called That wasn't

8:46

even the part. It's what follows

8:48

that and she says You know,

8:50

I think I'm gonna I think

8:52

we're gonna be together forever You

8:54

and I and then he says

8:56

that's the plan and then she

8:59

looks up from her play and

9:01

she gets Beyond emotional and she

9:03

goes is it and he says

9:05

yeah, and then he made this

9:07

face that I don't know sometimes

9:09

like very random things

9:11

will like really sit

9:13

with me and throw me

9:15

for fucking loop. The

9:18

music... I don't know

9:20

if I'm making this

9:22

up or if it

9:24

was the Lunesta hallucination

9:26

which is a very

9:28

fucking real thing. I

9:30

have only hallucinated a

9:33

few times in my

9:35

life and that's partly

9:37

because hallucinating

9:39

seems like a very, very, very

9:41

scary experience. I know like people will

9:43

take mushrooms and it's like a

9:45

positive thing. I don't know, it scares

9:47

me for some reason. However,

9:51

I have tripped my

9:53

balls off in my

9:55

bed alone on Lunesta. Like

9:58

I have never hallucinated in the same

10:00

way and it like, does

10:02

this weird thing where I can

10:04

look at anything in

10:06

my room, I can

10:08

look at my hand, I

10:10

can look at the

10:12

TV screen and all of

10:14

a sudden it becomes

10:17

like extremely pixelated and like

10:19

the little fragments of

10:21

whatever I was looking at

10:23

come off and turn

10:25

3D and come towards me

10:27

like towards my face. Oh,

10:30

also I've Had like

10:32

a spider -man situation

10:34

where I think there's

10:37

like webs kind of

10:39

just in the air

10:41

like connecting That sounds

10:43

really fucking scary So

10:45

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10:48

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12:28

You guys. I wrote in

12:30

my notes app, also still

12:32

hallucinating. I remember having to

12:34

cover one of my eyeballs

12:36

so I could even type

12:38

this out. The

12:41

title of this

12:43

says AM. I

12:45

don't know what that means. Type. Oh

12:48

my God, this is so fucking

12:50

creepy. I

12:53

wrote. Type before

12:55

the Spider -Man

12:57

webs, but black

12:59

take over my

13:01

lunesta site, but

13:03

watching white lotus

13:05

and part between

13:07

couple of more. What

13:10

the fuck does that

13:12

mean? I have no clue.

13:15

I actually want to blame this more on

13:17

my eyesight and less on the medication. Back

13:20

to the episode. When

13:23

she, when they're having this

13:25

conversation at the table, the

13:28

music and all

13:30

of the sounds

13:33

literally go like

13:35

10 levels lower.

13:38

Like it gets 20

13:40

degrees less loud. And

13:42

for whatever reason it just

13:44

like really resonated with me.

13:46

I just had therapy today

13:48

and got done talking about

13:51

this. I think

13:53

it struck a chord with

13:55

me also because I feel

13:57

feeling similar to that for

13:59

the first time in my

14:01

life. And I can't even

14:03

bring myself to own that

14:05

or like say it without

14:08

trying to dull and minimize

14:10

it. And that's something I'm

14:12

working on. But I think

14:14

that played a part too. What

14:17

is Chelsea's name? The

14:20

actress? I

14:23

don't believe that her name

14:25

is Amy Liu. That

14:27

is the, that is the craziest.

14:30

There is no way that she

14:32

has that face and looks like

14:34

so innocent, but also looks like

14:36

such a character. Like she has

14:38

so much personality in her face.

14:41

Her name is not Amy Liu. I need to

14:43

see her birth certificate. That's the

14:45

craziest fucking shit I've ever

14:47

heard. Amy Liu, no. This

14:50

scene, directly after

14:52

that. It's the three

14:54

girlfriends, the one with the

14:56

short hair, Leslie

14:59

Bitt. I

15:03

think she is

15:05

the most stunning, beautiful

15:08

human being I've ever seen.

15:10

Like sometimes I do get

15:12

very hyper fixated on like

15:14

certain people's faces and she's

15:16

one of them. Rockwell,

15:19

or she's like life partner, Sam Rockwell. Who's

15:21

that? The one who then helped Rick. The

15:24

one who was like

15:26

recovering and helped Rick. Shut

15:28

up. I

15:30

thought Sam Rockwell

15:32

was Diplo. No,

15:35

they look like fucking twins.

15:37

Do they not? I

15:39

actually thought it was Diplo for like

15:41

two seconds. So the

15:44

three fake best

15:46

friends. They're all

15:48

super pretty, all blonde. They're

15:51

sitting at the dinner

15:53

table and Leslie Bibb goes,

15:56

you guys, I just had

15:58

the best time. Mind

16:00

you, they've been like talking shit on

16:02

each other and like getting an

16:05

argument the whole time. And then

16:07

the other girl is like, oh my God, I

16:09

just like love you guys. Like let's do this

16:11

again. And then

16:13

Lori says, You

16:16

know what? To be

16:18

honest, I've been really sad

16:20

this entire time and

16:22

I thought that was fucking

16:24

hilarious and I was

16:26

laughing out loud in my

16:28

bed. But then she

16:30

goes on to talk about

16:32

how she tried to

16:34

find meaning through all of

16:36

these different areas that

16:38

you have in your life.

16:40

She made work, her religion, she

16:43

made her child's

16:45

her religion and I mean

16:47

that's like a common thing like

16:49

people having kids because they

16:51

think it will fulfill them in

16:53

some way or save them

16:55

in some way and I'm not

16:57

saying that's always the case

16:59

but I think there's an element

17:01

of that she made her

17:04

romantic life her religion and that

17:06

just let her down and

17:08

She says she was trying to

17:10

find meaning and all of

17:12

these things but She

17:14

didn't need to because time

17:16

is what gives your

17:18

life meaning. I'm

17:20

like emotional, I don't know why. In

17:24

my meditation practice,

17:26

one of the

17:28

big things is

17:31

this idea of

17:33

impermanence. That

17:35

just like came out of

17:37

nowhere. In my

17:39

meditation practice, one of the

17:42

big takeaways and something

17:45

that Sam Harris, the

17:47

guy that he's the

17:49

neuroscientist at Stanford who

17:51

like put together the

17:53

entire program, he

17:56

talks about impermanence

17:58

a lot and

18:00

how it's this

18:02

really scary thing,

18:04

but without it,

18:06

it's kind of

18:08

like this yin

18:10

and yang concept

18:12

because without it it's

18:14

like what is

18:17

worth doing or what

18:19

is worth feeling

18:21

or literally what is

18:23

important but the

18:26

way he talks about

18:28

it was able

18:30

to like actually resonate

18:33

with me because

18:35

you always hear people

18:37

saying Stuff like life

18:39

is short, life

18:41

goes by in a

18:43

second. You

18:45

don't have that much time, blah,

18:47

blah, blah. None of those

18:50

things ever resonated. And then

18:52

I remember I was meditating one

18:54

day and he said at the end

18:56

of the meditation, he

18:59

said something about

19:01

going skiing. And

19:04

he wasn't saying, If

19:08

you're skiing or if you're on vacation,

19:10

let's like use vacation as an example, and

19:12

you're like laying on the beach,

19:14

it's not, I'm so

19:16

grateful to be in this moment

19:19

because it's so beautiful and I'm

19:21

with people I love and blah

19:23

blah blah. The way

19:25

he phrases it is, this

19:27

might be the last time.

19:33

I can't, I don't know what's going

19:35

on. This

19:37

might be the

19:39

last time I'm on

19:41

the beach and

19:43

it's like so grim,

19:45

but it's so

19:47

true and it's so...

19:49

I don't know.

19:51

For me, it's not

19:53

this like sad,

19:55

dark reality that we're

19:57

all living in.

19:59

It's this like really

20:01

powerful thing. And

20:03

I... don't know and I

20:06

think the way and the

20:08

script that Leslie and like

20:10

exactly how she said it

20:12

exactly how she phrased it

20:14

exactly in that moment I

20:16

thought it was like brilliant

20:18

I thought it was genius

20:21

it I am pretty sure

20:23

I like started tearing up

20:25

watching it and now I'm

20:27

about to shit on the

20:29

rest of white lotus because

20:33

Because time is of the essence, and if

20:35

I don't say it now, I don't know

20:37

if I'll ever have another chance to shit

20:39

on my lotus again. So

20:41

those two scenes were

20:43

like rocked me to

20:45

my core. And

20:47

also, I will say, I

20:51

think the whole, the

20:53

whole time during this season,

20:55

it's these three friends

20:58

who are like fake. Like

21:00

they're so fake, they

21:02

seem vapid. It's also really

21:04

fucking funny because right

21:07

before Leslie comes out with

21:09

this insane life -altering monologue

21:11

and makes both of

21:13

the other two friends start

21:15

crying, right before

21:18

that Kate is like, you

21:20

know what my pastor

21:22

said at church is? is

21:25

you spend all this

21:27

time watering the garden and

21:29

then one day you

21:31

look around and you have,

21:34

it's in bloom. It's

21:37

just

21:39

like, it was

21:41

so good because, oh my

21:43

God, growing up in Utah, the amount of

21:45

people that I could point to who

21:47

would say that exact fucking thing and think

21:49

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efficacy, or quality. I

25:08

like to watch and

25:10

talk and consume things

25:12

that are edgy things

25:14

that are taboo things

25:16

that are fucked up

25:18

like that's just my

25:20

personality I've always been

25:22

like that and I

25:24

enjoy it. There

25:26

is a level where I find

25:29

it. Like, it needs to

25:31

make sense for me to enjoy

25:33

it. Like, oh, this is

25:35

a real, like, this is human

25:37

nature at its worst, but

25:39

it's real. The

25:42

incest, me

25:45

just, I literally just

25:47

got done talking about it.

25:50

incestual dream about my mom. I

25:53

wasn't horny and it was a

25:55

dream. So that's different. Do not

25:57

come at me. But

25:59

the incest that happens

26:01

between the two

26:03

brothers, maybe you haven't watched

26:05

White Lotus. I'm going to break it down in two

26:07

seconds. They're this like

26:10

very Southern, very wealthy

26:12

family. There's an older brother

26:14

and a younger brother.

26:16

And they have honestly a

26:18

normal relationship. And

26:20

then there's this scene

26:22

where they get fucked up

26:24

and they take Molly

26:26

or like some kind of

26:28

party drug. Maybe it

26:30

was 2C, I don't know.

26:33

And they're with these two girls and

26:35

the whole time they're like trying

26:37

to get laid and trying to have

26:39

sex with these two hot friends. And

26:42

the younger brother ends up...

26:44

hooking up with one of

26:46

the girls. The older brother

26:49

is laying right next to

26:51

them, super fucked up, like

26:53

is barely conscious supposedly and

26:55

is just like tripping and

26:57

rolling balls. And

26:59

the younger brother ends

27:01

up giving him a hand

27:03

job, okay? And

27:07

then the next day, like

27:09

they're both kind of having like

27:11

these flashbacks and feeling weird

27:13

about it. I

27:17

don't, that plot line, it

27:19

wasn't that it was so

27:21

taboo and like so disturbing,

27:23

it was disturbing in a

27:25

way that just doesn't make

27:27

logical sense. In no fucking

27:30

world would your younger brother,

27:32

I don't care how demented

27:34

you are, I don't care

27:36

what is going on in

27:38

your life, there is

27:40

no fucking reality where your

27:42

younger brother would say, Hey,

27:45

I was hooking up with

27:47

this girl. You looked

27:50

like you felt left out,

27:52

so I needed to

27:54

jack you off to make

27:56

you feel better. Oh

27:58

yeah, I'm a people pleaser.

28:01

That was the reasoning that he

28:03

gave. He said, this family

28:05

is full of narcissists and I'm

28:07

a people pleaser and that's

28:09

all I know. And I

28:11

could just tell by...

28:13

Like the writing of it

28:15

that whoever fucking the

28:17

director or the screenwriter I

28:19

don't know thought that

28:21

they like ate with that

28:23

shit and thought they

28:25

like swept the floor and

28:27

they fucking killed it

28:29

No Human being is like

28:31

oh my god I

28:34

needed to jack off my

28:36

older brother to make

28:38

him feel less left out

28:41

Like, there's just, I don't care how

28:43

fucking crazy you are. I don't

28:45

care if you have like fantasies about

28:47

fucking your sister or whatever it

28:49

is. There is no world that you

28:51

would do that. That you would

28:53

reach over and be like, it's

28:56

really hard growing up in a family

28:58

of narcissists and I'm just such a

29:00

people pleaser. I, yeah, I guess I'm

29:02

just gonna have to like suck my

29:04

dad off. What?

29:07

I'm sorry, what? Like there is

29:10

just, it's going from A to

29:12

Z and not A to B.

29:14

And for that reason I'm out

29:16

and it just doesn't, like you're

29:18

trying too much and you're trying

29:20

to get shock value. But

29:22

it's like, it's stopped trying to make

29:24

it make sense cause it just doesn't.

29:26

There's just no world. There's just no

29:29

world. So that is

29:31

my take on white

29:33

lotus. And I think with

29:35

that, you guys, Why don't

29:37

we, why don't we do some

29:39

listener fucking questions so I

29:41

don't start going down a

29:44

rabbit hole talking about some other

29:46

ancestral situations that would maybe

29:48

make sense in the real

29:50

world and get arrested? Oh

29:52

yeah, I have some listener voice mails that

29:54

I want to play out loud. Hi,

29:57

Sophia. So, I

29:59

basically got go stuck, I don't want

30:01

to have sex with a guy. And

30:03

I don't know what to do

30:06

because we were going on good dates

30:08

and it was a week of

30:10

good fucking dates. He was saying for

30:12

everything, he was driving like over

30:14

an hour to come see me. And

30:16

then I was watching the movie

30:18

and I didn't want to have sex.

30:20

I said, not yet. Which

30:23

implies that there will be another time.

30:25

And he said, and he said nothing.

30:27

He was basically in talks for the next

30:29

10 minutes and he had to text me

30:32

now. So

30:45

basically you didn't

30:47

have sex with

30:49

this guy and

30:52

he punished you

30:54

for it? Pass.

30:57

That's gonna be a hard pass. That's gonna be

30:59

a On to the

31:01

next that's gonna be a

31:03

goodbye like in in no way

31:06

shape or form is this

31:08

Like cool. This is the thing

31:10

about being a girl. I

31:13

had a situation where I

31:15

Didn't have sex with the

31:17

guy. I think I let

31:19

him finger me I Didn't

31:21

have sex with this dude

31:24

and I was uninvited from a private

31:26

jet, which I think is a little

31:28

bit more like serious and like hard

31:30

to go through. I'm

31:38

joking, but

31:40

I'm not joking about the

31:42

story. Like there was literally

31:44

like an actor at Sundance

31:46

who was part of this

31:48

like very popular television show

31:50

and we made out and

31:52

then he like grabbed a

31:55

condom and I was like

31:57

I don't think so and

31:59

then I left the room

32:01

and then I was literally

32:03

like sitting in the living

32:05

room and I was like

32:07

Ali we need to go

32:10

pack our suitcases because the

32:12

private jet is about to

32:14

leave and Ali was like

32:16

ignoring me and I was

32:18

like Ali we have to

32:20

drive all the way back

32:22

to the fucking city to

32:25

get our suitcases and our

32:27

clothes and she literally just

32:29

goes, Sophia, I need to

32:31

talk to you, takes me in the bathroom

32:33

and is like, so you're not going on the

32:35

jet, babe. You are disinvited

32:37

and everyone here knows about it and

32:39

that's why everyone's being weird and being

32:42

silent when you're talking about going on

32:44

the jet. So, The

32:46

reason I bring that

32:48

up is, what a fucking

32:50

loser. What

32:52

a loser. How embarrassing.

32:55

Oh my God, this girl wouldn't

32:57

suck my dick so she can't

32:59

go on the private jet. By

33:01

the way, his career is through

33:03

the shitter, like could not be

33:05

further underneath the ground. Like,

33:08

I don't even

33:10

know. Oh, and the

33:12

guy. I think I can

33:14

say, I probably, well, I'm not saying his name. The

33:17

guy whose jet it

33:19

was was this like

33:21

well -known Hollywood producer. I

33:24

got an email the other

33:26

day asking if I would

33:28

speak with this law firm

33:31

who are doing this like

33:33

deep dive investigation into this

33:35

producer for I don't, I

33:37

can assume some sexual misconduct

33:39

if I had to go

33:42

out on a limb. So

33:45

Karma's a bitch. This

33:48

guy not wanting to

33:50

speak with you because

33:52

he couldn't fucking get

33:54

off is like, bye.

33:58

Go have your little brother

34:00

jack you off. Just like. If

34:03

your little brother cares about you, then

34:05

he will definitely make sure that he gives

34:07

you a hand job. Tell him

34:10

that. But also, babe, this is like

34:12

random, but I do just want to point

34:14

it out because I love you guys

34:16

and care about you guys. You

34:18

said that he hasn't texted you

34:20

for not even a full day.

34:23

Maybe just give him like, I don't know, a

34:25

day and a half. Give him a

34:27

day and a half to reach out. Take

34:35

your plans out of the group

34:37

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35:43

next. Sophia,

35:45

I fucking love you, bud. This

35:47

is Savvy Bee from Winnipeg, Manitoba,

35:49

Canada. You just commented on

35:51

my comments on your Instagram post.

35:53

When I said, baby husband, my clutch,

35:55

yes, I realize I said it

35:58

wrong. So come for me. It's

36:00

my clutch. I'm currently vaping right now

36:02

as we speak on a vape break. I

36:04

am teaching a lesson. I'm facilitating

36:06

a lesson right now about dopamine and

36:08

impulse control. And I'm just by stamp.

36:10

I need to see by all advice.

36:12

Anyway, I've been with you since

36:14

Color Daddy, like, literally the first episode. I

36:29

want to cut this girl's

36:31

skin off and wear it for

36:33

the rest of my life.

36:35

I am obsessed with you. I

36:37

literally am smiling ear to

36:39

ear. Like everything about that

36:41

was fucking phenomenal. So

36:44

you're on a vape break. While

36:46

you're teaching a class

36:48

on dope, I mean in

36:50

impulse control. This

36:53

is what I'm gonna

36:55

say Who fucking cares like

36:57

obviously quitting vaping has

36:59

been like one of the

37:01

best things I've ever

37:03

done but I will never

37:05

ever ever be that

37:07

person who Answers a question

37:09

like this and I

37:11

just give you a list

37:13

of reasons as to

37:15

why you should quit and

37:17

how to do it

37:19

because if I would have

37:21

treated my quitting vaping

37:23

journey like that, I

37:25

wouldn't have gotten anywhere.

37:27

Like I had to allow

37:29

myself to fuck up,

37:31

to have a hard time,

37:34

to consume other nicotine

37:36

things. Like for me, when

37:38

I do this all or

37:40

nothing thinking is when I

37:42

start to catch myself in

37:45

really dangerous loops. Because if

37:47

it's this all or nothing

37:49

thing, it's like, Well,

37:52

if you didn't do it,

37:54

then let's just fucking go shoot

37:56

up some heroin. Obviously, that's

37:58

not what I would do, but

38:00

it's like you can't live

38:02

life on those extremes. So

38:04

to your point, babe, you

38:07

can have all the knowledge in the world. You

38:09

can, you know, know

38:11

the ins and outs of

38:13

the psychology around vaping.

38:15

If you're not ready, I

38:18

can't say. there's going

38:20

to be a day that you

38:22

wake up and you feel ready,

38:24

but I can say that you

38:26

in no way shape or form

38:28

need to be yourself up about

38:31

it. You feel bad,

38:33

you wrote in, I mean

38:35

you left a voicemail and

38:37

so you're aware and you

38:39

obviously already feel bad and

38:41

it's like let's just move

38:44

on. Try tomorrow. Try the

38:46

next day. Just keep trying, and then one

38:48

of the times it will stick. And,

38:50

you know, start

38:53

smoking American Spirit cigarettes because

38:55

that is a great

38:57

alternative. You're fine.

39:00

Hey, is that Sophia Franklin's phone

39:02

number? This is

39:04

Tariq here. My

39:07

name is Tariq

39:09

from Ireland, living

39:11

in Calgary. Good

39:15

luck. Good

39:21

luck. So

39:24

this Irish

39:26

man, tiger,

39:30

I'm like, I'm a little bit, you

39:33

know what? I need

39:36

to say this. The

39:38

luck of the Irish

39:40

Disney movie. was

39:42

filmed at my high school,

39:44

Juan Diego Catholic High School, and

39:47

it's this nervous tick

39:49

that I say that constantly,

39:51

and I want to

39:53

stop bringing it up on

39:55

dates, at dinner, to

39:57

random people in my podcast,

39:59

in my life. Like

40:01

in my life period, I

40:03

really want to stop

40:05

bringing up the fact that

40:07

this Disney movie from

40:09

20 years ago was filmed

40:11

at my high school,

40:13

which was also 20 years

40:15

ago. Like I wanted

40:17

to, I wanted get a lobotomy

40:19

so that leaves my brain. It's like

40:21

this nervous like, oh my God,

40:23

I'm going to tell him about this

40:26

Disney movie. Look at the Irish

40:28

thought. literally was previewed

40:30

and only shown when Cable was

40:32

still a thing in high

40:34

school. And I'm now a grown

40:36

ass woman. But I

40:38

mean, I don't know if I could pass that

40:41

up. He's from Ireland. That's

40:43

kind of fucking cool. We're like,

40:45

we're international baby. And

40:47

he sounded like he wanted

40:49

it. And if I get

40:51

in a fight with my

40:53

boyfriend, I know exactly

40:55

what voicemail I'm going to be playing.

40:58

I'm going, are you kidding? Boom.

41:02

I already, I have my passport with me.

41:04

I'm hopping right on over to Ireland. I'm

41:07

going to say

41:09

one more thing about

41:12

why Lotus also

41:14

is the real, real

41:16

like crazy twist

41:18

in the entire series

41:20

is Rick killing

41:23

the guy that supposedly

41:25

had killed his

41:27

dad and ruined his

41:29

life. And then

41:31

it turns out the

41:33

guy he killed was in

41:35

fact his biological father. Are

41:38

we in Star Wars,

41:41

but like not even anywhere

41:43

near as brilliant or cool

41:45

or original? Like

41:47

Luke Skywalker? Oh,

41:50

let's take Luke Skywalker and

41:52

let's also take like incest

41:54

that makes no fucking sense

41:56

and just throw them in

41:58

a show like that's the

42:01

thing with white lotus there's

42:03

dialogue and monologue and wording

42:05

and scripting that's genius and

42:07

the writing from time to

42:09

time can be really good

42:11

but you're not I'm not

42:13

fingering you know my mom

42:16

to make her feel better

42:18

because i'm a people pleaser

42:20

and there's no fucking way

42:22

that this random dude in

42:24

Thailand was your dad So

42:27

that's what know what? I'm

42:29

gonna leave it at that and

42:31

I'm gonna hop off my

42:33

high horse and hop off this

42:35

microphone because that one seltzer

42:37

has gotten me shitfaced. So I

42:39

love you guys I need

42:41

to make it to the airport

42:43

and I'll talk to you

42:45

next week Bye. just

43:04

doing a quick check -in to

43:06

let you guys know that I

43:08

am not going anywhere this holiday

43:10

season and you can expect new

43:12

episodes every single week just make

43:14

sure to follow so you don't

43:16

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