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Thank enough you subject, My sugar

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daddy ain't sweet, do

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Stephen Shirley. I'm in my early thirties

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and I have a loving boyfriend of

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two years, but my sugar daddy insisted

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that I break up with him. My sugar

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daddy owns a barbershop that my ex

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goes to, and that's how we met.

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I dropped my boyfriend off one day and

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this sexy older man approached

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me outside as I was getting an

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umbrella out of my trunk. He said

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he'd been watching me and he would love to

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get to know me better. He said he

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didn't mind paying for everything he

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wants, and he wants a lot of things, and

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he's got a lot of money. I hadn't

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been with an older man since I was in college

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and needed extra money, so I thought it would

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be fun to play around with grandpa for

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a while. This man was

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not at all like the other old man

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I fooled around with. His stamina

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was off the charts, and he paid for every

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little thing he demanded from me. It

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was fun to watch the money flow in, but it

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was taxing to be available to him

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at all times. This man would

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call me and want to have sex

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in his office of the barber shop

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before he went home, and I would have to

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go or he'd have a temper tantrum

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and threatened to tell my boyfriend. He

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expected me to clean his house, get

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his dry cleaning, even by his

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weed for him. After

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three months, of this crazy love affair.

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He said, I passed the probation period

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and it was time for me to be his

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woman. I told him that wasn't

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going to happen, so he got upset and gave

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me an envelope with receipts for all

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of the bills he paid, the gifts he bought,

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and the deposits he made into

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my account. I told him

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that he can't blackmail me into being

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his lady, and he warned me not to

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try him. So that's

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why I broke up with my boyfriend.

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Is there any reason? Is

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there any way to reason with this crazy

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old man? Wow?

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Yeah, all right, I

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don't know, because he definitely is that a

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crazy old man. But you're a crazy young

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woman too to get yourself involved

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with something like this. I mean, this is prostitution,

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that's really what it is, and this is what you

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signed up for. He dangled that

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money carrit in your face and

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you got caught up. These are your

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words. You needed extra money,

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so you thought you would play around with Grandpa

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for a while. Well it didn't go like

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you planned, and you're the one that got

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played. I mean, Papa really

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really worked you. He had you clean

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in his house, showing up at all times

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of the day buying weed

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for him, picking up his dry cleaning. What

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a wonderful arrangement for

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him. And you were sleeping

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with him too. I mean, I can't imagine him

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compensating you fairly for all that you

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were putting out. He also made you break

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up with your man. He'd blackmail you to do

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it. I just say, enough is enough

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from this old man. Call his bluff,

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because technically you were already broken up

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with your boyfriend when you got with him, because

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he made you do it. So

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the old guy really doesn't have a case. You

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will not get your man back. You won't

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get him back, but at least your dealings

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with evil Papa will be over. And

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don't worry, he'll find someone else because

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that's what he does. But you need to get yourself

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together and stop playing around with these

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old men, because you mess around and

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get played every time. It seems

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Steve well,

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well, well look at him.

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Oh I have some things to

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say about this one. My sugar

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daddy ain't sweet. First of all,

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you all through the terms sugar daddy around

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like you understand what it is totally.

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Sometimes sugar Daddy is

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given out for two reasons. First

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of all, a woman thinks she's going to benefit

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from something from this older man or

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man on the side, and so she calls

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him a sugar daddy. The

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man don't mind being called a sugar daddy

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because he's gonna use that power

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of the sugar to control

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the situation. But

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in essence, what this is, it's what

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Shirley said it was. This

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is a prostitute. This

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is a prostitutional act, and

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he's a trick. The

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problem is the trick and

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the prostituted act involves

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more than sex. So now let's

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go to the letter. Yes, I

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had a loving boyfriend you in the early thirties, got

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a loving boyfriend of two years, but

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your sugar daddy insisted I break up with him.

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Okay, my sugar daddy owns

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a barbershop that my ex goes to, and that's

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how we met. I dropped my boyfriend off

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one day and this sexy old man came up to me

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and I was getting an umbrella out of my trunk. He

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said, I've been watching you and he love to get to know you

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better. Now here's the hook.

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He said he didn't mind paying for

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everything he wants, and

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he wants a lot of things, and

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he got a lot of money. That

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was the whole hook. He

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forewarned you he don't mind

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paying for everything keyword,

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and he wants a lot of

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things. Now we outside

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of sex now, so now we

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into other things he needs.

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And you hadn't been with an old demand

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since I was in college and needed extra money.

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Okay, so this both of y'all's

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thing. This what he do and

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this what you do. You

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see what I'm saying. So we got

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two tricky people doing what they do. You prostitute

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yourself and hear a trick slash

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sugar daddy, but you don't want to call

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it a prostitute because it's more than

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just sex. Okay, we'll find out when I come

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back. All right. Part two of Steve's

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response coming up at twenty three minutes after

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the hour, subject my sugar

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daddy ain't sweet. We'll get back into it

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right after this. You're listening show,

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all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry

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letter. The subject my sugar daddy ain't sweet.

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Well, that's because your sugar daddy ain't really

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just a sugar daddy. Sugar daddy,

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it's really a trick and you never

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put a label on yourself. So what you're

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doing, Shirley said, this prostitution

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needs a fall of it very

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much. So sexual act in exchange

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for money's prostitution oldest

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profession in the world. Been going

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on for a long time. Y'all want to dress

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it up and called the sugar daddy sugardadd

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is a trick. He approached you. You

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got a boyfriend that goes

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to his barber's shop to get his hat

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cut. He steps around him.

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You like this proposition because

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he says he

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doesn't mind paying for everything he

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wants, and he wants a lot of things, and he got

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a lot of money. Well, that was interesting to you because

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last time you did that was in college when you needed

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extra money. So you ain't the first one. He'd

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been a sugar daddy fall because he knows the speech

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and you know how to accept the speech because you

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hadn't done that before. All right, let's

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go. And then so you thought it

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might be fun to play around with grandpa

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for a while. Okay, okay,

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playing with these old cats. They got something for you,

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as you're about to find out. And

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then you talk about the stamina was off the change.

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But then he said he paid

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for every little thing he demanded

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from me, I mean everything. And

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it was fun watching the money flowing, wasn't

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it? But it was hard being

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available all the time. This man would call

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me to want to have sex in his office

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of the barbershop before he went home,

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and I would have to go or he'd have a temper

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tantrum and threatened to tell my boyfriend,

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Well that would be interesting, because

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see, really, I don't understand why you wrote the letter,

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because you have all the leverage you

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have everdence. First

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of all, he gonna tell your boyfriend and

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then what he thinkt gonna happened after he do that.

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See, I don't understand how you feel threatened

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because you hold the

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leverage. Uh, he

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had potential champion and threatened to tell my boyfriend.

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Okay, he expected me to clean his

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house, get his dry cleaning, even

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by even by his weed. He

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told you of top, he was

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willing to pay for everything, and he want

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a lot of things, and he got a lot of money.

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So now you you gotta you

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gotta, Are you a PA? Now you

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a PA? You're gonna get coffee?

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You to PA, your personal assistance. So

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now that's what I'm doing. Even

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by after three months of this crazy

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love affair, he said I passed approbation

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period, it was time for me to be his woman. I

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told him that wasn't gonna happen. So he

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got upset and gave you an envelope with receipts

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for all the bills he paid. Okay,

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here we go. Now

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you have physical evidence, so

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I don't see what you're worried about. Because you got all

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leverage. You gotta

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pack of bills. Everything ain't eadn't fault. The

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gifts he bought, the deposits he made into

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your account. I told him he came blackmail

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into me and to being his lady, and he warned

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me not to try him. So that's why

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I broke up with my boyfriend. What

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so you was doing them both? Right? Is

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there any way to reason with this crazy old man?

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First of all, let me just get to what you're asking

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me. Is any way to reason with this old man? What you

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got a reason with him for? You got leverage. Now

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you didn't broke up with your boyfriend, So now you

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ain't got a boyfriend to go tell. But

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if you tell your boyfriend why

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he made you break up with him.

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He still got this ass whipping coming.

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Secondly, you

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have receipts in your hand

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of every deposit thing he's

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given you pay for you boom boom

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boom. And now guess what

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he would call you to his bobby shop

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to have sex with him before he go home.

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Why would he have to do that because

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it's somebody lived at his house.

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So now you

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have a boyfriend you can tell. You

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got a bag and an envelope full

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of evidence, and you got

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a woman that you can share this with. So

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how has he got you hostage? Talking

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about you know, don't try

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me? Oh no, no, no, no, you

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the one can't try me. See

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y'all don't know if he knows where you live, but you know

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exactly where he lived, you

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can easily find out. And he up at

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the shop and you got social

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media. I'm trying to figure out

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what he got on you. His

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whole business is in your hands.

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His relationship is in that

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envelope. Why

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are you writing us talking about how

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can I reason with this crazy old man?

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You don't have the reason with him. You

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have all the evidence. But

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now let's get to you. The

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real problem we have is the

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way you choose to solve money problems,

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and you choosing old men with

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money to do it because you did it before and you're

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doing it now. You better

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find another way to solve your problems.

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Because your problem solved, it creates

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more problems. Now. You ain't

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got no damn boy for you. Now

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you the relationship with a crazy ass old man. Naw,

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you got to do something you don't want to do. He

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blackmailing. You know what you're gonna do. I

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don't know what to tell you. Look, girl, you've got yourself

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and some problems, but you ain't gotta

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take this here messed up. You

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gotta out back for levidence. Ye.

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Yeah, he got a

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potential ass whipping on the way. He

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got a divorce potentially on the way,

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and you can mess up his business. I

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don't suggest you do any of that, but you have

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the leverage to make stop. Yeah,

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all right, Thank you, Steve. Leave your comments on

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