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do anything. That's real easy. The

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question is why would you ever...

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the means to their life. And then

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the next question might be, well, where

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should you look for worthwhile things? And

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one would be, well, you could consult

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your own temperament, and the other would

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be, well, you kind of look at

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how, look at what it is that

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people accrue that's valuable across the lifespan.

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by having a little conversation with yourself

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about... As if you don't really know

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who you are, because you know what

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you're like, you won't do what you're

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told. You won't do what you tell

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yourself to do. You must have noticed

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don't know what you want to do,

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to do, you don't do it anyways.

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that you're not your own servant, so

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to speak. You're someone that you have

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to negotiate with, and that's, and you're

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someone that you want to present the

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opportunity of having a good life too.

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don't like themselves very much. So

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you know they're always like cracking

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the whip and then procrastinating it

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cracking the whip and then procrastinating

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it's like God so boring such

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a pathetic way of spending your

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six hours a day. You have

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to believe that your action has

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good enough. You know you kind

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into it. And what's the cost

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anyways? It's not like you're going

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to get out of this alive.

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whether you want to be or

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not. And maybe if you were

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voluntarily all in, things would be

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you want it to be, maybe

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you're not acting the way you

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should. One

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themselves against failure is to Never let

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themselves really gain clarity about what they

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needed want Let's say you try something

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you only do it half-heartedly And then

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you fail and you think well I

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held a bunch back in reserve and

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so I didn't get what I wanted

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but maybe had I been all in

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I would have, and so you don't

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the failure. Now it's a catastrophic way

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to live, to sit on the fence,

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and to know... commit because instead of

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risking the possibility of failure you engage

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in what's essentially the absolute certainty of

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failure because if you want something worthwhile

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and difficult which you probably do if

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you want to have an adventure and

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go somewhere then what's the chance you're

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going to get it if you're halfway

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in? You can't be halfway in but

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that sort of protects you against failure

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because you can tell yourself well if

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I tried I could have done it.

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that 200 times and your life's over.

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Okay, so once you get your goal

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structure set up, you think, okay, if

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I could have this life, looks like

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that might be worth living, despite the

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know, anxiety provoking and threatening and there's

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going to be some suffering and loss

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goal is to have a vision for

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your life such that all things considered,

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that justifies your effort. Okay, so then

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what do you do? Well then, then

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you turn down to the micro-routine. It's

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that people do wrong. They say well,

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I don't like to follow a schedule

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are you setting up? Well, I should

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I have to do this then I

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then I just go play video games

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