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3:02

guys, it's Jana and I am

3:04

back with my bestie Pam and

3:06

we are gonna talk all things

3:08

dating and How it's going for

3:10

my girl. All right girl, let's

3:12

dive back into our combo So

3:15

whenever I ever get someone that

3:17

DMs me about them going through

3:19

divorce I'm so sad for them because I know

3:21

the feeling and we know how awful it is

3:23

But I always end it with and I'm so

3:25

excited for you because There's going to

3:27

be a brighter version, a lighter

3:29

version of yourself. You get to fall

3:31

in love again. You get to

3:33

receive what you really deserve and not settle

3:35

for less. But that doesn't mean that it's

3:37

not hard in the process. And

3:40

that is what we continue on

3:42

with this conversation and, you

3:44

know, in our walks and our talks. And that's

3:46

why, you know, I'm excited to talk to

3:48

you about it because it is, dating

3:51

isn't easy. No, but

3:53

it doesn't have to be horrible. Exactly.

3:57

So I think there's the ebbs and the flows,

3:59

right? So for you now that you have, because

4:01

how many years now has it been? Two. Two

4:04

years. So you're two years divorced. When

4:08

do you think actually it's appropriate to start dating again?

4:12

I never really follow timelines. I think

4:14

it's like a feeling thing. Well, I

4:16

think you have to be honest with

4:18

yourself. I think, you know, like,

4:21

are we dating to mask feelings

4:23

and not processing things? you

4:26

know, or maybe, you

4:28

know, somebody truly

4:30

that you would really, you know,

4:33

like really want to be in a relationship

4:35

just happened to come into your life at, you

4:37

know, maybe the two month mark. I mean, I

4:39

don't think there's like, I don't like to ever

4:41

put timelines on it like that either. For

4:45

me, I didn't

4:47

even really think about it. Like when

4:49

I was getting divorced and then like months

4:51

and months after, I didn't even really Again,

4:55

I was just like so focused on

4:57

my growing my company and

5:00

my kids and traveling. Like

5:03

that's kind of, that's what I did. I

5:05

didn't jump into dating. I jumped into

5:07

travel. That was my, that's

5:10

what I did. And

5:13

so I don't have an answer

5:15

for that. For me,

5:17

it was, it was

5:19

a while. I mean, my goodness.

5:22

Oh, well, eight months maybe or

5:24

something. And

5:27

it was because of you

5:29

anyway, that even prompted me

5:31

to even entertain anything. So

5:34

I probably wouldn't have

5:36

started until later. Well,

5:39

I just, because I think it's

5:41

one of those things, like we said early on,

5:43

it's a bit of a numbers game, but it's

5:45

also go out there and feel

5:48

the feelings of... When

5:51

I started dating, I was like, oh,

5:53

wow, people think I'm actually like, I don't

5:55

know. I mean,

5:57

there's this feeling you

6:00

get post -divorce. And sometimes you

6:02

do need like a stroke of

6:04

your ego, I guess, right?

6:06

After kind of a long

6:09

marriage or whatever. And

6:13

whenever

6:16

I did kind of start

6:18

dating, I was ready.

6:21

Sure. Like I felt good about it.

6:23

I felt, you know, just

6:26

in a positive light. And

6:28

I was excited because for

6:30

me, the

6:32

type of energy I'm going to

6:34

put into something is exactly what

6:36

I'm going to get out of

6:38

it. So I am never going

6:40

to be like this sucks. Men

6:42

are awful. My gosh. Dating like

6:44

that will never come out of

6:46

my mouth. I actually love it.

6:48

I love men. I think they're

6:50

Amazing. I think that I am

6:52

learning something about myself

6:55

every time I talk to or go

6:57

on a date with somebody, and that is

6:59

what I take away from it. So

7:01

I think

7:04

it's fun. And

7:07

we have some lows with

7:09

it. What are the

7:11

lows you think that I've said? It's

7:16

discouraging, right? at

7:18

times because it's, I

7:20

mean, I don't know. Is it?

7:22

So the last day, maybe.

7:24

Oh, hey, but discouraging, discouraging. I

7:26

mean, that was an amazing

7:28

date. Sure. Sure. Sure. But so

7:31

you did send me a

7:33

text that was like, I'm like,

7:35

this sucks. Oh, well,

7:37

okay. But let me explain

7:39

this to everybody. So

7:41

I have

7:43

not had any type of bad

7:45

experience at all. OK,

7:48

I feel like, you know, any

7:50

man that I've talked to or been on a

7:52

date with or jumped off boats. I

7:56

I mean, that one. Oh,

7:59

Lord. OK, moving

8:01

on. So. I

8:05

think I can, you know, sniff

8:07

him out pretty good. So I've

8:09

I've only I've only had really

8:11

interesting men that like are doing

8:13

really cool things and I am.

8:15

super intrigued by. So that's been

8:17

great to like see that, you

8:19

know, this whole different world out

8:22

there because when you're married for

8:24

10 years, you know, you don't,

8:26

you're not exploring that. You don't

8:28

know. And so that's been a

8:30

blessing for me is just like,

8:32

whoa, you know, like this is

8:34

super refreshing. This, this can be

8:37

fun and just kind of evolving,

8:39

you know, and learning from

8:41

each one of them. the

8:43

little things I want to take

8:45

away from each one of them. I

8:47

mean, you know, I try to

8:49

write, you're trying to piece them all

8:51

together to find like this magic

8:53

person. I think that's where I'm at

8:55

that I haven't had anything bad.

8:57

It just hasn't been like the die.

9:00

Do you have moments

9:02

where you wonder if

9:04

you'll ever find love

9:06

again? No, no.

9:10

So you believe that you will 1000.

9:12

And what is, because there's times when

9:14

we walk and you're like, I don't

9:16

want to have, I don't need to

9:18

have the, I don't need to get

9:20

married again. I don't need to. So

9:22

it's like, well, that's true. I

9:24

mean, that's exactly. it though? Because then you're like the

9:26

other day you just said, but what do I

9:28

want? Right. I mean, what

9:30

do you want? So here's the deal. I

9:33

1000 %

9:35

am so

9:37

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9:40

my life. Very joyful. If

9:42

I could find a word for you, it's joyful. You're like,

9:44

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9:46

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9:49

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9:51

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9:53

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9:55

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9:57

the most amazing friendships.

9:59

My family's so freaking great.

10:04

I get to travel. I get to

10:06

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10:09

when I tell you I'm

10:11

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10:13

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10:15

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10:17

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10:19

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10:21

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10:23

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10:25

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10:27

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10:30

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10:32

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10:34

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10:36

doing it. I

10:38

don't have to do it.

10:40

I don't I don't need it.

10:42

I want it. Yeah, but

10:44

I really don't mean I'm I'm

10:46

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10:48

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10:51

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10:57

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16:07

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16:09

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16:51

it's the best place to

16:53

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16:55

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16:57

feeling that I have right now,

17:00

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17:02

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17:05

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17:08

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17:10

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17:12

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17:14

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17:16

that it's Raya's the worst

17:18

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17:21

oh my gosh, people. I convinced to get

17:23

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17:25

that's all that I've, between, you know, friends.

17:27

introducing me to people and Ryan, that's really

17:30

all there is. I don't go out much.

17:32

So I'm not meeting somebody at a bar. So

17:36

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17:38

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17:41

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17:43

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17:45

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17:49

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17:51

to put forth the effort.

17:53

So I think that's really

17:55

hard. So that's what's

17:57

discouraging a little bit because we can just

17:59

talk about what happened. I'm like, all right,

18:01

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18:03

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18:05

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18:07

it's like, and then my business and it's like,

18:09

when? You know,

18:11

it's so that is super

18:14

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18:16

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18:18

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18:20

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18:22

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18:24

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18:26

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18:28

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18:30

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18:33

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18:35

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18:37

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18:39

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18:44

Lord, um Dating in

18:46

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18:48

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18:50

know, the funny thing about X or is

18:52

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18:54

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18:58

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19:00

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19:02

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19:04

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19:06

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19:10

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19:12

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19:14

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19:16

whoa. Where did that come from?

19:18

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19:20

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19:22

such a detailed, curated,

19:25

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19:28

if I'm leaving my house and

19:30

I'm traveling, it's going

19:32

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19:34

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19:36

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19:38

Yes. So the biggest ick. Oh,

19:42

I have a couple, actually. Go for

19:44

it. So listen up. dudes

19:46

getting drunk or having more than

19:48

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19:50

a cocktail. I mean, I remember

19:52

I was on a date and

19:54

we were I was there for

19:56

50 minutes because I couldn't stand

19:58

the guy once I got there.

20:00

And so I was, you know,

20:02

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20:04

it fast. And in 50 minutes,

20:06

he had three cocktails on a

20:08

Tuesday night. It's just not

20:10

I'm just not about that. I don't like

20:12

it. It's a total ectomy. Yeah,

20:16

just getting drunk in

20:18

general at this age. I'm

20:20

46 years old. I'm

20:22

dating my age or older.

20:25

It's just not something that I want

20:27

to be in that environment. Totally

20:29

cool if you do, and that's what you love to

20:31

do in your spare time. It's not.

20:34

I mean, will I enjoy an amazing

20:36

glass of wine with somebody on a

20:38

date? Of course. But

20:40

I don't like if alcohol is... the

20:42

driving force. Yeah, or like their identity

20:44

or something that like has to be

20:46

done all the time. I just do

20:49

not like that. Is

20:51

there height requirements? Oh,

20:53

I feel so bad when I say this

20:55

stuff because it's just, you know, I don't

20:57

know. I mean, I definitely do, but I

20:59

hate to I hate to say it aloud.

21:02

I think I just think

21:04

there's so many, you know,

21:06

I think if you're going

21:08

to be again, You

21:10

know picking the one it's I

21:12

Never liked dating shorter guys and I

21:14

couldn't I tried I totally tried

21:17

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21:19

dude that's taller than me and

21:21

I'm 5 4 so that's really not

21:23

asking for a lot But I

21:25

did try it in someone was like

21:27

he was like maybe maybe 5

21:29

4 Maybe 5 5 he was like

21:31

5 5 and I was like

21:34

I just can't do it right so

21:36

I think though at this point Maybe

21:39

that makes me shallow. No,

21:41

no, not at all. I mean,

21:43

my whole life, I've, you

21:45

know, it's been very tall

21:47

men, but what I am learning,

21:50

and this is a, this

21:52

is a process. I mean, I

21:54

am learning what gets me

21:56

going and what I like

21:58

and, you know, the type of

22:01

feeling I want. And so

22:03

I, I

22:06

think there's a world where

22:09

I could totally fall for somebody

22:11

if they weren't so tall.

22:13

If I had this amazing feeling

22:15

and it was supportive and

22:17

there was beautiful communication and I

22:19

was attracted to you, I

22:21

think it all comes down to

22:24

attraction, really. But

22:27

typically, I've

22:29

dated six foot

22:31

and above. Yeah. just

22:33

if we were

22:35

going off of charts

22:37

of past relationships. I

22:40

mean, my ex -husband was actually the smallest,

22:42

I mean, not smallest, the shortest person

22:44

that I ever knew was six foot. Right.

22:46

And again, I think if as long

22:48

as you have that attraction. Yeah, it's the

22:50

attraction for me. You know, that. And

22:53

I'd like to wear like a small heel.

22:55

Yeah. No, I do

22:57

agree. people make it work. I mean,

22:59

there's... Totally for her name, but I follow

23:01

her on socials. I mean, she's taller

23:03

than her husband, you know? But

23:05

again, they're attracted to each other and it's

23:08

not... Yeah, I don't think any of it's like

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23:51

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23:56

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23:58

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24:00

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24:02

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24:04

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24:09

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24:11

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24:13

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24:15

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25:58

mentioned older, like dating guys your age

26:00

and then older. Would you ever go younger?

26:03

because you are quite the cougar.

26:05

Oh my, you could be. Well,

26:07

everybody always asks me that and

26:09

they certainly are. They

26:12

love Pam. Yeah, the

26:14

younger are bold. I mean, they

26:16

are bold. They are communicative, which

26:18

I totally appreciate. I do love

26:20

a good, bold, you know,

26:22

subtle, swaggy type of

26:24

person. But

26:26

I never dated

26:29

younger, ever. And

26:31

I just I don't

26:33

know why. I think maybe there's a couple

26:35

things that are happening in my brain where

26:37

I'm like, they want kids. The

26:40

kid train is, we're done. Yeah, we're

26:42

done. closed. Yeah. So. You've

26:45

got two kids. I have two kids. Right.

26:47

So, but I'm like, do they

26:49

want a child of their own? And

26:51

then I kind of would feel guilty about

26:53

that. So I

26:55

think there's a little bit of that. And

26:58

I just, I

27:00

really like an older

27:02

sophistication. Um, but

27:04

I am telling you,

27:06

these younger men coming up,

27:09

I mean, they, they

27:11

have some tools like with

27:13

communication and awareness and

27:15

evolving and, you know, really

27:17

kind of like tuning

27:19

into a woman that is

27:21

admirable and exciting. And

27:24

so, um, I just

27:26

really haven't gone there

27:28

yet because I really do.

27:30

I'm super intentional. And

27:32

I probably think too much. Do

27:34

you want to get married again? I don't

27:36

know if I have to get married. I

27:39

mean, I am open to, you

27:41

know, that, but I don't

27:43

think that it's something that is

27:45

like on the top of my

27:47

list of feeling like I've found

27:49

the one in order, you know,

27:51

to marry them. Like, I don't

27:53

have to do that. Do

27:56

I want like this

27:58

beautiful long -term monogamous exceptional

28:01

relationship. Yes. Right.

28:03

And listen, dudes, they don't have, you

28:05

don't have to live here in Nashville.

28:07

Like she's, she loves traveling. No,

28:10

I've never like seriously

28:12

dated anybody in Nashville.

28:14

I actually maybe prefer

28:16

not. Nothing

28:20

wrong with that. Would

28:22

you sign a prenup if you did get married? Yeah.

28:27

I feel like at our age, it's

28:29

like, yeah. I'm good. Talk

28:31

to us about your business. Okay.

28:35

Well, I have

28:37

a health and

28:39

wellness coaching company

28:42

that is global.

28:44

It can reach

28:46

anybody because it

28:48

is virtual. I

28:50

have my own app

28:52

and I am really focused

28:55

on transforming women's bodies,

28:57

minds and spirits. really

28:59

in the 40 plus H

29:01

group through weight training and nutrition

29:03

and, you know, gut

29:05

health and mindset. And

29:07

I am, I

29:10

mean, I could cry thinking about how grateful

29:12

I am that I'm in this space that I

29:14

was able to develop this company and grow

29:16

it to where it is. And now, you

29:18

know, just continue to scale it. I

29:21

don't know what I would have

29:23

done without it. Yeah.

29:26

I mean, it was. And hey,

29:28

I went through the program. It's

29:30

a great program. Help me get

29:32

my body back from, from pregnancy

29:35

or, you know, from being pregnant

29:37

and everything. So, but also what

29:39

I learned too about foods and

29:41

sure education. Yeah. And I think

29:43

for you too, moving into your

29:45

dating world, you need a man

29:47

that supports your drive, lets you

29:49

shine there. Cause I

29:51

don't know if you've had that.

29:54

And then Also that takes care

29:56

of themselves like you said not

29:58

drinking so much like you want

30:00

someone that Takes care of themselves.

30:02

Well, I just want them to

30:04

first and foremost like acknowledge the

30:07

importance of being you know fit

30:09

in their Body mind and spirit.

30:11

I mean it you know, you

30:13

don't have to be you know,

30:15

some big buff guy, you know

30:17

at all and that's not even

30:20

really into that but I just Yeah,

30:22

I love the awareness and the,

30:25

and people having like the understanding of

30:27

why that's so important and how it's

30:29

going to help with longevity and just

30:31

making your life, like living your life

30:33

as optimally as possible is really my

30:35

message. Like we don't want to just

30:37

feel okay. We want to feel freaking

30:39

amazing. And I want somebody to be

30:41

on that journey with me so that

30:43

when we're 70, 80, like we can

30:45

still be traveling through Europe together. Speaking

30:48

of traveling through Europe, what is

30:50

your hope? on this dating journey.

30:53

Like if you could go, this is, this is

30:55

what I'd love to see in the end. I

30:57

know you don't know if you want to get

30:59

married or not, but because I feel like travel

31:01

obviously is a huge piece of that. So you

31:03

want someone that can be worldly, can go travel

31:05

with you. Yes. I,

31:09

you know, for me right now,

31:11

like what I visualize and

31:13

I'm, you know, open to different

31:15

things, but for me currently,

31:17

like what I'm capable of, right?

31:19

We talk about what everybody

31:21

else is capable of. But what

31:23

I'm capable of is maybe

31:25

something that doesn't look so cut

31:27

and dry like, you know,

31:29

people are used to where there

31:31

can be a beautiful relationship

31:33

that doesn't have to be so

31:35

like in the same city.

31:37

And so maybe like 24 seven,

31:39

right, where it can be. where

31:42

we meet and we travel together

31:44

and we support each other and we

31:46

can see each other like you

31:48

know when we don't have our kids

31:50

or whatever like timing that looks

31:52

like because that's the reality with co

31:54

-parenting I can't change that you know

31:56

they have to be with their

31:58

dad they want to be with their

32:00

dad he wants to be with

32:02

them and then I have space to

32:05

you know either focus on my

32:07

company or travel or do whatever I

32:09

want to do and I take

32:11

full advantage of that. And so I

32:13

think there's a world where it

32:15

could be this amazing, like non -traditional

32:17

view of partnership, where I don't have

32:19

to live in the same home

32:21

as you 24 seven. I mean, could

32:23

that overlap? And would that be

32:25

cool? Absolutely. But I don't

32:27

think that, you know, it

32:29

has to be so, so full

32:31

on. Yeah. And I

32:33

too, like for the, you know, for

32:35

people that are dating, And I

32:38

just did this little Google search here and

32:40

I'm going to read it in a

32:42

sec, but not to be discouraged. Cause a

32:44

lot of people are like, oh, this,

32:46

you know, national sucks for men or it's

32:48

so hard. There's not men here. And

32:50

there are roughly, Google, four billion men on

32:52

earth, slightly more than half of the

32:55

planet's total population. So four billion men. I

32:58

think, and again, I met my husband. He's

33:01

was overseas, different, different country.

33:03

And so it's like, the

33:05

reality of your soulmate being

33:07

in your same state, I'm

33:10

like, you can go to any state. And

33:12

I know it's hard, right? So I that.

33:14

I love it. But it's like, maybe change

33:16

your Google's or your dating search to a

33:18

different city. Just try it. Like, I don't

33:20

remember. I was like, girl, try Dallas or

33:22

try like, who cares? You know, cause I'm

33:24

like, people will move if you find the

33:26

right one. only people that I've dated. Why

33:28

are you in a 25 mile radius? You're

33:31

not going to find anybody 25 mile radius.

33:33

No. I had to go overseas. I

33:35

mean, oh, that's

33:37

what I do. I mean, that's

33:39

exactly what I do. I'm,

33:42

you know, and yeah, I mean,

33:44

the only people I've dated

33:46

were LA, New York, you know,

33:48

just not here. Not

33:50

that I'm opposed to it.

33:52

It's just, I think for Nashville,

33:54

if I will say, it

33:56

is more of a younger male

33:58

demographic. You know, I

34:00

mean, I live in Franklin,

34:02

Tennessee, you guys. It's like

34:05

the capital of beautiful families

34:07

living in this dream of

34:09

all, you know, these wonderful

34:11

moms and dads and kids.

34:13

And so there's, there's no,

34:15

I mean, there's no single

34:17

men, really, right? So you

34:19

got to look elsewhere. Best

34:21

tip for dating. Don't

34:23

take everything so personal. I mean,

34:25

who cares if somebody doesn't like you?

34:27

Who cares if they don't like

34:30

you back? Who cares if they even

34:32

don't call you back or ghost

34:34

you? I am never going to let

34:36

somebody doing that affect how I

34:38

think about myself or make me feel

34:40

like I'm less than or not

34:42

worthy. I mean, the chances of there

34:44

being a connection are really slim.

34:46

I mean, that's why we have to

34:48

keep trying and never give up

34:50

hope. not letting some

34:53

guy you barely know dictate how

34:55

you're going to feel and

34:57

then go about your life. It's

34:59

just insane to me. Such

35:01

a good tip. I would say

35:03

a tip that I've given

35:05

you. Oh, I know. Because

35:07

we don't have a lot of

35:09

time. We are moms. We are busy.

35:11

Girl, FaceTime before you go on

35:13

a date because you will know pretty

35:15

much if you're attracted on FaceTime

35:17

and if there's any sort of connection

35:19

over FaceTime. And you're gonna

35:21

not waste your time. No, you've

35:23

helped me for that, for sure.

35:25

I've definitely put that into my

35:27

routine. You're awesome. I

35:29

gotta FaceTime me first, because

35:31

it's just really, I mean, that's

35:34

why I'm like blind dates. You're

35:37

just... No, I'm not interested in a

35:39

blind date. I mean, at this, it's...

35:41

But what I think we should be

35:43

interested in, what we should do is

35:45

this summer, we go to New York

35:47

and we just... Because

35:50

you gotta get out, right? Gotta

35:52

get out, gotta meet people. vulnerable,

35:54

you have to be open it a

35:56

little girls weekend and to anyone

35:59

listening, Pamelyn, where can they find you?

36:02

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36:04

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36:06

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36:08

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36:10

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36:13

get the ending that you deserve and the love

36:15

that you've always deserved to have. Thank you.

36:17

I love you friend. I appreciate you. Okay, so

36:19

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36:21

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36:23

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36:25

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36:27

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36:29

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36:31

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36:33

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36:36

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36:38

So let's help my bestie find

36:40

her true love. I love you.

36:42

Thank you again for just being

36:44

open to chatting about this. I'm

36:46

excited for your love journey. And

36:48

I'm glad you are actually taking

36:50

me along on this process now,

36:52

not how you deal with the

36:54

divorce. So thank you. And listeners,

36:56

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