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Make sure you're following and stay tuned

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to this episode of The Daily Motivation

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Show. Hi, my name

1:11

is Lewis Howes and welcome

1:13

to The Daily Motivation Show. If

1:23

you can create a harmonious relationship

1:25

from the higher self of you, to

1:27

the wound itself, parts of you, then

1:31

things are going to start to flow better in your

1:33

life. Oh, well, yeah. In every area. Well, because think

1:35

about it like this, like, my controller part,

1:37

I've done so much work with her. You can

1:39

gender these parts of you. They have no

1:41

gender. They can have the opposite gender. It doesn't,

1:43

like, sort of whatever is intuitive for you.

1:45

My parts are female. So, so I have that

1:47

controller part that you knew for so long,

1:49

or the anxiety part, right? Even to think about

1:51

all where we were maybe 10 years ago

1:53

in these conversations to where I am with you

1:55

right now. and how much

1:58

more self -energy you feel

2:00

in this moment. So it means so much

2:02

to me that you've been there with

2:04

me. It's been like, what, 13, 14 years?

2:06

14 years, maybe, since I've known you.

2:08

2008, I met you. And when you first

2:10

met me, I was like... parts on

2:12

fire, right? Like, like on, literally on fire.

2:14

I was a workaholic. Both of us,

2:16

yeah. Really extreme, really extreme. I was sober,

2:18

but like workaholicism. I was just extreme

2:20

anxiety. Didn't know that had trauma, so

2:22

I was living in hypervigilance. I was so

2:24

scared all the time. I was so controlling.

2:26

I was, it was just like, I was

2:29

doing, you can still be going through hard

2:31

things and do beautiful things in the world.

2:33

Yeah, you still get results in life. Yeah,

2:35

and do good. But you can, but you

2:37

might be having a lot of struggle, right?

2:39

And so as a result of this

2:41

model and what I'm going to teach

2:43

everybody today and living this and developing

2:45

this and practicing this and every day

2:48

being checking in with these parts of

2:50

me, checking with these parts of me,

2:52

I've unburdened them. And so

2:54

it's not that they go away

2:56

is that they're not extreme anymore. Interesting.

2:58

So the parts that were wounded

3:00

are still inside of you. They're no

3:02

longer wounded. You feel that.

3:04

They're in their beautifully

3:06

developed chrysalis. They're new, for

3:09

instance. The part of me

3:11

that was a controller, I mean that part

3:13

did good things, right? She wrote 10 books in

3:15

14 years, right? Took action, got things done. Yes,

3:17

but now she can be in the flow, right?

3:19

Like now she can be like, I

3:21

don't have to force my way to like

3:23

get this thing to there. I'm like, oh, you

3:25

know what, Lewis? Like, I'm gonna be in

3:27

LA. Like, does that work? I'll be there. Like,

3:29

I can show up with an energy. She's

3:32

on top, but

3:34

she's... trusting. She's not

3:36

forcing. Not forcing

3:38

anything. She's just relaxed

3:40

like in the presence. So

3:42

it's still like, so it's like

3:44

a really great quality to have that

3:46

control part present because she gets

3:48

things done, but without craziness, right? Yeah,

3:51

right, right. Chaos. Okay. So these

3:53

parts of us that once controlled

3:55

us or hurt us to try to

3:57

protect us because they all had

3:59

an intention to serve us, but they

4:01

didn't help the self. really

4:04

at our highest self. They're blocking self. They're

4:06

blocking self, but they're an attempt to try

4:08

to protect us. Totally. These parts

4:10

of us, when we can have a

4:12

relationship, a harmonious relationship with them through healing

4:14

and mending those wounds, then we can

4:16

use them for good. That's correct. Yeah, you're

4:18

so great at like digesting and bringing

4:20

it back. Yeah, it's beautiful. That self right

4:22

there in action, clarity. Clarity is one

4:25

of those qualities. So you have such a

4:27

good job of listening, thinking, pulling it

4:29

together and bringing it back. And it sounds

4:31

like We we could you know by

4:33

doing this self -help work And by following

4:35

this four -step process that we're to cover

4:37

in a second and just going through the

4:39

book Sounds like when we can start

4:41

to have a different relationship with these parts

4:44

of us that have caused us pain

4:46

and suffering But also try to protect us

4:48

if we can start to have a

4:50

new relationship by mending those relationships It can

4:52

get a lot better, but it doesn't

4:54

mean Those things can come back at

4:56

some point if we don't keep having a relationship

4:58

with them in a healthy way. So you might

5:00

be six months, I feel better, but then something

5:02

triggers you and you go back to the wounded

5:04

part of you that says, I don't feel safe. You

5:07

need to control this. You need to protect this.

5:09

You need to be a perfectionist in this moment, whatever

5:11

it is, hyper vigilance. And

5:13

so it's a constant relationship and a conversation

5:15

of checking in. It sounds like... It's

5:17

called the check -in process. Okay, cool. All

5:19

right, here we go. And I like that

5:21

because everybody has a few minutes to

5:24

check in, right, or a few seconds to

5:26

check in throughout the day. And

5:28

the simplicity of it being

5:30

this four steps of checking

5:32

in with the part makes

5:34

it such that you can

5:36

have this relationship to the

5:38

part rather than why are

5:40

you doing this? It's why

5:43

the pain. Right? That's like

5:45

what Gabramato always says, like,

5:47

not why the addiction, why

5:49

the pain. And so

5:51

by every moment when you

5:53

notice a trigger or you

5:55

have this space in your

5:57

body to like see, oh,

6:00

you know, I'm out of

6:02

alignment right now. In those

6:04

moments checking in are these

6:06

moment to moment experiences of

6:08

presence with bringing self to

6:10

these parts. Thank

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