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I've ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred show. Her

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good morning, Oh, good morning. Let's hear about this date on waiting

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by the phone. Vanessa is her name? You met on bumble then,

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what that's exactly right? So we met on bumble. We started chatting and

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hit it off pretty quickly, you know, asked her what she was reading,

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what she's watching, And turns out we were both watching the stock on

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netflook called The Social Dilemma, which I thought was funny. Yeah, I

0:27

saw that. That is that is pretty crazy. It's kind of terrifying,

0:30

but I'm glad that we were both able to watch it, you know, talk about it a bit. And I used that opportunity to ask for a

0:36

number and ask her out to dinner, to which she obliged that yes,

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took her out, and I don't know, she was amazing. I mean,

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the thing is like she was kind of quiet at dinner, which you

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know, I guess if you're chatting and texting back and forth doesn't always translate

0:51

to face to face. But I'm just trying to figure out if we had

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a good time, which I thought we did on our first day. Why

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she goes, yeah, and you had a lot in common, I mean the reading and the in the documentary stuff, like not everybody reads, not

1:03

everybody watch watch the documentaries, and it just so happened you were watching the

1:07

same one, so you have, you know, similar sensibilities. And you

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would have thought that was like, you know, I don't know, built in conversation and similar interests and that's all. That's all good, exactly exactly,

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And you know, I'm trying to ask for more about you know, what she's reading or at dinner, and you know, the conversation felt a

1:23

little built in at times, but honestly, she's incredibly beautiful, incredibly charming.

1:27

We definitely have that initial spark. There's some chemistry there. Bigs too

1:36

is smitten. All right, well, let's let's cabble the nessa. We'll

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ask some questions. We'll see if we can figure out what's going on.

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You'll be on the phone at some point. You're welcome to jump in and

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hopefully we can straighten this out and set you guys up on another date that

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we pay for. Okay, m'ch appreciated, guys. Okay, you got

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it. Can you hang on for a second. Yeah, let's see what

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happens next Part two of Waiting by the Phone after Neon Trees back in two

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Fred Show Radio, The Fred Show TikTok as well partier Waiting by the

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Phone, Big Stew, Welcome back. Let's call Vanessa. You guys met

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on Bumble and you really connected well. In fact, you were reading some

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of the same books or roy at least watching the same documentary, and you were excited about these similar interests. Except now she's ghosting you and you want

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to know why. Let's call her now. Good luck man, Thanks dude,

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Hell, Hi is this Vanessa? Vanessa? Good morning, It's Fred

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for the Fred's Show. Everybody's here. I'm sorry to bother it, but

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I do have to tell you that we are on the radio right now and

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I would need your consent to continue with the call. Can we talk for

2:46

a little bit? Okay? Sure, Thank you so much. I get

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read to it, though I don't want to waste too much of your time. We're calling on behalf of this dude named Stuart, who I guess you

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met on bumble. Do you remember this guy? Oh yeah, oh boy?

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Okay, so I'll tell you that he called us. He reached out

3:06

to us and told us that he really liked you and he thought that you

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had a lot in common. I was excited about the date. I thought

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the date went well. And he says, now you're you're ghosting him,

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and he's curious as to why can you tell us because he's super annoying?

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Why is he super annoying? So have you ever met one of those people

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that is, first of all, he's very smart, which there's nothing wrong

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with being smart, but he clearly wants everybody to know that he is very

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smart. Yeah. Yeah, How did you just describe sort of how you

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were led to that conclusion? Did you just say I'm so smart from the

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moment he picked me up, so when he dropped me off, he was

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constantly educating me on something, telling me how things worked, making sure it

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was informed. And I just wanted to be completely exhausting. Sometimes you just

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want to hang out. You don't need to learn every single moment of every

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day. And I mean, what you like? You got in his car and he was like, this is a nineteen you know this this way this

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comes in the eighteen crime just made it in Germany and inmanytimes. You don't

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want to learn though. I say this to you all the time when I watch Krabby TV, Like sometimes I just want to not bring this stuff.

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You annoyed at that, and that would be annoying. But but but in

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this case, you felt like he was like he really wanted you to think

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he was smart or know that he was smart. Yeah, And I mean

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I also, I mean, it's great to have intellectual conversations, but it's

4:30

also sometimes just like get to know me as a person, and and also

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like it's it's kind of rude to constantly be educating someone. Is this okay?

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Well, you know, I forgot to mention, as I often do,

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I just it just flips my mind that Stuart's here. Stuart, what

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what's the deal? Like what I mean? You said you have stuff in common? You knew that already. Why are you trying to prove to her

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that you're so smart? First of all, First of all, Hi,

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you're making me sound like I'm trying to mansplain everything to you. This is

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this is a that I've been working on for a while. I'm trying to

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always be educated working on it, so you acknowledge that you've heard this before,

5:06

you it all or yeah, I'm really trying to work on this kind

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of this man's place, you know, whether or not it exists. I'm

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doing my best to curb that behavior. Vanessa, if he started to see

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it, I'm sorry, I don't really know what to tell you. Okay,

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Hey, you know what. You know what I'm hearing right now, Vanessa, I'm hearing something we almost never hear it. It's called self awareness.

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It's like this guy is saying he's validating what you're saying and saying somebody

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he wants to work on. I mean, you liked him otherwise, and

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now he knows he needs to be more conscious of it. I mean,

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would you consider giving him another chance maybe when he's done working on it?

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Okay, you know, I didn't really want to say this, but maybe

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if you could keep up with me, it wouldn't be having a book still.

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And then the self awareness out the window. I knew it. I

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knew I was waiting for the other shoe to drop. There it is,

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Vanessa, I see exactly what you're talking about. Now. Yeah, he's

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not just smart, he's just a complete smart ass, and it's not no,

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not no, that would be so annoying. I can't see. I

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know, I know people like this. See there it was though, like

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I thought, at first he was saying, Oh my gosh, I don't

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mean to come off that way. And then it's then you just, dude,

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you can't. You just called her stupid indirectly, pretty directly. How

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do you think that's going to work? I mean, you're you're trying to make a good impression, and I don't even know are you thinking? No?

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I don't even want to waste my time trying to explain this to you

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guys at this point, Yeah, okay, here we go. This all

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makes sense to me now, Vanessa, Hey, what forget it? Forget

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it? Not worth it? Not worth it anymore? All right, Vanessa,

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Hey, thanks for talking with us. I'm sorry to bother and I

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get it now. And I won't even ask about another day because I already.

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Good luck on Bumble and uh and and Stuart, good luck finding your

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next brainiac. What do you say they get bent? That's very intellectual.

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What did he say? Get bent? How do I do that? I'm

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to teach me how to get bent? Please get the you know the in

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ancient Indian times they said that get bent. They did. It was in

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then oh wow, and then the sun. Yeah of the for Yeah,

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that's what it's exactly right. Yeah, I heard. And then it used

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to say that they would say get bentus, which means in the seventies,

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get us spent us. I have no idea get bent meant, I mean,

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let's not bring that loave back. No, I don't know.