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hey

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everybody you're listening to the lazy

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genius podcasts i'm kinda adichie

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and i'm here to help you be a genius about the things

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that matter and lazy about the things

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to do with today's episode two hundred

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and forty six five essential

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mindset for time management i

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have done a lot of content over the last year's

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about time management and it continues to

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be the most requested topics

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we all have time and we

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all have expectations about

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how we won it empty or filled and

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we have we have of hard disease stressful

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days that we need to manage so we don't

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lose our minds it as a front burner challenge

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pretty much all the time for most people in some

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way when we want to tackle that

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challenge we often will look for

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hacks and systems and practical

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ideas to help us out and there's nothing wrong

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with that and fact here are some episodes

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that you can listen to that are practical and

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systems and ideas episode

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one ninety seven is the lazy genius

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plans a day that's

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i talk about flags bunting and chairs

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episode one ninety eight is how to

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lazy genius your to-do list because

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so much of our daily planning is organizing

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the stuff we have to do right

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and an episode two hundred and thirty eight

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is how to get stuff done when you don't

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feel like it because that is very

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very real those are practical

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and helpful but practical

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isn't the only piece of the

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puzzle one of my foundational

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principles and my own personal work is

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that we need both practicality

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the and permission system

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the and soul telling

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you that you're doing great that

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matters and it makes a difference encouraging

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you and giving you permission that matters giving

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you ideas and systems

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on how to get stuff done that also matters

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that also makes a difference but the two

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together or where we can

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start to see some real change

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we need both off

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and right next to each other so since

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i've already given you some really practical episodes

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on time management today i want to go a

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bit higher level and share some essential

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mindsets or mantras that

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will impact your time management

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no matter what your time looks

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like i said all

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of these things and fits and starts in different

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places over the years but this is your

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episode to have all of your time

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management mindset in one place

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the alleged number

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one your beliefs affect

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your time more than your scheduled

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us your beliefs affect

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your time more than your scheduled us i'm

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not saying that you need to

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manifest your time or that your appointments

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aren't actually real none of that your

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schedules legit you likely have actual

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thing the do what i want

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to encourage un that

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your beliefs about your time

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have a greater deeper impact

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on how you spend it then you

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realize example if

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you tell yourself that you're bad

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cook and can't get anything right in the kitchen

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and that your mother or mother-in-law or

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anybody that looked inside your fridge or

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watched you cook a meal would be so this for

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you that you had that rolling

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loop in your head while you make a meal

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it's gonna take you take lot longer to cook dinner

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it's also going to feel like it's taking

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longer because you're weighing

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the time down with those

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harmful police less

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harmful but still impactful

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is when you look at your overwhelming to do list

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and you say i'm never going to get all time

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i'm never going to get all that snow i have often

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said that very sentence but if you stay

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in that sentence in that belief

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and let it dictate how you plan your time that

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is going to impact your schedule and

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your soul way more than the actual

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tasks that's part of

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why this episode is important and why these

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mindsets make a difference you are

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choosing if you believe

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new truths about your time

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and how you manage it we need

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these beliefs the whole bus

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craft our days in a helpful

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authentic hind

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way they want to number two

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do not judge everyday against

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your best day i will say

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this until i'm blue in the says do

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not judge everyday against your best

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day we , have experienced days

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days feel it best best days you know we're in flow

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were like happy and light we get stuff

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done our kids or our

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coworkers or whoever we're spending time with

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they're all like signed an easy to get

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along with and there were no ridiculous

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messes to clean up literal or

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metaphorical says the woman who does had

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claimed he of the bathroom floor ten minutes ago

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we , our vitamins we drank our water

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we got up out of bed without dragging we

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still pretty we made dinner all the things

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that such a good day right and couple things

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first my guess it's

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been a couple years since you've had a good day like

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that you

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might actually be chasing that kind of

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day without realizing you're doing it

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the this season of the pandemic

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has likely taken away a

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lot of our past capacity to deal

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with hard things so we don't really

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have good days anymore which

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leads me to the second part of us at

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some point under do not judge everyday

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get stressed what is best

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mean anyway what

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is a good day what

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is the measuring stick

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for a good day we don't

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ask ourselves that question often enough the

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problem is our cultures answer is

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at the ready and it's more

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it's more embedded in how we see and

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do things a

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productive way if we

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get a lot done that's a good day optimize

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day because it was

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productive an optimized we're happier

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right no i

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think that optimizing or time is a great thing i

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love efficiency and doing

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things in the right order minutes a lazy genus

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principal go on the right order that matters

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you can't optimize every minute

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of every day nor should you

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i said it's a couple weeks ago and i got so

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many messages were all the about it that

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you're not an instant pot and said that on the podcast

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you're not a programmable said it and forget

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it percent optimization

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and have turned us into and support that

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is never more true

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then when we are using optimization

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and productivity that's our

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measuring sticks for a good day

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if we get system and it was a good day but

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is it what about people who are

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home with tiny humans productivity

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looks really different their what

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about those of us who have had to dial

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pack your hours at work or have last

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year jobs entirely because of

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the pandemic and you aren't used to having nothing

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to do

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productivity can't be the measuring stick because it's

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not fluid in us it's to

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rooted in things beyond

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your control and sometimes

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even beyond your season of life

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the yes do not judge everyday

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against your best day in that literal sense

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don't compare all your days

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to a really good one they

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also ask yourself what does good actually

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mean maybe that

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you felt grounded and like yourself

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no matter what happened maybe it's

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that you worked through the stress the

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you experienced without disintegrating

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into a puddle

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maybe it's that you barely got anything done

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on your to do list that you were kind to yourself

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all the same your kind to yourself

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even when you're a puddle

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i think good days could be as simple

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as days we allow

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ourselves to be human then

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invite others to the the same

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i think but i also said that

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it's just that i did a thing that worked for

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way i have an episode about choosing a planner like

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uses a planner that what happens is

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and assistance instead of in

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the practice if

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you don't already make a meal plan less

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he's as example having a cute dry

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the system and the tools or to

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support an already

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existing actor

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that's why you get a planer and you quit

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or you buy a pretty notebook and right onto pages

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and then you quit it's not that the

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planner or the pad or the

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system isn't working

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that you don't yet have a practice so

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focused on the practice not

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on the planner the

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before tend , the necessary

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before it becomes urgent this

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, hugely helpful mindset

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because it's like a decision compass

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you see all the things in front of you

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and often respond to the urgent and

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set of something more rhythmic

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that probably makes you feel a little bit more human

13:25

rhythm feel more grounded than

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putting out fires still night the

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few weeks ago i also shared on instagram how

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i brain dump everything stressing me out and

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i signed it into four categories

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all kinds of things that are in my brain

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i write it down in one big brain dump list and

13:56

then isis i decide

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what needs to be done now now with

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now hearn what

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can be done later and what doesn't

14:06

actually matter anymore that but i see

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everything listed out nevermind

14:12

that practice has helped me identify

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what's actually necessary and

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what doesn't matter but is actually holding their brain

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hostage but one of the best things about

14:21

doing that is seeing what needs

14:23

to be done now the i can take

14:25

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it becomes like supergiants now there's

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a perfect system now course we're human and

14:32

remember systems aren't magical are perfect anyway

14:35

that i do like this now soon later

14:37

nevermind one because it is simple

14:39

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14:41

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it doesn't make me figure everything out right now

14:48

and turn me into a robot

14:50

it's an immediate litmus test

14:53

for what needs to get done now versus

14:55

scrambling at the last minute

14:58

that's what kind of like asking the magic question

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what can i do now to make something easier later

15:04

what can i tend to now before

15:07

it becomes urgent

15:08

maybe it having a file folder

15:11

or like a giant paper clip or binder

15:13

clip in your mail basket so

15:15

that when your tax documents start coming

15:18

in over the next few weeks you

15:20

immediately put them in that folder or clinton

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together and that way when it's april

15:24

you're not scrambling to find everything and get super

15:27

stressed out about it right maybe

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, laundry i think sometimes we we

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let laundry go until it's ah

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of the urgent were like

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we may get warmer day day the

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more day comes and you didn't do

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of that hand to

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the necessary

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the for it becomes urgent that

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mindset well impact

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your time management in practical

16:27

beautifully helpful ways especially

16:31

because it's primary objective

16:33

is keeping you from task

16:36

panic i

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never had don't do

16:40

it all do what

16:42

matters we

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know that no one can do at all that

16:47

we still kind of expect it makes in the back

16:49

of our minds

16:51

when we get overwhelmed with that expectation i

16:53

call that the genius way

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between to the lazy side of things and

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well i well i'm not going do anything if

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he they're all lazy or all genius instead

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don't do it all the new

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what there

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that's why everything we do here in

17:12

late genius land focuses

17:14

on naming what matters

17:17

when you name what matters to you you

17:20

will focus more on that saying then

17:23

on the other thing and therefore

17:25

you're doing what matters most experience

17:28

is will feel more complete

17:32

because you did what mattered most

17:35

for example and it is a great

17:37

place we're going to insert our lazy genius of

17:39

the week right in the middle the episode because it's

17:41

such a great example i got a message

17:43

recently from christine lindstrom

17:45

who is planning a fan i trip to disney

17:47

world she right i

17:50

realize i was getting neurotic about trying to

17:52

maximize every moment of this very expensive

17:55

experience don't waste waste

17:57

don't miss anything in my ten year

17:59

old son in said something about trying to

18:01

make sure disney was perfect and

18:03

i realized i wasn't the only one setting

18:06

myself up for disappointment we

18:08

sat down as a family and talked about

18:10

what matters for our trip

18:12

what is most important will do

18:14

will do more than the things we listed but

18:16

if we don't see and do it all we

18:19

can know that we did what matters

18:21

you guys christenings example

18:24

is so applicable to all kinds

18:26

of things not just trips to disneyworld when

18:28

we name what matters about

18:31

an experience a day a project

18:34

a meeting and interaction a list

18:36

we focus on that thing

18:38

or that small collection of things

18:41

and there for we have

18:44

sure that feeling of doing

18:46

it all because we did what

18:48

mattered

18:49

the when you're managing your time in any

18:52

way this essential mindset

18:54

will cure you so far don't

18:56

do it all do what

18:59

matters

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it out to point you in the direction of

19:03

an episode on how to name what matters

19:06

but we don't have one which is why

19:09

i , about it throughout lots of episodes

19:11

and instagram posts am i have episodes

19:13

at the start of the last two years

19:16

at the beginning of twenty twenty one and twenty twenty

19:18

two on ways to name of matters

19:20

for the mere pacific lee said

19:22

as that help there's also episode

19:24

two hundred and thirty five when

19:27

you disagree on what matters matters

19:29

is really helpful if you are living

19:32

with someone or were can call for the someone and

19:35

yeah you disagree what matters in the camp quite

19:37

comfy you are a solution or solution

19:40

that there isn't a general episode on this

19:42

topic which i didn't realize

19:44

and i think any to change and twenty twenty two

19:46

for hopefully that will be some identify pretty said

19:48

okay so to recap

19:51

our essential mindset or

19:53

five a central mindsets for time management

19:56

far

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more than your schedule that don't

20:02

judge every hey against your birthday

20:10

tend to the necessary before it becomes

20:14

and don't do it all do

20:16

what

20:18

i hope that this helps you feel

20:21

better about managing your time

20:23

a little bit more encouraged whatever your

20:25

time looks like and ,

20:27

it for today today so much for listening

20:30

for sharing the episodes with your friends and your family

20:32

and for just being very lovely people until

20:35

next time be a genius about the things that

20:37

matter and lazy about the thing

20:39

adults and kendra yeah