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Hello friends and welcome to the Liz

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Moody podcast where every week we are

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sharing real science, real stories and realistic

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tools that actually level up every part

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of your life. I'm your house Liz Moody

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and I'm a best-selling author and longtime journalist.

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In today's episode I'm going to share three

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things to stop doing in your 20s and

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three things to stop doing in your 30s

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to be happier, healthier and wealthier. Last week

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we shared three things to start doing

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in your 20s and 30s and you

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definitely don't have to listen to that

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one first. But I recommend queuing it

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up after this one if you missed

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it, because there's a ton of valuable

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information in there that you will not

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hear anywhere else. These things to stop

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are based on years of interviewing high

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performers and world-class experts, and also they're

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just all the things that I wish

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I had known earlier, so please learn

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from my mistakes so you do not

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have to make them yourself. And also,

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if you're in your 40s or 50s

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or beyond, there's still going to be a

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ton of good stuff in here for you.

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These are lessons that many of us are

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still learning throughout our lives. And also, there

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will be a ton of wisdom that you

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can share with your kids, with nephews, with

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nieces, with younger friends. Let's jump right in

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with things to stop doing in your 20s.

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I'm just going to be so blunt right

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out the gate. You need to stop spending

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so much time on your phone and

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particularly scrolling on social media. This is

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the root cause of so many of

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our life problems and honestly it truly

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sucks that this is a problem previous

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generations did not have to deal with

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in the same way. But scrolling on

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social media is making us compare our

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lives to other people's which makes us

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feel like our lives aren't enough. It's

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making us buy things that we don't

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want which is blowing our budgets. It's

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making us terrified about the world because

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instead of choosing when we want to

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consume fear-filled news the algorithms are choosing

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when we consume it. So we can

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be laying in bed feeling peaceful and

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then bam! Suddenly there's a news post

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in our feet and it spikes our

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adrenaline and it makes us feel really

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panicking. This is actually a...

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important micro tip if you do

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nothing else after listening to this

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episode do this one thing actively

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seek out your news do not let

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your news seek you out you can

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still get all of the information, whether

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it's on legacy media or on podcasts

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or social media accounts, just make a

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list of the ones that you want

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to check in and then set a

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time to check in when you are

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prepared to digest the information and take

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action steps. Right now, so many of

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us are bombarded with so much information

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at such unhelpful times that it is

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putting us into freeze mode. And we

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are letting people hijack our attention and

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hijack our emotions under the guise of

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being good citizens while I... Ironically, it's

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making us far less likely to take

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action. Choose when you consume your news.

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Do it on your own terms. It

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will drastically change your mental health. And

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it'll lead to you being far more

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likely to process and digest the things

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that are important and take action on

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the things that matter. Okay, that was

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a digression, but an important one and

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one that I feel really, really strongly

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about. It's actually wild when you think

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about how we consume news. People come

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into our house and they shout these

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really emotionally activating things at us whenever

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they feel like it throughout the day.

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Okay, going back. Other negative impacts that

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our phones are having, they are messing

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with our neural chemistry, making it harder

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for us to feel pleasure and motivation

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in our daily lives. They are messing

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with our ability to actually enjoy being

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around people in our lives. I cannot

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tell you how many times I have

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seen people out at a restaurant or

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I have even been out with friends

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and they are scrolling instead of talking

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to each other or to me. I

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have a friend who's a high school

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teacher and he says in the cafeteria

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these days. It's just silent because everyone

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is on their phones watching videos with headphones

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in and it is just such an eerie

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thing to picture. And here's the thing that

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I think a lot of people miss when

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they say we need to get off our

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phones. It's hard. One of the huge reasons...

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that we default to being

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on our phones is because

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it's way easier to passively

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consume social media content than

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to actively make a conversation

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with someone. Making conversation comes

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with pressure. It comes with

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potential judgment. Your brain has to

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work so much harder. And guess

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what? Not despite all of those

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things, but because of them, it

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is so, so worth it. We

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need to acknowledge that doing anything

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other than social media is going

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to be harder. Reading a book

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is going to be harder, making plans

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with a friend is going to be

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harder, going for a walk is going

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to be harder. And we need to

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do it anyway, because in the long

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run, the hard of choosing to scroll

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is so much worse. It is making

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us anxious, it is making us depressed,

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it is making us lonely, and we

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are going to wake up in our

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80s and realize that we have scrolled

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away literally decades of our lives. We

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get to choose our hard. Choose the hard

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that will make you feel so much better

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in the long run. I have an entire

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episode about overcoming phone addiction

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with lots of science-backed tricks

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that work really quickly, and

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I will link that in the

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show notes. But for now, I just

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want you to do the real math.

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What are you gaining from scrolling, and

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what is it costing you? And are

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you willing to pay that price? Even

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the smallest steps can make a huge

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difference, only having your phone in your

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purse when you're hanging out with friends

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or creating no scrolling hours for yourself.

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Just play around, try some stuff that

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works for you, and just make sure

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that you are doing the math. The next

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thing that I want you to stop in

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your 20s is being friends with people who

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make you feel bad about yourself. And before

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you're like, Liz, why would it be friends

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with people who make me feel bad about

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myself? I want you to really think about

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how you feel when you hang out with

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your friends. Do you feel like you can

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take on the world? Do you feel like

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you love your body or at the very

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least... just feel neutral about it. Do

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you feel happy for their wins and like

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they are happy for yours? Do they support

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your relationships? Or do they

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encourage you to talk shit about your

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partner to feel closer to your friends?

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Do they make you feel insecure about

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your body either because of the things

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that they say about your body or

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how they treat their own? Do they make

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you feel like you have to spend

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money that you don't actually have? Our

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20s are a time in our life

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where we often have leftover relationships, relationships

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bored of convenience that don't represent who

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we are or who we're trying to

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be. Maybe it's a dorm room friend or

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someone that you worked at your first job

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with. Or maybe you've just changed, you've decided

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to leave your party girl years behind,

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or you've realized that you've been living

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a life that looks good, and now

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you want to live a life that

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feels good. But it is so, so

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key to notice these things and to

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make a change because the people that

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you surround yourself with are the people

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who create your vision of the world.

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They're the people who calibrate what

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is possible for your dreams in your

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life. If you have friends who believe

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that success is possible, that belief rubs

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off on you. And if you have friends who

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believe that everything is an uphill battle, that

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it's all going to turn out badly no

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matter what you do, well, guess what you're

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going to start believing? And guess what's

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going to start penetrating your subconscious

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and infiltrating your actions? Your friends

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can also make your daily habits

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extremely easy or extremely hard. You

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can focus on your health when you're in

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a group of binge drinkers, but you will

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feel like you are swimming against the current

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the entire time. If you want to take on

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a new habit, the single way to make

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it easier is to surround yourself with people

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already doing that habit. If you want to

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eat well, surround yourself with people who are

7:45

excited about farmers markets, who want to test

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out a salad recipe that they saw on

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social media on a Saturday night. If you

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want to work out, surround yourself with people

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who are going to invite you on hikes

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and who want to go to the gym

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so you can gossip between sets together. We

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are social creatures, we are evolutionarily

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hardwired to fit in. Bottom line,

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your friends are a huge part

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of who you become and your

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20s are the decade of becoming.

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Choose your friends wisely. That said,

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the last thing that I want you

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to stop doing in your 20s is

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putting pressure on yourself. If this feels

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contradictory to what I just

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said, it's not because I want you to

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take the pressure... off of having to make

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this dream friend group that you'll have for

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life that exists mostly in social media photos

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where they are definitely fighting in the group

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chat behind the scenes. I want you to

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experiment. Your 20s is the best time to

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try hanging out with people that you had

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never considered being friends with because this is

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how you figure out who you love and

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who you want to fill your time with.

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It's the best time to try

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new jobs or try living in

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new cities. And yes, you can

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100% do all of this at

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other times in your life, but

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the consequences in your 20s are

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so much lower. Your 20s are

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the ideal time to take risks.

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And one of the biggest things

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that keeps people from taking those

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risks is this bullshit story of

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where you should be. Shoulds are

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bullshit rules created by other people

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to make themselves feel better about

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their own choices. Take chances, relish

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the bad dates. Once you have

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a life partner, you won't get

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to share the weird stories and

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laugh about them with your friends

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later. The parts of your life

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that feel the most off the

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rails are the parts that you

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are going to miss the most

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because as you get older your

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life naturally falls more on track

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and you miss waking up and

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not knowing where the train is going

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to go every day. And maybe that

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metaphor is too extended but on

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behalf of everyone in their 30s

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and 40s and 50s, enjoy the

9:51

mess. Your 20s is such a delightful

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time to embrace messiness. And if you're

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worried about how that mess is going

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to impact your future, first of all,

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that experimentation is going to give

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you so many more options for

10:03

the future. And second, just spin

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it. A huge mistake that a

10:08

ton of people make with resumes

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and cover letters is just straightforwardly

10:12

listing all of their previous work

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experiences when really it is an

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and piece together a story of

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in your favor. That time that

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you spent working at a hostel

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in Greece, were you learning hospitality

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skills? Were you managing numerous varied

10:37

personalities from different cultures and backgrounds?

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There is value in almost every

10:41

life experience and teasing out that

10:43

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so many possibilities for you. Micro

10:48

habits are a major part of

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my life. They're small, consistent parts

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of my routine that have significant

10:54

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10:56

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