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Enjoy. The more you dwell on what

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or your life that you've

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always disliked are probably still

0:58

with you. What you put

1:01

your attention on grows

1:03

and becomes permanent in

1:06

your life Move away from

1:08

the negative and put your

1:10

attention on what it is

1:12

you really do want to

1:14

have or be Let's turn

1:16

those negative affirmations

1:19

into positive affirmations.

1:21

I am slender. I am prosperous.

1:23

I am eternally young.

1:26

I now move to a

1:28

better place I have a

1:30

wonderful new relationship. I am my

1:33

own person. I am filled with

1:35

love and affection. I am

1:37

joyous and happy and free.

1:40

I am totally healthy.

1:42

Learn to think in

1:44

positive affirmations. Affirmations

1:47

are any statements you

1:49

make. Too often we

1:51

think in negative affirmations.

1:53

Negative affirmations only create

1:55

more of what you

1:57

say you don't want.

1:59

Saying I hate my job

2:02

will get you nowhere. Declaring

2:04

I now accept a wonderful

2:06

new job will open the

2:08

channels in your consciousness to

2:10

create that. Continuously make positive

2:12

statements about how you want

2:14

your life to be. However,

2:16

there is one point that

2:18

is very important. Always make

2:20

your statements in present tense,

2:22

such as I am or

2:24

I have. Your subconscious mind

2:26

is such an obedient servant

2:28

that if you declare in

2:31

future tense I want or

2:33

I will have Then that

2:35

is where it will always

2:37

stay just out of your

2:39

reach in the future The

2:41

process of loving the self

2:43

as I have said before

2:45

no matter what the problem

2:47

the main issue to work

2:49

on is loving the self

2:51

This is the magic one

2:53

that dissolves problems Remember the

2:55

times when you have felt

2:57

good about yourself and how

2:59

well your life was going?

3:01

Remember the times when you

3:03

were in love and for

3:06

those periods you seem to

3:08

have no problems? Well, loving

3:10

yourself is going to bring

3:12

such a surge of good

3:14

feelings and good fortune to

3:16

you that you will be

3:18

dancing on air. Loving yourself

3:20

makes you feel good. It's

3:23

impossible to really love yourself

3:25

unless you have self-approval and

3:27

self-acceptance. This means no criticism

3:29

whatsoever. Oh, I can hear

3:31

all the objections right now,

3:33

but I've always criticized myself.

3:36

How can I possibly like

3:38

that about myself? My teachers,

3:40

parents, lovers, always criticize me.

3:42

How will I be motivated?

3:44

But it is wrong for

3:46

me to do these things.

3:48

How am I going to

3:51

change if I don't criticize

3:53

myself? Training the mind. Self-criticisms

3:55

like these are just the

3:57

going on with old chatter.

3:59

See how you've trained your

4:01

mind to be rate you

4:03

and be resistant to change?

4:06

Ignore those thoughts and get

4:08

on with the important work

4:10

at hand. Let's go back

4:12

to an exercise we did

4:14

earlier. Look into the mirror

4:16

again and say, I love

4:18

and approve of myself exactly

4:21

as I am. How does

4:23

that feel now? Is it

4:25

a little easier after the

4:27

forgiveness work we have done?

4:29

This is still the main

4:31

issue. Self-approval and self-acceptance are

4:33

the keys to positive changes.

4:36

In the days when my

4:38

own self-denial was so prevalent,

4:40

I would occasionally slap my

4:42

own face. I didn't know

4:44

the meaning of self-acceptance. My

4:46

belief in my own lacks

4:48

and limitations was stronger than

4:51

anything anyone else could say

4:53

to the contrary. If someone

4:55

told me I was loved,

4:57

my immediate reaction was, why?

4:59

What could they possibly see

5:01

in me? Or the classic

5:03

thought, if they only knew

5:06

what I was really like

5:08

inside, they wouldn't love me.

5:10

I was not aware that

5:12

all good begins with accepting

5:14

that which is within oneself,

5:16

and loving that self which

5:18

is you which is you,

5:21

which is you which is

5:23

you which is you It

5:25

took quite a while to

5:27

develop a peaceful, loving relationship

5:29

with myself. First, I used

5:31

to hunt for the little

5:33

things about myself I thought

5:36

were good qualities. Even this

5:38

helped, and my own health

5:40

began to improve. Good health

5:42

begins with loving the self.

5:44

So do prosperity and love

5:46

and creative self-expression. Later, I

5:48

learned to love and approve

5:51

of all of me. Even

5:53

those qualities I thought were

5:55

not good enough. That was

5:57

when I really began to

5:59

make progress. Exercise. I approve

6:01

of myself. I have given

6:03

this exercise to hundreds of

6:06

people and the results are

6:08

phenomenal. For the next month,

6:10

say over and over and

6:12

over to yourself, I approve of

6:14

myself. I approve of myself.

6:17

Do this three or four hundred

6:19

times a day, at least.

6:21

No, it's not too many

6:23

times. When you are worrying,

6:25

you go over your problem

6:27

at least that many times.

6:29

Let I approve of myself

6:32

when you are fat, or

6:34

it's silly to think of

6:36

myself, almost nonstop. Saying I

6:38

approve of myself is guaranteed

6:40

to bring up everything buried

6:43

in your consciousness that

6:45

is in opposition. When

6:47

the negative thought comes up

6:49

like, how can you approve

6:52

of yourself when you are fat?

6:54

Or it's silly to think this

6:56

can do any good. or you're

6:58

no good, or whatever your negative

7:00

babble will be, this is

7:02

the time to take mental

7:05

control. Give it no importance.

7:07

Just see the thought for what

7:09

it is, another way to keep

7:11

you stuck in the past. Gently say

7:13

to this thought, I let you

7:16

go, I approve of myself. Even

7:18

considering doing this exercise

7:20

can bring up a lot of

7:22

stuff. Like it feels silly

7:25

or it doesn't feel true

7:27

or it's a lie, it sounds

7:29

stuck up. Or how can I

7:31

approve of myself when

7:33

I do that? Just let them

7:36

all pass through. These are

7:38

only resistance thoughts. They

7:40

have no power over you

7:42

unless you choose to believe

7:45

them. I approve of myself.

7:47

No matter what happens, no matter who

7:49

says what to you, no matter who

7:51

does what to you, just keep it

7:54

going. In fact, when you can say

7:56

that to yourself, when someone is

7:58

doing something, you don't... don't approve

8:00

of you will know you

8:02

are growing and changing. Thoughts

8:05

have no power over us

8:07

unless we give it to

8:09

them. Thoughts are only words

8:11

strung together. They have no

8:13

meaning whatsoever. Only we give

8:15

meaning to them. And we

8:17

choose what sort of meaning

8:19

we give to them. Let

8:21

us choose to think thoughts

8:23

that nourish and support us.

8:25

Part of self-acceptance is releasing

8:27

other people's opinions. If I

8:29

were with you and kept

8:31

telling you, you are a

8:33

purple pig, you are a

8:35

purple pig, you are a

8:37

purple pig, you would either

8:39

laugh at me or get

8:41

annoyed with me and think

8:43

I was crazy. It would

8:45

be most unlikely that you

8:47

would think it was true.

8:49

Yet many of the things

8:51

we have chosen to believe

8:53

about ourselves are just as

8:55

far out and untrue. To

8:57

believe that your self-worth is

8:59

dependent on the shape of

9:01

your body is your version

9:03

of believing that you are

9:05

a purple pig. Often what

9:07

we think of as the

9:09

things wrong with us are

9:11

only our expressions of our

9:14

own individuality. This is our

9:16

uniqueness and what is special

9:18

about us. Nature never repeats

9:20

itself, since time began on

9:22

this planet. There have never

9:24

been two snowflakes alike, nor

9:26

two raindrops the same. And

9:28

every daisy is different from

9:30

every other daisy. Our fingerprints

9:32

are different, and we are

9:34

different. We are meant to

9:36

be different. When we can

9:38

accept this, then there is

9:40

no competition and no comparison.

9:42

To try to be like

9:44

another is to shrivel our

9:46

soul. We have come to

9:48

this planet. to express who

9:50

we are. I didn't even

9:52

know who I was until

9:54

I began to learn to

9:56

love myself. as I am

9:58

in this moment. Put your

10:00

awareness into practice. Think thoughts

10:02

that make you happy. Do

10:04

things that make you feel

10:06

good. Be with people who

10:08

make you feel good. Eat

10:10

things that make your body

10:12

feel good. Go at a

10:14

pace that makes you feel

10:16

good. Think for a moment

10:18

of a tomato plant. A

10:20

healthy plant can have over

10:23

a hundred tomatoes on it.

10:25

In order to get this

10:27

tomato plant with all these

10:29

tomatoes on it, we need

10:31

to start with a small

10:33

dried seed. That seed doesn't

10:35

look like a tomato plant.

10:37

It doesn't taste like a

10:39

tomato plant. However, let's say

10:41

you plant this seed in

10:43

fertile soil and you water

10:45

it and let the sunshine

10:47

on it. And when the

10:49

first tiny little shoot comes

10:51

up, you don't stomp on

10:53

it and say that's not

10:55

a tomato plant. Rather you

10:57

look at it and say

10:59

oh boy here it comes

11:01

and you watch it grow

11:03

with delight in time If

11:05

you continue to water it

11:07

and give it lots of

11:09

sunshine and pull away any

11:11

weeds You might have a

11:13

tomato plant with more than

11:15

a hundred tomatoes on it

11:17

and it all began with

11:19

that one tiny sea It

11:21

is the same with creating

11:23

a new experience for yourself

11:25

The soil you plant in

11:27

is your subconscious mind. The

11:30

seed is the new affirmation.

11:32

The whole new experience is

11:34

in this tiny sea. And

11:36

you water it with repetitions.

11:38

You let the sunshine of

11:40

positive thoughts beam on it.

11:42

You weed the garden by

11:44

pulling out the negative thoughts

11:46

that come up. And when

11:48

you see the first tiniest

11:50

little evidence, you don't say

11:52

that's not enough. Instead, you

11:54

look at this first breakthrough

11:56

and you say with glee,

11:58

oh boy, here it comes,

12:00

it's working. And then you

12:02

watch it grow. and become

12:04

your desire in manifestation. All

12:06

good begins with accepting that

12:08

which is within oneself and

12:10

loving that self which is

12:12

you. It took quite a

12:14

while to develop a peaceful

12:16

loving relationship with myself. First,

12:18

I used to hunt for

12:20

the little things about myself

12:22

I thought were good qualities.

12:24

Even this helped, and my

12:26

own health began to improve.

12:28

Good health begins with loving

12:30

the self. So do prosperity

12:32

and love and creative self-expression.

12:34

Later, I learned to love

12:36

and approve of all of

12:39

me. Even those qualities I

12:41

thought were not good enough.

12:43

That was when I really

12:45

began to make progress. Exercise.

12:47

I approve of myself. I

12:49

have given this exercise to

12:51

hundreds of people, and the

12:53

results are phenomenal. For the

12:55

next month, say over and

12:57

over and over to yourself.

12:59

I approve of myself. I

13:01

approve of myself. Do this

13:03

three or four hundred times

13:05

a day, at least. No,

13:07

it's not too many times.

13:09

When you are worrying, you

13:11

go over your problem at

13:13

least that many times. Let

13:15

I approve of myself become

13:17

a walking mantra. Something you

13:19

just say over and over

13:21

and over and over to

13:23

yourself. almost nonstop. Saying I

13:25

approve of myself is guaranteed

13:27

to bring up everything buried

13:29

in your consciousness that is

13:31

in opposition. When the negative

13:33

thought comes up like, how

13:35

can you approve of yourself

13:37

when you are fat? Or

13:39

it's silly to think this

13:41

can do any good, or

13:43

you're no good, or whatever

13:46

your negative babble will be.

13:48

This is the time to

13:50

take mental control. Give it

13:52

no importance. Just see the

13:54

thought for what it is.

13:56

Another way to keep you

13:58

stuck in the past. Gently

14:00

say to this thought, I

14:02

let you go, I approve

14:04

of myself. Even considering doing

14:06

this exercise can bring up

14:08

a lot of stuff, like

14:10

it feels silly or it

14:12

doesn't feel true or it's

14:14

a lie, it sounds stuck

14:16

up, or how can I

14:18

approve of myself when I

14:20

do that? Just let them

14:22

all pass through. These are

14:24

only resistance thoughts. They have

14:26

no power over you unless

14:28

you choose to believe them.

14:30

I approve of myself. I

14:32

approve of myself. I approve

14:34

of myself. No matter what

14:36

happens. No matter who says

14:38

what to you. No matter

14:40

who does what to you.

14:42

Just keep it going. In

14:44

fact, when you can say

14:46

that to yourself, when someone

14:48

is doing something you don't

14:50

approve of, you will know

14:52

you are growing and changing.

14:55

Thoughts have no power over

14:57

us unless we give it

14:59

to them. Thoughts are only

15:01

words strung together. They have

15:04

no meaning whatsoever. Only we

15:06

give meaning to them and

15:08

we choose what sort of

15:10

meaning we give to them.

15:12

Let us choose to think

15:14

thoughts that nourish and support

15:16

us. Part of self-acceptance is

15:18

releasing other people's opinions. If

15:20

I were with you and

15:22

kept telling you you are

15:24

a purple pig, you are

15:26

a purple pig, you are

15:28

a purple pig, you would

15:30

either laugh at me or

15:32

get annoyed with me and

15:34

think I was crazy. It

15:37

would be most unlikely that

15:39

you would think it was

15:41

true. Yet many of the

15:43

things we have chosen to

15:45

believe about ourselves are just

15:47

as far out and untrue.

15:49

To believe that your self-worth

15:51

is dependent on the shape

15:53

of your body is your

15:55

version of believing. that you

15:57

are a purple pig. Often

15:59

what we think of as

16:01

the things wrong with us

16:03

are only our expressions of

16:05

our own individuality. This is

16:07

our uniqueness and what is

16:09

special about us. Nature never

16:12

repeats itself. Since time began

16:14

on this planet, there have

16:16

never been two snowflakes alike,

16:18

nor two raindrops the same.

16:20

And every daisy is different

16:22

from every other daisy. Our

16:24

fingerprints are different, and we

16:26

are different. We are meant

16:28

to be different. When we

16:30

can accept this, then there

16:32

is no competition and no

16:34

comparison. To try to be

16:36

like another is to shrivel

16:38

our soul. We have come

16:40

to this planet to express

16:42

who we are. I didn't

16:44

even know who I was

16:47

until I began to learn

16:49

to love myself as I

16:51

am in this moment. Put

16:53

your awareness into practice. Think

16:55

thoughts that make you happy.

16:57

Do things that make you

16:59

feel good. Be with people

17:01

who make you feel good.

17:03

Eat things that make your

17:05

body feel good. Go at

17:07

a pace that makes you

17:09

feel good. Think for a

17:11

moment of a tomato plant.

17:13

A healthy plant can have

17:15

over a hundred tomatoes on

17:17

it. In order to get

17:20

this tomato plant with all

17:22

these tomatoes on it, We

17:24

need to start with a

17:26

small dried seed. That seed

17:28

doesn't look like a tomato

17:30

plant. It doesn't taste like

17:32

a tomato plant. However, let's

17:34

say you plant this seed

17:36

in fertile soil and you

17:38

water it and let the

17:40

sunshine on it. And when

17:42

the first tiny little shoot

17:44

comes up, you don't stomp

17:46

on it and say, that's

17:48

not a tomato plant. Rather,

17:50

you look at it and

17:52

say, oh boy, here it

17:55

comes. And you watch it

17:57

grow with delight. In time,

17:59

if you continue to water

18:01

it and give it lots

18:03

of sunshine and pull away

18:05

any weeds... You might have

18:07

a tomato plant with more

18:09

than a hundred tomatoes on

18:11

it. And it all began

18:13

with that one tiny seed.

18:15

It is the same with

18:17

creating a new experience for

18:19

yourself. The soil you plant

18:21

in is your subconscious mind.

18:23

The seed is the new

18:25

affirmation. The whole new experience

18:28

is in this tiny seed.

18:30

And you water it with

18:32

repetitions. You let the sunshine

18:34

of positive thoughts beam on

18:36

it. You weed the garden

18:38

by pulling out the negative

18:40

thoughts that come up. And

18:42

when you see the first

18:44

tiniest little evidence, you don't

18:46

say, that's not enough. Instead,

18:48

you look at this first

18:50

breakthrough and you say with

18:52

Glee, oh boy, here it

18:54

comes, it's working. And then

18:56

you watch it grow and

18:58

become your desire in manifestation.

19:00

You then think about criticism.

19:03

And you realize that as

19:05

a child, you received a

19:07

lot of criticism. And that

19:09

little kid inside of you

19:11

only feels at home when

19:13

it's being criticized. Your way

19:15

of hiding from this had

19:17

become creating a smoke screen.

19:19

Perhaps you see the next

19:21

step as affirming, I am

19:23

willing to forgive. And as

19:25

you continue to do your

19:27

affirmations. You may find that

19:29

cigarettes no longer attract you

19:31

and the people in your

19:33

life no longer criticize you.

19:36

Then you know you have

19:38

released your need. This usually

19:40

takes a little while to

19:42

work out. If you are

19:44

gently persistent and are willing

19:46

to give yourself a few

19:48

quiet moments each day to

19:50

reflect on your process of

19:52

change, you will get the

19:54

answers. The intelligence

19:56

within you is the

19:58

same intelligence that created

20:00

this entire planet. Trust

20:02

your inner guidance to

20:04

reveal to you whatever

20:06

it is you need

20:08

to know. In a

20:10

workshop situation I would

20:12

have you do the

20:14

following exercise with a

20:16

partner. However you can

20:18

do it equally as

20:20

well using a big

20:22

mirror. Think for a

20:25

moment about something in

20:27

your life. At

20:29

the mirror, look into your

20:31

eyes and say aloud, I

20:33

now realize that I have

20:35

created this condition, and I

20:38

am now willing to release

20:40

the pattern in my consciousness

20:42

that is responsible for this

20:44

condition. Say it several times

20:47

with feeling. If you were

20:49

with a partner, I would

20:51

have your partner tell you

20:53

if they really thought you

20:55

meant it. I would want

20:58

you to convince your partner.

21:00

Ask yourself if you really

21:02

mean it. Convince yourself in

21:04

the mirror that this time

21:06

you are ready to step

21:09

out of the bondage of

21:11

the past. At this point,

21:13

many people get scared because

21:15

they don't know how to

21:17

do this releasing. They're afraid

21:20

to commit themselves until they

21:22

know all the answers. That's

21:24

only more resistance. Just pass

21:26

through it. One of the

21:29

great things is that we

21:31

do not have to know

21:33

how. All we need is

21:35

willingness. The universal intelligence or

21:37

your subconscious mind will figure

21:40

out the house. Every thought

21:42

you think and every word

21:44

you speak is being responded

21:46

to, and the point of

21:48

power is in this moment.

21:51

The thoughts you are thinking

21:53

and the words you are

21:55

declaring at this moment are

21:57

creating your future. Your mind

22:00

is a tool for you

22:02

to use in any way

22:04

you may think your mind

22:06

runs the show, but that

22:08

is only because you have

22:11

trained your mind to think

22:13

in this way. You can

22:15

also untrain and retrain this

22:17

tool of yours. Your mind

22:19

is a tool for you

22:22

to use in any way

22:24

you wish. The way you

22:26

now use your mind is

22:28

only a habit. and any

22:30

habit can be changed if

22:33

we want to do so.

22:35

Quiet the chatter of your

22:37

mind for a moment and

22:39

really think about this concept.

22:42

Your mind is a tool

22:44

you can choose to use

22:46

any way you wish. The

22:48

thoughts you choose to think

22:50

create the experiences you have.

22:53

If you believe that it

22:55

is hard or difficult to

22:57

change a habit or a

22:59

thought. Then your choice of

23:01

this thought will make it

23:04

true for you. If you

23:06

would choose to think it's

23:08

becoming easier for me to

23:10

make changes, then your choice

23:12

of this thought will make

23:15

that true for you. There

23:17

is an incredible power and

23:19

intelligence within you, constantly responding

23:21

to your thoughts and your

23:24

words. As you learn to

23:26

control your mind... by the

23:28

conscious choice of thoughts. You

23:30

align yourself with this power.

23:32

Do not think your mind

23:35

is in control. You are

23:37

in control of your mind.

23:39

You use your mind. You

23:41

can stop thinking those old

23:43

thoughts. When your old thinking

23:46

tries to come back, saying

23:48

it's so hard to change,

23:50

take mental control. Tell your

23:52

mind. I now choose to

23:55

believe it is becoming easier

23:57

for me to make changes.

24:00

You may have this conversation with

24:02

your mind several times before it

24:04

will acknowledge that you are in

24:06

control, and that what you say

24:09

goes. The only thing you ever

24:11

have any control of is your

24:13

current thought. Your old thoughts are

24:15

gone. There is nothing you can

24:18

do about them, except live out

24:20

the experiences they caused. Your future

24:22

thoughts have not been formed, and

24:24

you do not know what they

24:27

will be. Your current thought, the

24:29

one you're thinking right now, is

24:31

totally under your control. You know,

24:34

if you have a little child

24:36

who has been allowed to stay

24:38

up as late as it wishes

24:40

for a long time, and then

24:43

you make a decision that you

24:45

now want this child to go

24:47

to bed at eight every night,

24:49

what do you think the first

24:52

night will be like? The child

24:54

will rebel against this new rule

24:56

and may kick and scream and

24:58

do its best to stay out

25:01

of bed. If you relent at

25:03

this time, the child wins and

25:05

will try to control you forever.

25:08

However, if you calmly stick to

25:10

your decision and firmly insist that

25:12

this is the new bedtime, the

25:14

rebelling will get less and less.

25:17

In a few nights, the new

25:19

routine will be established. It is

25:21

the same with your mind. Of

25:23

course it will rebel at first.

25:26

It does not want to be

25:28

retrained, but you are in control.

25:30

And if you stay focused and

25:32

firm, in a very short time,

25:35

the new way of thinking is

25:37

established. And you will realize that

25:39

you are not a helpless victim

25:42

of your thoughts, but rather a

25:44

master of your own mind. Let's

25:46

do an exercise, letting go. Close

25:48

your eyes. Take a deep breath.

25:51

As you exhale, allow all the

25:53

tension to leave your body. Let

25:56

your scalp before it and

25:59

your face Relax. Let

26:01

your tongue and

26:03

your throat and

26:06

your shoulders relax.

26:08

Let your back

26:10

and your abdomen

26:12

and your pelvis

26:15

relax. Let your

26:17

breathing be at peace

26:19

as you relax your

26:22

legs and feet. Is

26:24

there a big change

26:26

in your body? If

26:30

you are doing it

26:32

with your body,

26:35

you're doing it

26:37

with your mind.

26:40

In this relaxed,

26:42

comfortable position. Say

26:44

with me, I am willing

26:47

to let go. I

26:49

release all tension. I

26:52

release all fear. I

26:54

release all anger.

26:56

I release all guilt.

27:01

I release all

27:03

sadness. I let go

27:06

of all old

27:08

limitations. I let

27:11

go, and I am at

27:13

peace. I am at peace

27:15

with the process

27:18

of life. I am at

27:20

peace with the

27:23

process of life. I

27:25

am safe. Repeat

27:30

this exercise several

27:32

times. Feel the ease of

27:34

letting go. Repeat it whenever

27:37

you feel thoughts of

27:39

difficulty coming up. It

27:41

takes practice for the

27:43

routine to become a part

27:45

of you. Place yourself in

27:48

this peaceful state first,

27:50

and it becomes easy for

27:52

your affirmations to take

27:55

hold. You become open

27:57

and receptive. There

27:59

is no No need to struggle or

28:01

stress or strain. Just relax and

28:04

think the appropriate thoughts. I assure

28:06

you it is this easy. Physical

28:08

releasing. Sometimes we need to experience

28:11

a physical letting go. Experiences and

28:13

emotions become locked in the body.

28:15

Screaming in the car with all

28:18

the windows rolled up can be

28:20

very releasing. if we've been stifling

28:22

our verbal expression. Beating the bed

28:25

or kicking pillows is a harmless

28:27

way to release pent-up anger, as

28:29

is playing tennis or running. A

28:32

while ago I had a pain

28:34

in my shoulder for a day

28:36

or two, and I tried to

28:39

ignore it, but it wouldn't go

28:41

away. Finally I sat down and

28:43

I asked myself, what's happening here?

28:46

What am I feeling? It feels

28:48

like burning, burning, burning, that means

28:50

anger. What are you angry about?

28:53

I couldn't think what I was

28:55

angry about. So I said, well,

28:57

let's see if we can find

29:00

out. And I put two large

29:02

pillows on the bed, and I

29:04

began to hit them with a

29:07

lot of energy. And after about

29:09

12 hits, I realized exactly what

29:11

I was angry about. It was

29:14

so clear. So I beat the

29:16

pillows even harder and made some

29:18

noise and released the emotions from

29:21

my body. And when I got

29:23

through, I felt much better. And

29:25

the next day... My shoulder was

29:28

fine. Letting the past told you

29:30

back. Some people tell me they

29:32

cannot enjoy today because of something

29:35

that happened in the past. Because

29:37

they did not do something or

29:39

do it in a certain way.

29:42

They cannot live a full life

29:44

today. Because they no longer have

29:46

something they had in the past,

29:48

they cannot enjoy today. Because they

29:51

were hurt in the past. They

29:53

will not accept love now. Because

29:55

something unpleasant happened when they did

29:58

something once, they are sure... it

30:00

will happen again today. Because they

30:02

once did something that they're sorry

30:05

for, they are sure they are

30:07

bad people forever. Because once someone

30:09

did something to them, it is

30:12

now all the other person's fault

30:14

that their life is not where

30:16

they want it to be. Because

30:19

they became angry over a situation

30:21

in the past, they will hold

30:23

on to that self-righteousness. Because

30:26

of some very old experience

30:28

where they were treated badly,

30:30

they will never forgive and

30:32

forget. Because I did not

30:34

get invited to the high

30:37

school prom, I cannot enjoy

30:39

life today. Because I did

30:41

poorly at my first audition,

30:43

I will be terrified of

30:45

auditions forever. Because I am

30:47

no longer married, I cannot

30:49

live a full life today.

30:51

Because my first relationship ended.

30:53

I can no longer be

30:56

open to love. Because I

30:58

was hurt by a remark

31:00

once, I will never trust

31:02

anyone again. Because I stole

31:04

something once, I must punish

31:06

myself forever. Because I was

31:08

poor as a child, I

31:10

will never get anywhere. What

31:13

we often refuse to realize

31:15

is that holding on to

31:17

the past, no matter what

31:19

it was or how awful

31:21

it was, is only hurting

31:23

us. They really don't care.

31:25

Usually they are not even

31:27

aware. We are only hurting

31:29

ourselves by refusing to live

31:32

this moment to the fullest.

31:34

The past is over and

31:36

done and cannot be changed.

31:38

Even when we grunge about

31:40

the past, we experience our

31:42

memory of it in this

31:44

moment, and we lose the

31:46

real experience of this moment

31:49

in the process. Exercise releasing.

31:51

Let us now clean up

31:53

the past in our minds.

31:55

Release the emotional attachment to

31:57

it. Allow the memories to

31:59

be just... memory. If you

32:01

think back to what you

32:03

used to wear in the

32:05

third grade, usually there is

32:08

no emotional attachment. It's just

32:10

a memory. And it can

32:12

be the same for all

32:14

the past events in our

32:16

lives. As we let go,

32:18

we become free to use

32:20

all of our mental power

32:22

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