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y 'all and welcome to another episode

1:01

of the millennial management podcast I

1:03

am your host Brandy the millennial

1:05

manager and today is Monday if

1:07

you are inside of patreon y

1:09

'all Patreon thank you so much

1:11

for sponsoring this podcast I also

1:13

see that we have a few

1:15

new members. I want to say

1:17

thank you Please do not be

1:19

shy if you are inside of

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patreon. We have a little group

1:23

chat We have individual messages that

1:25

you can communicate with me directly

1:27

if you have like a question Maybe

1:29

it's something like that's going on at your

1:31

job and you just need some help

1:33

kind of navigating those things You can send

1:36

me a DM on patreon. Okay, but

1:38

you have to be in the paid community

1:40

in order for you to be able

1:42

to participate. So Patreon has

1:44

this episode early. Of course, if you

1:46

are outside of Patreon, it's Wednesday. And I

1:48

hope y 'all are having a good as

1:50

day, no matter when you are listening

1:53

to this, okay? Now, today on

1:55

our email episode, I have three emails that

1:57

I would like to discuss. This

1:59

first one says,

2:01

good morning, Brandy. Good morning, baby. I

2:05

have a follow -up question

2:07

regarding your motivation episode on

2:09

414. Mind your own beast. So

2:12

she's referencing the episode that

2:14

came out last Monday. In

2:16

that Motivation Monday episode, it

2:19

was talking about mind your

2:21

own business, okay? Stop

2:23

worrying about what your co -workers

2:25

doing, what they're not doing.

2:27

Stop being like a reporter, okay?

2:29

You don't have to report

2:31

what's actually happening with your co -workers because

2:33

it's none of your business. If your

2:35

managers are paying attention, then

2:37

you know what I'm saying? Let

2:39

them deal with that because that's

2:41

their position. That's their role. So

2:43

what she's saying is what if

2:45

the office niche does it at

2:47

the bequest of management? Because

2:51

our office runs without them, they

2:53

rely on the office snitch to

2:55

find out the goings on in

2:57

the office and will go and

2:59

will go to her with questions

3:01

that they should be asking the

3:03

clinical coordinator. They will

3:05

include her in emails, communications for

3:07

lower management, and she is

3:10

not a manager. They gave

3:12

her a little title. I'm not going to

3:14

say what the title is because it is very

3:16

specific. I don't want

3:18

to know this. Which means

3:20

that she is like our

3:22

senior receptionist, okay? um

3:24

of the two her and myself.

3:26

So what do you do

3:28

when the office niche is pretty

3:30

much commissioned and encouraged by

3:32

management thanks Betty. Betty if you

3:35

have management encouraging this type

3:37

of behavior and actually really organizing

3:39

it um and they're the

3:41

ones that give her that navigation

3:43

and let her know like

3:45

okay this is what we want

3:47

from you and she is

3:49

okay with it. She's okay with

3:51

being the office niche. She's

3:53

okay with Reporting back and forth and

3:55

I don't know what they're giving

3:57

her in return, but remember what

3:59

I said money Okay, you got

4:01

somebody that is acting crazy

4:03

as hell at work weird as

4:05

fuck at the bequest of

4:08

management Money is involved. Okay, so

4:10

she's doing whatever she's doing

4:12

and some of them do it

4:14

for free Maybe a little

4:16

brawny points, but if they changed

4:18

her role they probably gave

4:21

her a pay increase, which

4:23

means money is involved, and you

4:25

have to make a decision of

4:27

whether or not you want to

4:29

stay in this type of environment.

4:31

When you have that type of

4:34

structure set up where management is

4:36

using team members to tattle on

4:38

other coworkers, that is

4:40

not a healthy workspace. You're really

4:42

not gonna get anywhere. Even if you

4:44

were to have a conversation with

4:46

management, they're gonna fucking deny it. Right?

4:48

Even though you know that that's

4:50

not the truth. You know that they're

4:52

using her as someone to monitor

4:54

the goings on inside of the office.

4:56

You already know this. If you

4:58

bring it up to them, they're going

5:00

to deny it. She is going

5:02

to deny it. They're going to come

5:04

up with some type of gas

5:06

lighting scenario where they're going to lie

5:08

to you and make you feel

5:10

like you're crazy and try to make

5:12

it seem like, you know, what's

5:14

going on is not really actually happening.

5:17

So then to avoid all of

5:19

that, you may just want to

5:21

bow out, okay? Find you another

5:23

department. If you work, you said clinical, so

5:25

I'm not sure if you work in a

5:27

hospital. If you can

5:29

go to another department, if there

5:31

are other opportunities, I would start

5:33

planning my exit if I worked

5:36

in a space like that because

5:38

that's an arena for sabotage, like. You

5:41

got somebody here monitoring me. I can't

5:43

really do my job because she is

5:45

like up my ass and wondering what

5:47

I'm doing and how I'm doing this

5:49

and how I'm doing that. Like that

5:51

is not anywhere that anybody should work.

5:53

And so if you feel like this

5:55

is happening and you recognize it, you

5:57

need to start planning your exit. And

5:59

I know people in the, in the,

6:01

that's listening to the podcast is going

6:03

to say, well, the economy is so

6:05

bad. The economy is not bad for

6:07

everybody. The economy is

6:09

only bad for a select

6:12

few. There are some industries

6:14

where people are really struggling

6:16

to locate roles. There

6:18

are more senior roles that people are

6:20

being hired in. There are entry -level positions,

6:22

and as a receptionist, that is an

6:24

entry -level role, and people are getting

6:26

those jobs. So please do not

6:28

be deterred by the economy. At

6:30

least put out the fillers. Don't just

6:32

sit there and allow this shit

6:34

to keep happening to you. You take

6:36

control of the situation and move

6:38

on. All right. And to our next

6:40

email, this one is very serious.

6:42

So I want to put like a

6:45

warning. Okay. It does include

6:47

someone being sexually harassed. She does not

6:49

go into great detail, but it does

6:51

say that she was. So if that

6:53

is going to be a trigger, you

6:55

can skip a little bit. Okay. Long

6:58

story short. I was

7:00

sexually harassed, I reported it, and

7:02

nothing has been done. It all

7:04

ended in my boss calling me

7:06

a stupid ignorant piece of shit

7:08

while his wife was on speakerphone. Ma

7:11

'am, if you were sexually

7:13

harassed at work, you can report it,

7:15

but you also should report it to

7:18

the police. That

7:20

is not just a company matter.

7:22

If you're being sexually harassed at work,

7:25

you need to report it, file

7:27

a police report, Um, and

7:29

state exactly what happened. Your

7:31

job is going to be

7:33

threatened. Please know that, but

7:35

also contact an attorney right

7:37

after. Okay. Sexual harassment, physical

7:39

abuse, those things are against

7:41

the law, not just company

7:43

policy. So if it is

7:45

happening to you and you

7:47

feel like this person is

7:49

making you uncomfortable, they have

7:51

actually said and done things,

7:53

touched you inappropriately. That is

7:55

against the law. So you

7:57

can file a police report,

7:59

you can have them investigated, you

8:02

can start a

8:04

lawsuit. Remember work receipts,

8:06

W -R -K receipts

8:09

is a free resource,

8:11

okay? They will

8:13

connect you with a lawyer,

8:15

an employment attorney that can

8:17

help you really go through

8:19

these steps. So if you

8:21

have not downloaded work receipts,

8:24

W -R -K receipts, okay? You

8:26

need to download it today and let

8:28

them know what is happening that you're

8:30

being sexually harassed at work, how things

8:32

like you need first of all step

8:34

by step because you didn't really include

8:36

a whole lot. But you need to

8:39

include the details if you have been

8:41

documenting what has been happening, what HR

8:43

has done, if anything, and

8:45

also file a police report and please

8:47

know. you need to find

8:49

another job in the process and

8:51

Because they're more than likely going

8:54

to retaliate and you need something

8:56

Documented that that's exactly what they

8:58

did. So download that app even

9:00

if y 'all are Going through like

9:02

difficult times with your manager and

9:04

you feel like some of the

9:06

things that they may be doing

9:08

Are illegal and it's not sexual

9:10

harassment still utilize the work receipts

9:12

app, please Okay, it is is

9:15

necessary as a free resource they

9:17

connect you with an employment

9:19

attorney that can help you. And

9:22

that does, like the employment,

9:24

employment attorney does cost, but.

9:27

Actually, them connecting you, I don't

9:29

believe that costs anything, but

9:31

that is a good resource

9:34

to have. So please, ladies and

9:36

gentlemen, if you are

9:38

experiencing anything inappropriate in the workplace,

9:41

download work receipts to document and

9:43

also use it to find

9:45

an employment attorney. But you, dear

9:47

heart, you need to go

9:49

file a police report ASAP. Okay

9:51

and here's our last email

9:53

of the episode. It says

9:55

I am a leasing marketing manager for

9:57

an apartment complex. I'm the only

9:59

one that goes to campus two to

10:01

three hours out of the day

10:03

to get leads and on Friday my

10:05

boss started yelling at me Because

10:08

they are down leads and I

10:10

told them I'm the only one that

10:12

goes out to get leads daily

10:14

and they are micromanaging me. You should

10:16

see all the messages that I

10:18

receive. If I don't answer within three

10:20

minutes, they are at me with

10:22

urgency. Yes, all caps. Oh

10:24

my goodness. And on

10:26

Friday, they pulled the not positive

10:28

card when I am the one

10:30

who offered to buy donuts for

10:32

the team and lunch on my

10:34

own card. I planned events, flyers,

10:37

outreach, walk the campus daily and

10:39

told them I feel like quitting

10:41

because I'm the only one that

10:43

gets accountability or, okay, that is

10:45

held accountable. And I'm not the

10:47

only one that works here. And

10:49

others can talk for four hours

10:51

about non -work life when I

10:53

talk for 15. minutes all hell

10:55

breaks out and I show up

10:57

on time for work to do

10:59

my job okay clock out at

11:01

6 p .m. yet stay at work

11:04

until my work is finished until

11:06

8 Monday through Saturday you know

11:08

what corporate response was when I

11:10

told them that I feel like

11:12

quitting sorry you feel that way

11:15

I told them I cannot be on

11:17

campus, local businesses, on site all

11:20

at once. I will not continue doing

11:22

everything and getting accountability from everyone

11:24

on the team. I can't wait to

11:26

get another job. I've requested three

11:28

days off. I hope I get it.

11:31

Betty, why

11:33

the fuck are

11:35

you working past your

11:37

required time? Why

11:40

are you doing that? You are

11:42

overextending yourself and I know it

11:44

probably sounded like a great idea

11:46

when you started but you cannot

11:48

keep that shit up. You see

11:51

how now you are resenting them?

11:53

And I'm also gonna hold you

11:55

accountable because you started something that

11:57

you know you cannot sustain. Trying

11:59

to buy them lunch, doing the

12:01

niceties, doing all the donuts for

12:03

them, staying late, not being paid

12:06

because you said clocking out at

12:08

six but staying two additional hours

12:10

and doing all the work for

12:12

two additional hours not being compensated.

12:14

And then you are working Monday

12:16

through Saturday. What the fuck? What

12:19

the fuck? Is

12:21

that something that you can sustain? No, it

12:23

is not. You need

12:25

to go to work. Only worry about

12:28

yourself. Don't worry about what these

12:30

other people are not doing. Don't

12:32

buy them anymore lunch. Do not stay

12:34

late. Yes, they are going to have

12:36

a fucking attitude. Who gives a fuck?

12:38

Okay, you need to start

12:40

applying to other jobs because this

12:42

is a toxic space. You

12:45

have a manager or or

12:47

admins. I don't know which I'll

12:49

call them your senior administrators

12:51

who are not holding the team

12:53

accountable or themselves. It

12:56

is their responsibility to make sure

12:58

that the team has what they

13:00

need and then they're following the

13:02

guidelines of what their job entails.

13:05

Not you. That's not your job.

13:07

The fact that your boss

13:09

has yelled at you. The fact

13:11

that they are yelling at

13:13

you in text. like even outside

13:15

of like verbal conversation, they're

13:17

yelling at you there by talking

13:19

to you in all caps,

13:21

then not being appreciative or calling

13:23

you not positive after you

13:25

had just bought donuts, you

13:27

did this for the team, you're going

13:29

and doing your job quite well, what

13:32

make you think that you're gonna get anything

13:34

out of this other than what you're getting

13:36

now? You gave them too fucking much. And

13:38

I want you to remember that when you

13:40

start your new job, Don't

13:42

ever do more than what

13:44

you can sustain long

13:46

term. You cannot keep this

13:48

up without turning resentful. That's

13:51

why I tell people don't ever

13:53

start a new job and you're giving

13:55

everything like 100 % no. You need

13:57

to start at about 50, okay? 40.

14:01

Don't give them more than what

14:03

you can do long term,

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That's what you need to do because

14:52

now you have a situation where you

14:54

don't work yourself to the bone. They're

14:56

misusing you. They're, you know, talking

14:59

to you crazy, yelling at you

15:01

like, what kind fucking work environment is

15:04

that? to work in and think

15:06

that employees are going to be like,

15:08

yes, I'm going to do my

15:10

best because you yelled at me. So

15:12

mm -hmm. And the fact

15:14

that grown people are yelling at other

15:16

grown people, that is actually insane. And

15:19

that's not appropriate for the workplace. And

15:21

whoever their administrator is should know, but

15:23

more than likely they do. and they're

15:25

not gonna do anything about it. So

15:27

you have to make a decision. You

15:29

said that you are looking for a

15:31

new job or you can't wait to

15:33

get another job. So that means hopefully

15:35

you are actively applying and making sure

15:37

that your resume gets out there and

15:39

going to fucking interviews so that you

15:41

can get the hell out of this

15:44

situation. Working Monday through Saturday

15:46

is not healthy. That

15:48

is a long ass

15:50

time. Monday through Saturday, that's

15:52

six fucking days a week

15:54

that you are working. going

15:57

to businesses, doing all that stuff, you

15:59

can't do that term. You

16:01

can't. That is

16:03

not a way that you're gonna

16:05

make it to the top.

16:07

You are going to kill yourself.

16:10

Working this hard. You know

16:12

how many people die from stress? Heart

16:15

attacks, high blood

16:17

pressure. That's exactly where

16:19

the road that you are

16:21

walking is leading to stress. And

16:24

I know that there are so many people

16:26

online that tell you like, hard work, hard do

16:28

this, dude, no. If I got

16:30

to do all that to get a fucking check, I

16:32

don't want it. I don't

16:34

want that. I just want to do

16:36

my job. I don't want to jump

16:38

through all these hoops, be talk too

16:40

crazy. be disrespected at

16:42

work, having to work all this

16:45

time, like in addition to

16:47

my regular hours and not even

16:49

be fucking compensated for the

16:51

two additional hours that you're staying

16:53

daily until eight o 'clock. Girl,

16:56

what? Absolutely

16:59

the fuck not. So

17:02

today, I hope is your last

17:04

day doing that. Because that is not

17:06

healthy for you is not something

17:08

that you can sustain and it turned

17:10

to resentment I talked about that

17:12

a long time ago on social media

17:14

I want to say was like

17:16

October that when you start a new

17:18

job and you start giving them

17:20

all this you know Giving them your

17:22

best basically like you're you're at

17:24

full speed 150 percent every single day

17:26

you are going to burn out

17:28

And there's nothing left for you at

17:30

the end of the day. I

17:32

guarantee you you go home at the

17:35

end of the day and crash. Because

17:38

you're fucking exhausted. And

17:40

this is not how we're meant to

17:42

live. So you need to put a boundary

17:44

in place. You are not gonna

17:46

talk to me like that. Okay?

17:49

You can say that. Now results

17:51

may vary, but you don't have to

17:54

allow people to disrespect you. Respect is

17:56

a two -way street. And...

17:59

treat you how you allow them

18:01

to also if you don't put

18:03

that boundary there Then they're always

18:05

gonna feel like they are able

18:07

to talk to you and disrespect

18:09

you and and treat you any

18:11

kind of way because they feel

18:13

like there is no punishment for

18:15

that so oh My god, I

18:17

really hope honey that everything works

18:19

out for you I hope that

18:21

you stop this today because this

18:23

is not healthy for you Okay,

18:25

it's not healthy for anybody and

18:27

it's not something that you can

18:29

sustain. I know that you

18:32

want to keep a job and

18:34

stuff like that, but baby, you're

18:36

gonna be in the

18:38

hospital, okay? That is gonna

18:40

be it for today's podcast episode. Please

18:42

make sure that y 'all are taking

18:44

care of yourself, okay? Whatever

18:47

that looks like for you,

18:49

please make sure you

18:51

are doing at least one

18:53

thing for yourself throughout

18:55

the week, okay? Because this

18:57

overworking shit is crazy.

18:59

You cannot sustain. You

19:01

cannot do that. You cannot repeatedly

19:03

do it. I mean, you could

19:05

for a little bit, but you

19:08

are going to end up A,

19:10

resenting the job, or being fucking

19:12

exhausted every single day you get

19:14

home from work. And that is

19:16

just no way to live. So

19:18

please make sure that you put

19:20

those boundaries in place for you

19:22

based on your situation and really

19:25

do your best but not not

19:27

the most. Okay. Medium

19:30

output should be done. You

19:32

should not be given an output

19:34

at 150 % bring it down

19:36

quite a bit. Okay.

19:39

Okay. All right. Y 'all have a good ass

19:41

day and I'll see 'all on the internet. Bye.