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Man. So today at work I went to this ladies house.

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She was the sweetest.

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We had a really good conversation actually. Actually she she has two girls.

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They ended up having seven grandchildren.

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Now she's also got great grandchildren as well and we were sitting there talking about that.

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This has nothing to do with the topic that we're talking about. She was talking about how disconnected her grandkids are from being able to do, from talking.

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She said you know, when they wanted to go talk to people they had to go have a conversation with them, where all of her grandkids now they don't like to have phone calls and that's to me, that's one of my biggest things.

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I hate texting. If you ever noticed, I never text you.

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You always text me and I'll give you short responses.

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Yeah, I always like phone calls.

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It's to me. Voices are unique.

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Mm-hmm.

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And you won't always be able to hear that voice. Yeah, and so if I can do a phone call I always wanted to do.

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I always do phone calls. I hate texting now.

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I agree that I love phone calls, that camera can ask, I'm sure about this heard.

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But I always call my friends in FaceTime and whatnot.

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The only reason I text so much is because during the day I literally have no time for a phone call.

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Yeah, like you text and I swear, anytime you call me I'm in a meeting, this guy so.

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But no, I agree, phone calls are way more personal.

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They allow you to actually understand what's going on the conversation and, most importantly, if you're married, phone calls go a long way because you can get very misinterpreted, yeah, in a text.

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So One thing I will say if you're ever arguing.

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One thing I implemented in our marriage is like we're not gonna fight over text is pointless and I got I I did marry a Twitter fingers and she'll just start texting me all kinds of stuff when she's mad.

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I'm like, can we just talk about this when I'm home?

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I love her, but we're definitely opposites.

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She wants to get all out there and I can like digest it and so there's there's times where man Kaylee, instead of talking, or we're doing something, we'll just talk to gifts.

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You know, those little gifts that I know.

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I talked to gifts. No like that mess up, I come home with.

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We talk and I guess I think I need to come on so where we just have a full blown-out conversation, then we go back on it.

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Yeah, so yeah.

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I get that, but yeah, definitely pro tip.

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Anytime you argue with your wife or gonna fight, come on with flowers and Amazon gift card or or a shutter stock except the name of the company shutter stock.

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Is that the one that you can like?

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really get out of jail free card.

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Is that where you come up? Yeah, cuz wives love photos.

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No, yeah, actually, yeah. No, kaylee does like photos.

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We don't really print them out though.

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No, they get digital ones.

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But they can just see it on there.

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Yeah, we're gonna get like the big canvas, like their wood.

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They actually look really good in it.

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Well, we're gonna go ahead and start today's show.

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No, but I want to share something that happened to me.

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Okay.

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I'm super pumped about actually. Uh, so I had a Friend of mine actually get me with a really this really nice like watch and it actually gave me like chills because he, he, uh, the way it worked out basically is this I've been speaking to me and Tell me all kinds of stuff and he actually came, brought me to watch and said the exact same thing that the Lord told me and prayer and everything.

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And, man, it literally gave me chills and it's actually really cool because I don't think I've ever actually had anyone in my lifetime Gives me something like this.

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So it's actually cool to be on Like the other side of it.

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I guess I don't know it was really cool, it was, it was I was not expecting it and it was awesome feeling.

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So it's always cool to feel like you, blessed like that and Not deserving of it at all.

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So it's cool. I just out of nowhere what did that happen?

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Literally like two hours ago. So yeah, it was sweet.

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What was the? If you don't mind me asking what was the saying that.

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So the saying was the Lord's Lord's been on my heart For 2024 saying you're basically saying your time is now.

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It's kind of what we just talked about last episode, just finally stepping into what I'm supposed to be doing with my life and that purpose, not saying it's like my full-called Job, but just my purpose as a Christian man and faith and dad.

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So and he literally came and said, hey, the Lord told me to tell you it's time, so who's definitely correlated?

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And the Lord literally told me that last night and so you cannot make this stuff up.

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Yeah, like just just wild.

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That's awesome Wild testimony. So Super pumped and it was a great way to start my 2024, 20, 24.

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It's been awesome so yeah, it's been, it's been an early start for us, definitely this 2024.

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Yeah crazy and I can't wait to see what this year kind of turns out no for everything, yeah, no for sure.

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Kind of like what that press got would say Okay so, but yeah.

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So today's episode, actually, zane is gonna ask me Some few tips, tricks.

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What not to do is in marriage, not marriage in our weddings.

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So he is a Gonna be the host today and I'm gonna be on the hot seat and my wife is actually watching this right now.

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So yeah so let's see how we go. So, as my fiance, that's not my cousin Kaylee.

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So, yeah, no, there's definitely some questions that I need answering to as we are planning this wedding out.

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Mm-hmm, this has got to be Maynor.

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We're talking about it in the truck and she said it was what is it like?

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276 days?

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Is it really Okay?

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How many days is it? You can go ahead and say it, you know.

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Yeah you can shout it out. So two is there, way off one tip 246 days and the closer we're getting to 246 days from the biggest race of the years.

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What you're telling me? Yeah, somehow all my friends get married whenever that matters, so it's alright.

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But we're getting married In 246 days and this has just been a constant struggle.

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We haven't even taken engagement photos yet.

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I've taken, no, I think yeah, we're actually, I got that new 4k iPhone, did you?

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yeah, the new iPhone. What is it like it.

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I don't know at this point. Yeah, it's 15. They're probably gender.

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It's been a lot of. There's been a lot of stress coming from it because we end up as you know we're end up doing.

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We have pretty big family, yeah, between the both of us.

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Our family is pretty big, so we're having to go a little bit more.

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What are Things that you did to help Cambria actually plan the wedding and not make it to where it was just all on her?

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So Okay.

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So number one tip and I made this like a point, so Hopefully can't be remembered this because this is very intentional, but so I actually I remember when we first got engaged, I sat down with her like by that same week and I said alright, so what are the things that you are very excited about doing to plan for this wedding and where things that you're not, and so, basically, anything she wasn't excited about doing, I tried to help with the most.

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So I actually I created a whole list of music for the DJ.

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I Went through the whole wedding guest list.

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After she compiled it, she's like I don't want to go through it.

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It's stressful. You pick and choose who comes, um, that was hard for us because I went to a lot of colleges and and me alone I had over probably 200 teammates.

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Yeah, I basically filtered out and said who are my best friends at each school?

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Those are the only ones coming Um, so it was the DJ.

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That's the list.

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And there was one more that she said just handle it.

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I don't want to take care of it. I can't remember on top of my head, but that's why I would.

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Number one suggestion, even if you're later into your engagement, is to sit down like, hey, what does it sound fun for you, what's up that you'll enjoy, and just kind of start taking some of that burden off yeah because at the end of the day they get super stressed out about wedding night and we don't.

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I'm stressed yeah, not necessarily the night of, but the whole.

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I mean, like I was, we've talked about this before.

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She's thinking what's happening. I'm like, oh my gosh, okay, there's another grand yeah there's another one, there's another one and I'm not trying to make sure a process that it were doing me wrong.

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We are concerned, extremely blessed with the parents that we have, yeah, hoping throughout it, but it's still seen it kind of go away, yeah.

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And then the time is that just for to help me out, the times that you did see Kimberley kind of stressed about it, mm-hmm, what did you do to kind of help?

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her at the moment. I would take Kinsey to go do something because we weren't married yet or living together, so I would come over.

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I could just tell she was stressed out. So I would take Kinsey to shenanigans, actually play games and whatnot, and then, on the other hand, I would actually kind of just ask her questions to kind of get her to open up about what she's stressed out about and start helping her find solutions and we actually playing the wedding pretty much together.

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I mean, I was in the field at the time so I was working by 60 plus hours a week so when I would get home, there's days where we didn't, but I tried as much as I could yeah, feel right now there's a lot of procrastination and it's not something that we're intentionally doing yeah just so not in that case I would say I obviously both you are, I know both the LCR, both in the season where you're working a lot, I would set on the calendar days where you can like set an hour out where, hey, this is, we're busting out my wedding stuff, so then it doesn't feel rushed, doesn't feel forced, but y'all have it like once a week, kind of like me and Kamri do our financial you know, meetings set up wedding planning meetings yeah and then, on the other hand, as I have this conversation with technicians all the time who are getting married and they don't have the fortunate most people the American standard is the wife's family pace for the wedding.

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Obviously that's not really a saying anymore it is, but it's not like forced and I tell them just remember you're.

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The rest of your marriage is based upon the day you get married and it's a whole lot harder to have a Healthy marriage when you start off thirty thousand dollars in debt.

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Yeah, so I would tell him that I was like either way, she's gonna marry you.

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She's gonna remember it as a day that y'all are forever and she's gonna remember that she fell in love with you and it's y'all are one.

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The rest of it, whether there's a DJ, there's 20 people, there are people there.

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At the end of the day, all she cares about is marrying you.

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So don't start off your.

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Don't start off your marriage and and debt.

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That's just a terrible thing and then how did you in Cambria Come together to decide what type of wedding you had?

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Because you know there's some people that do destination weddings Like y'all.

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Y'all had a pretty good size wedding that you had.

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Some people decided to do it really small Me and Kaylee, I told you, we kind of talked about it.

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Hey, okay, there's really two ways we could do it, because I really didn't want a destination wedding.

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Yeah, it was either, hey, let's just go get married at the Porta courthouse, mm-hmm, and we go to Europe for a month, yeah, or we stay here and have a big wedding.

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How did job two kind of come?

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so a lot of people don't know because we don't really celebrate it.

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We we take our own private Dinner and stuff.

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But for me came we actually got married at the courthouse.

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But that was out of respect for Kinsey. I Didn't want her to see me living with her mom Wow, we were not married, cuz.

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For one, it's just not right. And two, I didn't want her to be 18 one day and be with him with the guy they.

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Well, you did, mom, why does it matter?

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So I'm at the court, I respect and just being honorable of that.

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But as far as choosing the way, I would say I had more of a sway on that Because Cambria basically told me you have way more people involved in your life, being the fact that I have a way bigger family and Way more, I guess, connections to college and life, just pro ball, college ball, everything, milestone, like all of that.

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So I would I mean she could argue me but I would say they, how many people we have in our wedding to 10 to 220, and how many do you think were my friends from my family?

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150?

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Yeah, so I had the majority.

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What's? I kind of like the idea is hey, we have this many people coming.

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We need to have a centralized Location and the place.

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What made us pick our venue is actually we were the second wedding ever there, so they gave us a huge discount.

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They actually gave us Saturday night pricing for Friday night.

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So, yeah, that's why I have her at my life.

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Yeah, no, yeah, that's, that's really cool and that's what we kind of based it on for us.

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So she's she's actually gonna be the first Grandchild to get married.

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Yeah, so that definitely needs to be local.

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And so she was really excited about her.

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Family has been super excited about it. Yeah and one of the things that they're doing for us is the grandparents have got her grandparents a pitched in and they're pretty much doing the food.

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Mm-hmm and we're doing like a potato bar.

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Yeah, and this is also just a, you know.

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I love potatoes.

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So it's a potato bar. We're smoking up some brisket, smoking up some pork, and we're just gonna chop.

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Chop it all up and have just a full potato bar.

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We can make loaded potatoes on it.

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I'm staying up all night to make that brisket with you.

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I'm not making it, I'm not making the brisket, so we're all good, we, we stayed nevermind.

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And then just one more tip for you, one more question for you, maybe a tip that you can give me yeah, how Did you prepare For the wedding the week before I?

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Ran a lot of calls, remember that because it was like I'm taking a week off the next week.

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So I told her, hey, I'm gonna work a lot.

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I took off to Friday before I went in because I had a bunch of groomers, men and friends fly in for rehearsal dinner and stuff said teammates flying from Wisconsin, california, louisiana, all over the place.

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So, man, yeah, I worked a hard because the next few I mean, and I didn't want to burn my PTO.

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But how did I prepare?

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I wrote my speech For Kenzie and her, like our, we need to custom valves because I told her I'd start crying I'm an emotional person and it would just come out sloppy.

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But I did write down for Kenzie, kind of in my mind, and, like I said, I started balling all the time.

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So it's pointless. But but I basically promise Kenzie, like I'm here, I'm gonna be here for you, for us, your life.

15:39

I can remember my girl it was like a very intimate.

15:42

Yeah that was like the goal of it, but I'm a I'm a crier, so it didn't turn out the way it should have.

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But how they prepare for I worked a lot, I made sure.

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I made sure that everything was taken care of by the time I left.

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I mean, I was Communicating with the travel agent that she sent camera the itinerary behind the scene, so I didn't need to.

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But that's what I'm hoping.

16:07

We're all prepared for is. I made sure all my greens were ready, because they're a bunch of Naked poops sometimes, whatever that word is, they're not anymore.

16:15

About the time all my greens were still in college with me.

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Yeah.

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Besides like one. So they were still living it up.

16:22

That's right. I like to write them down and say, hey, make sure this is not a Hendricks house party Until after this.

16:30

I really just prepared them, make sure they picked up their tuxes and what not, what not.

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And then I ask Cambria there's anything I need to do?

16:38

As far as like gifts and all that, some, yeah, I got their gifts.

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I bought them all boots.

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Yeah, I remember that. Yeah, but well, man, I appreciate you the tips that you've given me.

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I'm definitely gonna be asking you a lot more about it, because I have a long journey ahead of me as far as this wedding planning.

16:57

Yeah well, the last tip I'll give you is there are two tips really.

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One first tip when it follows it comes a groomsman.

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I Know you've already selected them, so it doesn't really help, but if anyone out there listening, if you have a point where you don't know who to choose, don't let it affect who you are.

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I had to tell lots of people who expected to be in our wedding that they could have Be in it and honestly, one of the side factors was is I took in place who would get offended and who wouldn't, and Then I had to tell the people who wouldn't get offended like this has nothing to do with you, I just didn't want to lose a friendship when I knew this wouldn't affect our friendship.

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So just set those clear Expectations for your groomsman, because if it was up to me, I would have probably 15 of them.

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And then the other one is when they tell you that you don't get to take a breath after the ceremony.

17:57

It's why I'm sure your food will be cold, everybody will come talk to you and by end of the night you just want to go home.

18:04

We've had a huge party.

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It was a blast that we actually plan on our 10-year anniversary to have it at the Just you all, to know all the people that went to the wedding, basically all of our friends, and so we, actually we plan to have that at the venue.

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So yeah, eat your food, cuz you're gonna be starving and my address that comes off easy.

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Just a little bit, so you know yeah, absolutely that was my one of my struggles freaking booby trap, oh, really oh.

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That's a lot of bad.

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Yeah, oh no. I I Appreciate it and it really is a lot of feedback, because there are people out there who might not have dads or I, not anybody preparing for marriage and the do's and don'ts, so I'm here for them.

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I appreciate it. I can't wait to see what this journey brings me throughout this planning.

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