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Hi , my name is Bridget and I am so deeply

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honored to be your host here on Wake Up and Thrive

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. My intention for this space is to

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help women around the world live more awake

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, aligned and truly alive

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. I believe wholeheartedly that we are

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designed to live and experience the full range

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that life has to offer , and in doing

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so , we can live fully turned on in all

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areas . My story began

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with sobriety and has since been an initiation

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into rediscovering parts of myself

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that I forgot about or had abandoned

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. Learning to reclaim all of who I

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am is the greatest gift of living awake

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, and together we will go on a

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journey of helping you to do the same . You

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can expect to learn practical tools to help

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you connect deeper to yourself , your

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purpose and those in your life . All

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you need is an open heart and an open mind . So

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if you're ready , it's time . It's

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time to wake up and thrive . Good

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morning , happy Monday . It

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feels so good and

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also so weird to be back

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sitting down recording a podcast . My

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family and I have walked through kind of a big change

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. It might not feel that big for

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you , but for me it was a really

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, really big change , and I'm going to

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talk about it a little bit later in the podcast . That's what

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this episode is all about . It's all about

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walking through change and

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three really important lessons that I've

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learned that I think are going to help you . But

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I want to first just say welcome . If

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you are new , I'm so glad that you found

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my space and landed here . I

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really believe you're here for a reason . There is

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something here for

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you , there's a message for

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you , there's a lesson that gets to be learned , there's

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a big aha or breakthrough

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. It's coming your way . I really , really

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believe we find exactly

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what we need exactly when we need it

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, and so I'm just super

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honored and grateful that I get to be

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responsible for delivering whatever

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it is that you are meant to learn on

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your journey . If you

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are a returning listener , I want to first of all

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thank you so much , so , so much , for reaching

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out , asking when I was going to come back . I've

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said this before and I'll say it again I love the

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podcasting world because it's my

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favorite way to deliver content , which

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is to talk , to speak

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. I have these big visions of speaking

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on stage and speaking at retreats and

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leading workshops . It lights

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me up , and yet it is

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such a lonely way to

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deliver content because I don't get to see

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your beautiful faces . I have no idea what's

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landing . I have no idea what you want more

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of . You know , I have no idea the impact

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that it's making , and making an impact

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is a huge value . It's a huge reason

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behind why I started this podcast . So

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my ask for you guys this Monday

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morning is of

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this podcast . So my ask for you guys this Monday morning is specifically related to this episode

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, but maybe it was a past episode . If you are hearing something that is just

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like speaking directly to you

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sure you hit that subscribe . If you can't figure out how to

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do any of those , message me and I

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will let you know . I will show you step-by-step

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, but it is one of the biggest ways

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that keeps me sort of engaged

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um in showing up every week and

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sharing this content when I know that

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what I'm doing is making an impact . I am not

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coming on here to just talk to a computer screen

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for 20 , 30 minutes Um , that's

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that . That is like blah , right

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. So , again , it's not about followers

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, likes , numbers , money , it's not about any

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of that . It is about your hearts and

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I want to know that this is reaching your hearts . So

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please , please

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, please , please , help me out there

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and , without

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further ado , we are going to get into today's

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episode . Like I said earlier

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, I'm going to share a little bit about the change that

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we've walked through and I'm going to lead

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you guys , leave you guys with three

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lessons , um slash

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, three truths that I've really

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been leaning on as I've been walking through

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this season of change , and

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it's been incredibly helpful to me . So

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, if you're listening , maybe you are

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currently walking through change . Maybe that's

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changing a relationship , changing a job

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, changing a financial status , changing

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a home , a town , a location

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, changing a big health status

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. Right , maybe

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you're thinking about walking through a change and

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my guess is , if you are thinking

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about it , if there's a stirring in your heart and you

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haven't taken that leap , that more

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than likely , it's related to one of these three

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truths that we're going to talk about , so

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I'm super excited to dive

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in . This is a really personal episode for me . So

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, yeah , let's go . Okay

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. So let me start with a little backstory . Those

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of you that are in my real life

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life or have followed me a little

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bit on social media , then you know that my family

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and I recently moved Now seven

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years ago . We moved across the country . That

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was a big move , right , that was

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a really , really big move . It also

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was , without a doubt , in a

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way , a lot

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easier than the current move we just walked through

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. We are currently . We currently

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moved in the same town . My kids did change

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schools , but we went

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from a living

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in a cul-de-sac with four young families

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. My kids would wake up and they would be gone

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all day long . They'd be playing with their friends . I

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really could be home with them all weekend

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, but never actually see them . They

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never hung out with each other . It was amazing in some ways and it was such a

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misalignment with what I wanted for my family in a lot of ways . I've also just

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talked , and I've been very open and transparent about

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my experience in the cul-de-sac

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and how I

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got to really face head on my

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own sisterhood wound and this wound

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of not feeling chosen , with

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the rupture of three

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friendships after I stepped

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into sobriety . And caveat

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, the breaking of those friendships had nothing

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to do with alcohol , but it sort of did . It

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had a lot to do with . Once I stepped

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into sobriety , I stepped into this new version

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of who I was . I also

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stepped into the version I was

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before I started drinking , which was middle

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school . So I had a lot

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of those emotions , sort of return , a

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lot of those triggers of feeling left out

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, not feeling chosen , and

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I didn't handle it the best

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because I didn't have the tools at the time and

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when I sort of tried to come back and handle it in

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a more mature and respectful way

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, it wasn't received well . And

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the other thing is

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they also did not take

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any responsibility for

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their role or their actions

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, and so it became a really really

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tough place to live for

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just so many reasons , because I would look

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outside at my kids and they would be so

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, so happy and I would just come

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inside and just feel awful . So

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this kind of all transpired starting in 2020

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. And so I really stayed . I really

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didn't just run away because

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people don't like me . I

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really , in my opinion , leaned

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into this first truth that we're going to go over

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, which is really like going all in , and

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so I sort of lived in the

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gray for a really long time of like , oh my gosh

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, this is not as clear as our last move . Like part of me , there's a stirring in my heart that's

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like this is not as clear as our last move . Part of me , there's a stirring

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in my heart that's like this is not our home . I cannot

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grow old in this place . My growth

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feels freaking , stifled by

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constantly seeing these women

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who are just incredibly

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limited . That's the most kindest

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way I could describe them . They are good

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people , they are great moms , they are good friends

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with each other and other people , but they're

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incredibly limited in the way that

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they see the world and their relationships

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and being around . That , no

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matter how much growth I would do inside

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, being around that was

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it couldn't help but sort

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of like pull me down as well , and

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so I do want to just say that that

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I do believe growth starts

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from the inside out . I am a hundred

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percent a candidate or

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a candidate a hundred percent behind

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that belief . And at

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some point you

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have to say , okay , I'm healing this wound , I'm

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doing all the internal work , I'm having those hard

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conversations , but in the current environment

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it keeps getting ripped open . Right

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, I'm doing my work , I'm trying my best

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to cover it , put on blinders , really

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dig deep to why it's there . Forgive

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myself , forgive other people , like

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I'm doing it , but I walk

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outside and it's getting ripped open , maybe

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a little bit as time goes on . Right , maybe

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it's not like this huge gaping wound anymore , but it's still there and it's not fully healing

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. And so at some point you get

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to really say , okay , there's

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something in the environment , there's

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something in the current relationship , in the current job

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, in the current location that gets

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to shift so that I can

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truly , truly grow . And

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it really does remind me of nature . Right

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, like , nature has the ingredients

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within . You put a seed in the ground and

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that seed has the DNA , has the

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mapping to grow , right

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To sprout into whatever . It's going to become

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big tree , plant , whatever , but

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it has to have the right environment . It

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has to . And so that was sort of

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what I found myself in . I just found myself

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in this place of like . Everyone

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else around me is happy and this is awesome , but it's

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just there's something

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super limiting about me being here

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and I just , ah , there

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was something in my heart that was like I gotta go . But

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I was waiting and waiting and waiting for the right house

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, and that is going to be another podcast

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for another time . But , um , I literally

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manifested the perfect , absolute

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dreamiest home for

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me and my family . And so we moved

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mid September and umeptember

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and it's a lot , right , moving is a lot , but in the

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best way it was a lot to kind of move us

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even though we were in the same town . It's

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been an adjustment in that we don't have

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a hundred kids around us , we have a lot

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more land and a lot more deer and a lot

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more trees , and it's beautiful

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and serene in some some ways . And

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then it's been challenging in other ways . And

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, um , again , this is all sort of tied up into

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what I want to talk to you about . So let's lean

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into the first lesson and the first truth , um

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, that you get to really reflect on before

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making a big change . Okay , so

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the first lesson to really lean into

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the first truth to really reflect on , um

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, before you step into a season of change

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, or maybe you are like you're

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so close to even taking that step , but

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you just have so many emotions

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coming up , so many reservations , resistance

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, all the things . I think this one

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will really help you . So , if you're

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going to go first

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, go all in , and what I mean

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by that is again across the board

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. Go all in , and what I mean by

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that is again across the board . No matter what change you are considering

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, bring your full self , bring all of you

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. Have those hard conversations . Do

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your freaking work . I

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cannot tell you how many times I have

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seen people just leave prematurely

11:31

because something's not working . Or

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, you know , I've heard my boss isn't listening

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to me , or my husband this , my husband

11:38

, that I

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mean . Again , even in my situation , had I

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left right in 2020 , 2021 , there

11:45

was still so much there for me

11:47

. But it required

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a lot of courage . It required a lot

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of trust that , even though this felt

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incredibly hard , I'm not going to have clarity

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on whether or not I'm ready to

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go until I've brought my full self forward

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. Does that make sense ? Like that is

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the number one thing . When somebody comes to me

12:06

sort of considering leaving

12:08

whether it's leaving a relationship or a job

12:10

or a location I ask them

12:12

have you brought your full self forward ? Are

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you truly going out on

12:18

top ? And this was again

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. This was something my mentor had said to me

12:22

one time , and I've never forgotten

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it , because I do think we live in a world that

12:26

just says you know , instant gratification

12:28

If you're not happy , change it . And I

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do believe , like I've shared

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, there are times where the outside

12:36

situation or circumstance does

12:38

need to change , but

12:40

that cannot be your first go-to

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. So before you're going to blame

12:45

your circumstances , make sure you're

12:47

doing your work . And again

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, in my situation

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, I had hard conversations , I took responsibility

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for my role and at

12:58

the end of the day , I really had to say like there's nothing

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left for me to do . This

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clearly isn't going to shift or

13:04

get better . And then I just had to ask myself

13:07

a really honest question Was I okay with

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that ? And it became really , really

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clear once I had brought my full self

13:13

forward . So if you're going to go

13:15

first , go all in Secondly

13:19

. Um . Second truth

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is , just because you make a decision and it

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feels icky at first , it

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doesn't mean it's the wrong decision . And this

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was this was huge for me in making this move

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, and I wish more people knew this because I

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do think oftentimes we

13:34

take that step or we consider

13:36

taking that step , but we're like gosh

13:39

, both decisions kind of suck

13:41

. Staying here really sucks , but leaving

13:43

doesn't feel that great either and that's going to be

13:45

so much work and we've got to start over

13:48

and there's so much fear

13:50

. I was literally talking to both a client

13:52

and then one of my dearest , dearest friends from

13:54

the Midwest . Both of them were saying the

13:56

same thing . They were both considering change in two

13:58

different areas . One was a

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change in her job and one was a change in her

14:03

marriage and the

14:05

truth was neither decision felt

14:07

good . So we know what felt good . What

14:09

felt really good was living in the gray and not

14:11

making a decision . And so

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if you find yourself in the gray , I

14:16

want you to lean into this truth that just

14:18

because the new

14:20

decision , the place you're moving towards , doesn't

14:22

feel like absolutely amazing and you don't

14:24

see unicorns on your front lawn dancing

14:27

and you don't feel like butterflies

14:29

stirring inside of you , it doesn't mean it's the wrong

14:31

decision . Okay , because

14:33

here's the deal when you make a change in your life

14:35

or your relationship , you

14:37

are stepping into something new , so

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it will always

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feel a little I

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don't have a professional word , but it will feel wonky

14:46

at first , right and and

14:48

. And . I always like to just sort of visualize

14:51

a toddler learning to walk for the

14:53

first time , like it is no matter

14:55

. A toddler learning to walk for

14:57

the first time , like it is no matter . There's not a toddler on earth that stands up and

14:59

just starts walking perfectly , without falling down

15:02

, without having a meltdown , right

15:04

, like , and it's no different for us as adults

15:06

when we are trying something new , we

15:09

have to let go of this expectation that

15:11

, hey , if I'm moving to something that is quote , unquote

15:13

, better , it should feel better in

15:16

the immediate interim . And

15:18

that is bullshit . It is not

15:20

going to feel amazing at

15:22

first . Do not let that deter

15:25

you . Okay , and what I will say

15:27

is , the more that you do this work , the more

15:29

that we work together , the more that you

15:31

do breath work which is another thing that's

15:33

coming from find her wild coaching , anything

15:36

that really gets you into your body and connected

15:38

to your heart you will start to

15:40

discern the difference and I was able

15:42

to really discern the difference between

15:44

okay , this is just fear of the unknown

15:47

, this is getting into a new

15:49

rhythm . This is everybody sort

15:51

of going through their process of trying

15:53

to embrace this new

15:55

change right Versus

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oh my God , in my gut of guts

16:00

this is not the right move . We we've

16:02

screwed up . There's a big

16:04

difference between yeah

16:06

, between both emotions or both

16:09

experiences . So I don't know if

16:11

I eloquently explain that , but if

16:13

you are considering moving

16:15

, what I would or not moving , but just making

16:17

a change what I would really consider

16:20

doing is visualizing

16:22

being there , visualizing

16:24

being settled , visualize

16:26

being , you know , getting over the little

16:28

here comes the professional

16:30

word the little wonky part

16:33

of change . Get over that

16:36

, get really settled into your new rhythm and

16:38

embrace where you're at and visualize

16:40

being there . So , months from now , what

16:43

does that feel like Once everything you're

16:45

in a new routine , everyone's

16:47

sort of happy and people have made

16:49

connections and yeah , I

16:52

don't know , you just feel really grounded in this new place . What does

16:54

that feel like ? And does that feel

16:56

even 1% better

16:59

or more expansive than

17:01

where you are right now ? That might be a really

17:03

good exercise to start with , versus

17:07

comparing leaving to

17:09

the beginning of change , because they're both going

17:11

to feel not so great . Okay , so

17:13

that's the second one and

17:16

I will give a recap at the end . So the last

17:18

lesson , or truth to really lean into

17:20

is and this is a big

17:23

one , this was a big one for me and I think

17:25

it's a big going to be a big one for you guys Every

17:27

decision you make does

17:30

not have to be for forever . Let

17:33

me say that again Every

17:35

decision that you make does not

17:37

have to be for forever . I

17:40

think we forget this . I

17:43

think oftentimes we

17:45

feel the nudge , we feel the stirring

17:47

to make a big decision again

17:50

, whether it's in your health or your

17:52

finances or your job or your relationships

17:54

, but we stop short

17:56

because we go what if I make

17:58

this decision ? What if I get to that new

18:00

place ? And that's

18:03

the wrong decision I screwed up , right

18:05

. I totally should

18:09

go back , I should go back to corporate , I

18:11

should go back to that relationship , I should go back to that home

18:13

. And I want to stop and just say

18:15

I really get it , I really get . We

18:18

can't just be in my example

18:20

. I can't just be moving my whole family a

18:23

million times a year . I

18:29

know military families and lots of people do that , but that's not our life . We can't afford

18:31

that , first of all . Second of all oh my gosh , I would lose my mind , but it's

18:33

just not realistic . Same thing

18:35

in a marriage , same thing in a job , like it's not realistic

18:37

. So I totally understand wanting to

18:39

be sure before you make a big decision

18:42

and I want you to

18:44

honestly tell me if there is a time

18:46

in your life where you take a step

18:48

forward and you know

18:50

with a hundred percent certainty exactly

18:52

what's going to pan out , how the day is going

18:55

to go , what kind of results you're

18:57

going to get . All the things Honestly

19:00

, honestly , sit and pause and ask yourself

19:02

, because I remember during the pandemic

19:04

, when everyone was freaking out about the unknown

19:06

, I remember hearing from one of my mentors

19:08

that said I get that

19:11

, I get . This is being highlighted and everyone's

19:13

pointing the finger at it's the unknown . That's

19:16

what's so scary . But the truth is , every

19:18

time you wake up and you put your feet on the ground , it's

19:20

unknown . Right , we are

19:22

constantly walking into an unknown

19:25

and guess what ? You

19:27

are constantly okay , you

19:29

make it work , you adjust , you figure it out

19:31

, and when we make

19:34

these big decisions , we forget that . We

19:36

forget that . So we put so much pressure on ourselves

19:38

that if I make this big decision

19:40

, it has to work and

19:43

if it doesn't work , I'm like dead

19:45

and you're not . You're

19:47

not dead , you will always . There's

19:50

this line like the only constant in life

19:52

is change , and I agree with that , but

19:55

I think it's only half of the truth . The

19:57

other constant in life is choice

19:59

. You always have a choice . We

20:01

are sovereign beings and we can always

20:04

choose one choice and then

20:06

we can always choose again if it ends up being the wrong

20:08

decision . So put

20:10

your mind at ease when you

20:12

decide to follow your heart . Put your mind at ease

20:14

and stop making every decision a lifelong

20:17

sentence . So

20:19

that's what I want to leave you with . We'll

20:22

do a small recap on the

20:24

three truths and

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hopefully these , these you can really take these

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and apply these while you're reflecting on

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maybe your , whatever your change looks like

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. So the first one is if you're going to go

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first , go fully in where

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you currently are , wherever that is

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If it's a relationship , a job , a current house

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, a current location , like , do your work go full

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in , bring your full self forward , because then

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the decision will be a lot clearer . If

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you're living in the gray and you're

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unsure of which way to go , my guess

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is you need to start here and you

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need to really verbalize

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some needs , verbalize some boundaries , have

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those hard conversations like really go

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full in first and I promise

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you you will have more clarity . The second

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thing when you're making a change is expect

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it to feel a little wonky

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, a little icky at first , when

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you can expect that you won't be taken by

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surprise and you won't think something is wrong

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. This is part of the process . It doesn't

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mean you made the wrong decision . And the

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third truth is every

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decision is not a lifelong , forever

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decision . It's just not . You

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will always have the ability to choose

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again . If you get there and you

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go full in and you get over that little

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period of unease

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, if it's still not the right decision

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, you get to choose again . So I

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hope at least one of these really touched you and

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I would love to hear , if you're walking through change

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or considering change , which one really stood

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out . You can let me know , you can

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email me . You can find me on Instagram . All

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of my information is in the notes and

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, yeah , that's all I have for you guys this week . I

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will see you guys next

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week . That

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wraps up this episode today . I hope you

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learned something new and or are

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able to take away a fresh perspective to

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apply to the moments in your life . Remember

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to rate the podcast , share it with someone you love

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or leave a review . I'm always grateful for

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your time and I'm always rooting for you to

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wake up and thrive . I'll see you guys next

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week .