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2:54

got one walking in from therapy.

2:56

We got one walking in from

2:58

home, home, work. I had my

3:00

appointment with Roman. Done, done, done.

3:02

Oh, so much to catch up

3:04

on. KB Go? Oh, boy. You

3:06

would lead with me. The emotionally

3:08

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3:10

just like to say it is

3:12

hard to not have family. Oh,

3:15

like here to help. Or just

3:17

like, and like, and like, I

3:19

didn't want to cry. I just

3:21

texted Janet this the other day

3:23

because I was like, fucking tired

3:25

of not being able to count

3:28

on people. It's really hard. And

3:30

I know I'm not the only

3:32

one dealing with it. And so

3:34

I just feel like it's a

3:36

moment of just. real tearful honesty

3:38

that it just sucks to the

3:41

cycle breakers and to the people

3:43

that I am positive from me

3:45

forward my family legacy changes and

3:47

the dynamic of my family changes

3:49

but it is hard working work

3:51

and it's exhausting and it's lonely

3:54

and that's what therapy was today.

3:56

I just was like, I'm just,

3:58

I'm not lonely in my marriage.

4:00

Our marriage is actually really in

4:02

like probably the best place it's

4:04

ever been, but like, it's hard.

4:07

You know, like there's a weekend

4:09

coming up where Preston has gone

4:11

doing what Preston does to provide

4:13

for our family. And I have

4:15

to somehow be downtown Nashville at

4:17

a two day cheer competition and

4:19

also be at a baseball game

4:22

30 minutes away. And it's just

4:24

me. And I'll be doing all

4:26

that with a toddler on my

4:28

hip. And

4:30

even if I can send someone or

4:33

have someone take legend to his game,

4:35

that's not his family. Sure. And you

4:37

don't want to be both places. Yes.

4:40

Which is also hard. I'd like to

4:42

be in four places. One of which

4:44

is at home, allowing my toddler to

4:47

have a nap. Sure. In her crib.

4:49

That's a lot. Sorry. I didn't plan

4:51

on crying, but I'm just frustrated. hard

4:54

and I don't like feeling stuck and

4:56

I don't like feeling impossible and certainly

4:58

I can pay people to come get

5:01

my kids and take them but and

5:03

even if I think this is the

5:05

hardest part for me right now I

5:07

don't have a strong crying voice. I

5:10

think even if I did recruit a

5:12

grandparent they don't have close relationships with

5:14

those people and so it doesn't matter

5:17

if they're family and air quotes or

5:19

not because my kids don't know my

5:21

kids. Yeah, I hear I feel that

5:24

on that. So that's what I was

5:26

gonna not to discuss. I didn't know

5:28

if it would sound like I was

5:31

discounting your feelings. That is a flood

5:33

of emotion really fast. Sorry, but this

5:35

is like, I haven't been able to

5:38

say it. Yeah, and I don't want

5:40

it to sound like I'm discounting because

5:42

those are all valid. But I feel

5:45

like for me, even though I may

5:47

have a parent that's there that doesn't

5:49

feel that void. No. And that's unfortunate.

5:51

I mean I have a brother who

5:54

hasn't met my third baby and sometimes

5:56

I am I protect that information yeah

5:58

right and sometimes I protect that information

6:01

but Like part of me doing that

6:03

is just perpetuating the cycle of dysfunction.

6:05

Like I don't need to protect him.

6:08

Isn't it my daughter? And the last

6:10

time we saw the other brother on

6:12

the other side was four years ago

6:15

until like two weekends ago. Like it's

6:17

lonely. And I have the best friends.

6:19

Like God, I fully believe he supplements

6:22

any lack with just abundance and all

6:24

the other areas. But like... That doesn't

6:26

make me wish that there wasn't a

6:29

grandparent that could just, that knows them

6:31

and knows the routine and the rhythm

6:33

of the house or whatever. And I

6:35

think people go through this for a

6:38

lot of reasons, whether you're transplanted into

6:40

an area you didn't grow up in

6:42

or you've lost parents or where it's

6:45

unhealthy and you've set those boundaries for

6:47

yourself, but like it just sucks and

6:49

I don't, I do not like the

6:52

word impossible. I am highly allergic to

6:54

it. So when something starts to feel

6:56

that way, I just. I don't like

6:59

it. I'm a doer. I like to

7:01

move pieces and make solutions and sometimes

7:03

it's just hard and that's what I

7:06

just walked in with Amy Tay. I

7:08

was like, it's just hard. I mean,

7:10

I obviously relate to a lot of

7:13

that. Our family isn't here even when

7:15

they are. It's not the most helpful

7:17

piece, but that's, you know, how many

7:19

times they come once maybe a year?

7:22

Yeah. But on the side of that

7:24

is, you know. games at the same

7:26

time, different places, I've got, you know,

7:29

my husband is now doing his clinics

7:31

at night, so it's, okay, and I

7:33

also need roaming down, so I've been

7:36

changing hours so that she can stay,

7:38

you know, later, or I take him

7:40

sometimes, but it's like, all right, if

7:43

she's there, so it's like, trying to

7:45

coordinate, it's a lot when you don't

7:47

feel like you have anybody here to

7:50

help. Even if they, it's not like

7:52

we can just call because. I know

7:54

what I know who I will be

7:57

as a grandparent. Correct. I will be

7:59

very close. I might

8:01

not live in the same area. I

8:03

would like to hope that I will.

8:05

But when there is, let's just say

8:07

spring season of whatever sports, I'm gonna

8:09

make sure that I'm staying for a

8:11

couple months to help or to be

8:13

there or to watch. I can't imagine

8:15

my dad mom not seeing any of

8:17

their, then they don't, doesn't even seem

8:19

like they care just come see a

8:21

game or, you know. I think that's

8:23

also tricky because then it's Preston that

8:25

reminds me. It's not that they're just

8:27

missing a daughter. Yeah, like I see

8:29

your dad and your, your, Nick's mom

8:31

and dad at games and I'm like,

8:33

man, I was about to be so

8:35

nice to my kids, grandparents. I was

8:38

about to correct and say, my dad

8:40

is the single best at taking all

8:42

the grandkids' schedules. Now, there's a lot

8:44

of them, so he will miss things,

8:46

but he is at everything that he

8:48

can. So I will get, you know,

8:50

and my mom does her best as

8:52

well. I think my point was more.

8:54

That for me, I'm still going to

8:57

feel the same way that I can't

8:59

be there, regardless if my parents are

9:01

there or not. Sure. And I don't

9:03

know if maybe they had a stronger,

9:05

like, personal bond, though he's there all

9:07

the time. Though my mom is there,

9:09

I don't, I wouldn't say they have

9:11

the strongest bond. But I think that

9:13

was kind of my thing. I think

9:15

that I still, I don't, I'm sure

9:17

I feel differently than y'all I'm trying,

9:19

I'm trying not to like, like sensitive.

9:21

because yes, my dad goes to as

9:23

much as he can. You have family

9:25

here though, so it's a different piece.

9:27

That's the part that's like, and it's

9:29

help, whether they're super close or not,

9:31

I have that help here, and I've

9:33

had that help here, and that is

9:35

a tremendous help and difference from you

9:37

guys, 100%. Like I can't even. imagine

9:39

honestly not having that. Now that my

9:41

kids are older, it's gotten, you know,

9:43

a lot easier and I don't need

9:45

that as much, but when they're little,

9:47

God, that piece is so, it is

9:49

so helpful. Yeah, for sure. Yeah, it's

9:51

just, I, yeah, it just felt limly

9:53

and I don't. love it, but it's

9:55

also like, there's like, what can you

9:57

do about it? Well, it's also as

9:59

the sports and as you have more

10:02

kids and as the sports get really

10:04

busy, they start overlapping. And it's so

10:06

funny because I was so ahead of

10:08

everyone on this and like, you know,

10:10

I love logistics. So to me, it's

10:12

like a puzzle that I, to an

10:14

extent, enjoy piecing together, but when you

10:16

can't be in two places at one

10:18

time, no matter what it is. So

10:20

hard. She's got, she's got a game,

10:22

Nolan's got, he's over there at the

10:24

exact same time, same day, and then

10:26

like nap time for Roman, he's out

10:28

at what I'm like, what do I

10:30

do? How do I do it? How

10:32

do I stretch? And here's the deal.

10:34

And I'm gonna have to like drop

10:36

him, I think I have to like

10:38

drop him, I think I have to

10:40

like drop him, I think I have

10:42

to like drop him, I think I

10:44

have to like drop him, I have

10:46

to like drop him, I have to

10:48

like drop him, I have to like

10:50

drop him, I think, I have to

10:52

like drop him, I have to like

10:54

drop him, I have to like drop

10:56

him, I have to like drop him,

10:58

I have to like drop him, I

11:00

have to like drop him, I have

11:02

to like drop him, I have to

11:04

like drop him, I have to like

11:06

drop him, I have to like drop

11:09

him, I have to like drop him,

11:11

I have to like drop him, I

11:13

untangling and behind the scenes. And here's

11:15

the deal. Even if Preston was here,

11:17

that's going to help? Because you're going

11:19

to feel like a parent is there,

11:21

you're still going to wish you could

11:23

go to both. Yeah, I also think

11:25

a lot of moms are also going

11:27

through this as well. So to know

11:29

that you're not alone. And then when

11:31

you stress out, it's kind of, your

11:33

kids are active, like, that's a beautiful

11:35

thing. Yeah. And love only does two

11:37

cheercomps a yearcomps a year. So I'm.

11:39

So I'm like, so I'm like, like,

11:41

like, like, like, like, like, It's like

11:43

they're so not that they wouldn't be

11:45

special if there was more, but I

11:47

also am like it's not even like

11:49

I can take her out Very few

11:51

when there's very few it does feel

11:53

very like I couldn't take her out

11:55

I wouldn't because we're part of the

11:57

team But it's like there's just I

11:59

don't love that feeling Yeah, and I'm

12:01

gonna have a baby at a cheer

12:03

comp no matter what anyways I didn't

12:05

do for that straight hot out of

12:07

therapy. Wait, just let me question and

12:09

I just cry. First of all, let

12:11

me know when the sheer comp is.

12:14

I want to try to come and

12:16

watch it because I still haven't seen

12:18

her and then I'll also, unless it's

12:20

the same weekend as us. Is it

12:22

this weekend? No. In which we have

12:24

another schedule yet overlapping. So I started

12:26

watching White Lotus. The first season. I

12:28

feel like I do. I know. So

12:30

I feel like I do this with

12:32

every show. I did it with Yellowstone.

12:34

I didn't watch until the last season.

12:36

I did this with Ted. Ted last

12:38

I started last season and I started

12:40

last season and I started. Have you

12:42

seen what? Lotus? No. Lotus? No. Lotus.

12:44

No. No. Lotus. No. No. I know

12:46

how to explain it. I didn't make

12:48

me want to watch it. I didn't.

12:50

The first one was my favorite. That's

12:52

what I remember you saying. So I've

12:54

already prepped Alan, like, hey, I don't

12:56

think season two is gonna be bad.

12:58

It wasn't bad. Okay, I'm a little

13:00

excited to watch it. But the show

13:02

I really want to talk about is

13:04

adolescence. Oh, I haven't watched. Oh my

13:06

God. Because it's a, it's a mom,

13:08

it's a show that I think all

13:10

mom should watch. And dad's, yes, absolutely,

13:12

and dad's, good point. It is on.

13:14

Netflix, it's the number one TV show

13:16

right now. It's actually a UK show.

13:18

Allen's like, hey, it's a UK show,

13:21

we should watch it. Awesome, knew nothing

13:23

about it. The last episode, I was

13:25

in just a puddle of tears. It

13:27

really makes you think about your parenting.

13:29

But also, I need that right now.

13:31

But I think it's good for the,

13:33

a lot of it, I don't want

13:35

to give it all away, obviously, because

13:37

I want people to watch it, but

13:39

I want people to watch it. with

13:41

social media and how bullying, you don't

13:43

even know that it could be bullying

13:45

with just a simple emoji. And that's

13:47

the things that, you know, we're all

13:49

learning these new words that kids are

13:51

coming home with. No cap Kramer. What's

13:53

that mean? That's good. I don't even

13:55

know what half of them mean. I

13:57

just know. I think it means no

13:59

lie. Like I can use them in

14:01

a sentence. Well, one, they thought that

14:03

someone was bullying someone, but really find

14:05

out that this girl was actually bullying

14:07

him. won't tell you what happens, but

14:09

it's wild though because I was reading

14:11

some things online and the entire time,

14:13

I did not want to believe that

14:15

it was him. And I kept saying

14:17

it's not him. It's going to be

14:19

something else that happens and it's going

14:21

to... Which is the point. I know.

14:23

And that's what's so messed up. Because

14:26

I'm like, you know, he's so cute

14:28

and like he would never and it's

14:30

my boy and... Just the relationship between

14:32

the child and a parent. and the

14:34

relationship that you think that you have

14:36

and that what you think you know

14:38

what you think your child is capable

14:40

of and what they're not for that

14:42

to just be completely flipped upside down

14:44

I mean this show wrecked me it

14:46

absolutely wrecked me I can do that

14:48

right now but I'll put it on

14:50

my list and you may not be

14:52

able to but I will say as

14:54

emotionally hard as it was I think

14:56

it's so important for people to watch

14:58

I'll do I'll watch things when I

15:00

know they're important I just Maybe not

15:02

today. But you're also a little bit

15:04

not there yet. Yeah, but I want

15:06

to know like ignorance is not blessed

15:08

to me. So, but here's the thing.

15:10

We're all and that's the thing. I'm

15:12

in the thick of it and I'm

15:14

ignorant to half of it and that's

15:16

what's so hard. Like everyone kind of

15:18

is. Do you think that all parents

15:20

before us felt this way that they

15:22

thought they knew but they probably didn't?

15:24

I mean I think to an extent.

15:26

Yeah. I think it's just exponentially more

15:28

layered. Jolie about last night because we

15:31

were getting ready to go to Jason's

15:33

baseball game. And so I like to

15:35

have them have dinner when they get

15:37

home from school just because they're always

15:39

asking for a snack anyway. So I

15:41

usually have a dinner ready and made

15:43

because then we're not eating at eight

15:45

o'clock a night. So I make them

15:47

a dinner or whatever and we're eating

15:49

last night. I can't remember how technology

15:51

came up in the conversation or about

15:53

kids. And one day when you're a

15:55

mom you'll understand. And I said you

15:57

know what Jolie. Mommy grew up, remember

15:59

how we talked about this? I was

16:01

like mommy grew up with no cell

16:03

phones, no real internet, no, we played

16:05

outside. And so that's why I'm always.

16:07

saying to you guys go outside, go

16:09

outside, go outside, don't be on, you

16:11

know, no, none of this stuff and

16:13

this is why you won't have social

16:15

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16:17

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16:19

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16:21

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16:23

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16:25

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23:24

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23:26

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23:29

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23:31

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23:57

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24:13

kid on the head. Parents still

24:15

not noticing. Is it okay for

24:17

you to come in and say, boys, keep

24:19

your hands to yourself? Yep. No

24:22

hitting. Is that okay, or is

24:24

it not okay to discipline somebody that

24:26

is not your child? I don't think,

24:28

I think disciplining is a really strong

24:30

word for just advising, but I do

24:33

have, but I do, I guess there's

24:35

a wine in it, but I just want

24:37

to open, I want to open the topic

24:39

of that because it made me question if

24:42

that is okay or not. Yeah,

24:44

I don't think you're disciplining. I

24:46

think if you're just advising, that's

24:48

coming in with a. your responsibility

24:50

to say something if you're seeing

24:52

it over and over again because

24:55

that if the kid if the kid that's getting

24:57

the juice box poured on his head

24:59

isn't able to say something a very

25:01

younger kid can't say anything that's a

25:04

separate kid yeah other kid that he

25:06

is hitting is just a team and

25:08

then somebody else is then same kid

25:10

just different little kid yeah I think

25:12

it's a responsibility as the village to

25:15

say something because if you're the little

25:17

kid who can't say something you wished

25:19

an adult would say it for you. And that

25:21

is where I always stay passionate and

25:23

that could be childhood trauma, but I

25:26

love sticking up for kids. I wouldn't

25:28

come in and try to fix their

25:30

situation necessarily, but I think our refreshing

25:32

it would be that someone notices that

25:35

happening. I absolutely agree with you,

25:37

but I'm afraid we don't live in that

25:39

world anymore, and I think that you have

25:41

to be willing to deal with the consequences

25:43

of it. If I saw a child pouring

25:46

a juice box on a younger child,

25:48

I actually would step in. I

25:50

would actually go up to that

25:52

said child and I would say,

25:54

hey, that's not appropriate, let's not

25:56

do this. Knowing darn well that

25:58

that parent... may not be okay

26:01

with that. And we live in a

26:03

world now where people don't give you

26:05

permission to discipline their children. That's was

26:07

my fear. Yes. I've lived this as

26:09

they've gotten older. Okay, tell me more.

26:11

Like there, plenty of instances where parents

26:13

have stepped in and parents have come

26:15

and said, not you're not necessarily me,

26:17

but not your place. I think though

26:19

for me, if it is enough for

26:21

me to want to say it to

26:23

that child and I am kind and

26:25

I'm respectful and I'm an no adult,

26:27

fine, you can get mad at me,

26:29

you can get mad at me. I

26:31

don't care. Well, their rebuttal to you

26:33

is exactly the problem. Exactly. So, and

26:35

I'm not, this is if I'm seeing

26:37

this person, I'm assuming we're seeing this

26:39

one kid over and over and over

26:41

again. I also don't think it's the

26:43

kid's fault either, to be honest with

26:45

you. But guess what? Kids are going

26:47

to continue with a behavior if it

26:49

is not corrected. And yes, the village

26:51

mentality, I would do anything to still

26:53

have. And this isn't me going. You

26:55

sit down right now, that's just me

26:57

coming over and being like, hey buddy,

26:59

I see what you're doing and I

27:01

don't like it. I'm behind the cage,

27:03

right? Yeah. And again, like, when I

27:05

run the line like last year and

27:07

I was in Julie's, I'm like, girls,

27:09

listen up, like stop, stop, stop, like,

27:11

get down from the casino climb, like,

27:13

we don't climb the things, get down,

27:15

because I'm like, in the cage, I'm

27:17

just kind of observing, I'm not twice.

27:19

And so finally I just said, boys,

27:21

keep your hands to yourself. No hitting

27:23

in there. And then I thought, crap.

27:25

No, I love that. Oh, I think

27:27

it's. I don't know if I could,

27:29

if I should have said that because,

27:31

and then the second time was the

27:33

other was pouring the thing and I

27:36

said, I don't think your mom would

27:38

like that. You know, and then that's

27:40

when, you know, I think the mom

27:42

heard and that's where I was like,

27:44

is, I don't think that's bad. It's

27:46

like if you're in there and you're

27:48

like, have you seen the viral video

27:50

of the high school basketball coach? Yes.

27:52

the new one pulling the girls. Oh

27:54

my gosh. And that other girl that

27:56

stood up for her is what stood

27:58

out to me. That's what I'm saying.

28:00

This coach pulls, sorry to change that,

28:02

but this coach pulls kind of alignment

28:04

because one of his players ponytails pulls

28:06

her hair. This other player sees it

28:08

literally grabs her friend, pulls her away

28:10

and starts like getting in the coach's

28:12

face. Like, you know, I mean, he

28:14

got fired. Yeah, obviously. We're living in

28:16

a world that that that that. is

28:18

what I believe is probably one of

28:20

the single handling one of the things

28:22

that's ruining us the most. I mean,

28:24

again, as long as you are respectful

28:26

and you are kind. Yes. And you

28:28

were just making sure that this other

28:30

child, I see zero problem with it.

28:32

Well, and I'm not saying anything like,

28:34

I'm sure at times, I hope, I

28:36

hope not, but I'm sure at times,

28:38

you know, I've, like, they don't, the

28:40

coach doesn't like them, you know, you

28:42

know, you know, throwing the, you know,

28:44

you know, you know, I'm sure at

28:46

some point, Jace has, I hope not,

28:48

again, because I've raised them to always

28:50

keep your hands to yourself, no pushing,

28:52

no hitting, like that is a big

28:54

one in our household, like we just

28:56

don't do it. We can like wrestle,

28:58

but like, you're not hitting your sister,

29:00

you're not hitting other people, you're keeping

29:02

your hands to yourself, at games, etc.

29:04

And so I'm not saying this kid

29:06

is bad or anything like that. You

29:08

know, keep your hands full. And I

29:10

do still, yeah, I do still go

29:12

back. It kind of depends. I think

29:14

that if it feels not so bad,

29:16

I might not. But if it felt

29:18

major, I might. So I do think

29:20

it depends on the situation. But in

29:22

going back to, like, I don't think

29:24

any kids are bad. I think all

29:26

kids are good. They can make bad

29:29

choices and they can do bad things.

29:31

And I would hope that the parents

29:33

are paying attention. I don't know. I

29:35

think in that situation that situation. Hey,

29:37

you know, I just, I saw this,

29:39

I wasn't sure if you saw it,

29:41

and if they get mad, they get

29:43

mad. Well, because the same, if, if,

29:45

if that, if Jay's was doing that,

29:47

I... I hope someone would say that.

29:49

And I'd be like, oh my gosh,

29:51

Jay, stop. If I looked away or

29:53

was getting roaming, because I'd be a

29:55

chasing Roman at the last game, I

29:57

would be like, buddy, stop. Don't do

29:59

we do that? You know, I personally

30:01

would want that. But I just would

30:03

want to bring up to you moments

30:05

to see. I think we live in

30:07

a world. I said I said it.

30:09

I was like, oh, correct. I think

30:11

we do live in a world now,

30:13

though. You almost have to have to

30:15

have to have to have to have

30:17

to have to have to have to

30:19

have permission to have permission to have

30:21

permission to have permission to have permission

30:23

to have permission to correct. permission to

30:25

correct. You know, you know, you know,

30:27

you know, you know, you know, you

30:29

know, you know, you know, you know,

30:31

you know, you know, you know, you

30:33

know, you know, you know, you know,

30:35

you know, like, like, like, like, like,

30:37

I think we just do a disservice

30:39

to them to let them continue to

30:41

do things like that. And I think

30:43

it's better for them to know there

30:45

are other people watching. The reality is

30:47

other people will be watching is they

30:49

get older too. I do think though

30:51

as they get older it gets harder

30:53

and you have to bite your tongue

30:55

a lot more. Yeah, you can't imagine

30:57

as much as they get older as

30:59

much as I have and would like

31:01

to. It gets much harder to do.

31:03

It gets much harder to do. I

31:05

like that. I mean, another really whine

31:07

about was more a question that I

31:09

do the wrong thing. But no, I

31:11

think it fits in there because it

31:13

is like, I think there's probably a

31:15

lot of parents facing similar. And we've

31:17

even done that with play dates, like

31:20

there's certain kids. I'm like, I don't

31:22

want to not have that kid over

31:24

anymore, but the fact that it's, he's

31:26

destructive to property is not okay. No.

31:28

Yeah. So we're just learning. But we've

31:30

gone through that a lot with love

31:32

with love too. I've said to love,

31:34

I was like, you know, the more

31:36

that she gets away with it, it's

31:38

a muscle just like kindness is. And

31:40

so you don't, like, I don't want

31:42

her to turn out, you know, not

31:44

that this single situation or us as

31:46

a family, but like, just for her

31:48

to learn that she could be nicer,

31:50

that the way she said it hurt

31:52

your feelings or whatever, you know, a

31:54

little sort of communication. Yeah. Uh-oh. Shailine

31:56

Woodley and Emily in Paris actor Lucas

31:58

Bravo show off PDA in Paris. Gotta

32:00

tell you, I thought it looked like

32:02

Aaron Rogers when I was like, oh,

32:04

they got back together. Cute! And then

32:06

I was like, oh, well, Gabrielle. It

32:08

is Gabrielle, but he's wearing packer colors.

32:10

So it made me feel at all.

32:12

Oh, yeah. through us off. I love

32:14

both of them having said that, and

32:16

now I'm going to talk about another

32:18

Emily in Paris, another good show to

32:20

watch. I wasn't a Gabrielle fan this

32:22

last season. I think it's because he's

32:24

mushy. Yeah, but I do, I love

32:26

them separately, so I think it's really

32:28

cute. I also love that they're in

32:30

Paris when the PDA was captured. Just

32:32

felt very fitting. I agree. He's Lucas.

32:34

Did I say his name right? Benny

32:36

Blanco? You're not. Would that be hip

32:38

or cool? Because I feel like I'm

32:40

just not, you know, I don't feel

32:42

like he's engaged just lean to go

32:44

miss. Oh, okay. Poor guy. That's his

32:46

claim to fame for now. We're like,

32:48

oh. Is he a singer-cramer? Apparently, he's

32:50

got some new grooming done in a

32:52

hilarious new video posted to the music

32:54

producers' tic-talk account. Blanco can be seen

32:56

getting his eyebrows plucked and shaved as

32:58

his actress and musician fiancé Selena Gomez

33:00

stands in the background. So, you know,

33:02

he's getting his glow up by his

33:04

girl. I think there's something wrong with

33:06

it. Oh, I think that's cute. I

33:08

think, you know, as long as he's

33:11

fine with it. Have you ever suggested

33:13

your husband to change something? Yes. Yeah,

33:15

of course. Like what? He was super

33:17

spray tanny when I first met him.

33:19

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33:21

have to change the spray tan. But

33:23

it wasn't spray tan. So we were

33:25

changing the solution. That was. Oh, that's

33:27

so funny. That is funny. I like

33:29

that. Anything else? It wasn't even mean.

33:31

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41:08

your young children when they make

41:10

remarks about ghosts and hearing things?

41:12

For example, my daughter is almost

41:14

four and told me this morning

41:16

that she heard someone from our

41:18

garage calling her name. It was

41:20

5.30 in the morning, no one

41:22

was out in the garage, but

41:24

she was very adamant about hearing

41:26

it and wanting to do and

41:28

wanting to know who it was.

41:30

She wasn't scared, just curious. I'm

41:32

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41:38

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41:40

listening to y'all every week. Hey,

41:42

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41:44

a really good question. I never

41:46

forget one time when Kate and

41:48

Ms. Young. He said something about

41:50

someone upstairs and we were like,

41:52

well, we're never going upstairs again.

41:54

But I've honestly never. I'll say,

41:56

yeah. I've never really encountered this

41:58

though, other than that, you know,

42:00

like say something to speak. I

42:02

mean, he was so little, I

42:04

don't remember. I remember we just

42:06

like turned it, he was like

42:08

a toddler. So like we just

42:10

like, we just like, we still

42:12

laugh about it, but we didn't

42:14

really have to have the conversation.

42:16

It never happened again. Yeah. Ramsey

42:18

is currently kind of scared and

42:20

thinks that the other bedroom is

42:22

haunted. So we like talked through

42:24

that sometimes, sometimes, but I've never

42:27

had that situation. I had it

42:29

with my dad, right after my

42:31

dad died, like literally moments after

42:33

my dad died. I came out

42:35

of the bathroom, that's where I

42:37

was melting, and I came out

42:39

to get to the kids and

42:41

I could only get to the

42:43

doorway. I just didn't have enough,

42:45

like, I was just sad. So

42:47

I sat in the doorway and

42:49

the kids came over to me.

42:51

I was just loving legend at

42:53

the time and pressed in, like

42:55

three and a half, four. And

42:57

he said, there's so many people

42:59

here. And my husband was like,

43:01

yeah, well, we're all here, buddy,

43:03

like, you know, me and love

43:05

and Mama. And he said, no,

43:07

there's so many people here and

43:09

the man's here. And he was

43:11

like, who's the man? And he's

43:13

like, who's the man? And he's

43:15

like, the man. He just came

43:17

through the cross. He's right here

43:19

with us. I feel like when

43:21

it's happened to us it's felt

43:23

more like a visit than like

43:25

a haunting. I sometimes think that

43:27

even if we filter well what

43:29

kids are watching I think a

43:31

lot of those things start to

43:33

come through like they have such

43:35

crazy wild imaginations like great imaginations

43:37

but like it can go these

43:39

angels and when someone... Julie's asked

43:41

about death before and now Jace

43:43

is asked too so you know

43:45

we just talk about heaven and

43:47

angels and... makes it less scary.

43:49

They've obviously talked about monsters, but

43:51

never mention ghosts. Yeah. I think

43:53

their imaginations, especially young or so

43:55

wild, so like any noise could

43:57

turn into something too. Well that's

43:59

what kind of... of happened to

44:01

us with Ramsey is like, you

44:04

know, with like the air in

44:06

a house, a door will open

44:08

another, well that door will slam.

44:10

So the door slammed and then

44:12

she's convinced that there's ghost in

44:14

there, but that was like, she's

44:16

a little bit older than like

44:18

young, you know, I feel like

44:20

that's little, so she's, so we

44:22

just talked through it literally is

44:24

the air, you know, like very

44:26

practical, but I've never had like,

44:28

besides that I haven't had like

44:30

ghost. You guys, I had something

44:32

that happened to me when I

44:34

was about six. And to this

44:36

day, I'm still trying to figure

44:38

it out. It drives me and

44:40

this just made me think about

44:42

it all over again. So we

44:44

were in the backyard and I

44:46

still, I mean, I probably asked

44:48

my brother, I'd say two summers

44:50

ago, I was like, please just

44:52

tell me what you did that

44:54

day. Please just tell me it

44:56

was you because to me, I'm

44:58

still questioning what I saw. So,

45:00

tell us. you know, neighbors behind

45:02

us. And my mom was inside

45:04

the house, but my brother was

45:06

kind of in and out with

45:08

his friends, right? So we're playing,

45:10

we're playing. I look up in

45:12

my mom's window and I just

45:14

see a skeleton, like face and

45:16

like body, just but like, oh,

45:18

like, up to like, chest, the

45:20

head, and then it like disappears.

45:22

So I go running up, like,

45:24

mom, like, what is, like, what

45:26

is this? Nothing. She's like, oh,

45:28

I'm in the kitchen or whatever.

45:30

My brother, like, he's all of

45:32

a sudden outside. And I'm like,

45:34

who was in the, who was

45:36

in the, who was in the

45:39

window? Because I still see it,

45:41

like, as a kid. Like bones,

45:43

bones. Who was it? Was it

45:45

one of those neighbor boys? But

45:47

it wasn't like a mask. Like,

45:49

that was the thing. It looked

45:51

real. And I just remember, like,

45:53

to this day, being like, this

45:55

is so freaky. who put on

45:57

a mask or what like what

45:59

was it? like who had a

46:01

skeleton. Does the skeleton exist in

46:03

your house somewhere like even as

46:05

a Halloween decoration? No. Weird.

46:07

My mom hated Halloween. Hate it. And

46:09

it was in the middle of the summer.

46:11

Weird. That is weird. I, to this day,

46:13

I still don't like it and it still

46:15

freaks me out. And there's no part of

46:18

you that thinks you imagine it. Like you

46:20

know, this isn't me gasoline in your childhood

46:22

trauma. No. I know, like I literally

46:24

know what I know what I know what I saw.

46:26

And I questioned it up until my

46:28

adulthood. what I saw. And that's not like

46:30

what you hear, like it's not common to

46:33

hear someone saw a ghost, but it was

46:35

a skeleton. Yeah, that's why I'm like, is

46:37

there, was there decoration? No. Especially,

46:40

especially in my mom's room. Did

46:42

you ever Google, have you ever Google

46:44

like what it means, like the significance

46:46

of seeing a skeleton? No. Want me

46:48

to? I'm a little scared. Oh no! It's

46:51

like cool. Like if you've ever, it's never

46:53

what you think. Like I've had like a

46:55

loose teeth. I don't know how I would

46:57

just randomly see that. Like it was clear

46:59

as a day. Yeah, I don't know. I know it's

47:01

wild. And I know you guys don't believe

47:04

me. No, I believe you. I'm just

47:06

trying to think of what logically you.

47:08

In my mind just goes to you

47:10

saw it what logically could have happened

47:12

could someone have had a skeleton and

47:14

gotten up there I never saw it

47:16

again. That's the thing I never saw

47:18

it again could have been a neighbor I

47:20

never saw the I mean I just

47:22

feel like I would have seen it

47:24

like what yeah okay so the front

47:27

this definition we're just gonna scoop past

47:29

no I'm gonna need you to read

47:31

the whole definition oh no seeing the

47:33

skeleton or in the imagery of one

47:35

often symbolizes death This was a long time

47:37

ago. Cycle of life and death and the

47:39

inevitability of transformation. Not bad. I

47:41

like to learn. I would rather us land

47:44

here. It also can serve as a

47:46

reminder to appreciate the present moment and

47:48

the value of life. So maybe those

47:50

Bach boys just left a little time

47:52

stamp. The skeletons there to say that's for

47:54

real and we move forward. Does that feel like

47:56

a good closure? I feel like I need to

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ever told. This season explores women

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from the 19th century to now.

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Women who were murderers and scammers,

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lawyers, writers, and more. This podcast

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the difficult, and all the nuanced

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