How often do you say no?

In this episode, I unpack the beautiful mess that is boundary-setting—with stories, psychology, and a touch of Brexit. This episode dives deep into what it really means to assert your needs.

Boundaries aren’t about building walls—they’re more like installing a front door with a lock you actually use. We explore why people-pleasing kills self-respect, how resentment creeps in when you’re too “nice,” and why your future depends on the limits you’re willing to draw today.

What you’ll take away:

10 signs of poor boundaries

How to spot a weak boundary before it drains your energy

Why saying no can be the kindest thing you do

You teach people how to treat you by what you tolerate

How to identify emotional manipulation in everyday relationships

A quadrant model that makes difficult conversations easier

Listen now if you’re ready to stop being agreeable and start being respected.

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Episode: Eat, Pray, Set Boundaries: The psychology of getting your needs met

Chapters:00:00 Setting boundaries for how you want to be treated02:58 Boundaires in life Example05:10 Why boundaries need balance07:19 10 signs of poor boundaries07:35 Difficulty making decisions07:58 Feeling selfish for saying no08:18 Frequent apologizing08:49 Uncertainty about what to share09:13 Passive aggressiveness09:49 Losing sense of self10:10 Need for external validation10:26 Resentment10:43 Constant sense of fatigue11:02 Dramatic relationships11:34 Abusive situations15:03 Identifying crap boundaries15:14 Floppy boundary17:22 Rigid boundary19:10 Why we struggle with boundaries23:09 Creating healthy boundaries23:39 Personal boundaries24:07 Social boundaries25:24 Value-based boundaries26:43 Communicating boundaries28:25 Traffic light framework31:58 The importance of independence34:41 Book suggestions35:22 Send offLearn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices