0:02

Today we bring

0:02

on someone who is a master at

0:05

working on themselves. And that

0:05

is what Thought Hustle is all

0:08

about. It is a show dedicated to

0:08

ensuring that you can live your

0:11

best life. It is a show

0:11

dedicated to ensuring that you

0:15

can live a life filled with

0:15

abundance, freedom and joy. So

0:18

we bring on the top experts, and

0:18

Don Brightman, he is one of

0:23

those experts. He got looked

0:23

over for a promotion at a

0:26

library and he decided he wanted

0:26

to make something of himself. So

0:30

he started writing, he started

0:30

coaching and well, you have to

0:33

listen to the rest of the show

0:33

to hear what else he did. But

0:35

this guy, he turned it all

0:35

around, because he realized that

0:38

he wanted more. If you're

0:38

listening to this show, I know

0:41

that you want more as well. So

0:41

buckle up, because this is a

0:44

good episode. Without any

0:44

further ado, our interview with

0:49

Dom for today we bring on Dom

0:49

Brightmon. How you doing today,

0:55

john?

0:56

And I'm doing good day,

0:56

it was one day to another man's

0:59

Double D podcast today, baby.

1:02

That's right, it

1:02

is really excited to bring you

1:04

on and until you've got the

1:04

energy to keep us going. So

1:07

that's absolutely fantastic. So

1:07

would you start out by telling

1:10

us a little bit about yourself

1:10

your background? And what are

1:13

you doing today?

1:14

Sure day well, thanks

1:14

so much for having me on Daniel

1:17

always appreciate an invite to

1:17

me something is working, thank

1:19

God, something's working. And

1:19

for those that don't know me, my

1:22

name is Dominic DOM, right. And

1:22

you can call me Dom for sure to

1:25

make it easy for yourself. And

1:25

I'm a certified self leadership

1:28

Trainer with the john Maxwell

1:28

team and likes to coach equip,

1:32

empower and inspire others to

1:32

create their own peace of

1:35

immortality, because that's

1:35

something I've done for us so

1:37

far published a couple of books

1:37

on my name got a couple more on

1:40

the way and I have a podcast

1:40

that's actually in the top

1:43

superset of all podcasts in the

1:43

world. According to listen

1:46

notes.com. So like a all about

1:46

really helping others realize

1:50

that success is tangible. And

1:50

that in this lifetime, we have

1:54

an opportunity now more than

1:54

ever, even though there's some

1:57

darkness out there. There's

1:57

still little pockets, if not

2:00

quarters, or a little metaphor,

2:00

coronations a light out there,

2:03

because still tap into and

2:03

create our own version of

2:06

success, success that we want in

2:06

our lives, because success means

2:09

different things to different people.

2:11

Yeah, for sure. And there's something that you said that I kind of want you to

2:13

dive into. You mentioned

2:15

immortality, what do you mean by

2:15

that?

2:19

Yes, immortality in one

2:19

of my favorite books of all

2:24

time, probably my top 100 rich

2:24

dad's conspiracy of the rich. He

2:27

mentioned, like, it was towards

2:27

the end of the book, where his

2:31

business model really just

2:31

involves him creating

2:33

derivatives of himself, like the

2:33

Cash Flow Quadrant game was one

2:36

of them. Rich Dad, Poor Dad is

2:36

what she's really known for. And

2:40

all his other books, programs

2:40

and things like that are just

2:42

pieces of himself that he's put

2:42

out there to the world that's

2:46

going to be here long after he's

2:46

gone. And just like books, sec,

2:49

even podcasts nowadays, like

2:49

once you put something on the

2:52

internet is basically there

2:52

forever. If it gets like, quote

2:55

unquote, deleted, it can still

2:55

be found somewhere. So once you

2:59

put something out, there's like

2:59

the classic saying, like word

3:02

spoken are some of the things

3:02

you can't take back. When you

3:05

put metaphorical pen to paper

3:05

sometimes, and put your words

3:09

out there multiple ways you're

3:09

creating your own piece of

3:12

immortality, because there's

3:12

dozens, probably hundreds, if

3:15

not hundreds of folks have put

3:15

pen to paper and put their work

3:18

out there that's still being

3:18

read today. Like Jim Rohn, he's,

3:22

he's dead. But his works is

3:22

still inspiring people today,

3:24

like the Harry Potter books,

3:24

they're all still alive, thank

3:27

God, but those works are going

3:27

to be living board debt decades,

3:30

generations to come. Like the

3:30

Bible itself. That compilation

3:34

of books has been around for

3:34

hundreds of years, translated

3:36

multiple times, like the

3:36

original authors of the original

3:40

text of that book, there did,

3:40

but the book is still alive and

3:45

still selling well. So that's

3:45

what I mean by immortality is

3:48

creating a piece of yourself.

3:48

And just basically letting

3:52

people have a piece of that long

3:52

after you go. So that way, when

3:54

we all hit that box that we all

3:54

somewhat don't want to go to at

3:59

least believe a piece of

3:59

ourselves for other folks to

4:01

really learn from and gather

4:01

from remember as by,

4:04

yeah, I think

4:04

that's so good. And so often

4:07

that that saying that what you

4:07

put out on the internet, it's

4:09

going to be there forever. It

4:09

has a negative connotation, but

4:12

when you give it this

4:12

connotation, that that's a good

4:14

thing. That's a benefit as well,

4:14

when you switch it around. And

4:16

you think if I put out good

4:16

things about myself, as opposed

4:20

to me going to parties, getting

4:20

truck and whatever else you're

4:22

putting on there, making

4:22

yourself look poorly. If you're

4:26

putting things out there, like

4:26

books like Dom has done, if

4:28

you're putting things out there,

4:28

like games, or videos or

4:31

whatever it might be in a

4:31

positive light. Those things can

4:34

impact people hundreds of years

4:34

after you're done. And I think

4:38

that so often people see that as

4:38

a negative thing. But really,

4:42

it's a positive when you use it

4:42

in the right way. I think that's

4:45

fantastic. And that's kind of

4:45

how you create that little piece

4:48

of immortality for yourself. And

4:48

I appreciate you kind of diving

4:51

into that as some fantastic

4:51

insight into that.

4:55

So thanks for the ghost

4:55

man. Appreciate it.

4:57

Yeah, of course.

4:57

So how did you get into coaching

5:01

Yeah, Funny enough,

5:01

like for years on years on in

5:04

funding of growing up, I used to

5:04

be the listener because I'm an

5:09

old soul of Sonic Youth and I'm

5:09

the youngest in my family. My

5:12

parents are basically soon

5:12

asceticism came into the world.

5:15

So I was usually the listening

5:15

type. And plus, I'm an

5:17

introvert. I regained energy by

5:17

being alone. So I'm pretty

5:21

reflective, quiet chill kind of

5:21

guy. And I grant I got the

5:23

energy and all that good stuff

5:23

today, usually stay to myself.

5:27

And one of the things that a lot

5:27

of folks tend to think when they

5:30

hear coach is like, oh, the

5:30

football field, Kosta yelling

5:32

and screaming, give you these

5:32

play coals. And you have to

5:35

really follow them, like trying

5:35

to motivate people like no, the

5:38

thing is, transformational

5:38

coaching involves listening,

5:41

because you have to listen to

5:41

people's problems before before

5:43

you can actually find out what

5:43

the problems are. And if you can

5:46

truly be the right fit for that

5:46

solution that they need. And I

5:51

got to coaching from being a

5:51

good listener over the years,

5:55

and just being an inspirational

5:55

person and being a good

5:58

listener, because a lot of folks

5:58

may think, oh, coaching, that's

6:00

just motivating people. There's

6:00

a little small piece of that,

6:04

but you're doing more listening

6:04

than talking. Because at the end

6:07

of the day, especially from a

6:07

growth pace, it's a

6:09

transformational piece. helping

6:09

folks have that explosive growth

6:13

in their life, you really have

6:13

to listen to people see where

6:16

they're coming from, than asking

6:16

the right questions, waiting for

6:19

their response, and then trying

6:19

to get him to fund their own

6:23

solution. Because at the end of

6:23

the day, I like to say that I

6:27

can't have a love hate

6:27

relationship with the word

6:29

value. Because folks like to say

6:29

I want to add value, how can I

6:32

add value, one of the greatest

6:32

ways to add value on the surface

6:36

to realize that everyone is

6:36

valuable already, if you are

6:38

living and breathing, right now

6:38

today you have value. It's just

6:42

that some people need other

6:42

people to help them unlock and

6:45

unleash that value. And coaching

6:45

is a way to do that. So that's

6:48

really how I got into coaches

6:48

listening to others. And Heck,

6:52

even having the coach in my life

6:52

and helping me to really make

6:55

quantum leaps further than they

6:55

ever thought before, like Funny

6:58

enough, like, at first, I was

6:58

skeptical. And for good reason.

7:01

There's a lot of folks who

7:01

they're a life coach where they

7:04

have a certification out on

7:04

their resume. And they may not

7:09

bring the actual results you

7:09

need, or the results that you're

7:12

looking for. And it kind of

7:12

leaves people with a bad taste

7:14

in the mouth. Of course, folks

7:14

going to be skeptical. And for

7:16

good reason in this age of

7:16

attention and Information

7:20

Management, like a lot of books

7:20

got to really discern who to

7:24

bring into your life. But I

7:24

discerned and I bought in and I

7:29

grew exponentially because of a

7:29

coach. So if you have the right

7:33

coach who was really all about

7:33

helping you grow and become

7:36

better, then that's one of the

7:36

best investments you'll make in

7:39

your life.

7:40

Yeah, no, I definitely agree. And there's two things that you brought up

7:42

there that I want you to go

7:44

over, first of all, I want you

7:44

to go over how can you be a good

7:47

listener? Because that's not

7:47

easy. And not a lot of people

7:50

are good at that. So you having

7:50

grown up being a listener,

7:52

that's a huge benefit to you.

7:52

And after that, I want you to

7:55

answer the question, how do you

7:55

discern who is going to be a

7:58

good coach or someone good to

7:58

bring into your life and between

8:02

someone who's bad and who's

8:02

going to drag you down?

8:05

To powerful questions.

8:05

This This is why this podcast is

8:09

called the Thought Hustle

8:09

masters. My man is bringing the

8:13

deep good questions. I love this

8:13

man. My man is hustling good

8:18

thought over here. Like if y'all

8:18

have subscribed yet, y'all need

8:20

to stop playing a press destiny

8:20

share with like three or three

8:23

other people, man. But yeah, how

8:23

to be a good listener. Daniel's

8:27

doing a great job at this right

8:27

now. Because he said a set of

8:31

questions just for general, for

8:31

me to just focus on or whatever.

8:35

But the conversations going in a

8:35

totally different direction that

8:38

neither of us expected. So being

8:38

a good listener is being open,

8:42

keeping your ears open, we have

8:42

two ears, one mouth, use them

8:44

accordingly. One way to become a

8:44

better listener, is to make sure

8:48

that you keep us quiet

8:48

sometimes, I usually keep my

8:52

mouth closed and sometimes close

8:52

about even shouting my lips so

8:57

that way, I don't try to jump

8:57

out with an answer. And instead

9:01

of focusing on how you want to

9:01

respond and just jumping into

9:05

getting your moment of sunshine,

9:05

focus on just hearing the

9:10

conversation, see work and take

9:10

as opposed to just getting in

9:12

your spots. They're granted

9:12

sometimes being a professional

9:16

speaker, Alicia trainer, you may

9:16

have cards that you want to

9:20

deliver. But sometimes the

9:20

situation may want for you to go

9:24

into a different direction that

9:24

would benefit both parties,

9:27

because of they get what they

9:27

need. And you will get what you

9:30

need in terms of delivering the

9:30

goods then as another way to be

9:33

a good listener. So so far,

9:33

making sure that keeping your

9:36

mouth close a lot longer than

9:36

you may usually do or don't even

9:41

shutting your lips up you have

9:41

to another thing is truly listen

9:45

in terms of how you can actually

9:45

learn from this person that

9:50

you're listening to and seeing

9:50

what their thought processes and

9:54

then maybe even asking more

9:54

questions as opposed to giving

9:56

advice because we may have Our

9:56

own thoughts that we want to

10:01

share with other people. But in

10:01

the classic book, The Seven

10:03

Habits of Highly Effective

10:03

People, you definitely want to

10:06

seek to understand before being

10:06

understood, and seeking to

10:10

understand coming from a place

10:10

of, hey, I want to understand

10:12

this person better. Now granted,

10:12

there's people out there where

10:15

it's like, you know what, I

10:15

don't think I want to understand

10:17

it all, I just want to get far

10:19

away from me out of here.

10:22

And that's what you're

10:22

probably thinking. And that's

10:25

also a piece where it's like,

10:25

Okay, let me understand where

10:28

they're coming from as quickly

10:28

as possible. So I can also get

10:31

away from this person as quickly

10:31

as possible, especially in this

10:35

era of craziness. And for the

10:35

second question, discerning on

10:39

whether or not you should invest

10:39

in a certain coach or even a

10:42

business, thanks to the internet

10:42

and multiple ways, like if they

10:47

have a good track record, my

10:47

coach in particular back in

10:49

2015, before I hired him, I

10:49

actually heard him speak and I

10:53

bought his book a year before I

10:53

even brought him on as a coach.

10:57

And I followed him since he was

10:57

a fellow millennial a couple of

10:59

years older than me. And his

10:59

book was basically contained all

11:03

the stuff I was already reading

11:03

about. And I saw the growth and

11:06

the progression and a lot of

11:06

feedback from past clients and

11:10

recommendations, and actual

11:10

proof of success. So he was

11:14

living a life that in a way, I

11:14

kind of wanted to live for

11:17

myself. So making sure that when

11:17

you're introduced to somebody,

11:21

especially if it's somebody that

11:21

may be even recommended to you

11:24

through word of mouth, through

11:24

networking through friends,

11:26

that's always a good way to go

11:26

about it. However, Coach also

11:30

being attached to the social

11:30

media and finding out what you

11:33

can about them online. Because

11:33

if they have a strong social

11:37

media presence, and it's actual

11:37

engagement on their posts, and

11:41

it seems like they're actually

11:41

doing good work, then that's

11:45

really good, that shows that

11:45

they really care about you. And

11:48

also, a lot of coaches nowadays

11:48

have these discovery goals or

11:52

some goal on sales calls where

11:52

you get one on one with the

11:56

person and if in those 30

11:56

minutes if you to see two, You

12:01

two seem to gel, then by and by

12:01

the way you proceed with the

12:06

relationship and the investment.

12:06

If not, then Welp, just go about

12:11

your merry way and see if you

12:11

can find someone else. So not to

12:14

say one of the biggest things is

12:14

just really heck even that

12:18

question that you listed before,

12:18

this one's probably another way

12:21

is probably listening to see if

12:21

they may do more talking your

12:24

then listening, seeing if

12:24

they're all about them. And if

12:27

they if they tend to brag too

12:27

much about how much they may

12:31

have created in their lives,

12:31

then that's also a probably a

12:35

bad sign to be honest. Because

12:35

it's always good to list your

12:38

accomplishments. I'm always a

12:38

fan of the phrase, you're not

12:41

cocky if you can back it up, but

12:41

you don't have to, like throw a

12:44

boulder on a frickin squirrel

12:44

here. You can you can give them

12:49

like an apple bow. Yeah, that's

12:49

my advice for that.

12:56

Yeah, no, that

12:56

that's really, really good. And

12:58

I can tell that success is something that's really important to you. So it's really

13:00

difficult for people to kind of

13:03

get started out so I want to

13:03

hear your story. How did you get

13:06

started in in with being an

13:06

entrepreneur? And then what

13:11

would you recommend to someone

13:11

who's like, Hey, I don't want to

13:13

work a nine to five for someone

13:13

the rest of my life. I want to

13:16

do coaching, like damn, I want

13:16

to build a podcast, I want to

13:18

build a business. So what was

13:18

your start? What was that

13:21

turning point for you? And then

13:21

I keep following up with two

13:25

questions. I usually try to do

13:25

one by one, but I can tell you

13:27

got the energy to keep up. And

13:27

then secondly, what would you

13:30

recommend to someone who's

13:30

trying to do that themselves?

13:34

Hey, yeah, interesting

13:34

enough, the entrepreneurial

13:37

journey started off because I

13:37

didn't get my promotion, upper

13:40

management position promotion at

13:40

my day job, but a lot as being a

13:43

librarian. And I was like, Damn,

13:43

wow, alright, so this sucks.

13:47

They don't want advance me here.

13:47

Well, screw that. I guess I'll

13:49

go somewhere. So I went ahead

13:49

and amped up my leadership in

13:53

Toastmasters International and

13:53

took up quite a few volunteer

13:58

leadership roles to not only

13:58

build up my reputation and build

14:01

on my experience, so that we

14:01

have some to go back to

14:04

something to fall back on. In

14:04

case you wanted to go for a

14:07

management promotion again. And

14:07

instead, I ended up writing and

14:12

publishing a book. And then my

14:12

first ever book signing, I sold

14:16

over 100 books that day, and I'm

14:16

like, wow, like, write the book

14:21

once, even though it wasn't

14:21

perfect. And basically made half

14:26

of my salary in a freakin hour

14:26

and a half. And I'm like, wow,

14:31

this is freakin amazing. Yeah.

14:31

Yeah, exactly. And it felt

14:35

really good to do that. So

14:35

really just came from a place of

14:39

Alright, well, if I'm not good

14:39

enough, yet, I'll just go out

14:43

and actually decide to get

14:43

better as opposed to getting

14:45

bitter. And that phrase is so

14:45

popular nowadays for a reason.

14:49

And that's even a message for

14:49

anyone who's listening right now

14:51

who may have a spirit of

14:51

jealousy because they may fall

14:54

to the comparison gap into

14:54

comparison travel social media,

14:58

where it's like, oh, their

14:58

highlight reel. Their life is so

15:00

freakin amazing they're taking a

15:00

picture. Next to rented Lambo,

15:04

they're taking a picture next to

15:04

a chick is not even their

15:07

girlfriend next to this guy

15:07

who's not even their boyfriend

15:10

or their spouse or significant

15:10

other and they're doing all

15:13

these things like, hey, like,

15:13

don't really compare your life

15:17

to someone's highlight reel because social media is a curated feed. My feeds are

15:19

curated for a reason, because I

15:22

want to promote my business, and

15:22

I want to promote happiness,

15:25

inspiration and positivity. So

15:25

you're not going to get my whole

15:28

life with social media, social

15:28

media is a tool for business,

15:31

it's not a tool for you to put

15:31

your life out there. Because

15:34

people need to know everything

15:34

about your life. There's a

15:37

difference between

15:37

vulnerability, and just putting

15:39

yourself all the way out there

15:39

for nosy eyes, with ill wills to

15:43

just find a way to try to rain

15:43

on your parade. So that's how I

15:47

really got the start. And some

15:47

advice is to not quit your day

15:52

job just yet. Like I know a lot

15:52

of folks, especially when the

15:56

pandemic hit the Like all male

15:56

stuck at home, it's an

15:59

opponent's feeling good Oh, I

15:59

can start that podcast waiting

16:01

to start. But I'm just saying if

16:01

you have a day job, and it's

16:06

especially if you got a family

16:06

to like, Don't quit, adjust yet,

16:10

stay for a couple years build up

16:10

your finances. And if you need

16:15

health insurance, keep that.

16:15

like myself, I still have a day

16:18

job in addition to this, because

16:18

like health insurance, I'm still

16:21

a young gun, I still can go but

16:21

just as an insurance policy at

16:26

first, so that way I'm

16:26

protected. And that way my

16:29

family's protected, because I

16:29

also have an elderly mother as

16:32

well. So making sure that she's

16:32

also taken care of as well.

16:35

Because the thing about

16:35

entrepreneurship, it may look

16:38

glamorous, you may hear a Gary

16:38

Vee or Grant cardones speech and

16:41

be fired up ready to go. But

16:41

still keep a sense of reality.

16:47

Because even though it feels great, you want to run through five different brick walls, you

16:49

want to create an online course

16:51

a product saw for like $5,000,

16:51

and then maybe even become a

16:55

millionaire like two days, even

16:55

though that's not really gonna

17:00

happen for a beginner, really

17:00

just keep your day job, don't be

17:04

afraid to keep a day job and no,

17:04

it's gonna suck. But like turn

17:08

the time that you're not working

17:08

into your secondary job. That's

17:12

another thing too, is to set

17:12

your own schedule, like I set my

17:14

own business hours for my

17:14

podcast to do interviews. And

17:18

it's usually after work or

17:18

before work before or after

17:21

work, you just set those

17:21

business hours. That way, you'll

17:24

get in the habit of setting

17:24

those hours for yourself as a

17:27

business that way to stay

17:27

organized. Because even though

17:29

you may feel like Oh, yes, wake

17:29

up, like 10 or 12, in the middle

17:33

of the day, or in the afternoon,

17:33

or whatever I could sleep in at

17:37

the same time, you still got to

17:37

have hours of business to be

17:39

open, because there are going to

17:39

be folks there are going to want

17:42

to communicate with you. And if

17:42

you don't have a set amount of

17:46

time where folks can reach out

17:46

to you, then you'll be

17:49

disorganized. So definitely. So

17:49

that's how I got

17:52

entrepreneurship got rejected

17:52

from management realized I

17:54

really hate management after

17:54

leading a group of volunteers,

17:59

and then building myself up as a

17:59

result in deciding to make

18:03

myself better, because it's

18:03

better to just make yourself get

18:07

better as opposed to getting

18:07

beaten, don't get beaten up by

18:10

life, if you get attacked by

18:10

life, and you're still alive,

18:14

get back up and get better

18:14

instead of getting beaten.

18:17

Yeah, and I

18:17

think that's so good, I do the

18:19

same thing as you, I still have

18:19

a day job. And this is just what

18:22

I do on the side. And if if time

18:22

is your excuse for the reason

18:26

that you're not starting

18:26

something, I guarantee you, you

18:29

can find the time, maybe you

18:29

have to get up earlier, maybe

18:31

you have to stay up late or work

18:31

later. But if you're someone who

18:34

says I don't have the time, and

18:34

then you just watch Netflix all

18:36

night, or play video games, or

18:36

just do whatever you have the

18:39

time you're choosing to do

18:39

different things with it. So I

18:43

don't have any more than 24

18:43

hours in my day, neither does

18:45

dumb, and I sleep for seven of

18:45

those. So what I do with my time

18:50

is the difference between me and

18:50

you. So I really appreciate you

18:53

hitting on that because so many

18:53

people do not get that, that

18:56

everyone is the same amount of

18:56

time. It's what you do with that

18:59

time. So I appreciate you going

18:59

into that. Now during this COVID

19:05

pandemic I'm sure you know that

19:05

depression and anxiety they're

19:08

just through the roof everyone's

19:08

dealing with that and I can tell

19:11

that you're a positive person

19:11

Your mission is to create a

19:14

world of positivity and

19:14

abundance and the lives of

19:17

others so would you tell us how

19:17

how do you coach your clients to

19:21

have a more positive mindset?

19:21

And how do you coach them to

19:24

deal with anxiety?

19:27

Oh yeah. Oh yeah, the

19:27

world got a rock last year. My

19:30

god 2020 vision. No one tells

19:30

the 2020 vision involve two

19:35

black guys, but yes,

19:37

no good, right? Yeah.

19:40

Yeah, bad. Yeah. pokes

19:40

like all 29 to carry for this

19:43

year to be over there. Like I'll

19:43

bring it back.

19:46

I'll get rid of

19:46

2020 vision. That's gonna be a

19:48

bad thing now.

19:51

Yeah, well, yeah. with

19:51

that. I advise folks to do two

19:55

things. And it's p o p. So find

19:55

your pocket approach.

20:00

Productivity or just say your

20:00

place productivity. And then

20:03

number two, find your pocket a

20:03

piece like with which you rarely

20:07

sit earlier. We all have the

20:07

same amount of time, like living

20:11

billionaires and living homeless

20:11

people have this two same things

20:13

in common. Our time, it's 24

20:13

hours in a day, seven days in

20:17

the week, 168 hours out of the

20:17

week. And we all have the same

20:20

amount of time what we do with

20:20

it is going to determine what

20:23

our current and reserve success

20:23

is going to be in our lives are

20:26

going to be especially those who

20:26

you choose to hang around. So

20:30

every day, at least 15 minutes a

20:30

day, find a way to get into your

20:34

sensor for their wellness,

20:34

prayer, meditation,

20:38

affirmations, formations,

20:38

declarations, just doing

20:42

something on a spiritual side

20:42

and also doing something on the

20:45

informational side as your

20:45

pocket a piece release 15

20:48

minutes a day, especially if it

20:48

involves reading or listening to

20:52

something inspirational. Because

20:52

I myself, I still need to get

20:56

revved up. And as I know the

20:56

aging days are coming. The old

21:02

wolf is coming not for decades

21:02

for now because I don't want to

21:05

be one of those silly

21:05

blasphemous. 30 year old saying

21:08

he's old. I don't believe in that blasphemy.

21:12

I'm totally on board with that.

21:14

Amen, dude, that's why

21:14

this is the Thought Hustle baby.

21:17

We're hustling a good thought in

21:17

the hope Bay. That's

21:19

right, my man.

21:19

I'm 65 or until I decide that

21:23

I'm old. I always say that 65

21:23

middle aged

21:27

There you go. That's

21:27

not talking about Yeah, cuz

21:29

there's a lot of Centurions on

21:29

the earth but yeah, man so those

21:32

two things like finding your

21:32

pocket appease give yourself at

21:35

least 15 minutes a day to do

21:35

something to get yourself

21:37

centered and doing something

21:37

that you love. And then about

21:39

the place of productivity

21:39

getting into a place if that's a

21:42

special chair where you can get

21:42

your thinking done. Heck, even

21:46

the coffee shop I know that was

21:46

closed a lot of places and like

21:50

nowadays, it's like a whole

21:50

cluster of nonsense going on

21:54

depending on where you are in

21:54

the world. It's it's crazy but

21:58

just making sure you find a place for productivity get something done, whether that's

21:59

doing some writing, doing like

22:03

extra cold calls a day if you're

22:03

doing just cold calls to people

22:06

reaching out to different

22:06

podcasters doing something to

22:10

generate profit into your life

22:10

because at the same time,

22:13

there's a reason why this is the

22:13

PLP because if you're going to

22:18

be productive, you got to have

22:18

some peace in your life you got

22:22

to have some pocket of peace and

22:22

your life because in this world

22:26

of chaos is going to come at you

22:26

especially if you're in the

22:30

service industry to because it's

22:30

an industry of take where

22:34

especially nowadays folks are

22:34

looking to take as much as they

22:37

can get and there's still great

22:37

givers out there they're still

22:40

great givers but there's also

22:40

some great takers to and if

22:44

you're well metaphorically isn't

22:44

full then folks are going to

22:47

keep coming to your will and if

22:47

they get to the point where

22:50

they're getting saved from your

22:50

will and by that saying I mean

22:55

being short with people being

22:55

anger people and just being rude

23:00

to people then that's not a good

23:00

look so find both your place of

23:03

productivity and your pocket of

23:03

peace and make sure you tap into

23:07

both of those daily

23:08

yeah you got a

23:08

pop pop I don't know if you've

23:10

ever seen one character he

23:10

always goes pop up that's

23:16

awesome so find that place of

23:16

productivity find that pocket of

23:20

peace I think that's a fantastic

23:20

guideline and that's amazing I

23:24

always love it and you know it's

23:24

really fun to say pop pop so

23:27

that works out really really

23:27

would you tell us a little bit

23:32

about what do you mean when you

23:32

say some people they give and

23:36

some people take would you go

23:36

into that a little bit more and

23:39

how do you avoid those people

23:39

who are taking

23:42

oh yeah some people

23:42

that take yeah so you know those

23:45

a wonderful friends you may have

23:45

been classmates with in the past

23:49

you haven't seen her for 10

23:49

years and they come out of

23:51

nowhere and be like hey, you

23:51

look mighty professional. I see

23:54

that you're serious about really

23:54

living life in being the best

23:59

person ever. I get dressed in

23:59

the businesses opportunity. And

24:02

I'm like dammit This is some MLM

24:02

isn't it? And I'm like hey you

24:06

want to you want to saga So how

24:06

am I already got one? Well don't

24:09

worry I got this wonderful thing

24:09

of juice extract x 99 where you

24:15

know we got the oil for juices

24:15

that we're gonna display it

24:19

helped me cure COVID and I'm

24:19

gonna put this little cup right

24:22

here because the bottles cost

24:22

like $69 in the size of a

24:26

regular can or Red Bull but Oh

24:26

yeah. And if your crew three

24:29

people you get a BMW, like

24:29

nothing that gets multi level

24:34

marketers. I actually have a few

24:34

friends that do it. They're

24:38

great at it. I just don't feel

24:38

like recruiting a bunch of

24:40

people building someone else's

24:40

business. Yeah. Anyway, I still

24:44

have a day job. Like I need to

24:44

run around for that. No one to

24:47

say. Yeah, exactly. Just that

24:47

like that could be a taking

24:52

piece. And another piece of

24:52

taking is when someone comes out

24:55

and says okay, could you call me

24:55

right now it's really it's

24:58

really important that I go Okay,

24:58

interesting like last time I

25:02

called it was you asking for

25:02

money so those people that only

25:10

come to you when they need

25:10

something, not to say hi not to

25:14

ask how the family is and then

25:14

just hang up with no ulterior

25:18

motive like those who have no

25:18

ulterior motive those are

25:21

usually the best people to keep

25:21

in your life for folks who

25:25

usually just say hey or give you

25:25

that piece of courage every now

25:29

and then like those are the

25:29

people to keep around those with

25:31

no ulterior motive like those

25:31

with ulterior motives they may

25:34

see something on social media be

25:34

like hey, you know what? You got

25:39

this podcast heard this one guy

25:39

named Joe Rogan read Oh 250

25:43

billion dollars on a podcast. It

25:43

dogs doing this podcast he's

25:47

probably got news dogs. I'm like, you moron. Like dude,

25:50

it took him what 20 years maybe

26:01

to get to that college he was

26:02

grinding and no

26:02

one sees that work people see

26:05

the success and they immediately

26:05

think that you just get there

26:07

but you got to work for it right?

26:09

Exactly do is doing

26:09

stand up comedy all the

26:12

sponsorships on the show. The

26:12

ring commentary was a Taekwondo

26:16

champion was doing fear factor.

26:16

He did all the other pieces in

26:20

his life that just melted into

26:20

his brand of a podcast and it

26:24

got so much noise and so popular

26:24

till he got to that contract

26:27

like the classic phrase like

26:27

hey, it takes 10 years to build

26:30

an overnight success. Like it

26:30

took him years to get there.

26:33

There's even an article about

26:33

him where he mentioned he felt

26:36

like he didn't get podcasting

26:36

until around Episode 150. So

26:41

never neglect the work that it

26:41

takes to get to where you are

26:44

but yeah, you know, he mentioned

26:44

givers takers. So yeah, those

26:48

with no ulterior motives.

26:48

They're the best people to hang

26:50

around those with the ulterior

26:50

motives only contact you when

26:53

they need something. Those are

26:53

the folks you want to tend to

26:57

avoid. Definitely. Oh, yeah,

26:57

it's right out to give your

27:00

number out to a lot of people.

27:00

If you get a Google Voice number

27:04

that you share with people

27:04

definitely do that.

27:07

So big tips, big

27:07

tips. That's great. That's

27:12

great. Now, I've become more and

27:12

more curious with the guests I

27:15

interview I'm always curious to

27:15

know their values. So would you

27:19

share with us your top three

27:19

values or the three values that

27:22

you think are the most important?

27:25

Why Wow, okay. All

27:25

right, I'll just go ahead and

27:27

give you a four. Let's give a

27:27

four pack evolution. So respect,

27:31

integrity, service, and

27:31

excellence. That's rise right

27:35

there. respect, integrity,

27:35

service and excellence. Respect,

27:41

everybody gets respect by

27:41

default, everybody. And their

27:45

actions determines whether they

27:45

get to keep it. It's kind of

27:48

like level one leadership where

27:48

if you have a title, alright,

27:51

respect to title. But after a

27:51

while, they start showing

27:55

qualities of a person's not to

27:55

be trusted, well, you start to

27:59

lose some of that respect going

27:59

out. Exactly. The integrity,

28:04

integrity, it's always better to

28:04

be honest, because the more

28:07

honest you are, it's going to be

28:07

better for you as you age,

28:09

because there are folks that I

28:09

know what to say about this.

28:17

Let's just say some folks have

28:17

been a little extra seasoned,

28:20

and they're a little connected

28:20

to me by blood that they still

28:24

tell lies, and they're somewhat

28:24

forgetful, and they forget half

28:28

of those lies. And the thing is,

28:28

with integrity, if you're honest

28:32

all the time, you don't have to

28:32

remember the lie you tell if you

28:34

tell any. So integrity, and then

28:34

the service. My main motto was

28:39

advance others to advance

28:39

yourself. The legendary

28:42

legendary Zig Ziglar said, If

28:42

you help enough, other people

28:45

get what they want, you'll

28:45

eventually get what you want.

28:48

When you advance enough other

28:48

people in your life will

28:50

eventually advance in the

28:50

process because those who have a

28:54

cheerful helpful spirit, help

28:54

others to advance in life, they

28:58

will be remembered. It may not

28:58

be when you want it's kind of

29:00

like the spiritual folks in a

29:00

Christian Kobe's, like Yeah,

29:03

he's know a time God will be on

29:03

time. It may not be all the time

29:06

you want it. But you show up

29:06

just in time, and excellence.

29:10

Today's excellence is not going

29:10

to be the same as tomorrow's

29:13

excellence. In other words,

29:13

today's great podcast, this is

29:16

probably the most fun I've had

29:16

in a while in the past couple

29:19

weeks doing a podcast and

29:19

because you're asked great

29:21

questions, you're in the moment,

29:21

and you're a great listener. And

29:25

a year from today, I'm going to

29:25

make sure I'm better than what I

29:28

was during this interview. And

29:28

it's all about being the best

29:32

version of yourself not

29:32

perfection because perfection is

29:35

an illusion no matter what field

29:35

you're in, especially in

29:38

entrepreneurship because

29:38

sometimes you have to really do

29:42

enough work to get your product

29:42

to launch even though when it's

29:45

not perfect, as opposed to

29:45

wicking. Wait until you get all

29:49

the bells and whistles and all

29:49

the i's and T's dotted like heck

29:53

look at the video game industry.

29:53

You know how much don't freakin

29:55

DLC there is Nowadays, people

29:55

put out a 60 $80 game It's okay

30:01

for an extra $20. You get extra

30:01

costumes, extra levels, extra

30:05

maps and whatnot. It's like

30:05

yeah, so don't be afraid to fail

30:09

and realize but still go for

30:09

great though. Like, that's the

30:12

thing. Don't be afraid to be

30:12

crappy, but don't put out crap.

30:15

That's, that's what it goes with

30:15

excellence. Yeah, no, I

30:17

think that's brilliant. And I had a guest Come on three episodes ago. And

30:19

he was saying that he was saying

30:23

that you can't strive for

30:23

perfection because you can never

30:25

achieve perfection. But life

30:25

what it is, it's a constant

30:28

striving towards excellence.

30:28

Because excellence is the key.

30:32

And when you're always striving

30:32

towards something, life is

30:34

enjoyable, life is fun, you're

30:34

learning, you're growing, and

30:37

you get to elevate those around.

30:37

So when you strive for

30:40

excellence, everything gets

30:40

better. So those those are

30:42

absolutely brilliant, thank you

30:42

for sharing those four values,

30:45

respect, integrity, service, and

30:45

excellence. I really, really

30:49

appreciate it. Now, before we

30:49

start to wrap up, I want to ask

30:53

if you could leave the listeners

30:53

with one thing, one, one

30:57

sentence or one idea, what would

30:57

you leave them with?

31:01

growth is happiness.

31:01

Growth is happiness.

31:06

That's brilliant. I appreciate that. That's amazing. It's succinct.

31:08

It's exactly what a lot of

31:11

people need. A lot of people

31:11

don't see growth as a good

31:14

thing. But it is and when you're

31:14

constantly growing life is

31:16

constantly getting better. So

31:16

thank you for that. And now as

31:20

we wrap up my core four

31:20

questions I asked every guest,

31:23

first of all, what's one thing

31:23

that you would challenge the

31:25

listeners to do today, tomorrow

31:25

and every day to make a positive

31:30

impact in their lives and in

31:30

their futures?

31:35

Let's say encouraged

31:35

five random people a day, that's

31:37

probably the best thing you can

31:37

do. Like if you can give

31:40

somebody a compliment call

31:40

somebody hasn't called in a long

31:43

time. Pray for somebody let them

31:43

know you're wishing them well,

31:46

like encourage five random

31:46

people a day especially if it's

31:50

out and about and you're within

31:50

social whatnot. So social

31:55

justice enough where they can

31:55

hear you beneath the bass

31:58

depending on where you are part

31:58

of the world. And give them a

32:00

compliment that that can mean

32:00

the world zoom especially now,

32:03

we really can't see that many

32:03

smiling faces unless it's like

32:06

on zoom or for you in certain

32:06

parts of the world where they're

32:09

saying screw masks, we bi

32:14

brilliant challenge. It's a beautiful chance I appreciate it. And

32:15

yeah. See enough smiling faces.

32:22

Everyone's frowning behind it. That's what we know.

32:27

Except for those folks

32:27

with the size problem. Hey,

32:29

there's a small buddy.

32:30

Right? That's

32:30

right. Where they just put a

32:33

smiley face on it right? All

32:33

right, well, man, what would be

32:40

your top book recommendation?

32:43

I'd have to say

32:43

my second solo project stay the

32:46

course the elite performers

32:46

seven secret keys to sustainable

32:49

success. Because the short read

32:49

a lot of people don't have time

32:52

for 200 pages. It's under 100

32:52

pages. And it gives seven

32:56

wonderful keys for folks to keep

32:56

in mind, no matter what love you

32:59

are. Because at the end of the

32:59

day, we all need encouragement.

33:02

We all need reminders to be our

33:02

best version of ourselves

33:06

possible. So stay the course.

33:06

The Elite performers seven

33:09

secret keys to sustainable

33:09

success by yours truly, Dominic

33:12

Brightmon.

33:13

Perfect and I will leave a link in the show notes to all of them's books as

33:15

well. If you want to follow up,

33:18

I highly encourage it because as

33:18

you can tell from this

33:20

interview, what he teaches the

33:20

things that you need to

33:23

implement in your life so that

33:23

you can live amazing an abundant

33:27

life. So where can people learn

33:27

more about you?

33:30

Oh, yes, so for those

33:30

who want to reach out and learn

33:33

more about yours truly the

33:33

chocolate Adonis, The Man with

33:36

the Golden voice, even though

33:36

sometimes the gold deals like

33:39

platinum, and sometimes there's

33:39

chocolate beneath the head over

33:42

to dumb brightman.com that's

33:42

dumb reitman.com especially if

33:47

you're wonderful podcast

33:47

listener, I'm always encouraging

33:50

folks to check out the going

33:50

north podcast as well, because

33:53

I'm on the road to interviewing

33:53

over 1000 authors across the

33:57

globe and about a good 500 or so

33:57

in so far. So check it all out

34:00

on writing.

34:02

That's brilliant. And you spell Brightman? e r, i g, h t, m o n.

34:04

So that's going to be done

34:09

right? And what is one fun fact

34:09

about we've done?

34:13

Oh, to encourage extra

34:13

social distancing, you know how

34:16

some people refer to folks who

34:16

wear sunglasses doors as, quote

34:20

unquote, donkey holes. I wore

34:20

sunshades during the pandemic in

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stores to encourage social

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distancing on top of the mask.

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That's awesome.

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That's awesome. Thank you so

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much for taking the time to join

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us today down it's been an

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absolute delight. This has been

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a wonderful demand. This is

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Daniel Burnham signing off. Boy,

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