“If he upsets me - I get gifts!”In this episode, best-selling author and activist Chidera Eggerue (aka The Slumflower) joins us to discuss her transformative ideas on love, relationships, and self-worth.Known for creating the viral #SaggyBoobsMatter movement, Chidera challenges traditional heteronormative expectations and encourages women to recognise their inherent value, demand more from their partners, and create more equal, empowering relationships. 

With her provocative insights on love, money, and equality, she provides listeners with practical tools to break free from societal norms, set higher standards in their personal lives, and reclaim their power.

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00:00 Intro00:02:13 History Of Chidera's Moniker 'Slumflower'00:04:30 Growing Up In Peckham/'Little Lagos'00:08:00 Chidera Cutting Her Mum Off And Ensuing Therapy00:10:57 Chidera's Relationship With Her Father00:13:11 Chidera's Early Romantic Relationships00:14:31 Was Chidera Loved By Anyone In Her Childhood/Adolescence?00:16:04 Chidera Has Never Had A Man At Her Flat00:17:31 How Chidera's Ideology Developed Over Time00:24:45 The Traditional Idea Of Love Is Damaging To Women00:27:31 What Does Love Mean To Chidera?00:29:25 Love, Feminism And Finance00:31:04 Chidera's Thoughts On The Male Loneliness Epidemic00:32:15 Is Chidera An Advocate For Marriage?00:33:41 Why Does Society Struggle With Finance When It Comes To Romance?00:41:49 Men And Self-Esteem/Ego00:45:19 'Marriage Is The Lowest Paid Form Of Sex Work'00:55:10 Huel Ad00:56:12 Tinder Ad00:57:06 Chidera's Definition Of Hypergamy00:59:40 4B Movement01:07:01 Chidera Being 'Grey A-Sexual'01:11:29 Chidera On BDSM And Being A Dominatrix01:16:14 How Do These Relationships Start?01:22:17 Chidera's 'Goddess Gina' Alter Ego01:27:46 A Letter From 'Slave Tux'01:37:51 Critiques Of Chidera01:41:24 Most Memorable Conversation01:46:57 Paul's Takeaways01:49:10 Fiver Ad

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